/feels/ - Advice & Venting

You're either asexual or have some sorta trauma. Were you exposed to sexual content too young?

>>129229
i watched porn from a very young age, around 9. it took me until my mid 20's to stop watching it.

do you think porn could be the issue?

i do have some trauma from being on the internet at a young age i have been groomed a lot. i was quite hypersexual as a teenager, but a lot of those hypersexual tendencies ended during my later teenaged years. (i never had sex during my hyper-sexual years, just a lot of sexting)

now i dont particularly seek out sexual gratfication from others, instead i just masturbate.
i worry i won't be able to form a long term partner due to the fact i hate having sex.

>>129237
Seems serious, i recommend contacting a professional sexologist (not sex therapist).

Not liking casual sex is normal.

>>129239
True.

>>129239
This isn't just not liking casual sex it's obviously something psychological. Cause eventually Nona is gonna find someone she really loves and stays with for a while and she just won't be able to do anything. If she were truly asexual/not want to sleep with people she doesn't know well or something it would be fine.

>>129237
Yes, especially since you were exposed to it so young. Consuming that stuff can alter the way you experience and act on attraction which is probably why you struggle despite wanting it. Imo as you are, don't worry about trying to have sex. You aren't in the right headspace, and your perception of it is probably screwed by watching it from childhood to your twenties.

>>129239
yeah, but i've only had with men in committed relationships, i still disliked it.

although, the first time i had sex with a girl it was casual. it felt like less of a chore than sex with moids. i disliked how i felt afterwards; i felt used, despite it being consensual. also i was the pillow princess.

i dont dislike intimacy, sex just scares me. i love masturbating, though.



>>129238
how do i get in contact with such a person, through my doctor? all therapy i've had has been rubbish, but i may have some underlaying trauma.




>>129241
this. i have been in committed relationships and i still felt like sex was a chore, it is the least favourite part of a relationship for me. i prefer masturbating because i like cumming quickly, why waste time? but maybe thats where my mindset is fucked.


>>129242
sex isnt a priority of mine at all. It just sort of happened with a qt girl. she is lovely, i loved flirting with her casually, but sex just made me feel super uncomfortable, yk? I thought it was an issue i'd only have with moids.


i appreciate all your words nonas, i've felt so conflicted recently.

>>129205
Honestly real. Sex is scary

>>129237
>do you think porn could be the issue?
It definitely is an issue, especially starting at an early age. And masturbation can re wire the brain to only like masturbation and not enjoy normal sex, masturbating to porn got many people into voyeur/cuckshit

>>129239
This

>>129239
This.

Porn has nothing to do with it; maybe even helped in making you think casual sex is empty and overrated.

Go find real love, OP.

Yesterday I tried Mexican food for the first time. I didn't like it. No big deal.

>>129237
is it just me or is 9 a common age to watch porn for the first time? I probably saw it around 7-8

>>129399
are u comparing trying food for the fist time to having sex for the first time