/feels/ - Advice & Venting

You can’t put a broken glass together, but mentally, you’re not glass. You’re not born perfect and that fragile. Trauma doesn’t really make you broken irreversibly, but it can until you have the support and the understanding to recover. (Like people who actually get what you went through help a lot)

I had stress so severe it was incomprehensible to others when I tried to explain, never vented so the shit kept building up and my mental functioning began to actually shut down from being unable to carry that weight. That went on until I got to a safe environment with safe people who treated me normally. Then my functioning gradually started restoring because I had only functioning issues and an attitude. I’m “scarred forever” in the sense my developmental path had shifted, but I’m not suffering from past events anymore.

Idk if it made sense nona just wanted to share my experience.

>Can bad days, trauma, mental scars, and nightmares from bad experiences ever be healed?
Dunno :( I'm waiting for mine to go away, but it's been so long and I'm tried. Only good thing is, I forget less traumatic events over the years.
I guess "time heals" is a real thing?

Taken from an excerpt on this random article I found-

“The story of kintsugi—this style of pottery—may be the most perfect embodiment of all our trauma-shattered lives… Instead of throwing away the broken beloved pottery, we’ll fix it in a way that doesn’t pretend it hasn’t been broken but honors the breaking—and more so, the surviving—by highlighting those repaired seams with gold lacquer. Now the object is functional once again and dignified, not discarded. It’s stronger and even more valuable because of its reinforced, golden scars.”

I highly recommend you read the article here- https://www.vaneetha.com/journal/kintsugi-beauty-in-the-broken

Also, do more research on kintsugi. It might change your mind on our minds merely being "fragile glass"