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Single Pringles Anonymous 3963

Singles general. How long have you been single? How do you feel about it?

Anonymous 3964

Op that picture is triggering me as if it was wrong to be 24 and single reeeeeeee. People get married way too early btw.

Anonymous 3974


lol at least you're not in your late 30's or something OP

Anonymous 3977

I am literally a kissless virgin. Can I get my refund for the so called easy-mode, 'cause it really didn't work with me.
i'm 18 but still no good feel

Anonymous 3991

I'm recently single for the first time in over 10 years. Even though on the surface I seem like a really independent person, I've only ever understood myself as someone else's girlfriend. I'm having a really hard time understanding what the point of anything is if I'm not doing it for someone else, but I know that that's a sign that I really need to be single and figure out how to live for myself, I just have no idea how to do it.

Anonymous 4000

I've never been in a serious relationship and am also a megavirgin, but I've accepted that it's better to be single for now given my mental health. I need to work on myself inside and out before even considering adding another person into the mix.

That said, it still feels lonely since I've fantasized about settling down since I was ten.

Anonymous 4013

been single for 3 years. had one serious relationship in my life, but i'm still a virgin and also lonely af, especially lately.
would love to get some new people in my life because i don't even have many friends which also makes me feel upset a lot..
with years i'm getting worse and worse at talking with people, it's so hard to even make small talk with course mates in uni without making myself look like a fool.

Anonymous 4014

It'll already go downhill in mid 20s.
Seeing everyone of your former classmates and your friends getting married or pregnant or having some longterm relationship, parents being like "your younger sister got herself a nice boyfriend why can't you?" and every guy you meet that's not completely hideous, not an ass** and no weirdo is already is taken …
For me it pretty much started around 25-26.
I had one shortterm relationship with 27.

Anonymous 4015

Around three months now.

Pissed because he was so spineless about it and of course he didn't put much effort into the relationship. So I lost a lot from it. Hope the next girl cheats on him.

Anonymous 4018

Depends where you live.

I'm 27 and probably 90% of the people I know around my age are unmarried.

Still sucks though, so I hear ya. I haven't dated for around 4 years. By choice because I hated where I lived and didn't want to deal with some asshole getting in the way of things. I've moved, but hate where I moved to, so yet another year as a singleton. I got fat and ugly (fugly lol) though, so am gonna spend the next 6 months getting fit so I can finally begin dating….

Anonymous 4032

The OP picture is going to be me in January it seems.

I'm currently 23 and the only relationships I've had were online with men that were on the other side of the planet from me. I have never held hands, kissed, or done anything with someone special and…the more the years go by – the more nervous I feel about giving away my firsts to anyone. Is that weird?
There was this guy I had a crush on who expressed that he liked me back, but I'm pretty sure I got too clingy because he ended up saying he didn't feel the same after some time.
I basically fucked up any chances I had of being in a relationship and now…I don't even know if it'll ever happen to me.

I focus on my art, which has been keeping me generally sane while I work through the emotions of being single, but sometimes when I see the couples walking through the mall – I get overwhelmingly upset.
I'm a very affectionate person, someone who would think the world of their significant other – flurries of I love yous, handmade lunches, etc.

Your typical housewife/mom kinda deal.

So not being able to express this affectionate side of me is hurting me mentally.
I feel lonely, I feel depressed, but I'm too overwhelmingly self-conscious.

It's not fun, I don't think I'll ever be in a relationship…

Anonymous 4033


>>I'm currently 23 and the only relationships I've had were online with men that were on the other side of the planet from me
>>I'm a very affectionate person, someone who would think the world of their significant other – flurries of I love yous, handmade lunches, etc.
>>So not being able to express this affectionate side of me is hurting me mentally.

Damn, anon. Are you me? With the exception I'm 25 and I was 17~18ish when I had my last IRL connection with a boy. After that only a long and intense ldr. I wouldn't say I'm totally inexperienced when it comes to romance because I'm not, but I feel the exact way you described. I know it hurts. Idk how I'd manage to have a normal face to face relationship with someone from here… No idea. I don't know how to start normal relationships if that makes any sense.

Sending good vibes.

Anonymous 4034


Thank you anon! It totally makes sense haha, I wish you the best of luck!
Sending you good vibes!

Anonymous 4043

I know I shouldn't get too upset over it, but here goes.

I'm 24 and single (op pic got me right on the dot), a complete virgin in all areas, with what little relationship experience I have coming from one shitty "ldr" I had online in jr. high and 2 total guys I've dated in person. Each of those guys lasted two dates with me before I broke it off, and each time it's always been because I can't see myself being in a relationship beyond just dates. I can only see myself dating them, but can't for the life of me see a life beyond that with them, and my lack of experience definitely knocks my self-esteem down when I think about dating anyone; both times I've reached the 2nd date with the prior 2 guys, I've gone from being open to dating/agreeing to date them, to just not being interested at all and cutting the relationship off before it goes any farther because I don't know what else to do.

