/feels/ - Advice & Venting

RIP nona

>>127149
chat is it over for us

>>127144
>engaged to a phoneslave
it is unironically irrevocably utterly over for you

>>127144
honestly u need to just leave him or give up bc thats fucking insane nona u shouldnt put up w that

>>127151
every time we go out in public his eyes are GLUED to his phone screen. he used to performatively hold my hand and then slowed down. lately i’ve been insisting on doing it again and he got better for a while in october after we got engaged. but he’s always seemed vaguely embarrassed of me and every time i bring it up he’ll like put a picture of me up on instagram but lately it seems like he does that to avoid actually fixing the issue. and he never posts flattering pictures of me? i look so different in selfies i take and it makes me wonder if he really sees me this way? or if he’s just trying to embarrass me on purpose. we still have sex but it is extremely utilitarian. we used to do role plays but now all he does is use me before bed and when we first wake up quickly. then he’s on the computer playing games and talking to his friends. he didn’t have very many and he’s joined my friend group but lately it seems like they like him better and he thinks he’s the main anchor to them? i join them sometimes but it always feels tense and like im shouldering my way in. he never waits for me to start.

>>127152
how often should he be making eye donuts with me?

>>127144
Leave and tell him to get help for his gaming addiction. Don't try to be that help, he needs to take steps himself.
>Obvious gaming and phone addict
>Obsessed with his ex
>Makes you feel like he doesn't even like you
>Perhaps really doesn't like you that much
>Will pick his gaming friends over you
It's over, noona. Count your losses and get out of there.
You deserve better than this.

>>127155
he proposed to me right after his ex got married and made a post after they got in a fight about him being a man child who can’t commit. i found out he started dating me after they got engaged and he had been wanting her back until then. then suddenly he wanted to be more than friends with me the second they got together. he talks about her all the time and how horrible she is. but he hangs on her every word and they still fight constantly.

>>127153
is your self-esteem that low? can't you find anyone better?

>>127165
can a woman really compare to runescape and mount and blade 2 bannerlord?

>>127144
and that’s without going into the porn

is it bad hes into teen and virgin porn?

>>127172
Noona, you know the answer… (YES, IN BIG RED LETTERS)

>>127174
he’s 31 so it really bothers me. he seems stuck sexually in his past

>my bf is doing x
>his y bothers me
>it it bad he does z
if you're here to hear people tell you to leave him you've already got it

>>127160
Sounds like he's clearly after his ex and just got together with you in a poor attempt to get back at his ex or make her jealous.
His problem isn't that he can't commit, it's that he can't deal with his ex not wanting him.
Wouldn't you be happier single than with this guy?
Would be funny if you befriended his ex. Does she know how much he's still creeping on her, even in a different relationship?
Either way, he doesn't treasure you, even my less close friends treat me better than this.

>>127177
he says he has to keep track of her because of things she accuses him of but i’ve never seen any proof of her talking about him, just indirects that seem to line up with our lives. he claims she is also keeping tabs on him online so we both watch her social media for indirects about us and our relationship. she was a virgin when they met so it makes me really suspicious plus the porn girls he looks at are all small like she is.

>>127175
That's extremely creepy behaviour. Does that ex of his happen to look really young? What about you?
I know a guy who only went for really short and young looking women and he didn't hesitate to hit on vulnerable school girls if he thought he could get away with it.
Hope he doesn't go this far and only goes for young-looking women his age at least.
Either way, never have kids with someone like that, saying this as someone whose dad was someone like that, -100/10 cannot recommend.

>>127179
she’s 4’11 and looks really young. he dated a girl in high school when he was 21 but he says she was of age or within three years or something. i look older than my age and am 4 years older so it’s an insecurity of mine.

>>127175
>>127178
>>127181
>obsessed with virgins
>obsessed with youth
>31
Classic ephebophile. Are you on the shy side? These kinds of guys tend to go for people they perceive as vulnerable. But since he doesn't seem that interested in you, maybe he only started dating you because you happened to be available and open to the idea. Idk, just a wild guess.
>i look older than my age and am 4 years older so it’s an insecurity of mine.
Don't feel like you need to cater to the taste of people like that boyfriend and hopefully soon to be ex of yours, there's nothing wrong with looking older and mature.

