/feels/ - Advice & Venting

I also have BPD, to was sort of annoying navigating symptoms in high school when everything is summed up to hormones and growing, especially when you’re a girl, even when it was obvious that my reactions to things simply was not on par to my fellow students regardless. Not to get too triggering here, but I’ve been on the brink of suicide over the smallest of shit, and almost lost friends over a candy cane. So I get it, it’s exhausting, but the goal is to maintain the self, not to save others from what’s inside, but to save nurture yourself. If he can’t understand, don’t keep him, if he can grow over time and try (bc he is a human being and sometimes we have a hard time understanding) then he’s worth it.

Just make sure that you are okay with yourself regardless, take time for yourself and for your thoughts and give space to fuck up and be a little irrational. Sometimes it annoys me how ppl will give space for things like Tourette’s and autism, but dare you have BPD and you’re a menace.

Hope you’ll start feeling yourself, OP!

>>129340

Thank you, I appreciate the kind words and you are right. BPD havers are portrayed as some sort of demons compared to a lot of other mental illnesses, even Narcissists.

I will definitely take your advice into consideration, hugs

>>129351
narcs are the real demons

>>129353
Had a friend who was diagnosed Narc, after I found out I stopped talking to him, why would I be friends with a Narc moid…

>>129353
Narcissists are second worst after psychopaths, in my experience.
It is kinda entertaining to watch a psychopath trying to hurt narcissist's self-esteem over and over again. Perhaps that's the purpose of narcissists - to keep the psychopaths busy so that everyone else can live a better life.

>>129358
I have heard that psychopaths are significantly more tolerable than narcissists.

Read a confession about a psychopath mom who was willing to treat her kids the best way she could even if she didn't feel genuine love for them, because if her kids feel bad that doesn't benefit her. The principle behind it is clearly lacking of emotional bond but I feel like a narcissist is pure destruction, as well as sociopaths.

>>129359
My sister is a psychopath mom, she takes her kids on trips, buys them shitload of toys, sends them to learn how to dance, play instruments, but i can already tell that her kids will have problems. Children need to observe genuine love between parents to have an idea what a loving relationship is like and she just can't give that to them.
Remaining in a "friendly" psychopath's sphere of influence or tolerating a super talented narcissist isn't worth it. I myself have sociopathic tendencies, most likely due to dealing with too many psychopaths in my life.

I follow(ed) a few people on tiktok and youtube who were initially diagnosed with BPD and made BPD videos but later turned out to be just autistic. Just be careful about the diagnosis.

>>129351
it really sucks too because borderlines are frequently raised and abused by narcissists. i know i was.

>>129365 My mom wasn't a narcissist, nor was my dad, but they were both traumatized by their childhoods and themselves, with their own issue, but both refused or were clueless to therapy. It's not even just narc's, but people who have children, but refuse to fix themselves first and when their kids also have issues, they blame and torment the kids.

That's another form of untold abuse. People need to wear condoms. If they aren't mature enough for therapy, they aren't mature enough for children.

>>129366

Agree entirely. Not sure how old you are, but one of the things that bother me is when we're called the weaker generation whenever mental health is mentioned, just for being self-aware and not being an asshole to people despite your upbringing.

If anything they are the weak ones for taking the easy path (People were assholes to me so I'll be an asshole to them) And not being neither smart or aware enough to even try and make a difference.

>>129365

I'm pretty sure my dad is narc as well :/