/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I'm used to be introverted friendless slob who desperately wanted human attention and now I'm leader of small student organization (which is part of bigger organization) and God, I'm so tired of these cunts. They all are sick, either physically or mentally. You can't plan shit with them, because tomorrow they're having migraines and mental breakdowns. My boss demands me to find new people convince them into joining my organization. How the fuck I am supposed to do it when no one, no one wants to meet new people and talk with them even for hour. Those fucks talk about how they don't like studying and retarded professors, but when they have the opportunity to skip classes and do something useful they all suddenly choose lectures and shit. They only come for the fun part and never want to help in non fun parts. Screw this shit,

>>120289
what kinda organization is it? since you're the leader, can't you just take it easy and make everyone else do the work?

>>120291
herding cats is what leaders do, it's why no one actually likes being in charge, just envious of the attention those who are have on them.

This is an absolutely silly vent, I guess it's a pet peeve… but does any one else hate how on threads like "what's the worst thing you've ever done", the replies are always some nonsense like "the worst thing I did to a woman is my mum really hurt when she gave birth to me"… No seriously. What's the percentage of men who've raped, what's the percentage of men who've deceived to obtain sex… apparently something like 50% of german men have purchased a prostitute… Am I seriously led, on male dominated message boards to believe that the worst thing you've ever done is "I cheated on my geography homework because the world map was on the back of my schoolboook" or whatever.

I get that people aren't actually going to dig deep, reach into that deep mental abyss, and really talk about the worst recesses of their mind… or incriminate themselves. But honestly, try to at least post the second or third worst anecdote, not some random zany anecdote which is obviously forgivable because you were 12, and if you want to claim a zany anecdote is the worst thing you've ever done, at least make it a zany anecdote where you unwittingly ruin someone's life.

I'm talking to this guy I met online and at first we seemed to really hit it off, we were able to talk for hours on end about nothing and he seemed to share the same feelings for me. We would have a lot of fun together.
Now after a few weeks of talking he's suddenly started to act lukewarm about me, gives me mixed signals and gives me the shortest answers he can to my texts.
I can't help but feeling hurt, I don't know what to do. I feel like the problem is probably me being too available and clingy.
I feel like the damage is done and that there's nothing I can really do to fix it. I hope I'm wrong but it seems like I'm not.
Can anyone give me advice on what to do?

I don't want to be mentally ill. I don't want to be mentally handicapped. I don't want to be scared and stressed all the time.

>>120376
How did you guys meet online?

I've started to mush my favorite characters together to make an original husbando in an original world to escape to. I feel pretty pathetic about it.

I don't want to go home. I want to dissapear and start over but I'm too scared.

I'm way too old for my bf but I still allow him to control me and manipulate me because being a femcel was much worse, or maybe not, either way I rly feel like there's nothing else I could be doing and having an uneventful life was even more painful. Pic unrelated.

>>120443
How is he manipulating you?

i honestly do not enjoy watching shows or movies anymore after realizing how much of a propaganda mill it is. disney is one of the worst companies out there for creating new media ((live action """remakes""")) just for people to ragebait at.

never become a pawn for someone else or let them manipulate you to go against your desires anons. here's an example - if you're ever like, i literally have no idea what is attractive because the media is literally brainwashing me to go against my desires, literally just look at attractive and cute people around you and see who they date in the long term.

people who weaponize others suck.

>>120450
oh yea anons
and if youre ever like, why does this person want me to rage at this other person so bad, its because they did shitty things to them. thats why.

practice same gender friendship and fuck people who do the above. genuinely life ruining shit

How can a person be so gross to make a post on women's day and call women annoying in the same fucking post? the post was about her fave fictional character self-insert too, not about women at all.
Imagine using women's day to praise a fictional woman and at the same time shit on another fictional woman

>>120454
highly recommend this channel btw

>>120450
i mean just looking at its CEO right

>>120454
please don't use this thread to post ugly scrotes thank you

>>120444
Mostly just sex and making me feel guilty, he gets irritated if i refuse, even if he's the one initiating it (he whines and turns his back on me, doesn't let me hug him or anything until I apologize). I know I'm hard to love too since I cry a lot and I'm awkward at saying cutesy stuff so I guess it evens out.

i only help people when i detach completely from my feelings and become numb to their problems. the help i offer isnt even that good so it's very exhausting and not so rewarding. i want to be a reliable person at all costs.

