/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I had the same exact problem

couldn't solve it until someone just enthusiastically started listening to what I say and validating me

I mean granted on their end it was some sort of manipulation but if looking into the abyss counterintuitively makes me feel better I will keep doing that

>>122756
If you're in college, try seeing the college therapist?

>>122760

there is none and believe me or not

the retard just told me to do exercise

I finally understood why men are so fucked up mentally sometimes

being alone
having no friends
being autistic
not being retarded yet not knowing how to manage autism

and the psychologist retard just says

"just go to the gym bro"

5 sessions nona
and the retard all the time ended up going to that same point.

"Go to the gym bro I swear you just have to go there"

maybe if he told me to shut up and to stop being a fucking retard I would have coped better

>>122757

so you are basically saying all I am looking for is for some external interaction that can reflect either or question my proposals so I can finally get to a conclusion based on comparison.

I will never notice when someone is validating me directly, I always think they have an ulterior, benefit driven motive. Even with my lover, perhaps I just have to accept the fact I will never be able to be manipulated as that because I am too autistic.

Thank you nona, I will take your word.

>>122766
I don't know what you need nona. But I feel my personal experience is quite similar to yours, so I share it.

I have been dissociating most of my life. It brought me a lot of pain and inability to function as well in the real world. I was also suspicious of everything and constantly guarded. Until I realized I just hate the life I have and changed the only thing I could - by making myself more vulnerable to others. I made a fool of myself a lot with this, but eventually I think it was all for good.

So one day some dude starts actively over sharing his life with me and everyone else. I was shocked to see how he wasn't ostracized or bullied for this and people just kinda… accepted it. So I started trying to do the same thing and it gradually made me feel… safer and better idk. Of course since I was afraid to open up the encouragement helped me a lot. Do you feel unheard in some way by other people in your life?

So for me the dissociation is largely about self suppression which may or may not be true for you too.