/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Yeah uh, every time I wear glasses I want to cry knowing it doesn't help with my masculine features. My boobs fucking sag at 18, it's worse that they're large as it gives an illusion that my body is short and stocky whenever I'm braless (they look like they sit on my fucking ribcage). So not even my body can make up for my face like other uggos. What's the point of being a girl if you can't be eye candy? Anyways, what slightly helps for me is doing my eyebrows, if you understand that certain shapes can make or break your face then it's a game changer.

I live in a ridiculous shithole, with a hypersexualized and misogynistic culture, and here, women's appearance is subject to absurd scrutiny. When I was a child, I was chubby and wore glasses, so I was always bullied a lot, not only at school but also at home. I remember my family humiliating me a lot, and my mother would always point out fat people on the street and say that if I didn't stop eating, I'd end up like them (today I look at photos of myself as a child and realize I wasn't even that fat, but I always felt huge). I ended up becoming a closed-off and unsociable person. I missed out on many opportunities in life, but at least I'm not a normie.

>>124874
I want to bebaverage to moids so my life can be a party
Free of strife
I don't understand how any of you think you get anything from moid attention
If you are not seen by moids you're on your way to total freedom
Men are ugly as shit compared to women usually, so, I'm sorry what am I missing here ?

>>124893
Because some people want to be in a relationship and when you are ugly that makes it virtually impossible
>just date a woman
I've tried dating on both sides and trust me I've had no luck on either

I wish I had enough beauty capital to make up for my mental issues and everything else

>>124898
Such capital doesn't exist.

>>124908
NTA Are you saying nona is soo mental that no matter how beautiful she is she won't gain anything from it?

i've always been the "ugly kid" growing up (still am). i got called "it", "thing", etc. eventually i learned to accept that being ugly was/is my reality but it still hurts to know i'll never be considered "eye candy" to anyone.

>>124920
Even if that was the case I doubt it. People underestimate how much value you gain or lose from looks.

>>124920
I'm saying that physical attractiveness isn't a substitute for sound mind.

Once, when I was at university, my friends discovered my other friend's Facebook password to post shit on his account. We ended up reading some of the chats (shitty I know but we were dumb) and in one of them he ranked the girls doing our degree and I was the last one. He even told the person I was the ugliest from the bunch. I didn't even know the other person. Good times.

i just turned 24 and i keep looking at photos of me from ages 19-21 where i looked so cute and pretty and still had light in my eyes. now my eyes are sunken and my nose is somehow bigger. i carry myself so rigid. ugggggh. meanwhile my boyfriend just keeps getting more handsome with age ofc. at least he loves me and how i look i guess.

>>125047
Tranny impersonation itt

>>124897
But you obviously see how ugly as shit moids are so whAts the point? Its like willingly throwing yourself in a burning house to save the Freddy Krueger in there

Stop pretending like it's not a total waste of time

Ugly in personality, hideous in looks 99.99999% of the time. If you still believe they won't destroy your life you're a victim of brainwashing

>>125048
? i hate presuming cunts like you..

I stay home all day because I'm scared of facing interactions with moids who will humiliate me for my neanderthal features.

>>125056
Definitely a tranny moid

>>125047
>meanwhile my boyfriend
fuck off and die humble bragging bitch

>>125056
trooooon

>>125099
nice to meet you, troooon, I'm Mom

>>125098
I thought guys were easy, what's the deal? Why don't you have your own personal moid?

I'm sick of my glasses giving the impression that my face is fatter and my eyes are further apart than they actually are. I look ugly as shit but I'm still made to wear them because contact lenses are cheap as fuck. FML.

>>125106
Sounds like dysmorphia to me unless your lenses are actually fuckhuge

im so fucking ugly im about to kill myself. last month i was going to work and a little girl looked at me and said "ew". i shouldnt even be alive.

>>125111
Maybe you just had some toilet paper stuck to your foot

>>125112
I've been bullied a lot so.. I know I'm ugly and it's just a fact not my opinion.. I struggle a lot with suicidal thoughts and isolation bc of this..

>>125098
lol cry moar

>>124875
>My boobs fucking sag at 18, it's worse that they're large as it gives an illusion that my body is short and stocky whenever I'm braless (they look like they sit on my fucking ribcage)
I'm confused. where else would they sit?

Uhg I’m actually ugly
My jaw is too far back and my face is crooked, like I have a squirrel face.
I’ve had sad-looking wrinkles since I was 10 years old, a wide nose with a hump.
A thick mustache and eyebrows, droopy eyes that stick out a little from the side.
My underdeveloped jaw made me look like I had a double chin even when I was skinny.

