Adult Children of Alcoholics Anonymous 115912
Any other adult children of alcoholics here? I would love to commiserate. I feel like I can find a way to ruin everything for myself.
>how has being the child of an alcoholic affected you?
>how do you deal with self-isolating and/or approval seeking behaviors?
>how has it affected your intimate relationships (platonic and romantic)?
>do you resonate with any of the aspects of the laundry list? how so?
>have you ever been to an ACoA meeting?
>how (if at all) have you been trying to better your life?
>do you drink/do drugs? how does this affect you?
>do you ever feel like you’re turning into your alcoholic or co-alcoholic parent?
>how do you deal with the need for control/hyper vigilance/lack of self worth/difficulty in interpersonal relationships/any symptom of a dysfunctional childhood? What makes it better? What have been the consequences of it?
Anonymous 115945
Idk if this is for me because my father died when I was 11 so i dont have view about it from older perspective but he was alcoholic and narc so I thought about sharing my perspective too. sorry about my English btw
>how has being the child of an alcoholic affected you?
major depression, underage psych ward, eating disorder, bpd, selfharm, and seeking attencion from older men (or anyone)
>how do you deal with self-isolating and/or approval seeking behaviors?
idk i guess i dont really deal with them, i just act upon them and seek people to care on internet. i also lie lot just to make people feel bad for me and show care and attencion or make fun of myself in the way that some people answer (acting stupid etc, making up situations)
>how has it affected your intimate relationships (platonic and romantic)?
i have no friends and i was very isolated, then i found a guy from imageboard and got extremely attached to him. so i do think i start to like people very easily if they give any attencion or time. i also tend to see people from black and white lens.
>do you resonate with any of the aspects of the laundry list? how so?
yeah, i think most of them fit me very well actually. i havent heard about this before but i looked it up tho
>have you ever been to an ACoA meeting?
i havent
>how (if at all) have you been trying to better your life?
i tried to eat better and excersice. i also started learning chinese (i use 7h about to study this everyday) since im neet, read and keep myself busy. when i was young kid i used to eat very badly, never shower or brush teeth but i try to do those things now as well.
>do you drink/do drugs? how does this affect you?
no
>do you ever feel like you’re turning into your alcoholic or co-alcoholic parent?
no but i do see similarities between me and him, however i dont remember him very well anymore
>how do you deal with the need for control/hyper vigilance/lack of self worth/difficulty in interpersonal relationships/any symptom of a dysfunctional childhood? What makes it better? What have been the consequences of it?
i dont really deal with that idk what to say
Anonymous 115970
My mom is an alcoholic like most of her family. Honestly I was pretty insulated by my brother, who raised me from birth. Neither of us drink, smoke or take drugs and we both refrain from casual sex because mom's behavior was so repulsive to us. The laundry list describes a lot of his behaviors, but not mine.
