How do you all cope? Anonymous 124938
I struggle daily with finding meaning in anything, and feel so alone in all things. I recognize that so many people are just doing things to cope with that same dread and loneliness. It seems like no one knows what they are doing or why. It all seems so pointless to me. Why does anyone keep going? What is the point? How does someone even find real purpose? How do you all do it, nonas?
Anonymous 124939
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>>124938Well, there’s two parts for me. One is physical. I make sure I am watered, rested, fed, socialized, and exercised. I try to get at least 4/5 every day. If I am ever especially struggling, I check this list. If I’m not up on all of the facets, I know what to blame for my shitty feeling.
But that’s not really what you’re asking. I just find it helps. Purpose? There is not purpose! You make your own. I have found purpose in learning. I try to find everything either amusing or educational.
I am also doing work on being an adult child of an alcoholic. If you have an alcoholic parent I would check the book “Adult Children of Alcoholics” out. I want to figure out the spiritual aspect to it all. Right now it makes no sense and I am struggling. But it gives me purpose, to question and be curious. Humans are made to be curious. I love you nona.
Anonymous 124941
>>124940
Is this Hitler? It looks off but vaguely like him.
Anonymous 124942
I have a similar problem, nona, although sometimes I find solace in creating things I like. I get quickly frustrated cause I suck at it, though.
Anonymous 124955
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>so many people are just doing things to cope with same dread and loneliness
I don't think so. I've experienced failures after failures, and also I'm not normal and my frontal lobes are genetically fucked up. Meanwhile, you can see a glow in normies.
They still believe in god, they still believe in materialistic consumption, they still believe in looking good, they still believe in the lies that is peddled by capitalist consumerist culture on TV and mainstream media, they still believe that earning money and buying products will make them happy, they still believe that they too have a chance to get back at the world that has "failed" them, only if they tried hard enough, and anyone could become like the celebrity they worship, they still believe in a lot of things, and this drives them.
Maybe purposes don't have to be the same thing throughout your life. My primary purpose right now is so basic - to be "functional" (getting a job and becoming a responsible (tm) adult) and learn / develop systems to cope with my problematic behaviors. It's too narcissistic and navel gazing but this itself is a huge struggle to me.
Try some questionnaires (in picrel it's self-direction, stimulation, and security for me), online or with the help of a therapist. There's something in you that already intuitively tells you what you want to do, but years of inaction, suppression and failures has buried it. I once sat down for 3 or so hours and really thought about it, and came to the conclusion that I want to run a cat shelter and make the world a better place for cats, but unfortunately it's not sustainable.
Anonymous 124963
>>124955>My primary purpose right now is so basic - to be "functional" (getting a job and becoming a responsible (tm) adult) and learn / develop systems to cope with my problematic behaviors.Good luck nona!! It may seem basic but I think these goals are respectable anyway, it takes a lot to get over a nonfunctioning lifestyle for most people.