>>120376
stop caring and he will likely like you more. idk why but guys are like this. i think they like to feel like they caught something special and they can't if you're always available. like let him earn you. even if he doesn't start to like you more, you'll feel detached enough to move on.

>>120288
I miss him so much but he does not even care

theres this thing people do where they encourage people to go to countries and do really sexually torturous things.

its not hard. make your tone of voice really indifferent, and throw in sadistic humour.

it really is fucked up, its fucked up to read when you see it happening to certain countries, and oftentimes it just encourages someone to do sadistic sexual torture there

there is quite literally no reason why someone would have to do this. thats what joker is based off by the way. yes it makes people want to kill themselves and self harm

so

yeah

>>120493
i mean
doesnt have to be countries. could be people in general

>>120494
and when it happens, or whatever, it feels like "pins and needles", and causes a bunch of emotional instability. i think the point of why 4chan is so destabilizing is because they do this a lot. with races of women, and groups of people

and yeah. theres probably a lot of women and teens who killed themselves because of this panicked feeling. also, sometimes there are women who dislike women that have this sexual sadism performed onto them. know whats happening and realize that they would not do this to someone they cared about.

i dont. know why you would do this to anyone really. but the point is that its wrong.

for some reason "i love" statements help a lot. it doesnt really bother you as much when you realize that they do it because theyre hateful people and want to spread hatred.

>>120495
just dont.
involve people in "despair" lol

>>120509
you are not a cat
you will never be a cat
literally no one actually likes cats
i am 100 lbs
there is still someone more sexually dimorphic than you

I'm tired of pretending I give a shit about college. Honestly, I've been burnt out for a good time now and I'm barely managing to do schoolwork. I'm not even sure I actually want to work as an animator, I kind of chose this major because I'm good at drawing, but I fear that's not enough for me to be good. Should've studied an humanity, but maybe if I was, I'd be feeling the same way too. There's no scape.

>>120583
escape*
forgive my ESL

Tired of my job but also too scared to try working somewhere new

I'm VERY good at meeting new people but HORRIBLE at sustaining the friendship. Only if they're really cute I'll try to poke and prod them, otherwise I simply don't give much of a shit. No idea why. Therapistfriend says it could be me dictating value in people and cutting them out if they don't reach a certain "worth". I'm too scared to visit a real therapist for this reason.

>>120598
I relate to this
I can make a great first impression but after that it's like a timer starts counting down until they realize there's something fundamentally wrong

>>120598
>>120598
Same, except I don't want to keep anyone close.

a life of coexistence with others is impossible. it seems the common reason to not end it all is because it regards the emotions of others, not yourself. i'd understand the sentiment but there is truly, and i mean truly no one that needs me and no one will particularly be harmed by my loss. it feels pretty pointless to continue now, and there is no one harmed by my selfishness

Don't think I'll go out tonight. Too busy thinking about the people I still love but are too far from my reach

I wish I had a friend to talk with and do things with. Last week I sat next to a table of girls drinking and having fun and I want that so desperately. I have nowhere to meet people and I don't bring anything too interesting to the table tbh. My last friend from college who I used to occasionally text finally ghosted me completely last year. No online friends. Only social media is here, tumblr, and reddit so the problem is getting worse.

For the first time in a long time I looked out over the stair rails and imagined jumping. I know it's not actually high enough to die and would make my life far worse so I won't. But it made me realize I low my life is right now.

>>120641
Do you want to vent about it, nona?

I didn't get proposed to. We didn't have a wedding ceremony. No wedding rings even though I want them. No honey moon. And I got called selfish for wanting to dress up (in clothes we already own) and go out for our anniversary. I feel like shit.

>>120655
He never loved you

https://youtube.com/shorts/6dx74YpJ4h0?si=88yLh5vAa0o2uTV3
The comment section under this clip broke me

I wish I was less socially retarded. why can’t I function when people talk to me?

