/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Being tall is cool as fuck tho. Why would you want to be short and stumpy. There's a reason why models need to be tall. Its because they just look more elegant

>>129316
I think my boyfie watching a certain kind of h3ntai made me think my body type must suck and all men must be borderline diddies

going to take a stab in the dark here

>bone deep loathing from lifelong emotional trauma over being fetishized
>despise anyone for showing signs of sexual attraction to your bodytype
>exclusively emotionally invest in men who date you in spite of your body instead of because of it
>emotionally hurt by finding your body a demerit by the one person whose opinion on the subject matters
this would not be improved by a flatter chest and shorter legs
believe me

ofc the worst case is if it gets rooted in a race thing and you start dating men who actively dislike your race

>>129318
He's my first real relationship. And I'm having his baby. I don't know. He's sexually attracted to me. I can't belive it though. I don't feel feminine in comparison. I compare all the time to other girls that are petite and pretty.

>>129319
Damn dude are you stupid

Every other feels thread is "my bf did something fucking insane and it's made me self-conscientious". Which is ironically making me insane. Like, why would you know what hentai he watches? That's not normal. We shouldn't be doing this.

>>129321
Are you offended over her lack of promiscuity?

>>129322
Why wouldn't she know, do you get a cookie for not knowing things?

>>129324
>her lack of promiscuity
>fucking some guy who watches loli hentai
Yeah anon you're right, this reads to me as a woman who keeps her legs sensibly shut.

>>129329
Was there really a need for such vile accusation? I don't understand your frustration.

>>129330
Consider what a mother someone like this will be. Someone who posts on crystal dot cafe about feeling insecure that she's not small and little enough, what kind of woman does that? There are a number of failure modes here. One possibility among many, is to end up quietly resentful of her child for "ruining her body", or jealous of her child for being small and flat. Oh, resenting them for wasting her youth, also. If not one of those specifically, then just the general passing down of a value system driven by insecurity. Basically, if you're mentally ill, don't have children, because you'll fuck them over. By the way, don't forget the boyfriend in this. A guy who watches hentai is not fit to be a father either. He'll model his ideas about women to a son OR a daughter, in different ways. Don't inflict a father who is the type of guy that watches porn onto a child. Dating much less having kids with a guy is a suspect concept to begin with but if you're going to do it then do it right. This is the first guy you've dated, and you're having children with him? You're not even pretending that he's the rare and wonderful Nigel. You're totally settling for any guy who'll have you.

>>129324
No cookie. It's just there are about four-trillion things to talk about with someone before you get to what kind of hentai they watch.

This is what happens when a previously literate society stops reading books.

>>129332 Can't agree, I mean how the hell am I gonna know a guy if I can sparse out if he likes ntr enough to make me step on him, or CNC to know if he'll punch me in a wall. If he's into stepsibling shit he hates his mother, and if he likes goblins and tentacles, we can play DND on Sunday's.

>>129331
>>129332
That's a lot of assumptions.
Besides, isn't it statistically true that ability to form a lasting relationship decreases with each new relationship one has?

>>129336
Considering that all we know of OP come from these self-descriptions:
>I compare all the time to other girls that are petite and pretty
>this is my worst insecurity but i wish i was small. i mean im thin but i feel so tall. i feel like a planet. i want to be cute and dainty and flat chested. i want to be easy to carry and spin around. i wish i wasnt a giant
>I think my boyfie watching a certain kind of h3ntai made me think my body type must suck and all men must be borderline diddies
What kind of conclusion do you expect us to take from this? She's certainly not doing a good job of presenting herself as someone who's likely to get into a healthy relationship.

it's OP. please dont let this post escalate. i wrote it feeling insecure as im vulnerable and hormonal right now but most of the time i am OK. this man doesnt do that anymore and has been good to me and he is a best friend to me and he has changed for the better because he is mature and genuinely loves me. people can grow out of their bad habits, even if those habits disgust you. he isnt like that anymore and i was feeling inadequate because im hormonal from pregnancy. these feelings pass and i would never inflict them upon a child. i thought this was a place to vent into the void. i apologize for disturbing anyone

>>129341
i appreciate the honesty, but what i got was mostly assumptions about me. i want to marry the man that takes my virginity and i only felt disturbed/learned more later, to which he said he got rid of the habit about 2 yrs ago. i love him a lot and he's attracted to me the way i am and he's been attracted to me now more than ever because i'm having his child. sorry again..

>>129341
>>129342
Don't apologize to those mind broken, genetic dead ends. None of what they said was due to concern over your well being.

i wish i was tall being short makes me look hideous

I'm 5'1 and I feel like a fridge because I store a lot of fat in my arms and my waist is almost non-existent. Short height doesn't guarantee good body structure

>>129500
kill yourself moid

>>129316
>There's a reason why models need to be tall.
there's no actual reason why models need to be tall. it's just a criterion created by the fashion industry for what reason i do not know.

being tall is great except you are only attracted to men who are taller than you and maybe men slightly shorter than you so dating is harder. you will run into guys who are 'perfect' except they are normal height and you are not and then it can't work.

>>129314
You are legit dumb. I don't know where you got that idea in your head, but you should know that height isn't a man only thing. Small women are taken less serious, are weaker, and no matter what some may say are thought to be uglier than tall women.

That calculus you make about a man's height is almost the same from the men's side. Most want tall women to have tall children with.

>>129569
You are legit dumb if you think men care about the height and health of their offspring. They just want to nut in a woman, a child is just a proof that he had sex, healthy or not.

>>129571
Men project onto and identify with their hypothetical future children, every child is a potential son to them hence why they get so pissy about abortion ("but you're basically aborting me!!!!")
Anyway, the real counterpoint to OP's womanlet fantasy: picrel.

>>129317
How tf did her bf being a pedophile get brushed over so easily?

>>129573
bc it's unsurprising, most men are pedophiles

>>129322
>>129324
There are things that should stay within a person's pants.
Whether you trust your partner or not.

>>129572
climbing shit is dope

>>129589
It's dope when you're on a cliff face, it's fucking cringe when you're in the grocery store