/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I don't really think it's a red flag yet. Maybe tell him you like the idea of having your own financial independence, and that it's more of a freedom thing then anything. He probably just wants to prove that he can provide for you, male pride sorta thing. If he starts questioning why you want to be independent in the first place and acts insulted that you want to have your own money, then maybe you should start asking questions about his mentality.

>>116826
Is he forbidding you to work, or just eager to tell you you don't need to? Why do you feel it's restrictive to rely on him?
My boyfriend is paying for my move to him, and the house, and has left me his cards for everything else. He's happy to do it, and has never guilt tripped me, or used it as a way to control or manipulate - there are still men that value being able to provide for their woman so that she can be comfortable and happy.

>>116827

Yes, it's more like a pride thing. I just rethought this whole situation. But I still feel a bit guilty for relying on him fully sometime in the future. I don't want to burden him

Are you two married? If not, then you don't have a lot of legal protection if he just up and leaves. If/when you do get married, have a prenup that protect you (alimony, assets, etc.)

>>116833
Not OP, but do you have any resources for getting a solid prenup? Ideally something where he gets nothing if he leaves/cheats.

>>116826
Insisting is one thing, but forcing you to stay at home and not work? Is a HUGE red flag. It will lead to financial abuse. There is a good chance he wants you to be financially dependant on him so he can easily manipulate you. Do NOT stay at home. If he forces you to, leave.

>>116826
Also how are you going to save money if you can't work? You need to save money for yourself regardless of whether you're relying on him or not

Girl please don't do this. It's called being a house slave. You're literally Dobby.

>>116826
Op here, noone cares but I have updates. I broke up with him over half a year ago because he just didn't actually love me (he was also schizophrenic, autistic and had ocd) and some other things that made me disgusted by him. Also, when on vacation I saved him from drowing after asking if he can swim and he insisted he can lol. And I had to ask for forgiveness while crying because I said that I didn't like what he did.
And he also said he'd kill himself if I didn't continue talking to him early in our relationship.
Delusional is what I was. But now I have a boyfriend who loves me for who am I and actually supports me in every way possible and finds me attractive unlike my ex. And he's better in every way.

>>130194
Hey I didn't actually think anyone would answer, and thank you. It means a lot.
He was always like that. Typlical men. He once drunkenly played guitar for me. It was simply awful. And when I said it was meh, he got offended.
(He hadn't touched that guitar in years up until that point)
Also might use this thread to dump things that bothered me because sometimes I feel mad at how he treated me and whatnot.
Also found the threads he made at 4ch*n. He really is good at making himself look like an emotional boy who hadn't done nothing wrong. I guess that is what he always was.
But I am proud to say that I actually haven't cried about him since early september!