Bugs ate my pinto bean plant

I want to stay in a hotel by myself for a week and just relax.I'm so tired, physically and mentally.

thinking about how different my life would've been if my mom had forced me to wear a corset from a very young age so my body would develop in a more conventionally "attractive" way and i wouldn't have incurred crippling body dysmorphia and ED (i probably would still have incurred both those issues, but at least i'd look better while suffering)

>>120717
Stomach vaccums if done properly can help with a defined curvier waist.

whyd youtube ban leafy

fucking yahoo fucking mail

I had a dream last night that I was hanging out with a group of people, it was so nice that my brain keeps coming back to it as if it’s something I can do again

My husband had a mental breakdown, was delusional, forgot who he was and completely forgot the last few days. Potentially due to a concussion but I wonder if he had a small stroke, although his words weren't slurred. I want him to get an mri but he won't go to the hospital.

My boyfriend likes to lick my teeth and I don’t understand why…

>>120762
Divorce him or cheat on him or both. He deserves it.

>>120767
God I see the things you do for others

>>120767
He's a dentist
He's cleaning off the plaque and tartar

>>120769
I’m sorry but what?
>>120783
Nona I love you never change lol

>>120784
What I was trying to say is I'm jealous of you lol

>>120762
Kill him and then dump him in the river.

>>120785
>jealous
You . . . Want? A teeth-licker bf? Why?

Don't know how to explain this but I think I am afraid of talking and befriending anybody really, I miss the pre middle school days where everybody was friends with each other no matter the sex but since puberty it seems to be this really odd atmosphere where courtship seems to be always in the air. I am afraid of talking with other women irl since back in middle school they supported my male bully to the point they told him where I live so he went to my apartment to verbally harass me and he cover the peaking hole so I would open the door and put his foot in the door so I couldn't close it and they were behind him cheering him on, those same women a few weeks early busted into the bathroom stall I was in when I was peeing and they started to laugh at me, don't know how it is in other countries but in the poor school I grew up in there where no locks so people went in groups of 2 in the bathroom so somebody would hold the door close but I had no friends so I had to pee while trying to hold the door close at the same time.
My mom had always been odd, when I was little I always told the truth only for her to lie about the most things be it insignificant or significant, she would come home and just slap the hell out of me because I didn't knew to do my homeworks while my aunt would just scream and threaten me for the same reason, she screamed louder than my mom but at least she didn't beat me while my sis lock me in the bathroom and beat the shit out of me for being lazy and sleeping all day. My dad mostly ignored me which I am so glad for but he always was a ticking time bomb, do something not the second he said it and he would slap you so hard you feel the bone of your cheek. I tried to have various female friends after elementary school but I always get the same complaints that I am too odd or strange or they befriend me to be their personal lolcow and I didn't realize that until way later while guys thought I had an interest in them or when I thought I finally found a friend he try to kiss me out of nowhere without my consent. I am afraid of making any friends even now, I know that I grew up sheltered and that people would probably take advantage of that, i hate that word "sheltered" so much, it wasn't nice spending the first 6 years of my life being locked in a room with nothing to do outside watching cartoons and getting food at 6am and 6pm, is strange no seeing a person in those crucial years, it feels like living with a species of aliens with no context on how to live and act also I already know I sounds like a rich asshole saying this since there's people who don't have food and shelter, trust me it's been told to me many times.

>>120790
I didn't realize this ended up as an wall text, sorry

>>120791
I just wished there was nobody around, a sorta last person on earth situation or live the rest of my life in an abandoned house, I don't think I ever known rest just irrational panic of making a mistake and upsetting somebody

>>120790
>>120791
>>120792
I hope you find peace.

How do I make friends? I just lost all mine again because I had to move and break away from them. I’m moving to a small city so there would be people there, but I have no idea how to talk to people irl. I would even be friends with men if it were possible to find any who aren’t into that cp anime crap.

>>120901
You have to go to functions that you enjoy.

