/feels/ - Advice & Venting

When you realize that most men watch porn you stop caring about their opinions.

Men aren't real. It's just three racoons wearing a trenchcoat. They want to raid your refrigerator and steal your pies while you sleep.

Pay for a matchmaking service?

>>119970
I don't need to care about their opinions. I want them to impregnate me and help me build a healthy family.

Since i've got divorced i've been on celibate, no kids tho.

I hate men in general, I'd rather be alone than having to waste time trying to get to know someone and have to worry about him, besides, once men lose interest they stop showing or giving little details that make you happy.

All I need are my girl friends around, they give me all the attention and talking I need, I love my friend group.

>>119989
How old are you? I feel friend groups are even more volatile and will go from very tight to barely talking and treating you (or each other) like mere acquaintances in an instant once the time comes.

>>119991
I'm 31, my group is from high school, I've started to hang out with them more nowadays so it doesn't feel volatile at all.

>>119989
This

>>119994
> started to hang out with them more nowadays
yeah that's normal
Mid to late 30s is typically where the erosion starts.
Best of luck though.

>>119996
shut up debby

>>119996
Well at least I've got some good memories.

Hope to end up like this someday, having a friend to chill as an old lady sounds cool too.

>>119969
I don't cope. I rot. I had my one chance and blew it on hedonistic abandon that, surprise surprise, was fun for a moment and then completely hollow.

>>119999
iktf nona. Had basically what I would consider my ideal relationship. Incredibly reliable, one of a kind person, I trusted him deeply. 12 years together.
I fucked it up because I got "bored" and things felt "stale" to me.
So I threw it all away for essentially half a year of "fun".

I hate myself and I deserve to be hated and to be miserable.

>>120009
>>119999
Was the guy hot at least

>>120010
Above average I'd say. But not super hot or anything.

>>120010
He was so hot that he didn't think he needed to bathe.

>>120009
I only had 3 years with mine. He's now happily married with kids and I'm alone. Probably how it should be.

>>120009
are you my boyfriend's ex…

>>120009
>>119999
Retardmaxxing

>>120009
Many such cases

Im 19 rn so not sure but it does not affect me a lot

>>119989
Diagnosis: NPD.

>>121656
diagnosis: insufferable moid

I'm in my mid 20s so I don't think it's too late for me, although 99.999% of men are fucking sewer gutter, or celebs. So maybe I'm fucked and I just don't know it.

>>121685
What do you want from men.?

>>121685
I'm turning 20 soon and I've already realized how shitty majority of men are, I feel hopeless when it comes to relationships and it hurts even more seeing how male obsessed my peers are. I have had plenty of men who have shown interest but I just feel nothing anymore like I've completely given up. Younger moids, older moids, they all treat me the same. I hate how addicted to porn they are and I hate how animalistic they behave.

Still young, not in mid 20's yet but I've kind of been trying to fully accept the fact for a couple years now LOL it's a slow process but I think it's working
Couldn't care any less about having kids tho, don't really like them but the idea of a nice relationship is still very tempting

>>121689
Undoubtedly 20 is young, I fear the fact that I'll simply continue to feel awful about everything and that fear progressing with my age. I just wish to stop caring about relationships (until maybe later if I change my mind), but I have bad rumination issues.

ill most likely end up with a husband since im in a relationship but as ive mentioned in another thread… i wouldnt do so if my bf didnt propose to sign a contract that would bankrupt him in case of mistreatment, abuse or cheating, etc. i also dont care for kids. they just seem like an added stress in life and i want my life to be as easy and stress-free as possible. my bf doesnt want kids either luckily.

>>119998
Holy shit. Imagine hoping to end up like some nonce that is just waiting to die.

>>121690
I wish to be able to stop thinking about relationships as well, I think my ultimate downfall was thinking about them a little too hard one day and then telling myself "It sounds like it'd be really nice if you find the right person" and I hate it
I went pretty much the entirety of my life indifferent about relationships and unbothered by the fact that nobody has really ever shown interest in me in a romantic sense all through high school (in fact I was thankful for it back then) up until around when I became a legal adult, and since then the thought has never really left my head
Call it childish since I've never dated once, but I think that fact only makes me want it more, maybe it's because I'm still a complete newbie in that regard and I'm still wondering what it's like to experience all that I've missed but seeing the current landscape I think it's just better to not involve myself with dating at all (not like it would've made much of a difference if I did tbh considering how no one's ever been interested in me), and now I want nothing more than to return to the time I didn't even entertain the thought of what it'd be like to be in a relationship because I was too busy playing video games or something lol

>>120009
Lmao fumbed

>>120009
This has to be a moid baiting

>>119970
I watch porn too desu

I'm 28 now, going 29 and gathering courage to breakup a 7 year old relationship because he actually doesn't love me and is only with me because his other option is being an incel. He never brought up the subject of relationships or children, even though he knows damn well I want it. That's what hating yourself and being emotionally dependent does to you

>>121726
>his other option is being an incel
He's not an incel if you've already had sex with him

>>119969
I have a husband but idk if I’ll ever be able to have kids and idk how to apply for surrogacy. My eggs are fine I just don’t have the body to carry a kid to full term… idek if they’ll let me apply for surrogacy because my eggs are good. Maybe I can find a private surrogate. Finances aren’t an issue.

>>121729
You should contact a fertility clinic

>>121729
I also don't think my body is healthy enough to give birth. But I'm also 35 so idk if my eggs are even still good. I'm fine with adoption but my husband wants to have his genes passed on. Men.

Idk about the husband bit but I’ll definitely never have kids but I have my dogs and that’s enough for now.

>>121731
Same I told him I’m perfectly fine being child free or adopting, but yeah he wants a kid with both our genes even though we both have shit genes

>>121730
My greatest fear is that the surrogate takes our money/runs away with the kid or the surrogate is shady and doesn’t take care of her body while carrying our embryo such as being an alcoholic. Fertility clinics are kinda shady too, there’s a ton of cases where the embryos went with the wrong surrogate or they swapped sperm donors. All around effed up stuff.

>>121740
Yup thats always a fear.

Just try to remember that if you did in fact have kids, they would be neets tied to your neck till the day you die, such is our cyberpunk prospects.

I had a relationship with a guy a few years ago and it showed me the depths of my emotional problems, as well as how my "gender non conformity" makes relationships with men very difficult. I've been alone since and, although I do long for companionship and even family, when I try to picture myself in that scenario, it feels ridiculous, almost impossible. I've always wanted children, but find the prospect of motherhood very grim. I guess I cope by reminding myself that I wouldn't be a good parent.

>>121726
I hope you can follow through and end this relationship. If you truly want to have children you should give yourself a chance at it.

>>121888
the vast majority of men in prehistoric times never reproduced lol

Bump

Humans don't breed in captivity, that's our species's last defense against enslavement.

>>121902
it may interest you to know that the japanese have adapted Anne of Green Gables to anime again.