I was always bullied.
And I always knew I was ugly.

My teeth were crooked but I managed to get braces treatment.

I would never hesitate to get aesthetic treatments. Never.

There was an older guy who slightly paid attention to me at work. Until he saw the night audit girl (she’s as tall as a fucking man). Now I’m just chopped liver I guess. I hope she falls down and bashes her face open. It’s fine tho I work before her and I can leave her all the extra work. Enjoy you dumb bitch

>>125395
How old are we talking? Also, moids don't normally like tall women. If your only problem is being short, I doubt you can relate to the problems shared by other nonas itt.

I hate being this jealous of other women. They effortlessly have what I always wanted. I just want to be part of the club.

>>125513
It's not effortless. Put in the work and you can have it, too.

i was bullied daily by a group of moids all throughout highschool and it ruined my self esteem.

i genuinely cannot interact with moids without getting a fear response, in any context :( and i dont care about moids i feel genuinely repulsed by them but still this causes inconveniences for me

i also feel jealous when other girls are praised for the things i like just because they are pretty and then i feel evil afterwards because i like these girls too i just wish i wasnt treated like shit for stuff that i'd be praised for as well if i was more conventionally attractive.

>>124874
Y'all also see these tiktoks about your type of makeup? You're supposed to pick a letter, like if you have a narrow face you pick A, and if you have a round face you pick B
These are super-confusing to me because like which side of the face? For me one side is very narrow, the other is quite round. And the eyes, one is also more round and the other is narrow. At least I know my nose is prominent I guess. But it still constantly reminds me of how asymmetric my face is and for some reason tiktok suggest lots of these vids and it's kinda sad

I'm getting sick of always being the ugly one and being passed

>>125537
was it this guy?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T9Sf4jtDJTA

just went to the doctor and took my weight for the first time in three years. she said 'quite low' in a weird tone. i'm smoking a pouch every five days, drinking daily, and taking amphetamines every now and then, but i know most of the weight i've lost is a financial issue; there's this huge pressure to get the money for something cheap and sufficiently nutritious that isn't a nightmare to eat, while also making the time to cook and actually fucking eating. for the past three months i've been paid extremely late - every fifty days or so - and during those last couple of weeks i made it a routine to switch to green tea, cigarettes, some eggs, and two beers (or stolen wine from work, on the nicer days) for dinner. being a little drunk makes it easier to fall asleep with the 'perk' of being dragged out of bed at the first ring of my alarm, not hungover, but not well either. then eggs. then tea, cigarettes. after a few cycles of this i've killed the impulse to get groceries once i'm finally paid. i'm banging this guy and instagram's bitch ass algo has made his liked posts a priority amongst all other slop. last time he came over, i was a bit sick of him. i started to fight him, both of us fully naked on my bedroom floor; i was hitting his chest accusing him of just wanting to fuck and not seeing me as a friend anymore. i'm right by the way, but he kept saying shit like, i'm crazy for you, etc. i think of this when i see the girls on his likes, and though of it again when the doctor brought up my weight. since last week, i can see an unfamiliar, sinewy strip of meat next to each of my hipbones. i got fired two weeks ago. seven years ago i would've loved to be moderately underweight and having any sort of shitty relationship with a schizoid mass of blown out tattoos. i didn't have any mirrors in my room back then. the one in my shared apartment has some stickers that surround my new-old body that i hate: fuck the IDF, fuck the AFD, jesus saves, abolish the police.

So let me preface this by saying I’m fat. Always have been. Anyways I remember having sex with this guy and after, while I was laying in his lap. He was like looking at my face and goes “you’re actually really pretty.” I think about that probably once a day. I probably would have been a Stacey if my cousins didn’t molest me and cause me to have really bad issues with binge eating.

So let me preface this by saying I’m fat. Always have been. Anyways I remember having sex with this guy and after, while I was laying in his lap. He was like looking at my face and goes “you’re actually really pretty.” I think about that probably once a day. I probably would have been a Stacey if my cousins didn’t molest me and cause me to have really bad issues with binge eating.

>>125663
You had literally your entire life to lose weight though if I understand this right

I hate thinking about how messed up I am in comparison to my siblings. I downright have a deformity while they look normal, attractive even. It's so unfair

It's a curse! I bet I wouldn't have been this mentally ill if I wasn't so disgusting looking since such a young age. I can't even romanticize my misery with such a repulsive face. Pretty people have no idea how much better they have it even in suffering

>>125656
this isn’t helpful but your life sounds straight out of a coming-of-age film lol. can i ask how old you are…? just really curious

Shut myself in all day. Wear pounds of makeup every time I step outside and avoid eye contact with anyone if possible.