>>120583
wow, another animator here
can't say i reciprocate the feeling, my interest in animation is the one thing i have going for me, but i understand. you can always change majors and see them for yourself

Is anyone else really badly scared of their loved ones dying? Just this knowing that everyone I know will die some day (and it won’t be very long from now, all things considered) fills me with this deep sense of dread and despair

i wish i had a friend. it hurts to see others have friends. even children do. even intellectually disabled people do. even so-called lonely people do. even bad people do. most people do. but i have no one and never have. it hurts so deeply that i can not being to explain it to someone who has had a friend before.

Is this selfish? I've been told I lack empathy so idk if I'm overreacting. I feel hurt and unappreciated.

Almost every night, my husband and I watch whatever youtube/streaming/tv my husband wants to watch. Altough he will sonetimes present options for me to choose from. At least 2 times a week we will spend 5-8 hours watching material only he is interested in.

In my free time, I'm watching his favorite anime series because he asked me to. I'm over 30 episodes in.

Last night he offered to watch my favorite series, which I have never pushed on him. I was so happy. He watched 4 episodes and complained it wasn't interesting yet.

…Then we watched 6 episodes of a series he likes.

>>120937
Start complaining too…grown man lol

>>120937
Do you enjoy watching the stuff he likes or are you just doing it to spend time with him? imo there's no point making him watch your stuff if he's just going to complain and be annoying the whole time, but you should also maybe stop being willing to constantly watch his crap all the time too if he's gonna act like this.

>>120940
I like about half of it, I guess. I'm willing to watch anything and I can usually find something I like about any piece of media. But he will put on a miniseries on ww2 and get mad when I doze off a few hours in.

>>120288
I moved to this neew country and it's super hard to talk to other adult women to be friends. E.j, cashier at the supermarket I go to every day, and no, I don't work yet.

I'm persistently aware of how boring I am and I don't know what to do about it.

>>120954
what makes you boring

I need to stop drinking before I damage my liver any more, but getting drunk on the weekends was the only thing I had to look forward to. Now I've got nothing to do or to look forward to.

i hate my disgusting older autistic retard brother

>>120937
Everything you described here is only internal to you. The first response hit the nail on the head, stop being passive out of concern for being "selfish", he's your husband, he's the one person in the world required to care about your wants and needs and clearly doesn't mind being selfish himself. If you let things continue this way, you'll just feel like you have all your decisions made for you in perpetuity until you blow up.

This will be a good small and harmless test to see if he actually cares about your feelings too.

I cope with the production and proliferation of fictional media that sexualizes abuse of women by consuming and supporting fictional media that sexualizes the abuse of males. They don't listen when we tell them to stop, so I see no reason to hold back or respect any form of "decency". I've noticed basically none of it is ever as bad as the content they make of women and girls, but that's not really surprising.

I guess the duo in the trio thing is real because for the past 2 years my friends all they do all day is talk about how they find vkei guys attractive and call me crazy when they ask my opinion, and I tell them I don't like it , its not my thing. All they do is talk about it, and if I try to learn more about it or try to talk about something else, they ignore me. Were all losers too so we write our own stories for fun and they'll share stories between each other but with me they say no especially when it comes to showing each other their art and I show them my writing and art w no issue anytime they ask to see mine or want access to read my document. I understand them not showing me their stuff it can be personal but I'm almost not allowed to participate in anything with them. Honestly I feel like I'm whining like a middle schooler, but I'm getting left out on everything, and if one gets left alone with me then they'll talk to me for like 3 minutes and then take off. I think I need to get new friends but I've been friends with them for so long it feels like there's no one else to talk to anymore other than them so I just gotta put up with being purposely ignored and left out.

>>120983
To be honest, i think this is a great way to cope. I don't know why performative twt activists act like yaois "fetishization" of gay men is so bad. It's still nowhere near the oppression and abuse women suffer. Im not saying yaoi is feminism or anything similar to it is but it makes me feel hopeless that anything will ever change if we cant even change how women are portrayed in fiction

I've always felt alienated from other women since I'm barely attracted to men and very much into women. But since I'm somewhat bi I can't relate with lesbians fully either. Feels weird to come here and see the way other girls thirst over guys and not get it at all even though I do like my bf.

