Dealing with Insane BPD People Anonymous 127542
Thread to vent about crazy bpd people you know who have ruined your life or ask for advice on how to deal with them/ understand why they do what they do.
I'll go first. So I stopped talking to the bpd months ago after having had enough of her crazy bullshit, lies and vile skinwalking. I forgot she even existed. All was well. Until all of a sudden, a couple days ago, she contacts my closest and oldest friend out of fucking nowhere, in order to """befriend""" her.
They don't know each other, have nothing in common, live really far away from each other. They have only met each other ONCE.
The only reason they are even aware of each other's existence is because of when I briefly introduced them one day over a year ago (I was on an outing with my friend and bpd happened to be in the area…)
ONE DAY. Not even a whole 24 hours, we were there with bpd for 2 hours max. So bpd has only interacted with my friend for a grand total of 2 hours, over a year ago.
SO WHY THE FUCK IS SHE CONTACTING HER OUT OF NOWHERE? I don't understand? Why? Why now? Why would the bpd, who has an entire life (her own friends, classmates, colleagues, nigel, etc.) contact the closest friend of some chick(me) who hasn't even spoken to her in 3 months? What the fuck does she want?
I don't want this crazy freak to swoop in and steal my one fucking friend… She even seems to be skinwalking me since my friend was gushing about how 'similar' the bpd is to me. That's sickening to think about because last time I spoke to the bpd, I was thinking about how she was just too different from me and insufferable. I didn't even have the heart to tell my friend the truth.
Anonymous 127543
do you not talk to your friends about crazy people in your life. maybe it's about time you started
Anonymous 127544
>>127543I do but my friend is a super sweet woman who doesn't like talking badly about people and I don't want to sound crazy
Anonymous 127545
>>127544well here's your problem. she's like a prime manipulation target. if she cares about not hurting you you can use that I guess.
Anonymous 127546
>>127545They seem to be 'getting along' since my friend speaks well of her but I know the bpd, she just agrees with anything anyone says and completely changes her personality to appeal to whoever she's talking to. I just hope my friend senses it someday
Anonymous 127547
>>127546I wouldn't count on that unless you're fine with letting the "BPD" influencing your friend however they like
to me it just looks like a disaster is brewing, like a person desperate for validation and someone good at giving it
Anonymous 127548
>>127547I don't know what to do, should I confront the bpd and ask her why the fuck she's doing all this? But then I'd be breaking the months long 'break' I took from speaking to her. I wonder, if that's what she wanted, to get my attention somehow so I open up her messages and reply…
Anonymous 127550
>>127548I mean if you'd ask me, I don't think their answer really matters. They won't stop unless you're willing to be their new supply anyways. (or manage to intimidate them) I think influencing your friend or other ppl makes more sense. It's a difficult situation but yeah.
The socially acceptable approach would be to explain this person hurt you horribly and to give a warning, if they decide to get fooled still then it's on them to learn their lesson. If they fall for their love bombing then they're getting something they want from them, that's it really.
Anonymous 127557
>>127542>>127542tell her the gods honest truth - that you have a friend who you cut contact with who is now trying to get revenge by attempting to contact everyone she knows you know. ask her to please let you know if she starts making up lies - and that she has a history of slandering people. tell her everything this girl has done. don’t talk shit. tell her how scared this is making you. tell her you thought it was a coincidence at first but during the end of the friendship she started imitating you. tell her it was flattering at first but the intensity has increased and you also want to be your own person and no one likes someone trying to become a copy of them and imitate their every move. especially after they were initially the complete opposite of you and jarringly changed when the friendship ended and she started trying to contact people she didn’t know but you did so it made no sense. tell her it doesn’t come across as missing you when she has consistently been malicious and you’re weirded out by this. even just say she was accused of doing this before or has a history of doing this to other people. i’m sure she told you some story where she was the victim and other people were just terrible. she was probably lying about them too. because the thing with bpd is she’s going to get close to your friend acting nice and then she’s going to lie about you. this one might be smart enough to befriend and not go straight to lying. i would emphasize needing to take a break. i would tell the friend you didn’t want to say anything at first in case she was just being nice but it’s escalating. i would honestly talk the least about how weird it is she’s doing this with this specific person. maybe say you were surprised she reached out to her and didn’t know what to say at first and then talk about her weird behavior towards you and skin walking and why you took a break. talk about the drama she’s been in with other people and say specifically “i am/was worried she’s going to try and cause drama for me for being weirded out like she punished them for leaving.” don’t act like a victim. tell them like i tried to trust they had good intentions but they kept harming me and i had to step away even though it hurt too and now they’re scaring me.
do not ever contact this friend again and block her everywhere. including cash app/venmo and any app like that that people forget shows people they are in contact with.
>>127543deadass this. ALWAYS get your story out first.