What knocks me about my experience, though, is that I want to find someone, and I want to enjoy a good love experience, but I can't find someone here who would be even close to ideal for a first full relationship (anyone that has shown interest, excluding one, has been a sketchy fucker from the start), and I fear that I'll reach that age where it's so hard to find someone who would take an inexperienced virgin for a full relationship. And I'm scared that somehow I'll end up being too hopeful for a good relationship that I'll be totally naive about someone being a complete asshat. I want to be devoted, I want to snuggle and cuddle with a guy and not be a total hardass on the second date, I want to hold hands and be super shy around him when he looks at me, but I can't bring myself to fall for someone when I can't foresee a future with anyone beyond a normal date setting..

>flurries of I love yous, handmade lunches, etc
Also I hate that I love these things reading them, but I've also been the kind of person that got upset over having a long conversation that cost me minutes on a prepaid cell phone. I think I'm just not capable of doing the relationship thing at all..

Anonymous 4044

Wifey down in your twenties = become the wine on the couch mother in your 40s.

Don't waste your golden years lmao. Go and travel and learn everything you possible can about everything ever.

Anonymous 4046


But I am wasting my golden years being lonely and depressed.

Anonymous 4051

Is it weird to not have a desire to date, nor to be attracted to anyone emotionally, physically or mentally? Even the "hot" guys in my inner circle I can talk to just fine and hang with without having the urge to fuck them or the desire to start a relationship. I feel like something broke me for me to be this way. It's weird because I haven't always been like that.

The urge for me to have a bf/gf and try to settle down is just nonexistent. I kind of don't want it to be like that because dying old and alone sucks.

Anonymous 4055

kinda same actually. it definitely feels weird, especially now when everyone i graduated high school with is getting married and having families, and i'm just here like "yeah nah i dont want a relationship right now".

but i think that when you get to the point that you meet someone you really like, and your brain ticks on like "hey, this person's pretty neat", you'll be able to find that desire to settle if they really are the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Anonymous 4085

You act like guys arent fuckboys.

Anonymous 4103

The being around my family and doing the stuff we do for the holidays was nice, but I can't stop wishing that I had someone to share it all with, and a child to pass it all on too, or thinking about how in a few years my family will be gone and all of this will end and I'll just be miserable and alone.

Anonymous 4111

21. Never had a bf but I did go on dates, albeit they were all first dates. I have not dated in like a year. Like 2 friends tell me to settle or lower my standards, when finding someone. My standards are reasonable. (take care of yourself, dress, look and be nice)
I'm wary around guys and I can really only talk to guys online on Overwatch. That or unless I know he is quieter than me where I get some sort of confidence to talk.

I'm still young, but sooner or later I want to find someone to be with ugh… Guess I'll stick to being on and off on okcupid…

Anonymous 4261

Posted this in the wrong thread, sorry.

I'm in my mid twenties and I've never had sex so I hope I can do it this year, even though I don't think virginity is shameful. I doubt I'll meet anyone important and I'm not degenerate and filthy enough to pay for it since that's repulsive, but I want get dicking from any guy that isn't too shitty to me and then drop him because as I already explained, I doubt we will develop deep feelings for each other. It's just curiosity, nothing more. But I do wish things were different and that I would just fall in love with him and he with me… I wish someone would say "hey anon, wait because you're gonna meet him soon" but tbh that's not necessary since I don't think I'll find a dick wielder or a man to fall in love with anyway…

Anonymous 4267


But you're forgetting that food can go bad, and that it would make anyone dumb enough to eat it very sick.

Now get out, Robot.

Anonymous 4271


Everything you wrote applies 100x to men than it does women. Men are the entitled little shits who need to lower their standards. Men are the ones who reject and violently shit upon women for something as little as not being skinny, while being the fatter gender themselves and having both women and society pat their ass for being disgusting ugly motherfuckers. An incel is really just a fat ugly guy who thinks he's entitled to a woman way out of his league and turns violent when he doesn't get his way. Get fucked.

Anonymous 4273



>This is generally the default position of most imageboard dwellers and most men in general


Anonymous 4275


IKR???? Does this faggot think he's fooling anyone? Lol holy shit men are so fucking retarded what in the literal fuck?


Okay fucko, then explain to me why men on dating sites send almost all of their messages to the top 2/3 of women when women send their messages on a near perfect bellcurve? Oh, that's right, because men are entitled, delusional shits and you're a flat out liar.


Anonymous 4278


Then why are men so evil and stupid they can't use a website for it's intended purpose? Women are perfectly capable of using a dating site to find dates- what the fuck is so wrong with men that they can't follow simple instructions?

You keep trying to make excuses but you just keep digging the hole deeper for how bad your gender looks.

Anonymous 4279

Oh so it's another episode of Nice Guy vs Stacy

Anonymous 4281


>Well done on once again equating men with the group of men who use OkCupid.

