/feels/ - Advice & Venting

You might be suffering from pretty privilege tbh. Sounds counter intuitive until you see how lonely prettu people are because their communities isolate them due to a perceived notion of "oh, they have it easy, they don't need my company." Also people are afraid of initiating with a pretty person.

If its not that, then maybe its your personality?

I dont know you, so take this with a grain of salt

The thing with making friends is that most people already have friends, so you'll come across a lot of people who already have as many friends as they are satisfied with. Look for fellow loners. Although lonely x lonely does come with its own troubles.

>>129699
I never thought of it that way, specially because I'm quite insecure even though I have always been told I'm attractive.

I'm not perfect just like everyone but I like to think that I'm good at understanding people and getting along with them, I'm kind and entertaining, I am pretty sensitive though so maybe I value friendship more than what the average people do.

>>129705
Yes, I struggle with this big time. I have tried this as well, I was hanging out with a girl who I thought was in the same situation as me. It was extremely one-sided, I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt (maybe she's shy/maybe she needs some time to feel comfortable with me). There weren't any signs of her not being interested besides never taking initiative. Turns out she had a bunch of friends that I never knew about.

I feel you anon. All friends I had in school I fell out of contact with after a while (mainly because of us being put in different classes) and now I don't have any friends left from school. My only current friends are online friends but I know even those friendships are very shaky and could collapse at any time

I'm 22 and I have no friends.

It gets better, learn to become your own best friend and that warm glow will bring other people close to you. Im 30 and only in last couple years have i made genuine friendships, and even have a bestie now! I used to be miserable and lonely but i learned to accept things about myself and my situation, and found confidence within myself. Have self respect and don't let awful people steer your life in ways you do not want it to go, its better to be alone and calm than being around people that keep stressing you out and draining your energy. Find people who love, care, and want to grow, help them and theh will help you
♡

I was 20 and I had a friend, then I met more people later in life

Pretend you have a lot of friends. When you want to make friends be casual and pretend you're inviting her to your circle rather than inviting yourself to her friend group.

Manifest.

>>129695
you can't make friends as an adult, once high school is over that's it, even if you go to college these days everyone there will be as autistic as jigsaw puzzle of a german U-boat and won't want to be friends

I used to be in a friend group with three other girls and a boy back in high school. Group died out when the group "leader" realized she could make a bunch of cooler, better friends in college and stopped responding to plans to hang out despite us all still living in the same city. It's been 4 years and I just want a friend group like that again.