Alternatively take 5 shots and then I stop feeling too ugly to leave the house because I stop caring.

I love my boyfriend but being with him makes me realise how fucking ugly I am. He swears down on everything that I am pretty but I can look into a mirror and clearly see I’m not.

>>124953
straight facts

My whole life i’ve been percieved through the lense of my ‘intelligence’ (I wouldn’t consider myself intelligent, obsessive maybe.) or my personality in general rather than my appearance. ie growing up my mother would often remark on how my sister was the pretty one and i was the smart one, my best friend in middle school ranked every girls looks and put me second from the bottom, and the first time i was told i was pretty unprompted was when i was 16 by a desperate guy on the internet.

I understand that being percieved for your actual traits over your appearance is objectively a good thing but it fucking hurts knowing that every time someone thought to be kind to me they just couldnt see a single thing about my appearance that they liked. And you know they just couldnt find ANYTHING because that is ALWAYS the first thing people think of when complimenting. Especially because unfortunately as a woman your value is tied almost directly to your beauty, it feels like absolute shit because i know no matter how smart or kind or helpful i am i will never be treated with the same amount of grace as someone with a few more mm of bone.

Even now that things are honestly alot better for me i just cant shake my insecurities and past experiences and i feel like im becoming a worse person because of it. Ive become more quiet, cynical and anxious out of pain from the past and its sad because its taking away from me the ONE ‘good’ thing i had going.

about to shoot myself in my fucking palate lol xd apparently men can have high standards for women they don't even commit to. but women can't get basic decent men as life partners. every single man i talk to ghosts or blocks me the minute they either see me at a really shit angle or if i'm not 24/7 bubbly quirky but still WOMEN STANDARDS TOO HIGH NOOOO stfu

a few more mm of bone and i would have deserved to live instead of being a subhuman

>>125929
how long has he been with you? if you're past the 1 yr mark then you're probably not ugly, just mentalcel

>>125990
Only a month now

I cry at least once a week thinking about my appearance. I have an apple body shape and I'm short so I'll always look fat no matter how much weight I lose. I'll also just look unattractive, if I had wide hips I could look good, I could even put on more pounds and still look good, but I don't. I have narrow hips that give me a boxy figure, not to mention my hip dips. I have really ugly downturned sagged eyes that make me look sad and not confident all the time + short blonde eyelashes that make my eyes look masculine. My hair is big but it's not curly or straight, it has a slight ugly wave. Best thing you can do is straighten it, and it still looks weird because the wave will remain, also it will always, and I mean always, look frizzy, even if I straighten it, curl it, leave it natural, or try to tame it with expensive serums. I have a wild hair in my bangs that always makes them look wrong, but I can't cut my hair into anything else because it'll show my huge forehead, and I'll just hate it, this is the only thing I'm comfortable with and I'm not even actually comfortable. My "strong point" is my chest. Skinny girls asked me to "lend them my tits" as a joke. Men like them too. They're fine until the shirt and the bra is off. They are just two sacks of gross lard and fat, and the nipple is too down. They don't look that different from the tits an obese man could have. I also have uneven labia which have made me look up surgeries ever since I was 10, but I keep postponing it over morals. The worst of it is that this is the best I will ever look, I'm at my peak. I've never looked better, I was even fatter as a kid. At my best I still feel like shit, and I'll only feel worse as I get uglier and uglier with age. If this wasn't enough, I was retarded enough to cut myself, and now my thighs have visible scars, so now whenever I wear shorts or a skirt everyone can see my mistakes. I can't wait until the day I just stop caring, but now it just seems impossible.

>>126091
Wavy hair can look good, but my philosophy is always less effort is better. How many years have you been struggling with it with straighteners and all that?

>>126094
9 years probably

>>126094
9 years probably. The thing is I don't have a good wave. I thought a layered haircut might help so I may get that this weekend.

>>126113
>>126114
sorry my reply sent twice (x_x)

i was at the dentist when i was young and getting braces then would have fixed my jaw, but my dad never followed up on the appointment even with me asking. now i have a recessed chin and a small mouth and fixing that as an adult costs thousands of dollars.
I'm so angry at him but hes not even alive anymore so whats the point

i don't like going outside anymore because i always see so many pretty girls and it makes me wanna cry so bad… it just makes me feel so bad about myself because i wish i could be pretty like that too. i don't understand how all these girls my age can be so pretty without trying. sometimes it feels like they're all looking down on me in their heads because i'm so awkward and ugly. it hurts a lot to be around them when they're so much prettier than me, and i'm always so anxious when a boy is around me because i'm scared he's thinking something bad about how i look!! i try to dress nice but it's so embarrassing trying to look nice when you're so hard to look at. i'm just so tired of feeling like this all the time, i feel so hopeless…

