/feels/ - Advice & Venting

>>131855
As a general rule of thumb, I try not to hang out with mentally unstable people for this very reason. You never know when they'll switch from hugs and kisses to doxxing you online

Every man I've been "friends" with has caught feelings at some point. Most of them aren't mature enough to separate basic friendship emotions like companionship and comradery from attraction and lust. That's why I stopped trying to be friends with men. I'm also not friends with women but that's another story. I'll stick with my pets thank you very much.

>>131858
The issue is what women consider a basic friendship is much more intimate than what a man consider's a basic friendship. So when women approach friendships with males like they approach female friendships, it's already borderline dating in his eyes. Men don't call each other often or tell each other all our secrets or go shopping together or lean on each other for emotional support, etc. A male to male friendship is basically "you're into something I'm into and I don't actively despise your existence so we can hang out sometimes and you don't contact me outside of those times for anything unrelated to hanging out". Different cultures may have more nuance than this but this is how modern western men see things. If you really want to be basic friends with a man, you need to understand he might not talk to you for 2 months and then invite you over to hang out and you both just understand that's normal. No mental well-being checks needed and you don't need to inquire too deeply into his personal life. Maybe things should be differently but they aren't and it is what it is

>>131858
The reason men can't be friends with you is because men don't see you as someone they want to be friends with.

Women can't seem to wrap their head around this idea. YOU ARE NOT A PERSON in the eyes of a man, the view men have of you is so low and base, you just don't get it, you are a sex object.
They don't "catch feelings" they were pretending to be friends to have sex with you in the first place. Men don't care about what women have to say, they don't considering them intellectually viable as conversational partners, so they just use women the way women are suppose to be used, your body is designed to pleasure a man. That is all.

What kind of fucking friend group is that? Ones that would abandon you over a lie? So many questions.

>>131862
That’s rich coming from someone who has no friends. Just don’t crash out after this reply, try to reflect on it instead.

>>131864
I don;t get your response. Do you think my post is some kind of attack? I'm just telling you what the situation is, this is how it is. Men don't view you as a person. Women seem to complain about this, t'yet not accept it.

>>131865
No I just don’t think you’re really an authority on the subject of friendship.

>>131866
>No I just don’t think you’re really an authority on the subject of friendship.

holy kek get fookin rekt m8 >>131865