/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>girl on girl violence
>infamous picrel
this has to be a bait thread

>>117451
>infamous picrel
what is infamous about it?

It is fully possible. It's much easier if you are not het [spoiler]or have extremely weak attraction to moids[spoiler]or had an early introduction to feminism at a young age. Not wearing makeup, deleting social media, reading books by women, wearing comfortable and practical clothes, doing all of the above even if it makes you want to kill yourself from discomfort because it eventually leads to you being more grounded in yourself, speaking up, etc etc.

>after seeing all the pick me threads, I think it begs the question, is it possible for women to separate themselves from the need for male validation (however abstract or literal that is) and seeing things in terms of that intrasexual competition (aka girl on girl violence)?
You can separate yourself from the need for male validation completely, and intrasexual competition partially, if you just swear off relationships with men. The need for their validation will naturally leave you. Also, when other women notice that you aren't trying to attract men, they will compete with you less.

The "male validation" and "male gaze", that hangs over the eternal pickme like the Eye of Sauron, has very little to do with actual men and a lot to do with their own crippling insecurity.

Clinically deppressed women who claim to hear voices in their head also describe it as a middle-aged man's voice.

>>117822
"a woman with a man inside" haha slaps knee

>>117823
Why do you sound like you have a dick though?

>>117450
It is impossible for me to believe any scrote actually suffers. Even when they say they do, its always self imposed on account of ego and hoping to one-up another moid, or control a woman. They do it out of PRIDE not because they feel weak and powerless and alone, or because they can't escape a situation. They extremely rarely in positions of powerlessness to escape their darkness.

When they mock something like postpartom-depression or .. any kind of woman's suffering really… They're always post their question asking "how could your suffering benefit you at all. why do you stay in that situation, it is just somethingdragging you down worse " like that little wastes of space they are.

Their entire existence is pure ignorance.

Even when they do suffer its for a good cause and its a long time coming. They NEED to suffer. Like a 14 year old piece of shit needs to suffer after torturing and killing a cat. They need to suffer to learn humbleness and give up hope that we will pander to their hypocrisy and entitlement at all.

As a woman it is so easy to stop feeling anything like sympathy towards them. Even the most well-intentioned moid has levels of entitlement and ignorance of suffering that you cannot comprehend.

In general I just say fuck being nice in most cases. I will chose detached indifference until im convinced. Being nice doesn't benefit you unless its with people you really really trust. With outsiders including women, they are so quick to prove they're moid-obsessed or backstabbing misogynists cruising for moid approval (because they were gaslit by the same shitty moids im describing).

If you are nice to moids its serious though, you're just playing into being the easy victim they can gaslight in a million ways and call crazy. They do this universally to all women on some level. Even if its just a little bit they are still doing it. I find coexistence in that state impossible.

So their "male status" is nonexistent to me i dont even acknowledge them.


(I really think anyone who prioritizes relationships with men are full fledged psychos. I thinking seeking out relationshit with moids REQUIRES you to become a gasligther and go into denial to protect the moid you "love" from their own filth)

>>117827
You said things i'm always trying to express on some level. I find coexistence with them and all their delusion and delusions of grandeur inpossible most of the time.

>>117822
Yeah, your picrel is retard logic. I bet it's taken out of context, too.

>>117827
>My Twisted World: Nona Edition
And they said female incels aren't real!

>>117450
Have some inner strength (impossible I know). Do not idealize men. Do not fetishize men. Do not project tragic backstories, hidden depths and other standard shoujo male lead traits into random schmucks. Do not seethe about men.
The desperate "decentering" obsession of radfems stems from the same emotional dependence as the deranged androlatry of the pickme.

>>117459
It was a joke from the author.

>>117844
Only a moid or hyper pickme would complain about decentering men and radfems.

Are there really people out there whose entire lives revolve around men??

>>117844
Bitch men idealize women, fetishize women, project traits onto women. The incel here is this delusional moid mansplaining his needs on a women's image board.

>>117847
sometimes i feel like this is me but its only because i had a good experience with my first bf and i was trying to recreate that partnership other men and its been going horrible since they suck compared to him. and then theres the fear of "if i dont find a man now, the quality of guys will drop once im in my 30s" not even because women become post-wall or anything. i think women in their 30s look amazing and have an easy time getting partners. but its rather about like… if a guy hasnt been "picked" by that time by either getting married or by being in a LTR… perhaps there must be something wrong with him? perhaps he has flaws that single men around my current age wont have? and so i wonder if its better usage of my time to try to find 'the right one' now rather than having to settle for a guy with a million different issues and flaws a decade from now

>>117856
>i was trying to recreate that partnership other men and its been going horrible since they suck compared to him

Yeahhh that’s like a one-hit wonder trying to recreate the one song that brought them success. You’ll never be able to re-do something that happened spontaneously. You will either have to settle for less, decentre le menzies, or accept that the future is uncertain and that your next relationship may be completely different than the first.

Tbh I think my shallowness protects me from pick me behaviour. I don’t really want children or a family. If I’m horny dick is plentiful and masturbation exists. If I’m lonely I can simply try to make friends. Being in a relationship is nice, and preferable to being single, but I don’t see why you should make it your life purpose.

Also, it’s pretty normalised for dudes to focus on their career when they’re young and focus on serious relationships much later. Although I may be biased since I find zoomer men literally insufferable.

>>117870
That's really not how creative work, works though. There are one hit wonders. And then there are David Bowie's who just know how to sniff out shitty men before they get started. My god so many women are horrible at this because they're subconciously brainwashed to look for popular qualities in men that smart women find deeply off-putting. For example enshrining masculinity. Yeah a lot of women only suffer men because they are trying to settle, but its no different than being oblivious.

>>117856
But its pretty universally well-known that half the population gets into bad, poorly thought out relationships the first time. Half of all marriages end in divorce. A lot of people find people they're really compatible with the second time around.

How anyone still talks about "not being picked" is hilarious to me. That's just not how it works.

Either way though, to me, relationships with men are a massive loss of freedom to me. Having children with one would be even worse. Its not like you're really losing a whole lot if you don't get married. You win if you get into one you actually enjoy, you win if you dont. There is too much to soak up and enjoy in life without a man.

>>117878
Honestly what gets me most, is how much men seem hellbent on convincing you to be unhappy, to be negative about yourself and the things you enjoy, to be negative about your prospects, to be negative about life. They suck the joy out of everthing when you actually have to live around them.

>>117879
>>117878
you talk and focus on this so much it makes me think youre lying tbh. are you really that much happier that you arent involved with a man? have you really become fully convinced your life would never be enhanced by one and that the "right man" doesnt exist?

>>117881
I am not the second poster.

I dont care whether the right man does or doesn't exist i dont want my peace and solitude disrupted. If I DID find someone that worked out for me great but im not fussing about it. People who strain to tell you how unhappy you are because you can't be bothered are mentally ill.