/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I've never dated before and need to know if this guy showed red flags. I would love any insight at all on any of these. I'm going to list some things he did or said in as close to chronological order as possible. But this all happened over the course of 5 months

1. spent years job hopping/bumming and smoking weed bc he wanted to be a rockstar after dropping out of college
2. got hired by his dad after a few years and moved back home(but works hard tbf)
3. generally just came on strong at the beginning, reading my tarot and saying i look like a saint/goddess
4.
5. told his whole family about me and showed them my pictures after the first meet up
6. told me he loved me the first time we met up, cried when i didn't say it back (i did not take this seriously but told him we could keep talking because he was crying)
7. said he was kind of autistic? (don't care)
8. has a cat (petty of me)
9. told me he liked me because i remind him of his mom while we were having a break up convo
10. would forget information i told him
11. would complain about food at restaurants as we were eating
12. didn't like spending money despite saying he wanted to spoil me
13. told me he felt we were going so slow when i felt he was going pretty fast for an online relationship
14. shared his poetry with me
15. had been on 4chan since 13
16. c section baby LMAO
17. Gave me BEARD BURN first date
18. I suspect he has a foot fetish
19. Told me he wanted to come inside me and get me pregnant on ~3rd date while we were making out
20. Had an anime girl boobie mouse pad, showed me during our first facetime ever
21. Never officially asked me to be his girlfriend, but referred to me as his girlfriend
22. told me he tried to masturbate to other things but always eventually ended up thinking about me



green flags
1. said i was more beautiful in real life, and that i was beautiful inside and out and kind and intelligent and too hard on myself
2. paid for everything and planned cool stuff with me
3. super understanding when i didn't want to go further with sex
4. fit
5. made me playlists
6. good kisser
7. got me gifts
8. never doxxed me
9. sang for me
10. grew beard out so he wouldn't give me beard burn again
11. very tall
12. good cuddling
13. super supportive of me, my hobbies, and my career moves



More context for those interested
We met online, talked for a week or two w/out knowing what the other looked like. he sent a picture, i was pleasantly surprised but after a few more i realized he wasn't the MOST handsome and that he hah really stupid tattoos. I sent some and he said i was really pretty, later on sent more and he was like oh you're so beautiful i need you etc etc. i didn't take it for too much because i knew i was just sending good angles. But we would text every day and voice call about once a week, sometimes watching a movie
We would do calls and watch movies online together. he came to visit a friend a month or two later and saw me, spent a day together
Booked another trip just to see me a month later. the trip rolls around, spent a whole day together, took me out to dinner, and just hung out being "normal", he tries to have sex before we leave and when we get back, i say no
next day we do some more stuff and i end up sleeping over and he tried to have sex again but i cant so we don't