/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>What are you supposed to

you sound like an actor wanting to be fed a line in a theater play. don't learn how to trick people into liking you by saying what is normal and performing the theater of normality, just be who you are and some will like it and others will not and that's great because you wouldn't want people in your life who don't actually like you and only like you when you bend yourself into some normalized version of yourself.

>>118901
Not helpful. Not OP, but I often have nothing to say. Sometimes I'll sit there in silence, even if I enjoy the other person's company. I just don't want to annoy the other person with my thoughts and I don't want them to annoy me with their thoughts. Unfortunately, for all bar one of my friends, silence comes off as aloofness.

>>118878
It's the mans job to entertain and flatter YOU when he's taking to you. He's the one who asked you out, he's the one who wanted this date to happen.

If you ever feel pressured to lead the conversation during a date, that means the man is failing at his job and not worth going on a second date with.

i have autism tbh i want to be fed lines so i know how talking works. how do i move the chess pieces on this board? etc. that anon thinks im on stage 3 when im on stage 1

>>118977
You are really taking something out on her

hobbies, interests, jobs/education, pets, music, recent travels, literally anything more or less lighthearted. You want to have fun and get to know each other a bit more.

>>118986
>>118977
i dont have the instincts to know how to talk to people. why does this make me the villain to you?
>stop shaping yourself into a mold propaganda victim
>stop affecting people negatively with your weird behaviour
which one is it?

i want to get better and treat people how they appreciate being treated (and how they appreciate the way i should act so i dont "negatively affect" them). but if i say i want that you call me a dumb follower. if i say i dont care about being normal you call me an evil faker. i cant win. its no matter what i do, i lose. this must be what its like walking into the mouth of a narcissist. the truth is whatever you want based on whatever you feel in the moment.

>>118997
i dont use reddit. youre just crying because i called you a reddit tranny in another thread. i dont care that you use cc just dont insert your aggression here because you hate cis women
>>118998
ok. what does this have to do with anything? are you still bullying me for something i havent done? you need to be specific so i can understand

i think that anon is mentally ill or has a problem with their gender dysphoria to the point that need to take out on others because what they said is complete unrelated nonesense. i asked for specific examples to prove im a bad person logically and he just went back to making assumptions about me pfft. ig this is what happens when a sociopath who is addicted to controlling others has a low iq. its like he has an obsession with needing to feel superior to others by making up stories that he can use to attack and accuse but he has none of the intelligence to sound convincing. im sorry for encouraging them to shit up this thread. i think more productive things can be said for op so ill stop this here. honestly my first comments were just trying to defend op to show shes not a monster or whatever that tranny was trying to pin on her but he decided to create this poorly made maze to try trap and control me in thinking it would work. its creepy when men do that. im sure this tactic of mentally wearing out others by insulting them and shitting out deranged conspiracies until you manipulate them into doing what you want works on some but not me

op you can talk about literally anything
>how your and his week went
>whats going on in your life
>the scenery
>the food
>hobbies
>interests
>current trends
>opinions on stuff
>talk about your stories or ask him about his
>when hes talking about doing something, ask about how the process was or how he felt about something specific to that
literally anything can be turned into a topic to yap about. i always sucked at this because i just dont get dopamine from talking to other people unless its about my interests/fixations. but i think if youre someone like that it helps to have an idea on what to talk about this way you can get into a routine if you never have the energy for it. if he brings up something youre not interested in or dont know how to respond to then try change how you think about it. you dont need to pretend to care about the interest specifically just appreciate its something hes into and ask why hes into it then move the conversation on to something else

that other poster said you dont need to talk and be silent for the next 10 decades in marriage. but thats not the way. you need to get to know the guy youre dating otherwise he might not be the one for you (or worse he could just be using you for your body or end up killing you because hes secretly sociopathic) but hes probably not like that. im just spiraling. goodluck on your date!

>>118966
Shut up scrote.

>>119015
you ignored everything i wrote about being genuine instead of inauthentic by changing your mindset and jumped into making assumptions about how fake i am to feed your pathetic male ego again. ive met people like you. whatever logic is said you ignore and twist the truth to fit your narrative of being above everyone. youre toxic and use therapy language to manipulate people into doing whatever you want even now when you accuse me of being manipulative myself. you dont realise this, but words dont hold meaning for you. theyre just opportunities to get your dopamine by feeking superior to other people as you have demonstrated everywhere on cc. thats why in every post you make youre combatative and egotistical. its just how the narcissist brain works. you cant tell that youre "mazing" others and trying to control people by fabricating things about them because its your instinct. in reality you have no clue if i treat people kindly or if i treat them like dirt. you dont know who i am. and although you have a big ego people like you dont know yourself either. real women dont have addictions to controlling other women desperately like this especially not on a random imageboard, youre a tranny repeating delusions to finally feel better than cis women. how do i know? youre writing style and deranged allusory attitude is easy to spot anywhere. youre the same pedophile tranny who calls himself "supreme" on discord that admits to arguing on cc and brags about controlling cis women all day. i hate sadistic fags like you. heres the most honest thing that comes from my heart and mind: you will never be a real woman

>>119025
Based. Now I don’t know if the schizo deleted his posts or they were saged. Either way I hope he doesn’t come back.