I made a friend at uni and she's very smart and is very good at sucking up at the professors so I stick around because of that. However, she's super judgy and mean (makes bad comments about people in class, puts anyone who she feels is better than her down etc) and I really want to cut her off and meet new people but she's in all of my classes and it's not like I can avoid her out of the sudden
She's always so passive aggressive and fake nice so I'm the only one who has seen this and I have no one else I can confide in about this.
I cannot stand her anymore

>>120989
Meet people outside of your classes

I'm a waste of time and money to my family. I live in guilt for being useless, it's been like this since I was a child.
Medication and therapy have only managed to keep me stable enough to get out of bed and take care of the house.
At the moment, I'm pretending to take my university classes seriously. Sometimes I do a couple assignments, but I'm unable to keep up the pace.
I'm mediocre at everything I do, just good enough for people to think I'm smart. The way things are today, honestly, why bother? If I'm to compete, I'll lose to everyone else.
At 27, I never had a job and dropped out of university two times already, in different majors. There isn't a future for me, and there's no escape.

I wish I wasn’t a friendless loser. I use to be friends with my ex bf but we don’t really talk anymore since he got a gf. My only companions are my dogs. I’m so genuinely scared to lose them:/ I’ll probably kill myself when they die. They’re the only ones who’d be genuinely affected by my death anyways.

So much of /hb/ just feels like a proana board now and it makes me upset. That's a community I desperately tried to move away from so I don't think I can check there anymore. Sad because I like this site.

>>121007
What proana?

>>121008
it's not everyone but there is a lot of obsession around calories and calorie deficit. saying shit like "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels". there are people that are trying to help and not encourage low calorie goals and things like that but yet it keeps coming up. i don't really want to insinuate it's exactly the same as true pro-ana communities or say that these threads shouldn't exist but it's enough to upset me. hence the vent lol.

>>121013
got it …I still think its better that they post here and somebody corrects them instead of getting encouragement from edtwt and similar places. A lot of these ed adjacent quotes seems to be from younger women or girls ( I say this because that is what is trending on that side of twt ) but yeah I do see how it can be triggering for others.

>>121007
I noticed that, too. It makes me feel sad because I've been there (and still restrict calories… It's not like I'm "better" than them) Basically I'd like it if dieting talk was kept in the general diet thread.

>>121014
the return of proana content to the mainstream consciousness has been devastating to every semi recovered anorexic tbh. it’s even got my ass relapsing and i thought that would never happen

>>121006
Have you tried going outside?

>>1209341zd
>it hurts to see others have friends.
Not saying this is a 100% cure but it's because you're too focused on it imo. It's like watching water boil and feeling like it takes longer to boil than it actually does, if you can find some hobbies or something to occupy your time and thoughts then at the very least there's that much time spent not thinking about people who have friends.
>even children do.
Children are too underdeveloped to have the mental and societal barriers adults have.
>even intellectually disabled people do.
Some people are too stupid to know better than to keep company they probably barely get along with.
>even so-called lonely people do.
Someone who claims to be lonely despite being surrounded by others is either saying it for attention or because they don't share a deep enough connection with their friends, in which case calling them "friends" might be less accurate than just "acquaintances."
>even bad people do.
Either because people are too forgiving or because those bad people keep it a secret as to how bad they really are.
>most people do.
Only because humans are a social species, a lot of people will be friends with each other even if doing so causes more grief than contentment because they are a slave to biology's whims.
>it hurts so deeply that i can not being to explain it to someone who has had a friend before.
Then don't explain it. The understanding of some midwit is worthless anyway, they will respond with some empty platitudes because they think they need to validate your experience somehow since validation is all they care about. The best thing you can do is just keep on living and take what you can get, if you ever end up obtaining a meaningful connection then just appreciate it while it's happening I guess. I might not have the best advice though since I have the opposite problem, I have a few friends but I would like to cut direct ties with them and only 'be friends' when we happen to occupy the same space so I can spend my free time doing what I want.

>>120985
>but I've been friends with them for so long
That's a tricky justification to get past but if you're miserable with them and they have little to no respect for you then you don't owe them anything.

