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do bad things happen as much as ppl say? Anonymous 120729

I have rly low empathy even for friends and I constantly find it very hard to believe that 'bad things' actually happen to people. I've had friends tell me about being assaulted and stuff and even though I don't show it on the outside I am internally thinking 'she is probably lying for attention'. I go through life and people are always really nice to me and they're generally pretty rational, polite, decent, so I find it hard to believe bad things like that actually happen as much as people say they do. Like every person I know seems to say they've been assaulted or something. Is this sort of thing actually normal or am I some kind of sociopath? Or is it just cuz I'm privileged? I can't help but believe people just make this stuff up for attention.

Anonymous 120730

Yes bad things happen. People assault other people mostly in private where they have power over them, not in public where there are social repercussions for not being civil and polite. Just because no one you're close to was a shitty enough person to abuse you when they could get away with it doesn't mean no one would ever do that.

Anonymous 120731

>>120729
Bad things happen to people all the time, this world is a heckin hell; however some are more sensitive to those events and others don't care.

Anonymous 120732

>>120729
Sociopath? Not sure - but you've definitely got something and it's probably tied to your privilege (and the tunnel vision that comes with it), your (lack of) self awareness, and (limited) cognitive abilities.

Additionally, horrifying things happen to everyone - yours will come sooner or later.

Anonymous 120733

>>120729
Most people exaggerate.

Anonymous 121051

>>120729
most people ive met who are low empathy tend to be quite self-victimizing so its interesting to meet someone who isnt. but you said it yourself - ure low empathy. so perhaps even if you did witness someone experiencing abuse or mistreatment, you just wouldnt feel all that much for them either way. so it could be your bias. and people can get manipulated through their willingness to show sympathy i.e guilt-tripping, making excuses, being forgiving and such so you might not put yourself in these bad situations to begin with. but honestly having empathy (as long as you arent a doormat or allow mistreatment) is one of the best things in the world. idk it feels amazing to feel for others

Anonymous 121399

It's girlfiend

Anonymous 121472

You are low empathy and a horrible friend to boot

Anonymous 121475

What i've noticed is that usually people overreact when you tell them stuff bad that has happened, either that or they're very good at pretending to feel sorry

Like if i tell a friend about how I got sexually harassed at work they're gonna be all "oh my gosh this must be awful… i hope you're okay…" and i just wanna say "bro it's fine i can take it i'm not a snowflake that's gonna break if something remotely bad happens to me"

Anonymous 121486

>>121475
That's a normal response, are you expecting them to say "cool" and stare into your eyes and wait for you to say something else?

Anonymous 121509

>>121486
I said "overreact", i don't think it's bad or weird response, just that they overdo it

The way they do it in my experience just feels very infantilizing

Anonymous 121522

>>120729
If they cry wolf often or have an inflated sense of worth or victimization, chances are they're exaggerating. If they're usually reliable and down to earth people, it's worth believing them.

Anonymous 121553

>>121522
I disagree the whole reason I have an inflated sense of worth is because I know people are often shitty. No more than anything they live to poison your mind, mental health, gaslight you, or just drive you off the road at any opportunity.

I have like one solid rock in life but holy fuck people are filthy. I think theyre frequently below me YES because I'm often proven right. They prove they are cannibals one way of another. Why should I care what they want or believe ? Why should I believe what they say ?? A person has to prove who they are before I give a fuck about them.

I won't stop looking down on people until they give me a reason not to.

Anonymous 121556

What do you mean, bad things? Robbery? Battery? Cancer? Rape? Getting felt up in a crowd?

I'm certain sexual assault is way underreported. I'm just an ugly weirdo who never goes out or talks to anyone and even I've been groped, and when I redeemed my free scrotoid thinking a romantic relationship would alleviate my loneliness, he pressured me into sex, held me down, tried to control me financially, all the usual things men do to socialize.

Anonymous 121557

>>120729
My hot and controversial take is that you're not wrong. Who knows what's good or bad?


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