Lost a friend, lose a friend Anonymous 130200
A few years ago I fell out with my then best friend. We hadn't known each other for super long but we had got on well from the first time we met and we had a great friendship. The reason it fell through was almost entirely my own fault, I was super insecure and anxious back then, I kept criticizing her over stupid stuff, kept telling her to break up with her bf (so she could be with me more) and etc.
It really hurt when she cut contact with me, but ultimately I understand why it happened and I have worked hard on trying to fix those issues. I am still a little insecure/anxious, but it is much much better than back then. In the end I guess I kind of needed it.
More recently, I made another friend, same story as with her, we got on very well from basically the beginning, but now the complete opposite is happening. She wants my attention and wants to talk to me but is not interested in what I am doing or how I am feeling. I go out of my way to be help her and she never ever returns the favor. I do not even enjoy talking with her anymore and am basically soft ghosting her now, which she does not even realise because she is so self-absorbed. She feels lonely and wants attention and is doing almost exactly what I used to do back then, but I am not sure I can help her at this point. So what should I do? I feel so hopelessly powerless, I am going to lose another wonderful friend over the same issue and I feel like there is nothing to do about it.
