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Anonymous 06/30/25 (Mon) 12:23:55 PM123119

how do you come to terms with being too ugly to be loved? how do you accept that you're never going to experience the rush of a passionate relationship? how do you accept that no man will ever be able to look you in the eyes and tell you you're beautiful? how do you live with the fact that even if you found someone its better to leave it at that so you don't have children that will suffer just as you have? i feel so stuck and isolated, ive been isolated my entire life. i dont have the social skills neccessary to be a "personality" "as long as youre happy" girl, so even if i could be seen past that it would amount to nothing. there is nothing i could offer someone past the looks i dont have.

oh and before anyone says some "just improooooove" i starved myself and gymratted to the lowest weight ive ever been, to my peak physique, nothing changed. nothing improved. my bones are completely wrong. this is not a problem i can fix and its getting harder and harder to live with. without love there is no future, our purpose is boiled down to reproducing, continuing our bloodline, finding love. its not something i'll ever be able to do. it's over and done.

Anonymous 06/30/25 (Mon) 01:35:46 PM123122

>our purpose is boiled down to reproducing, continuing our bloodline, finding love. its not something i'll ever be able to do.
well… that's just not really true. I've seen some monkey looking people with kids in subways. Like no offense to them or anything, of course.

I know that me saying this probably doesn't help, though. I'm sorry, nona. I would love to say something that would restore your faith in yourself, but I don't know what that is.

Anonymous 06/30/25 (Mon) 10:02:05 PM123125

>>123122

i dont want to have children because i can't have them suffering the same way i did. i couldn't do that to my child

Anonymous 07/02/25 (Wed) 04:50:20 AM123149

I don’t think there is any getting past it. I’ve just learned to live with the pain, disappointment , and rejection.

Anonymous 07/02/25 (Wed) 09:59:01 AM123152

>>123119
>how do you accept that no man will ever be able to look you in the eyes and tell you you're beautiful?

that is but one thing your human life can be. that is one area of yourlife among many areas of your life. you talk as if it is the only thing.

>things you can't have
a few things

>things you can have
a neverending cornucopia of fun, beauty, grace, adventure, skill, accomplishment, enjoyment, …

how do you even have time to care about something you can't have? make the best out of your life and concern yourself with what you can have!

Anonymous 07/02/25 (Wed) 10:00:12 AM123153

>>123149
hob about you just stop dwelling on the negative? you will turn it into a pet emotion if you keep suffering because of it. suffering is optional.

Anonymous 07/04/25 (Fri) 06:59:00 AM123211

I can relate

Anonymous 07/04/25 (Fri) 08:09:57 PM123219

I'm in the same boat as you. It sucks. However, what helped for me is focusing on the love I do have- whether that's platonic or familial. Also, fake it til you make it. I know it sounds cheesy but it legit works. My life was going really well when I pretended to be confident. Tho it's a hard skill to keep up.

Anonymous 07/04/25 (Fri) 08:15:58 PM123220

idk i always just cope

Anonymous 07/04/25 (Fri) 08:23:47 PM123222

>>123219
>fake it til you make it
>hey kids wanna hear some good advice? just be fake and nobody will be able to tell that you are fake!

what about those who can tell?

>just pretend they can't tell and become even more fake every time someone detects you being fake! just never admit how fake you are.

but doesn't everybody wish for people to be more honest? what about being authentic and unashamed?

>no just be fake instead and insist everything true and genuine is people being crazy.

Anonymous 07/16/25 (Wed) 05:50:15 PM123782

>>123119
As ugly as you are, therew will be a guy who finds interest in you, social pressure makes ugly men look like social pariah's so, they're automatically feeling inferior to you. Also, no dude likes anorexic chicks (unless they fetishize it), so the only way you can fix it is to stop caring. There are also many humble dudes who just don't care, so approaching them may lead them to be willing to possibly spend their whole lives with you, think about it, if some dude has never experienced love in 20 or so years of his life and a woman changes it, would he not feel an obligation to possibly love that woman forever?
But sadly, girls are hardwired to avoid ugly, or even lonely men, despite all the opportunities out there, it's not your looks, it's your personality that limits it and you vent out here becuase your standsrds are too high.

Anonymous 07/16/25 (Wed) 09:38:30 PM123794

>>123119
What exactly is wrong with you that makes you think you're ugly? You're probably somebody's type.