OH honey, there's lots of other studies that prove you act the same shitty way everywhere, okupid is just an example.

>Maybe because men don't want to date that way?

So what you're saying is men are so fucking arrogant and selfish they won't use a website properly because of what they want. The hole gets deeper and deeper and deeper.

>I have always wanted to use this phrase

And I bet you thought is was going to be so cool when you said it, but it's not, it's fucking retarded.

Anonymous 4283


Good job, what an annoying faggot thinking his sad posts are going to change everyone's minds

Anonymous 4284


So are you going to bother to delete his comments or is this lc 2.0?

Anonymous 4285

As if we've never been on a male imageboard or forum before. This bitch thinks we're that gullible holy shit lel.

Anonymous 4287

Anyone else here have troubles being single, as if you NEED a partner to feel ok?

Anonymous 4288


Forgot pic, sorry.

Anonymous 4294

I'm almost sad that these posts are gone because I was reading this thread during work and thought of some mighty sassy responses.
>all i want is a partner who loves and respects me as much as i love and respect them
>proceeds to come onto female-centered image-board, flagrantly violate the rules, call everyone who disagrees with him sociopathic or 'damaged', shift the blame onto women for having trust issues after being treated like shit by men

if that's the 'respect' that he's capable of, no wonder he's single. do we have a cringe thread? this belongs in the cringe thread.

Anonymous 4295

I really like being single, but that's probably because I've been in some horrific relationships before and this seems like a better alternative. There's no one berating me for taking too long to respond to their texts or not spending enough time with them, there's no jealousy when I choose to spend a night with my friends instead of my significant other, there's nobody going through my phone or my e-mails without my permission. I think it's better to take your time and wait for someone who's a good 'fit' for you, as opposed to just trying to get into a relationship for the sake of being not-single anymore.

Anonymous 4296


I've never had the feeling I needed a partner, emotionally to make clear, but for sexual satisfaction yes. The satisfaction also has to come from somebody I am committed long-term too, so not a one night stand ordeal. It's complicated and I wish I wasn't this way. I almost feel dependent on the person for my satisfaction.

Anonymous 4310

I feel dirty when I do sexual stuff with anyone who's not in a committed relationship with me uh

Anonymous 4354

do you think spending time on forums specifically dedicated to keeping out men is the cause of the problem and that more interaction and comprehension of men would help get rid of the problem. or is it a lowering of standards that would help. this isnt critical im really concerned about the effect of online time on social life or if its just a simpler matter

Anonymous 4356

Men as a whole arent unsavable imo. It's just the retard men who spend way too much time on the internet who are the problem. They don't represent the totality of men and this forum doesn't exist because we hate males or have crazy standards.
As long as you don't spend your entire time browsing chans you will know it's not that complex.
I believe you're male, read the FAQ

Anonymous 4411

It's probably catastrophically unhealthy, but I just don't care about my own life, and therefore only do things to not look like a mess, so having an SO would mean that I'd constantly have to not look like a mess.

JFC I really am a mess.

Anonymous 4449

hi, married 30 year old
i met my husband at 27, never seen him before, we got married last year, probably having kids by 2019
before that i was single and without any viable option for 6 to 7 years, before that i only had a couple 2 month relationships.
start worrying at 35-40

Anonymous 4489

You're absolutely right. I understand people fear the future and all, but this is what usually happens to the people who don't find their spouses very early.

Anonymous 4508

You clearly don’t understand how to read a graph. See how the women rate men much lower on the scale? If there aren’t any men that they rate 5 to begin with, how would they even be capable of sending messages to a lot of them? That isn’t a fair comparison, you should be comparing the ratios between rating and message rate, not the raw message rate alone.

Anonymous 38760

I'm just afraid getting in a relationship would end up being a waste and would help with any of the problems I'm having and I think the realisation that my problems are deeper than needing an emotional crutch would send me down the rabbit hole

Anonymous 38947

I've been single for a year now. My last relationship was awful because my bf was a dumb military jock. We exchanged very cheesy letters during his serving time, which was like solace to me. He would write sweet nothings about offering me all his time and attention in the world. However when he got back, he immediately got to ignoring me. He would just be online posting about how he wants to fuck art hoes (which I'm not) and write paragraphs about Satoshi Kon movies. I ended up breaking up with him, to which he started sadposting about his ex he dated for like 3 weeks before he dated me.

It was honestly a blow to my confidence and I'm glad I ended things with that military NEET.

Anonymous 38948

>top two thirds
I had to do a double take when I remembered two thirds was a majority. Men send most of their messages to a majority of women.

Anonymous 38954


>tfw pretty sure this was me
>tfw still single
Oh well, at least my mental health is better. I was a whole ass other person that year and had just stopped self-harming; now I love myself and have two good frens.

Anonymous 38958

>How long have you been single?
23 yrs
>How do you feel about it?
i feel

Anonymous 39003

>How long have you been single?
22 years
>How do you feel about it?
I honestly don't care that I'm single.

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