i hate being ugly. ive always been ugly and overweight, i know i'm disgusting and undesirable because the only time i've ever gotten attention from anyone is online where i know i'm wearing a ton of makeup, editing my face, and posing to look not as fucking fat as i actually am. i hate having friends prettier than me because it makes me resentful towards them, i block every pretty woman i see, and i don't even bother trying to keep up with my appearance anymore because i know how i look. im fucking disgusting. i make myself fucking sick. even when im at work or out in public whenever i see a woman who is thinner or prettier than me she is all i can focus on because i want to be her so bad. ive lost 50 lbs but im still a fucking whale and even when im thin it wont change my facial features (and i wont even look better because loose skin) . i resent my parents for giving birth to me and making me look like this. i hate being bigger and uglier than all my friends i look like a fucking ogre. i dont even fucking want male attention but if i got any it would mean im at least a little bit desirable it fucking sucks knowing i dont even look decent enough for a fucking moid to give me the time of day

Adult onset acne makes me want to scrape my whole face off

..horrors of the body i guess

I'm honestly just desperately alone. Like a genuine NEET. I have no friends, no social life, no chance with guys at all. I've tried to be attractive or appealing but I'm just off-putting to everyone around me. It's not even like I'm looking for some specific type of friend or for a chad. In fact if given the chance to date a moid, I'd date an incel I can relate to. I'm young yeah but it's just embarrassing how everyone around me is way better off than I am. I just don't know what's wrong with me.

>>126244
Can sadly relate to a bit of what you said.

>>126227
Ok this one was too specific to my own experience. I hope you can find a community of women surrounded by family and friends or whoever you want and learn to love yourself. I hope the same for myself or better (for the both of us).

>>126244
MMOs used to have solved this, now everyone is crowded onto those stupid arena shooting games

Guy I'm talking to called me "unconventionally attractive" and "homely" as compliments (according to him). I don't know if I should feel upset or not, but it made me cry and remember all the times people called me ugly to my face. I'm thinking about just ghosting him and never talking to him again

>>126252
he sounds retarded

>>124874
I've had a crush on a guy from my gym for 3 months. I've gotten very fit and lost around 30 lbs, yet my face can't make up for it. I know that if I go talk to him again, it'll be an instant rejection. The only time I talked to him was to ask where he bought his gym water bottle from, and I tried to make conversation, but he wasn't interested. I wish I could change my face.

>>126252
You seem sweet, don't give up!

>>124874
>>126248
i hope u can too bc its so painful sometimes but at least we arent completely alone in feeling like this </3

>>126227

hi nona i have a similar experience to you.

i'm sorry the world makes you feel that way about yourself. i know what it's like to be bigger and uglier than the people around you. i have been made fun of moids my entire life for things i can't even control. i'm darker skinned and i have nappy hair and boring eyes. honestly that's just the way it is, the world was not meant for us to be accepted by other people.

>i've lost 50 lbs

i hope that you're proud of yourself even if you don't look exactly the way you want to. that's something not a lot of people can do and you should be proud of that achievement. i'm proud of you for taking care of yourself.

there isn't much i can say other than i know what you're going through. i hope eventually you find a moid with similar life experiences as you who can relate to you and find beauty in the person that you are. that's a deeper kind of connection that a lot of people will never find in their lives. you deserve to be loved and cherished and seen as greater than just your physical body.

i hope this helps. this is something i wish someone could have told me as a younger girl.

>>126244

there's nothing wrong with you. the world is filled with normies who all have the same boring interests and lack the ability to leave their small box of social rules.

you should embrace being off-putting and just be yourself. drown your self in weird obscure niche hobbies and interests. eventually with time you will attract people based off of those things. there are lots of moids who like autistic women who will find you interesting to talk to.

work also makes it easier to socialize too. the constant forced socialization helps build charisma skills and it'll help you talk to more people. maybe you won't make friends at work but talking will get easier and you will become less off putting to people with practice.

don't give up nona i believe in you.

>>125929
Samefag, I was right. I caught him following insta e thots and actively liking their posts. Staying because I have no self respect

>>126529
you have to love yourself and leave nona. you deserve better.

>>126534
I know I should but I fear I won't ever find anyone else ever again because of how I look

I dated the first guy who said he loved me online even if he ended up being a bad person because I just wanted to feel desired and now I’m back to feeling ugly ever since it ended and I should be “healing”

>>126567
i know how you feel. i think it really fucked me up being told i was loved for the first time and then having him turn around and say he had been lying the entire time. including that i hadn’t deserved what other men had put me through and that he cared. basically being told everything that happened before had been deserved and also i deserved what he did too. i don’t think i will ever be the same.