I feel so bad for everyone around me. To my roommate for being disorganised and messy. For my friends at our organisation who put trust me with responsibilities just for me to fuck up. To my parents who believe me to be intelligent and do well in uni. I wish people would see me as the idiot at first glance so i wouldn't end up hurting them by dissapointing them.
I don't believe they're even asking that much of me to begin with. I'm just a massive idiot so normal things are hard for me.
I feel like cutting again but i don't honestly want to be hurt. I just wish to be forgiven and to be treated realistically in respect of my lack of disclipine and intellect

i think i spiral without male attention. why do i want it so bad.

My grandpa's funeral is tomorrow and all my cousins are in town. I saw them Sunday and yesterday and it was exhausting. They're all also super fit and/or skinny and I'm 15 lbs overweight even though I do yoga every day. Also I never really felt close to my grandpa. I have really mixed feelings towards him. He would criticize me a lot and I never felt comfortable around him. And he was just a cranky mean man and borderline abusive to my grandma. But he gave me like $4000 when I turned 18 and then another $1000 when he died. So that was nice of him. idk what to say or feel. It's nice that my fiance is coming with me but I feel bad putting him through this. I would hate having to go to his grandpa's funeral but of course I would go to support him and his family. It's all just exhausting and I can't wait until I'm in the car driving away from the memorial tomorrow.

>>121073
>I'm 15 lbs overweight
That's literally nothing, stop trying to find ways to hate yourself.

>>120288
WHY IS HE FLIRTING WITH ME DIE DIE DIE YOU KNOW I CANT DO THIS AGAIIN I LITERALLY HAVE CRIED FOR MONTHS ABOUT YOU

>>121102
I literally don’t even know what to do anymore. I’m always teetering on an edge with him. I’m moving on but he isnt and he keeps pulling me down and I feel guilty that I’m forgetting everything but it’s the only way I can go but what I am moving towards? There is nothing out there for me. It’s over

>>121102
I literally don’t even know what to do anymore. I’m always teetering on an edge with him. I’m moving on but he isnt and he keeps pulling me down and I feel guilty that I’m forgetting everything but it’s the only way I can go but what I am moving towards? There is nothing out there for me. It’s over

>>121102
Humiliated me in front of all my friends a family. Worst thing you’ve ever done. You should have left me alone

>>120288
Everyone but me has a boyfriend. Soemthing is so wrong with me

Being a friendless, financially trapped scapegoat sucks.

I CANT EVEN LEAVE THE ROOM when the toxic, creepy, controlling selfish moid sibling constantly follows me around/stands in the next room listening. What happens when I obey, and dont leave when that POS walks in the same room Im in? He says threatening "jokes" that will result in me being gaslit/ostracised if I call him out on it. Or I get to hear more misogynist crap MAP Walsh crap about how women shouldnt be CEOs, which my mom agrees to and says women who are mean to men/are feminist have it coming [it meaning male violence], with her fist in the air.

If I leave the room to avoid him, he tells the whole family on me for doing so. Hes a Nice Guy, everyone else thinks, yet he destroyed a door because a light was flickering. Then my family interrogates me and accuses me of hating him/doing things on purpose to him.

This same scumbag did not wish me a happy birthday, yet I might have to say it to him when its his bday, to get him off my back and avoid having my own loved ones turn on me.

Why couldnt I just have had a sister? My mom laughed that my socalled brother destroyed my room when I came home from the hospital because he wanted a brother, not a sister. Yet everyone acts like Im the problem because I dont to be around him. He even once almost ran over my feet turning his truck aggressively, just because he was mad he had to pick me up, the same year I had foot surgery in middle school. Weird that now he pressures me to let him drive me everywhere, "because its so dangerous now", OR he offers to sit in the back seat with a blunt tool to use as a weapon in case theres a[nother] threatening male, while I drive!

This selfish moid wont even fix our elderly dads vehicle which could crash and be lethal. Yet for months now, this moid sibling has been modifying his own trucks seats so he can have heated AND cooled asscheeks. He wont even fix the front door lock either like he said he was going to, and laughs about the neglected state of this place.

Hope it comes back on that XY sibling.

Joined a male-dominated field (construction). Worked hard. Fucked it up because my brain's broken and moids have literally zero patience with me compared to other moids. No longer in the field and wasted five years of my life, going from having a higher income than anyone I know to being dirt poor again. Can't transfer any skills I learned to anything or leverage it for any kind of position.

