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I got ghosted by a close friend Anonymous 126434

And i need advice, so i met her a year ago on lolcow in a blackpill groupchat, we got along really well and got raelly close. we spoke for 4h+ hours a day with no breaks for ten months straight. then she ghosted me without a word at the end of may and came back month later bc she saw on my reddit that im about to kill myslef. then she told me she will stay only temporarily. then left three months ago again WITHOUT A WORD. i really care about her, we never had any argumetns. our conversations would always flow perfectly and she never acted distant before in a relation with me.
her explanation after she left me for the first time was that she's not made for close bonds with anyone. this broke my heart. i told her i love her but she had no reaction to it.
i spoke with psychics about the the past months to find out why she left me and will she come back and they all tell me that
- shes going throught something
- shes depressed
- she will come back, many said in november she will be back
- she misses me but she is focusing on herself right now and her own head
in the comments i will also post what i catched her say about me on lolcow one time and you guys can tell me what you think about it.
soo what should i do? i wished her happy birthday a month ago even tho she doesnt respond to me on discord. should i keep messaging her or wait for her to come to me? how should i behave when she comes back? should i be my ecstatic authentic self with her and be happy that shes back and act like before or should i hold back? does she even like me??? i feel like i cant live without her and i miss her so much. i feel for her so strongly

Anonymous 126435

you sound tiresome to be around, this isn't a value judgement, but she simply may not have the mental resources to support you from whatever bullshit you're going through. wishing you the best tho cause I've been there

Anonymous 126436

>>126435
psychics told me her leaving is not about me

Anonymous 126437

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this is what she said about me

Anonymous 126438

>>126436
physics are scammers/fancy emotional support
it may be true in a sense like she needs to focus on something else I her life
what I said would still stand true
she doesn't even dislike you necessarily, she just doesn't need you like you need her

Anonymous 126439

I meant psychics sorry lol it's the autocorrect

Anonymous 126440

>>126437
fyi she's probably aware you would be reading this so I'm not sure how sincere this would be or just stringing along (again, I was in your situation)

Anonymous 126441

>>126438
once i got tarot reading for free, and it was accurate it even channeled my bones cracking and the exact feeling i had at the time

Anonymous 126442

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>>126441

Anonymous 126443

>>126440
she denied its her after she ghosted me for the first time. but im 100% sure its her bc everything matches

Anonymous 126446

>>126443
I don't think a person that can't woman up and communicate with you directly and maturely is good for you. It's not a situation where you're getting treated with respect you deserve. I bet your relationship had been developing very rapidly and intensely, hadn't it?

Anonymous 126447

>>126446
it happened like slowly naturally over time we connected, she would always respond to me in the groupchats and validate me and was genuinely interested in me so we spoke and spoke and spoke and i got attached to her and she told be she was invested in the friendship for ten months. idk why later on she stopped, she didnt tell me why.

Anonymous 126448

>>126447
and nothing bad happened between us. i was so devastated when she ghosted, i was vulnerable and spoke with psychics out of desperation. im autistic and highly sensitive so it was all hard for me to take

Anonymous 126458

i feel like shes my only true soulmate

Anonymous 126459

>>126434
>>126437
>>126443
Regardless of the post being her or not, the type still seems obvious. She's a blackpill doomer who doesn’t feel worthy of your time or attention. Internalized shame, self-reproach, and a sense of being underhanded or unworthy mean she’ll inevitably ghost. It's a tactical retreat to avoid being perceived. A face-saving measure, by preempting rejection and sparing both of you the painful memory of having to play it out.
Be assured, she values you enough to care that much.

I can relate, but I never let things reach the Discord-buddy or 1-on-1 stage, just to avoid disappointing people. Maybe you two could stay at a comfortable distance as anonymous imageboard friends? The Altchan userbase is small enough that "relationships" like that can linger


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