>>126614
I think that may be a cope on his part he's telling himself to distance from you. Like he's lying to himself to justify actions or feelings. I don't know your relationship ofc but this happens often enough for it to be likely nona! You were probably desirable enough for him to date you, he cared enough to uplift you etc. He's more likely ambivalent about it and thinks you didn't deserve it at least a bit.

>>126615
that made me feel a little better. thank you sweet nona.

I’ve lost weight but I still feel so fucking disgusting.
I know I should be proud of myself, but I can’t bring myself to be because in my mind I’ve made virtually no progress.
I started at 225 lbs and I now weigh 165. I’m not done losing yet, but I’m starting to feel really fucking discouraged.
I still look so fucking awful, if not just a little less wide than I used to be. I still have rolls and I can already feel the fact that I’ll have loose skin on my thighs and arms and stomach. The worst part is my legs, because I carry all my weight in my thighs so they’re still fucking gigantic.
Like even though I’ve lost weight and I’ll eventually get to my goal number, I won’t ever fucking feel pretty because I let myself get that big in the first place. It’s not even going to mean anything.
I struggled with binge eating all through out high school. I couldn’t take the feeling anymore so I decided I would finally try to stop binging and lose the weight, and I’ve been doing pretty consistently well as far as the scale goes, but I just feel like i barely have any visible progress to show for it.
I know I’m still overweight but even as I get closer to my goal I’m worried I’ll still look awful.
I feel so sick to my stomach because even after all I’ve put myself through I still can’t be beautiful and it’s all I’ve ever wanted but I guess it just isn’t attainable for someone like me. I hate living in my body, I hate looking the way I do.

>>126618
>>126618
hi, just know that the closer you are to your goal weight the better you'll look. youve made so much amazing progress already, and ive been in your place before. i also struggled to lose weight on my thighs but what helped the most is incline walking and power pilates. it doesn't matter how much you've used to weigh; what matters now is that you're changing and you're becoming healthier! keep going!

>>126630
thank you for the advice and kind words i really appreciate it nona :)

Even with makeup on I still feel like shit. Because yeah, I can put it on and be objectively prettier, but I just keep thinking about how the makeup industry targets women’s insecurities to get them to spend money and how I’ve fallen into that trap. I wish I could say I do my makeup for myself, as an artistic expression, but I 100% do it for others.

I feel so ugly. My forehead is my biggest insecurity. I want to cut bangs, but i don't want people to know I'm actually insecure yk. And bangs don't even really fit with my current hair. When I see myself in pictures it actually makes me suicidal. It's always my forehead tbh. I'm too afraid to look at myself. I see people who are unattractive be so confident, post pictures, and I don't get how they do it. I don't mean to say they should feel insecure, I just don't know why I am cursed with feeling this way about myself. I wish I had that bliss of ignorance.

Ideally I want to cut my hair (bangs) and dye it (pink) but I'm afraid to do it in my current setting at school. I don't want to deal with judgements. I already feel subhuman at my school. I'm not alternative but I'm not as basic and conforming as the other girls. I feel ugly for not being conforming. And like a freak because I'm not as social. I never talk in class and I want to talk to my classmates but it usually doesn't go that well. I fear more judgement, if I cut my hair, even if it's how I truly want to be. I think as soon as I've made my final exam I'm going to do it. I think I'd feel better about myself.

And there's a guy that likes me from school but I feel so ashamed, like I've tricked him because I'm so ugly. I feel guilty because we built a connection online and now he's attached to me bc of that. We were both too shy to talk to each other irl. Despite having classes together. I don't want him to see me. I don't want anyone to see me.

As for my body… sigh. I have big boobs which should be nice. Except that they make me look so fucking fat. when I wear sweaters and stuff, it just looks horrible. i look so big. Because of the way the sweater falls, it looks like I have a giant stomach. I'm too insecure to wear tight fitted tops, maybe also because I don't want to attract that kind of attention from moids,, so idk what to wear. I'm seriously considering buying a binder to make my chest look more proportional when wearing sweaters. I just hate how it looks,. I avoid wearing color because you can see my boobs. So i just end up wearing navy and black, and look super depressing. I'm also always hunched over because it feels like they stick out so much. They just bring me down and I just look like a sad depressed wreck

Yes, I've actually had suicidal and self-harming behaviors because of it. I was overweight my entire childhood (unlike my mother, who was anorexic and obsessed with appearance). I suffered a lot from her, and she forced me to go on extreme diets from the age of 13. At 16, I gained a lot of weight (when you have nice curves, it looks good, but I was very round, lol).

