/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>106234
When I'm off birth control I'm moid crazy and super horny but when I'm on it I'm actually sane and have no libido at all. I also sleep better (which is the main reason I take it - otherwise I have chronic insomnia). I love the stuff.

I could probably go the rest of my life never masturbating and I've always faked every orgasm with a man I've ever had. It's funny because I can make myself cum in like 30 seconds to a minute just rubbing one out with my laptop but when a moid's involved it's just impossible.

I don't take any meds or drugs, but still have zero libido. I don't get horny and don't masturbate either. Always felt like an alien because of this.

I have low libido but sometimes I feel so bored and I masturbate, sometimes even when I'm not horny or having sexual thoughts.

I honestly like having low libido because sex is disgusting.

I go through cycles of wanting to fuck everything to uninterested, hard relate.

>>106242
I have sometimes read that low libido can lead to low self-esteem or feelings of inferiority and its something that happens to me. Even so, people with high libido tend to be less deep and a little disgusting

>>106250
>low libido can lead to low self-esteem or feelings of inferiority
Yeah, that's possible. I do know that depression and mental health issues can lead to decrease in sex drive, so the opposite is definitely true.

Not gonna lie, I sometimes feel jealous and insecure when people are talking about intimacy, sensuality or having earth shattering orgasms, like in the boyfriend pros and cons thread, and I'm like uh, okay…

>>106252
I can relate to that feeling Nona,sometimes i really want to feel touched or wanted but it never happens even if i can take care of my looks and i try to act a little bit normal

My libido is low as well. I don't think it's ever been high, to be honest. I'm thinking of talking to a doctor about hypoactive sexual desire disorder and if there's anything I can do to raise it. Does anyone have experience with this? Is it even worth it? To be honest, I mainly want a higher libido for more fulfilling relationships.

>>106255
Yes i can relate sadly, i feel less like a young woman and more like a granny because of my low libido. It's really strange because i can't ignore that relationships need sexual experiences even if its feel deep in the romantic way

>>106255
Maybe try a more active lifestyle, gym and cardio? It's surprising how much of mental health is actually physical health.

>>106255
I sometimes feel bad about having low libido but I think that I have to come to terms with the fact that low libido is what I am and what my body is capable of. It's one thing to want high libido, but another to want high libido to just to please others. It's like… you have a fractured leg, but you want to run a marathon. Sure, you can run a marathon with a fractured leg, but you're going to have a lot of problems along the way.

Heck, on the flipside though, you don't have to waste time worrying about sexual needs.

>disorder
The thing about a disorder is that it's a hidden disability, just like blindness, autoimmune disorders, handicaps and so on. You can cure a syndrome like depression, but you can not cure a disability. I don't think low libido is a disability though, just a um… "feature" maybe. It is what it is.

>>106274
I do go to the gym regularly, and do a lot of cardio. It can't hurt to do more though.

>>106275
>It's one thing to want high libido, but another to want high libido to just to please others.
This is very true. It's hard to distinguish whether I truly want it, or if it's for other people. I suppose it's some mix of both.

>>106255
I used to think I'm not very into sex until I met moid that actually cared about me in bed.

>>106236
>essentially chemically castrates herself
>At LeAsT I doNt HaVe to DeAL wItH MoIds
cope