/feels/ - Advice & Venting

How old are you?

why do you give a shit

>>123711
18

>>123721
you still a few years of going up in attractiveness lol..

>>123706
just tretinoin and sunscreen

>>123721
Take a break from tiktok/instagram/whatever.

you may have internalized misogynistic propaganda that states only teen women are pretty

>>123729
I might get on accutane this winter, will it do anything?>>123736
How can I free myself from this?

>>123740
read stuff that's the opposite of that. feminist blogs, things that uplift women, actually just interact with people who aren't pedos and such (even 4chan has cougar lovers)

I face the same problem. I totally understand you, with my eating disorder I gained back what I lost. So I feel very ugly, I think the problem won’t leave until you feel comfortable with your own image of yourself. It also depends a lot of our cycle ( hormones blablabla ), venting is honestly the best you can do, it's how I feel better at least. If you even want to talk with me, about it, no prob

I really feel bad for you guys. Take the philosophy pill. Abandon vain desires and live for something more. There are cat shelters with lots of lonely cats that need to be played with.

So you desire to look naive, uneducated, unwise, and inexperienced? That doesn't sound attractive, to me… Your attitude is ugly and makes you ugly.

>>123708
This is the open secret that lazy vain girls don't want to be exposed.

>>123740
Please don't do this. you'll kill yourself. If you don't believe me, look anywhere other than Google.

>>123766
I don't give a rat's patoot how she looks because I'm not a media slave. I was only imagining from the perspective of the objective of her delusions: other people, most probably boys.

>>123767
>I don't give a rat's patoot how she looks because I'm not a media slave.
>defaults to describing whether someone is ugly or not anyway and not to actually deeper dynamics of how people become this way
ok I'm sure you totally only shitting on OP to help her

>>123768
I would not frame it that way, but you hit the nail on the head. Though it might be more productive to brainstorm ideas for her, instead of focusing on a red herring.

>deeper dynamics of how people become this way
I say that engaging with the world instead of only performing would be better for anybody. If you subscribe to vain notions, you won't get far, because shallow people are not compelling and do not make good long-term relationships - platonic and romantic alike. People will keep you at a distance because you have no depth when you only care about looks. However, if OP changes her attitude, gains some life experience, educates herself about anything other than vanity, she will through her own effort become a more attractive person. Putting that effort into creams, or plastic surgery, etc, only retards the brain because you are putting effort into things which have no lasting value and do not improve you as a person.

These folks were on the right track,
>>123708
>>123732
>>123736

i've been banned for saying this almost everywhere but i don't believe in the common myth of ugliness that states that through nobody's fault person just happens to be ugly and becomes uglier. that's just what everyone says and everybody is wrong all the time.

i believe your body is a manifestation machine. it manifests your priorities into a human shape. your current shape and the direction your body is shaping into, is the best plan your body was able come up with to visualize you and what is important about you.

i don't know if you know already but what you put into your mouth makes quite the difference longterm and shortterm. someone who eats garbage will look different from someone who eats healthy. over the years this difference becomes more pronounced.

food makes a big difference. but what else makes a difference? i could list you a handful of things that make a big difference in a human life. imagine you found all the things that made the big difference and began to manifest them, wouldn't you look almost inrecognizable from someone who has zero idea that huge differences can be manifested along the way? i invite you to not be satisfied with this idea of "oh shucks, bad roll of the dice, i guess i was unlucky and just happened to be ugly" because this idea will make sure you remain a hostage. what puts you into the driver's seat of your life is not believing in this fate of ugliness but rather believe that you have the ability to make positive changes in your life. you can look at your life, stop doing what you believe is wrong, start what you believe is right and over the coming months, your body will do what it always has been doing: come up with the best plan to visualize you.

Best post itt. My only addition/modification is combining input with output: Eating is only one half of the equation, with activity level on the other side of the coin (aka exercise). But yeah, these are only one part of a matrix of behaviour choices.

>>123791
I guess nona could technically get an image makeover. Even the objective uglies can look… Idk, prestigious? They can rebrand their bad features to be exotic, or shift their meaning somehow. I absolutely agree with it.
But shifting your worldview this way requires a world that lets you believe this through experience. Otherwise you're just denying reality. Manifestations are nothing more than a psychological trick that helps you do that.

everyone saying shit like "looks don't matter" are just straight up lying to you. i've been minisculed my whole life for being unattractive and it doesn't get better with age either. friends don't come easily and it's probably because i don't look approachable since i'm not attractive. being ugly is horrible and i wish i could reincarnate into a celebrity's beautiful nepo baby.

i feel the same way as op. i need someone to talk to, i am so alone and i just hate myself

>>123798
Your attitude is sabotaging you with every thought. It is your choice to be miserable. If you wanted, you could change your mind to feel more content, confident, and outgoing. These would create a desirable person, regardless of how they look. Or, you can stay on your present course and never improve. You can remain in stagnation and keep growing ugly mold, staying content with the value others place on you, instead of going through the effort of creating value in yourself. It is easier to complain in complacency than enact the actions to improve ourselves.
You have more power and influence over yourself and your environment than you give yourself credit for.

people saying that attitude is key and you shouldn't worry about looks are lying or never been ugly. i grew up ugly and had a very forced glow up and the difference of how the world perceive and treat you is so painfully obvious. people had never been this kind to me, when i was fat and ugly it didn't matter how confident i was feeling or how nice i tried to be, it just didn't help. i was perceived as less approachable and guys specially change so much their attitude when you're one way or another.

so yeah.. change, be consistent on good habits, invest in better skincare, maybe you're just dehydrated, get better habits and don't give up!

>>123808
Kek, I understand what's going on way deeper than you do, keep insulting me though to keep the illusion that you are smarter than everyone else. You won't manifest me being clueless just because you love deluding yourself with random assumptions, which you would discard if you actually questioned yourself.

>>123810
You mean it's not me responding in kind after you tried putting me down for not 100% aligning with your opinion? Made you behave pretty humbled so seems like it worked to me.

>>123812
Notice how when I'm not insulting you again you are assuming all kinds of retarded bullshit again. This is where manifesting, aka delusion marketed by unironic con artists like Napoleon Bonaparte and Andrew Jackson Davis to swindle retards like you out of your money, gets you.

>>123815
>you are not ugly, you let yourself be manufactured into something you have yet to take a good look at.
Finally, something that's nice and I actually agree with. :) Isn't this much more productive without trying to tell other people they don't question anything in their lives?

I feel similarly cause I'm at the "peak" of my youth and I look like this. Feels bad to think that this is the best I'll ever look.