>>121280
Joined a male-dominated field (construction)

how much do you lift

God I fucking hate reddit and I fucking hate how if I want to talk about my niche interest I have to use the stupid website. I posted genuinely interesting and useful information and the retarded mods deleted it for "self-promotion" all because it was a link to a spreadsheet I created. They then are like, "You need prior permission" and when I asked if I could have permission, the mod said they need to clear it with all the other mods. Literal mouth breathers who have no concept of community or use of resources. I was planning on starting a blog anyway so I will most likely post everything on there and tell them to kick rocks. And anyone who cares enough will have to find it on their own. so frustrating.

>>121314
what's even more frustrating is there was genuine interest in my little project and multiple posts in the past with users saying they would like something like what I created. All I ask for is a little discretion, but these tranny jannies just can't help themselves, can they?

>>121314
god I hate reddit sm too. The negative energy flowing on that website is so strong that it can overpower a black hole. I'm a 100% that someone from the govt curates targeted posts towards me. Today I saw 2 posts w "people" in eerily similar situations ( same age and insecurities ) with "people" giving them really shit advice that would make any person borderline suicidal.

>>121316
>>121316
So true nona. I literally use reddit for one subreddit, but I need remember that most users I interact with on there are most likely mentally retarded. I should probably stop using it all together. If I start a blog there probably will be next to no engagement, but at least I won't have to talk to deranged people.

>>121317
Nona use tumblr. It is not as dead as people make it out to be.

>>121319
That's not a horrible idea, but unfortunately I don't think my interest has much of a presence on tumblr.

>>121320
what interest?

I'm dating a guy from a third-world country, when I am from a first-world country. He is everything I want in a bf + husband. He's very limited when it comes to the income he makes. I make 2x his annual income in a month. He also does not have a college degree, making it difficult for him to get a job outside his country or a work visa. He is also not interested in getting one, though he is still young. I don't want to marry someone and feel held back or like he's a liability. I'm so lost. I would like some advice, Nonas.

We've been together for 2 years and he mentions marriage but this one thing makes me hesitate. It's frustrating because I know it is beyond his control. Marrying me would transform his life and that also makes me feel pressure.

>>121324
I assume you are in the US, so if you marry him and he acquires lawful permanent residency in the US (his green card) he may choose to leave you after marriage to be with another woman he prefers more than you. It will break your heart, and I know this happens. Moreover, have you ever met him in person before? How does he carry himself in public? How does he behave when he is present in your company? These are things that are not evident when you send messages to someone on the internet. It really takes meeting someone first to really know their personality. His identity and personality on the internet may not be the same when he is present in reality. With them being far away, you're not able to know these things. So, maybe he is not as he seems. Also, do you want to be with someone who is foreign? They live in an alien land, with a different language, and maybe different religion, and different attitudes, which you might find strange (imagine dating a devout Muslim from Saudi Arabia and all the sexist and patriarchal attitudes in Muslim society that comes with him like a package). You could find a man who is local to you, and I think you could get to know them more clearly than someone over the internet.
How important is love to you? Is his love valuable to you? Would he make your life better? If he doesn't have a college degree, and he marries you, and he acquires lawful permanent residence, and he lives with you, he may not be able to get the best jobs available (it's like that here in the US), so you may be the bigger income in your family. He would be competing with all the other Americans (or otherwise) for minimum wage jobs.
I should also say that the process of immigration into the US can take years even if you two get married. Plus who is going to pay for his travel? It's just much more difficult, is he really worth it?

>>121324
Hes probably using you for his potential gain(s). Lots of men put on a show and seem like a decent guy, when trying to get you to settle with them/when they know its easier for you to leave them, before marriage and kids. Then he flips a switch and turns abusive when he thinks youre trapped with him. There are guys that bum off of wealthy successful women, live at her place for free and do nothing with their lives. Plus, statistically having a man in the house increases a womans chances of being the victim of a violent crime. IMO, dont waste anymore time on him.

>>121308
Defective XY coomer cuck spotted. Go join your fellow 41%.

Feeling quite demotivated and lonely today. I must be ovulating because I am so unbelievably horny as well.