>>127182
we both cosplay and met up for the first time at a con. we started out just friends. he told me she might contact me to tell me he’s toxic and make false allegations but she never contacted me. he has a lot of drama with three of his exes. they’ve all tended to be mature in the face and taller than him like me except for the ex he is obsessed with. i’ve noticed he always tries really hard to seem like he’s not looking at young girls or women wearing revealing cosplays. he says he likes that i do full suits and masks for a lot of mine because i’m not a slut. i am shy and he praises that compared to his more aggressive exes. he likes women to be submissive and for him to be the dominant one. i think my height was a lot to get past at first so i feel indebted to him.

>>127166
RUNESCAPE?

>>127183
Oh he’s absolutely a pedophile

>>127184
the battle strategy game is a bigger red flag. you pretend you’re poking around and strategizing. wait until your gf leaves the room. switch to porn or his ex or i guess same thing for this guy. hear footsteps. oh hi babe. this general keeps kicking my ass. that’s why i’m in the same spot.

i got a matching tattoo (he didn’t get a new one i got one to match his second tattoo) so i feel like i can’t leave

>>127187
>can't leave over a fucking tattoo
come on now…

>>127187
just give it a new meaning or something. I get it feels like you over invested, but it's time to cut the losses

>>127190
the thing is it’s my entire upper arm. it takes up more space than his. it’s a larger tattoo. i also found out too late that i’m not the only girl he’s done this to. he also encouraged a tattoo inspired by him that covered his last exes entire shoulder and now she’s getting a coverup. i’m starting to suspect now that i’ve started thinking about these things he has some sort of fetish for marking people.

>>127190
we also share a lease right now we just renewed it a few months back so i have to stay at least until spring. we moved from the state where i work to a less expensive area where i don’t know people like he does.

>>127192
I don't know much about leases, why does that prevent you from leaving?
>>127191
How much does it cost for a removal? I bet his reaction would be funny if you started removing or covering or whatever rn

>>127193
i would have to pay until next april to break my side. removals are thousands of dollars. it’s black ink covering my entire upper arm. we also have a cat together.

>>127194
>i would have to pay until next april to break my side
or else what?
anyways it's all good anyway, plenty of time for you to emotionally disengage and ideally find another moid

>>127196
ever since i noticed his entire spotify is songs about missing his ex and the past it’s felt over.

Had you been a man you'd have been called a cuck by now, to put it more into perspective

>>127199
what’s will all the cuck posts

>>127183
>i think my height was a lot to get past at first so i feel indebted to him
Oh, I'm sure you must feel so grateful for this creepy ass pedo to lower himself to date a shy and cute woman like you, it must've been such a stab to his pride since he's such a great king who chose to be with a poor maiden.
Good thing he marked you as property so he doesn't have to do any work in your relationship, he owns you so it's on you to put effort in him feeling well and loved, he shouldn't have to do that for you since he's a man, he's THE man.
You know he is, because he's had girlfriends before and they're all after him to destroy him since he's so great.
You need to protect this poor man from his evil exes, especially the one he's madly obsessed with. /s obviously
>>127187
You really need to remove this entire man before even bothering to give any thought to that black arm of yours. (It's yours, your body, no matter which moid is trying to carve his shitty name into it, it'll always be yours, your brain is in it, you're in it).
>>127192
That's four months of payment. If you have friends or family you can stay with, you can move out before that and start looking for a new place. You don't need to be physically there to cover your side of the costs.

>>127216
yeah what exactly are these allegations hes so worried about you hearing

>>127204
idk maybe there's a cuckocalypse or something. OP sounds like a cuck being with a man who isn't letting go of his ex

>>127221
hes just always insisted they were the ones not over him

>>127222
Yeah, that's called projection.
I'm sure you're more mature and wise to his tricks now than before you entered that relationship. It's not morally wrong to trust people, so don't fret about it, you know better now. If anything, you should be pissed at him for taking advantage of you and using you when he knew he only had eyes for his ex. What an asshole.

>>127222
What??? You can't be serious. Everything You said about him points to him not being over her, why would he keep on checking on her otherwise? in fact even his actions are bound to her, him asking you out just to one up to her and everything else, all seem like things he's doing because he can't let go.