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bf attracted to other girls Anonymous 123128

am i supposed to just accept that every guy is going to be attracted to other girls, even while he’s in a relationship with me? people say it’s normal, but honestly, it really hurts. i wish it didn’t get to me, but it does. my boyfriend always follows hot egirls on social media and sometimes even talks about how hot he finds them, celebs or not. it hurts. and yeah, even when it’s a celebrity, it still stings. i don’t really see a difference between him saying that about a famous girl or some everyday girl. it still makes me feel like shit. i’m struggling to come to terms with this ‘norm’, but it feels like i have to. seems like every guy is like this, and there’s no escaping it. it honestly makes me feel sick. what am i supposed to do?

Anonymous 123129

break up with him nona. feeling a bit of attraction for other girls is one thing, but being blatant and not caring about your feelings on it is another. it doesn't matter whether it's a celebrity or an everyday girl. you deserve someone to feel like you are irreplaceable.

Anonymous 123130

Fucking hell. The amount of shit women put themselves through for mediocre moids is insane. Nona this man is a loser and he clearly has no respect for you.

Anonymous 123144

girl dump him

Anonymous 123166

>>123129
This.

Anonymous 123169

>i wish it didn’t get to me, but it does.

that's because deep down you believe humans to be property.

Anonymous 123173

>>123128
What kind of hot egirls? I mean simping for onlyfans girls is one thing just looking at p*rn is another

Stop being insecure. And at least he's honest

Now the real question is if he'd cheat given the opportunity. If yes dump him
If no then come on, it's natural to be attracted to people, like you can't turn a switch off. And honesty is good too unless he humiliates you

From what you wrote it's unclear if the dude is a coomer or not

Anonymous 123177

>>123173
>I mean simping for onlyfans girls is one thing just looking at p*rn is another

this might be the most ignorant thing i ever read here.

Anonymous 123178

>>123173
nah
nona deserves someone who doesn't disrespect her

Anonymous 123180

Posts like this are why I steadfastly maintain that most men in relationships with women deserve to be cheated on. There is absolutely nothing loyal about the average male. Anyone who says this is normal, acceptable behavior is lying and coping. There’s nothing insecure about not wanting a partner who claims to be loyal to you whilst drooling over softcore porn and scantily clad women all day. Don’t ever let men, or the average cuckolded woman shut you down with the whole “you’re just a jealous, controlling woman, blah blah, stop being insecure” thing. These are words used to silence you for being rightfully upset about men’s warped entitled ideas about relationships, loyalty and women as a whole.

Anonymous 123186

>>123173
Repeatedly telling her how attracted he is to other women despite her clearly not liking it is pretty humiliating don't you think?

Anonymous 123193

>>123180
Are you a cheater? If yes this is peak rationalisation

Just dump the guy, why drop even lower than him?
>>123177
Do you break up with men the moment you learn they watch porn?
Assuming you're into men.
>>123178
Sure. But does he actually disrespect her? That's unclear from the OP

What do all of you want even? For a guy to hide and lie that he finds other women good looking? Or a schizo that only finds 1 woman out of 4000000000 good looking?
My ex used to constantly tell me that I'm the hottest girl in the world (I'm average at best) and that he doesn't need anyone else. Is that what you want? He cheated on me. Go figure.

I genuinely don't understand you all. Do you assume the guy mentioned in the OP is a cheater? Or what he did is already cheating?

Anonymous 123194

>>123186
Does he know that she doesn't like that however? I've reread the OP twice. Nothing suggests this.

Btw I trashtalk my bf all the time, it's just friendly banter, but any banter can be framed as an insult. You see where I'm going?

However regardless of OP bf being a jerk or not OP is clearly insecure and can't defend herself

Anonymous 123195

>>123193
I'm sorry about your story if it's true, but it doesn't follow from it that a bf being honest like this is better.
It only means he feels that expressing his admiration for someone he isn't dating is more of a priority than not inflicting pain on your partner.
This is very disrespectful, obviously, unless he's stupidly oblivious and doesn't realize this is bad.

Anonymous 123197

>>123195
He might be oblivious, depends on how obvious it is and if OP confronted him on it.
It's also possible that OP is a massive pushover and gets bullied which is a she problem. Though she should dump him in that case as she ruined her reputation in his eyes and he'll never respect her

And thanks but no need to be sorry, it's good that my ex cheated, it's important to get cheated on as early as possible so that you don't waste your time

Anonymous 123198

>>123197
bitch get off OP's case lmao

Anonymous 123199

>>123198
Lol don’t bother with this cuck. I wanna assume this is a male but you can never be sure with the amount of women who actually think like this these days. It’s pretty amusing that these people get to call girls like OP insecure when they’re the ones that let their partners openly drool over other ppl. Embarrassing projection.

Anonymous 123202

>>123199
Just have boundaries

Anonymous 123203

>>123199
And yeah, OP is clearly insecure, she's not even hiding it
Are you implying she isn't?
And by your logic she is the cuck here.
Sorry, you don't make sense.

Set up boundaries, don't tolerate bs from moids, be confident and everything will be fine. I'm ok with my bf looking at porn, that makes me evil? If anything the opposite would make me abusive in my eyes. At least I would never tolerate cheating, frankly unlike most women who are getting abused daily

Anonymous 123204

>>123203
Implying a woman is abusive for being upset her boyfriend watches porn is absolutely unhinged. That’s not confidence. It’s emotional numbness dressed up as empowerment. There’s nothing secure about tolerating disrespect and calling it growth. That’s just coping. This will be the start and end of my engagement with you. Buh bye now cucky.

Anonymous 123205

>>123204
I'm not implying that? You can be upset, that's normal.
But calling people insecure and coping if porn isn't a dealbreaker in a relationship is too much, even if it is a dealbreaker for you, which again, is ok

And to understand if you're insecure or not think about what exactly makes you upset about moids acting like that. What's the cause of your frustration. I actually don't know which answer you'll come to but don't shrug it off and give it a proper thought

Anonymous 123206

>>123199
Can you even imagine what the conversation would go like if the genders were reversed
People would call OP a cuck a bit but only because he still hasn't burned the gf at the stake
Not actually trying to burn OP at the stake himself for being insecure or whatever lol

Anonymous 123210

>>123206
Uhh. That's not how it would go at all?


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