Anonymous 127619
>go on date. coffee or walk
>he tells me everything about himself
>i talk about his hobbies, interests, passions, travel history, the jobs he's had
>he doesn't ask me anything about myself, i'm really just a stranger
>if i share something about myself, he doesn't want to know either, so it's not like i'm hiding it
>only thing to talk about is himself and his hobbies, interests, his problems, or whatever he mentioned previously
>if you bring up something, you have to seriously determine if they might find it exciting or interesting or not, or they instantly get bored
>people want exciting/interesting things, they don't actually care about what you like. it has to be thrilling for them or they're not going to bother
>feel like a therapist where they literally talk at you constantly, complain about their life at you, whine about relationships that aren't your fault
>they try to turn your thoughts or opinions into an argument where you're somehow always in the wrong and they have to 'correct' you despite opinions being subjective. instead of trying to see where you're coming from and understanding, they have to override you and show you that you're always wrong somehow (toxic)
>they use you for complaining about their depression, life choices they regret, bad relationships that they chose to take part in, and that's it. you can't talk about anything else because they'll make the topic about what they want, which is complaining
>don't share anything about your life because they literally don't care unless it's about themselves or it's interesting for them
>got a new job? they don't care. got a new dog? they don't care. you're excited and want to share it? they don't care
>if you have problems, they literally don't care or want to know, but expect you to be there for them constantly
>get told you're a 'nice girl', translation, 'doormat' and 'people pleaser' for trying to care and have a mutual connection
>even if you help someone while they're vulnerable emotionally or upset, they still don't care or appreciate anything
>realize people are hedonistic and just pleasure-seeking, chasing highs, or looking out for themselves while using each other and labelling it as friends
>feels like you're just an entertainer and get nothing out of it
Is this normal?
