Ending Friendship Anonymous 118207
My friend is a TiM and likely AGP. He’s likely copying his girlfriend and I live in California where it’s accepted. At first when I met him I thought he was a normal guy. My philosophy is accepting and live and let live. Lately though, my feelings of discomfort can’t be burrowed down anymore. Our friend group since middle school has been fine with this and affirming. He refers to himself as “lesbian” even when he has no chance of passing. I have no problem with gender nonconforming, gay or even “true”/well passing trans identified people who don’t push their ideology down my throat.
I need some advice here. Clearly he is not copying me as I’m a tomboy and he has typically male interests. His wearing female clothes and voice training gives me skinwalker vibes.
My own family and close friends affirming this feels trapping. It was nice before he started this and we bonded over mountain biking and vintage cinema. My dilemma is that I want the friendship to work out but it feels lowkey stressful and uncomfortable to be around someone who is fetishizing women, and it is not good for my mental health. For years I thought I could just be tolerant but I don’t think having to lie and pretend makes for a sustainable friendship and is actually toxic to us both.
I am moving abroad for work next year and if he doesn’t detransition I am cutting him off.
Anonymous 118314
It's normal to feel how you do , it's a shame that you had common interests but it doesn't sound like something you're able to shake off, don't subject yourself to discomfort just because you were friends prior. Being around someone trooning out doesn't even feel like the same person most of the time because you know they're a gooner and retarded : (.
It doesn't have to be personal copying that makes you uncomfortable, it would be unsettling to be around someone mimicking essentially what he thinks you and women are all the time regardless.
That being said there probably isn't much you can do rather than distance yourself lord knows he would ape out if you mention being uncomfortable.