And I felt disgusting. Everyone at school was disgusted by me, and there was even a very pretty girl who made me feel terrible. Because of those experiences, I suffered from anorexia for two years, and as a result, I looked awful (yes, I'm unattractive at any weight). I still have dark circles under my eyes and a very thin face with a somewhat wide nose because of that illness.

Even my family (moids) have compared me to a super pretty, white cousin. I remember at a dinner they spit in my face telling me she was better, while my face looked like a monkey's. I cried. I locked myself in the bathroom and made cuts in my legs.
I still can't forget all that. How do they expect me to feel loved? How do they expect me to feel hopeful when they all saw something horrible in me, even though I always tried to be a good person?
it might sound weird but i feel jealous of slightly chubby girls,they look healthy and cute with curves while i look flat and my face is masculine because a lack of bucal fat but i cant gain weight no matter how hard i try. I want to kill myself because i cant never be pretty or look at photos of myself with happiness.

There aren’t many methods of coping posted here which is very depressing. Is it possible to not care about this, even temporarily, without convincing yourself that you’re pretty? I find myself being upset about this every waking minute, even when I’m completely alone where it shouldn’t matter.

I hate having a wide face, I can’t even tie my hair back or put it behind my ears because I look like the moon emoji and charlie kirk. picrel

>>127744
> Is it possible to not care about this, even temporarily, without convincing yourself that you’re pretty?
Dear nona, I have some insights for you, do with them as you please. I want you to look back to yourself, as a child. Do you have any pictures to look at, or can you picture yourself in your mind? When you look at her, I hope, you probably think she's quite cute, still happy. I hope, you wouldn't say such harsh things about her, as what you may tell yourself now.

You might think how that's way different. You're older now! And you're right. What was the age you started becoming self conscious? For me it was pre-teen, I think this is similar for everyone, perhaps teen years. While we grow up, and our brains develop, we can process our life experiences and become aware of certain expectations. This is my insight: Unfortunately all suffering and misery can be led back to other people, and the pressure of the expectations they hold. I'm not necessarily talking about a certain person in your life, but how all people basically act and think due to how our society is set up. (and remember: women are, still, always at a disadvantage!!)

So When you feel sad/or are picking yourself apart, think about why? It isn't even making you happy! So why are you doing it? try to remember when you learned to see that aspect of yourself as negative, or even 'important' to think about. A nose is made for breathing for example, why do we care if it small or big? You will find out it will always be due to ideas from other people (either direct or indirect), and even though you can't do anything about this, it does redirect the 'fault' from you, to, well, others. This has made me at least feel better, because I, nor you, don't have any inherent faults or uglyness. It is always a result of societal pressures.

And social media doesn't help this at all. unfortunately the majority of people you see online are -in terms of beauty- exceptional. You don't see these people in regular life, but online it's become 'normalized'. It is a bit cliche, but recently I have completely deleted all social media (even messaging apps) , and I cannot begin to describe the benefits it has brought me. Aside from my immensely improved focus, not having something/someone to compare myself to (sub consciously even) has also incredibly helped my self image.

I just don't think about it anymore. And this is what you were talking about with 'forgetting'. I looked at pictures of myself and realised in the past I wouldve cared about soooo many certain details, but now it didn't even cross my mind. We are all human anywayss

Lastly, perhaps self expression could help? Either with clothes, or makeup. Things that feel like 'you', that could boost confidence. I love experimenting with makeup, using colors and GLITTER!!!!!!!! It feels whimsy , and like me. On the other hand, sometimes I'm more emo and use dark black eyeshadow. It defintely isn't socially conventional in any way (so not 'making' yourself pretty), but it feels like me so feels good for me, and makes ME enjoy seeing my makeup look, and therefore myself. My piercings also make me feel good, though some people would say they make me look ugly (my parents for example). I think it may be more difficult with clothing but yeah! It definitely differs per person but express yourself and do what feels good!!

This was kinda yapping but yeah. Not to say I'm completely confident now or whatever, or find myself beautiful, but I do see myself with -mostly- positivity! And I wish the same to you!!

