/feels/ - Advice & Venting

They exist, but at the end of the day they're still men. You'll have moments with that person where you're having fun, smiling, and joking. And other moments where you'll be sad or frustrated because of something they said/did. That's just the nature of human relationships though.

It exists I had this with someone once. He thinks I manipulated him now when I didn’t he was always better with people than me. I miss him. I wish he didn’t think my sorrow was fake.

whenever the topic of unconditional love comes up, I always feel that it's always tied to unhealthy shit like overly idealizing a relationship, fantasizing too much or otherwise deluding oneself in some manner
I guess that's just how my experience has been. Even abusive relationships famously start out with an extremely strong honeymoon phase because the man conjures up some fake image of an absolutely deferential and submissive waifu

they exist! it's like… feeling beautiful. the kind of euphoria that druggies chase after.
ik people say 'be yourself!' but truly. have no filter, say your opinions, say whatever comes to mind, have an Open mind, listen to others, have Interest in others. The people who stick around you, because you are being yourself, you know they like YOu.
Other piece of advice if you're really into something niche (media, academic field, sex stuff, or otherwise) and you're like "my person needs to be into this" … go to online forums or in-person meetings for those things and be bold, make friends! (i say this because i found my bf who is an incredibly kind and generous person, on a kink site. love is real)

remember you're the only person who's going to die for you. So make the effort to appreciate yourself. start small and let yourself glow with comfort in your skin. Pick up a hobby or learn something new - there's something you can love yourself for. it's just remembering you're human, imperfect, and your existence is beauty itself. So don't let a man bring you down (if you find yourself too nervous to open his texts, or he reacts negatively to anything inherent about you like your humour or aesthetic/dressing style, Run!!)

Sry for word vomit. i think the main idea here is to appreciate as much as you can, live as yourself as much as you can, and when you begin to let your inner radiance shine, others will see that - including the man who will adore you.

stay strong, in the meantime look at some power lines or trees and remember it's going to be okay

>>122228
nice to hear someone having a good experience for a change

>No being worried about you if you aren't feeling well
>No buying flowers because they reminded him of you
>No caring about you if something horrible has happened
>No cleaning the house and doing the laundry when you don't do it
>No compassion around periods
>No cooking together
>No cuddling each other without him trying to finger you
>No empathy, kindness, compassion and wanting to help you
>No fixing the computer or fixing the car when you can't do it
>No having him brush your hair and braid your hair (even if he can't do it, at least he's trying)
>No holding hands and looking into each other's eyes during sex
>No going shopping for you and asking you to write a shopping list
>No movie nights together
>No picnics together
>No remembering your favorite foods and buying them, without even telling you, as a surprise
>No shopping days together
>No space for your feelings and emotions
>No talk about favorite flowers
>No talk about what do they love the most about you. No saying something nice about you
>No talk about if you believe in things like destiny and true love
>No talk about what kind of activities do you like to do together to pass the time
>No talk about if you have an item they cherish more than any other
>No talk about what dreams to achieve, or are they content with how things are
>No talk about if you have a favorite media that you like
>No taking care of you if you got hurt or sad
>No walking you to your car or walking you home and having complete trust and sincerity that he is on your side
>No wearing his oversized T-shirts and hoodies for comfort
>No worrying about him cheating when he is busy

I don't care anymore
I'm over the entire relationship thing