>>121344
happens to the best of us nona

>>121344
Omg are we synced?

I fucking HATE how people in my life act like I'm somehow evil for openly hating the scrote who knew he had STD and despite that still pressured me to have sex with him (which thank god never happened). He had HPV type 31, so the high risk one commonly associated with cervical cancer. Despite that, he wanted to have sex without condoms and even pressured me to give him a blowjob (which I didn't do of course) and when I said I'm not going to risk getting oral cancer from this shit he said "you can't even do that little for me?" and continued to guilttrip me. And when I call him a scum now, people, both men and women, act like I am the bad one for cutting him off and ghosting him. Because ghosting people is LE BAD thing (much worse than wanting to give someone cancerous virus I guess). Like what the fuck? To me it's obvious that any man who has this type of HPV and yet still pressures woman into sex (unprotected at that) is a fucking subhuman and I will die on that hill. I feel truly betrayed by people who claim that my reaction was over the top. Because don't you dare to prioritize your own health above the scrote! I got tested and I don't have HPVs or any other type of STD and I don't want to get this shit, thanks, I don't give a fuck about the fact that "the majority of people have some type of HPV" and "the stigma" is le bad. I am not "the majority"

I don't think I'm capable of fully trusting and depending on someone, anyone at all, and it's proving to be a big problem for my fiancé. That I cannot be fully honest with him out of fears of something bad coming from it, or always have that thought in the background that it could end at any point, that he could make me miserable. I've been abused and neglected by those closest to me - first my mother, then my ex, both highly narcissistic. I suppose it's become ingrained in me that it's simply less painful to always have that teeny tiny bit of doubt in the back of my mind with everyone in case something does end poorly? But fiancé doesn't get it, and gets hurt and offended when I hold back certain things to deal with myself. It's not like I accuse him of doing things to hurt me. Part of me gets more nervous about his insistence I trust him 100% (again, I'm just not sure I'm able to do that at all, with anyone) and part of me sees it from his point of view, of being with someone who - it's nothing so much as having one foot out the door, but, is aware of the door as an option, I guess? And then I feel angry, because I have done SO much to show my trust, pushing beyond my comfort zone, to even be with him at all, and can he not at least be gentle and understanding and see that, and see that I have placed more trust in him than anyone, ever, and cut me some slack with the last little bit that expresses itself in anxious thoughts and withdrawals, not accusations and blame?

>>121410
I don't believe you are in the wrong for having done that, I think you did the right thing. It's obvious to me that he was trying to use you for sex, and he could have crossed the line and raped you. A moment of pleasure isn't worth risking a lifetime infection, especially one linked to cancer. How did you find out he has HPV? Only some strains of HPV are linked to cancer, while others are harmless, and not all strains cause obvious signs such as warts.

>>121413
I just told him to get tested. And when he got tested he said yep it's type 31 but fuck me anyway lmao

Dont know why I remembered this upon waking..

When I was around 4 years old, my older brother used to constantly say things to aggravate and get an angry reaction out of me for his amusement. Id get so angry Id hit him, which I know now isnt right. I was always the quiet girl, so he really must have known how to get under my skin.

Not long ago, he brought this up in front of family, and they all felt sympathy for him, as he has a Nice Guy facade.

My mom said for him to hit me back, which she used to say to him back then.

What kind of mother encourages any male to hit her daughter, even if her son is her favorite?

It bothers me.

>>120462
Why no sex?

Is he repuslive, or are you just past that age where your libido is high?

You should talk about this sort of stuff with him and let him know you dont have a sex drive as high, or if you dont like him physically you can straight up tell him that you'd be more attracted if he lost weight/took better care of himself and he'll change for the better. Only do this if you're good with words though, make sure it doesnt come off as rude!!

>>121315
You could try creating sockpuppets to advertise your site (unless the posts are hand-checked by mods)

I hate reddit so much it is unreal. One time I posted a joke image which was an altered version of an article obviously edited to be satire and it was removed for "misinformation". 4chin jannies are jocks making six figures in comparison

>>120289
I was a leader in a similar position, I quit after 6 months, I just wasnt having fun wrangling impassionate people.