>>127744
It’s like what people say about grief. You don’t get over it, you just learn to live with it. Just give it time is what I am saying, live life.

i constantly wear a full face of makeup and always have my hair done while only keeping heavily angle and lighting frauded photos in an attempt to delude myself into thinking i am prettier than i am. ofcourse, it doesnt work and leaves me with intense feelings of guilt due to being a catfish. I also try comfort myself with the idea that in the future ill get all these surgeries to fix what ive got going on, but in this economy i wont. being a 4/10 lanky, socially inept teen was a traumatic experience.

no matter what, I never seem to look put together ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ Worst part about having shit genetics

>>125396
moids love tall women. this is shortie cope.

i can't remember exactly when i started feeling ugly but i think it might've been that one time in grade 1 when a really pretty older girl yelled "HA HA, HA HA, YOU ARE UGLY!" in my face on the school bus

>>129671
short guys love tall women and tall guys love short women, practically every couple i've known has been this combo

>>126252
>"homely"
if he meant it as a compliment then he has no idea what that word actually means, which is a strike against him
hope you find a nice boy with a slightly bigger vocabulary nona

Men i like will never love me back. Once there was this girl in my class and she was tall, had wide frame with unappealing face, she was chill so she had friend groups and stuff, one time she said something about a guy in a joking way and he insulted her face, this guy had a girlfriend. So you can tell how much men hate women when they don't appeal to them. Now I imagine how repulsed those attractive men must felt even for a second subconsciously when they see me. It hurts so bad, this is probably one of the worst feeling one can deal in life. I want to stab myself and jump from my apartment building. I plucked my brows a couple days ago and I still look the same. I'm planning to get plastic surgery but I'm worried it may not be enough. My problem is my phenotype so I need to find a surgeon who will take the risk and get out of his comfort zone. I wish I could experience love, f/ids get dick down by ugly men all the time, and then those same retarded cunts nitpick on other females. I hate this world, everyone disgusts me, I only live for the attention of beautiful men honestly. My only option for now seem to be old men so I'll look into it

I think something like that just might be the female equivalent to male baldness.

I guess I just enjoyed looking at myself in the mirror and seeing a smooth face, guess that's over. Unless I do skincare or something.

>>130708
I'm sure you're still pretty. Don't worry about it

>>130709
Thanks anon! Have a good day.

>>130710
Well I'm going to bed but likewise to you. Goodnight

I'm overweight and ugly and I can't even make up for it, my personality is very boring and I'm really dumb and slow too. Meanwhile the guy I'm talking to is smart and very good looking, it makes me feel sick knowing I'm with someone way above my league.

>>130715
just enjoy it while it lasts, dwelling on your own insecurities can ruin good things

>>130715
Just let him have sex with you whenever he wants and don't ever make him angry or disrespect him

>>130715
He probably does like you, cease the insecurities. Don't self sabotage. Fast in the mornings. Do pilates and or walk.

None of you are actually ugly just bunch of fucking trolls and moids

>>130722
I'm literally the ugliest girl on the face of the planet. I wince every time I look in the mirror. Even my dog avoids my gaze

I just put my glasses after a long time and fuck I want to die again. I should find an easy way to make lot of money asap so i can fix my dogshit face and facial features

I used to know this girl with the hottest hands. Hnnnng I'd suck those fingers again any day

I think I am just finally going to accept I am ugly. I have spent years coping by applying makeup and skincare products, saying its just my weight or my acne or my eyebags when really I am just not appealing no matter what my weight is or how good my skin is. I have an online boyfriend who is meeting up with me in august, hopefully he doesn’t care that I angle and makeup frauded in the selfies I sent him and still loves me, but who knows.

Having a flat head is the worst because I didn't chose it, much like a lot of the features I have, but I guess my fuckass parents left me in the crib for too long and now my hair can never look normal on me because of my head shape. I hate nose and how small it looks on my side profile, but so wide and bulbous from the front, and i hate how there's no "dip" in the bridge like attractive noses have.

>>130809
Do you mean like a brachycephalic skull? You can fix that with implants but it has chance of reabsorbing your bones

>>130809
>i hate how there's no "dip" in the bridge
Recessed glabella

Oh nooooo my recessed glabella my suboptimal gabeba my lackluster nutella!! Shut the hell up and have sex you retard

I don't want to have sex, I want to be loved and valued

>>130810
Of course I know about the plastic surgeries for it, but that's expensive. Honestly, I'm not even sure if my confidence will suddenly be boosted knowing that I had to burn all that money just to appear normal when I could've spent it on anything else.

>>130817
Well guess what? That person who loves and values you? They're going to want to fuck and fuck often. Surprising I know

dallas nigga turn off your gps if you're still here

>>130818
Money is for spending. For me at least I know looks are everything when you're a woman so I would do it, maybe spending lots of money for a few tweaks yeah, but fixing your cranial contour is worth it imo including your face ofc. My worse feature besides my brachy skull is my recessed forehead and orbital shape so I know it would alter my appearence significantly if I get cosmetic procedures for that area

>>130820
Lmao

>>130822
yup issa yikes from me

>>130820
This is why I didn't want to post my face because you maniacs would track me down like this guy like I'm some sort of moose

>>130824
Don't lie.

