/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Why talk about it? Stop telling people about this, it just invites useless opinions.
And even then, why would you care about people opinions? I swear, this sensitivity to other people opinions is the bane of contemporary youth. Why should you care what these people think?
>the problem i have is that moids make me feel very bad about my choice
You're making yourself feel bad by valuing random opinions.
You're making a lifestyle choice, and then you go around people who live very differently, and you are surprised they do not agree with your choices. Find your people, stop hanging around your opposites. What is the point in creating such misery for yourself?

this you OP

>>107349
moid or seething non-virgin

>>107348
i dont tell it randomly, only when the topic sex or daiting is brought up so its not like out of blue. this is with random people online and my online "friends." i dont hang out with people thats not the problem, what i meant is for example random twitter convo where moids talk about women (not targeted to me).

>>107349
i dont tell non virgins and daters that their lifestyle is wrong idk how does my choice hurt anyone literally? normies really hate when someone chooses to against the norm or is it because they value something so much and when someone doesnt value the same thing its shot in head?

If someone says something about you, it's not really about you but it's about them and they're just projecting their demands, needs, and insecurities on to you. They WANT you to be in a relationship, because they believe that any girl should and must be in a relationship and should've lost her virginity before they finish highschool or something. It's not about you, nor do I think they care about you when they say this. Maybe they do care, but they care that you aren't living your life they way they expect you to and they're disappointed about it.

You eventually have to listen to your own voice, and what it whats, because that's what gives you ultimate happiness, not some standards moids set for you.

>>107348
>Why talk about it? Stop telling people about this, it just invites useless opinions.
It's honestly annoying. They won't stop asking about it. OP is 19 so I can imagine everyone, especially moids, are going to ask her quite often, and it never stops till she gets married and maybe even has a baby because they're going to ask her about "what are your kids doing?" when she's in her 30s. It's as if the worth of a woman is based on if she's dating someone, or if she's married, or if she's a mother. People really love to pry into others and their business in the name of breaking ice, and it honestly feels really bad when you lie to them or say something that you aren't to them just so they stop talking about that topic that you don't want to.

>>107354
>what i meant is for example random twitter convo where moids talk about women (not targeted to me).
Just avoid hanging out at places that don't share your values and beliefs, nona. It's not worth it. Let them fester and rot in their echochambers, especially a cancer breeding ground like twitter, which has gotten even more right-wing ever since Elon Musk took it over.

>>107360
Oh, and another thing I sometimes notice about twitter is a lot of replies are bots or are from accounts that are created like 5 to 7 years ago, has maybe 10 following/followers and less than 5000 posts. Heck, you can even pay 20 dollars or something to get 500 likes instantly and I've seen this happen a lot of times. It's not a good website to read opinions at and get affected by it.

It's probably the same with 4chan, or reddit. A lot of it is just bots.

>i made the choice to be relationshipless and virgin for life at the age of 12. im now 19 so not that old but i still agree with it.
This is really interesting. This is the first time I have seen another female on an imageboard with the same goals as me. Except, I decided when I was 14. Now, I'm a 22 year old KHHV going strong. I'm proud of it, and I'm happy. I feel pure and lovely. I feel that if I were to have sex, then I would be permanently defiled. I experience similar things to you. The main suggestion I have is simply to stay away from normalfags in real life and on the internet. You can never do anything right with them. This is easier said than done, though. I still find myself lurking imageboards, getting mad at normalfags but knowing it'll never change. I think it's better to pursue solitary pursuits that involve some level of original creation - for instance, drawing, writing, or something along the lines of that. Normalfags are a scourge on the internet, and you can't get away from them.
>Just avoid hanging out at places that don't share your values and beliefs, nona. It's not worth it. Let them fester and rot in their echochambers, especially a cancer breeding ground like twitter, which has gotten even more right-wing ever since Elon Musk took it over.
This, though, it is hard to find normalfag-free spaces on the internet, and it is even more excruciatingly difficult to find female-centric spaces like that. We should create our own witchchan. It feels like a lot of female spaces are overrun by relationship-havers and people who are judgemental like OP is mentioning; it almost fulfills the incel stereotype that women are in relationships more than men.

Women who get with moids and have children with them just for the sake of it and because its what is expected of them end up being miserable old hags. Live your life young and free as long as you can.

Don't rush and get any moid because you will have to waste years of your life just forcing yourself to learn to tolerate him, only for you to then become a desensitized tradthot.

>>107354
Get off twitter lmao it's literal mind poison. Youre really young and you'll find a nice guy with similar ideals who'll make you feel glad you didnt have pointless sex with shitty men when you were younger.

>>107369
Don't bother, she's just looking for people to tell her "you might change your mind because everyone change" so she can publicly oppose them and feel stronger about her choice, because deep down she can't bear her choice alone and needs approval.

>>107349
>>107369
>>107375
Not OP, but I think it's absolutely comical how some people can't understand that others don't view the world in the same way they do and simply must think that they simply must not be happy.

>>107376
It's the dangling her choices in front of people who can't agree with them that is retarded/childish (add to that: reporting it on cc). Her having these views on the topic of relationships is nothing special.

>>107377
>>107377
Dangling? That was never the impression I got from the OP. Instead, what I saw was that she lived a lifestyle that others may consider unconventional, and others pried, which led them to be judgemental. It's quite hard to avoid these topics because we live in a sex-obsessed society, where women are pressured to be in a relationship and have kids. I know that I am most definitely frequently questioned about whether I am in a relationship by relatives and people I know whether I directly mention the topic or not. In fact, I directly avoid the topic, and it still comes up. As a result of it, it can be difficult to find someone with common ground. Maybe she simply wanted to find a place to vent where there was a greater chance that someone might understand, and that is not unreasonable.