>>130824
this happens if you don't wipe your exif (or your phone has gps turned on)
i dont want to dox anyone t.b.h.

>>130819
I'm not attractive though, no men wants me, at least not the guys I want

also cc should be wiping exif by default anyway but it is what it is

I hate my ugly middle eastern face. My only cope is reminding myself my biometric photo and that I look worse in pictures. I wish I was white and taller. I want to change my phenotype

>>130919
I think I'm starting to hate you

Men will never love me call me pretty.. I'm going to kill myself.. past hurts

>>130922
>nobody wants to call me pretty
>okay show us your face
>wtf this is literally violence
Shut up

I couldn't even live my youth

>>130924
You're not even old shut up

I wish hijab wasn't associated with islam so I could wear it to go outside at least

>>130927
Maybe try some of the other headscarves out there? Just a thought

And it's never enough, the plastic surgery I mean, even if you could end up in the high end of the normalicy spectrum you won't be pretty which I'm not sure if enough, likely not. I wonder what do you do at that point, I'm still researching on what I need to fix my eye area, I think I need compactness and a decent shape and then malar augmentation after a bimax/trimax, could get paranasal fat transfer to support the nasal base and the nose, it would also pretend nasolabial folds from happening, I need my temples to be shaved to get rid of that mongoloid weird contour, but I've read this is because of how your eyes are developped so like close set eyes are actually orbitals that are too forwardly projected which also gives you blocky face, that's why I was thinking of getting obo because I can't fix that without shifting my orbital bones laterally; I figured out after popping out my braincells thinking about how to alter eye area lower third and mid face is much easier to fix. I would also like to get some cranial top implants to make my head look less flat but these are just options I consider in my mind, I'm still not sure about the obo, I don't need ipd just change the direction of my orbital projection to reduce the blocky appearance of my face, internally; but then there's my skull so I'm worried this may not work due to my already asian skull expanding from the sides, so I think the right thing to do here would be adapting to downgrowth instead challenging against it because that would give the illusion of higher cranial top, the only problem is, however is that this time my ipd will go shit, it's like you haave to sacrifice one aesthetic flaw for another, but I will consult to surgeons and collect more information about this

>>130927
same, I would even go full niqab/burqa, but it either would invite even more attention or support an oppressive form of fundamentalism depending on location

Specifically male posters tbh I don't want to intrude on women as much

I look uglier with makeup

>>130967
Maybe you're just applying it incorrectly

>>130968
if you're ugly, makeup wont make you prettier unless youre so good at it you can draw yourself a new face. otherwise it just accentuates your already undesirable features

>>131008
You sound stupid and sheltered. Most women fraud their looks including celebrities, they look unfuckable without makeup. My face looks masculine so makeup doesn't work for me, I look better naturally

>>131010
you think all women rock a full glam every day and I'm the sheltered one?
if what you saying were true, troons wouldn't have a hard time passing

>>130814
you weren't responding to me, but I just had sex. The whole thing changed my brain chemistry. I don't even know how to feel right now

>>131026
damn I wish sex was this intense for me. I literally felt like nothing changed after

I'm going to get plastic surgery to pass as white that is my cope

I wish I was his type, typing this out as I'm sobbing

>>131195
Who are you even talking about

>>131194
So like the Micheal Jackson thing?

>>131219
Im not black

No matter how much makeup I buy and how much I contour my nose and watch aaall these fucking tutorials, it kills me that my face itself will not change. It's common sense, makeup can only change that much, unless you have crazy skills and use those prosthetic noses/chins beauty influencers use in china, which i'm not even gonna fucking bother with. But even then, that looks good with filters.. in real life it probably looks wonky as fuck.

>overweight
>I hate the taste of fruits and vegetables
>I have asthma and can't exercise without literally feeling like I'm dying
Whyyyyyy

>>131274
Your tastes can change. You just need to stop eating ultra processed super sugary/salty/fatty foods all the time. You can also exercise in moderation. You don't need to be lifting boulders just go for a walk regularly

>>131276
I wish I could get started on exercise. Diet has been okay, but I can't seem to will myself to go outside for a walk.

I wish i was slavic i hate being ethnic

Drugs and alcohol are my only allies

>>131451
And soon my death will join us too hopefully

All I wanted was being human and living as human

Even something like going outside is a struggle

This isn't living this is just existing in an empty shell gettingg tortured everytime you try to leave that said shell

I've should do it when I was 12, I was young and naive, thought the world is for creatures like me