>>107381
>we live in a sex-obsessed society, where women are pressured to be in a relationship and have kids.
Yes for the sex-obsessed society, no for the pressure. It's the opposite: for the first time in history, women can remain celibate without becoming nuns. It's a first. Before that, there were forced marriage, ostracism, heavy social pressure (which means rape, because a woman not belonging to a man or Jesus used to be regarded as free for all by some men). Nowadays you get a comment from your mom who might want grandchildren.
That's why OP is a bit ridiculous.

>>107354
yeah, thank you. i need to rethink how i see other people and their comments and work on that. you did make me feel slightly better. maybe even delete twitter lol or at least change the side of twitter.


>>107362
its great to see other people who are pursuing similar things for sure. i guess people value relationships so much, kind of makes sense why but not all think like that. it is very hard to aviod these type of comments or posts on internet for sure.
>It feels like a lot of female spaces are overrun by relationship-havers
for sure, when i first come to cc i thought this would be less focused on relationships like most imageboards so it was very suprising to see so many posts about dating and whatnot.


>>107369
oh im not looking for moid or relationship at all, this isnt because of twitter that i have no interest for relationship.

>>107381
>Maybe she simply wanted to find a place to vent where there was a greater chance that someone might understand,
yeah, i made this post out of anger just that some people cant understand that not everyone want the same thing from life

>>107383
i get that things are better but that doesnt change how most people see it, even i made this vent someone still reccomended relatinship. i just wanted to rant because people dont seem to understand why someone wouldnt want relatinship, they think it is a cope "you arent that ugly you can find man if you want" or "you are just coping because men wont wanna be with you" they dont understand that. sure things are better but arent almost all things better? just because they are better does that mean it cant upset? idk

>>107347
>one comment especially from older guy was super hurtful
Nona I'm sorry but you need to be stronger mentally, I can't imaging caring about the opinion of a MAN on such personal choice let alone the opinion of a sagging pair of balls.
>but i dont truly want human connections
It is normal for a man to have a negative reaction to a woman being sexually unavailable to him, there is no point in being a virgin if you don't free your MIND from cock too. You clearly still crave male validation in a way, you want men to think of you as a good woman and not a whore and that is a sad life to live.

>>107386
>still crave male validation
peoples opinions are tied to our survival. if people disliked you, it meant you got killed back in the day. not wanting to be judged by others doesn't necessarily mean anon craves validation

This is the reason for me to never say I'm still a virgin next to moids, even if asked.
Nona, unfortunately, even the most random bullshit can trigger resentment in people, they will see others having healthy food habits, exercising daily, studying "boring" subjects and simply feel disdain, and there is nothing you can do about them, only about yourself by ignoring it.
They are mad because they can't have sex with you, so, the only option remaining is to try to hurt your self esteem.
I know you wrote about having no issues about being friendless, but maybe trying to find other women who share your worldview and lifestyle could help reducing the tiresomeness, even if just in online form.

>>107386
Alright then, I think you're trolling or have some weird vendetta against those who don't find the mold. Also, her post seems to imply that it is not just men. Female peers can be quite judgemental when you do not follow the desire social mold, and there is also likely an element of jealousy added in. But, she has likely received comments more from men because they tend to be harsher and more direct. The only one who brought up "cock" is you.
>>107387
To add to this, it just frankly hurts to be messed with by others when it is pervasive and multiple people are doing it, and that has nothing to do with whether that person is a man or not.
>>107384
"cope" - I hate that word and the way in which it is used. "cope" merely means: "I can not comp why someone would enjoy your lifestyle; therefore, there is simply no way that you actually enjoy your life and are merely hiding under feelings that others are expected to have. People can not experience the world differently. My viewpoint is the only one I can comprehend."

>>107364
She spilled coffee on her own lap..

>>107387
So are relationships… So what is it? Are we evolved, are past all that? Or are we still the puppets of evolutionary behaviours?

>>107393

Well that just made her even more based.

>>107347
Women mad at this post really don't allow other women to not be perfect and dont follow societal or moral standards but I think that's just how female socialization works. Also on the topic of relationships and celibacy shit etc. I think human sexual desires, heterosexuality, relationships are… ageist towards women and it makes me feel humiliated. It all values female youth and even all women are ageist towards women. I hate shallowness like this, it gave me a fear of aging which then gets me called vain but most women caring about their looks don't get called vain like… People can't follow their own moral standards they hold others to yk I sound like a hypocrite too but this fear sounds valid to me, if other women can cry about moids all the time then I can cry about aging and what it causes

>>107392
No i'm not trolling, maybe I was crude but I was basically telling her to purge male sexual morality out her mind.

>>107347
did you really never develop a crush as a teenager?

Sorry not answering to all because not really sure what to even say but I have read them all.

>>107386
I guess so. Need to work on that.

>>107500
I feel that thing about youth but more of as people who value youth think I'm too old and people who don't value too young. It's never in perfect way
>oh you are 18? you are expired, too old, should have married years ago
>oh you are 18? older are better, young girls are annoying to be around and they don't know anything

>>107543
I have never had crush. When I hit puberty at 14, I became even less interested in people. I guess the best you could say is that I developed parasocial relationship with older autistic "youtuber" but that's not a crush really.