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How to make friends? Anonymous 47255

I have a hard time making friends with others both online and irl. Does anyone have advice in how to make friends and be likable and sociable?

Anonymous 47257

I can mabe help but what is the issue?
Is it other people not liking you or you not liking other people?
Tell a story of your usual experience

Anonymous 47263

Say compliments to them always, believe in them, help em out, play the same games they play, get into the same hobbies they are into, etc.

Anonymous 47264

>>47257
I usually met people online because I barely leave the house in real life. I contact people from different sites and try to establish conversation. If I click with them, I try to talk with them and play games, watch films ect but after a few months, they either stop answering messages, disappear or we run out of things to share. I try to be as kind as possible. I am tired of that cycle. It has made me discouraged to find other people.

Anonymous 47324

>>47264
do you discuss emotional things?
IK anon but I can never find anyone I enjoy talking to even if they like talking to me.
when you click with someone you can just talk about anything and it works.

Maybe try learn about psychology and stuff as it can help you understand people if that is the issue.
also if you make friends with normalfags they do not see online people as real friends usually and you will only be substitute for offline friends.

Make friends with some other hikikomori maybe? join hikki communities but they are shit anyway.

Anonymous 47325

>>47324
I know about psychology and put effort but even after clicking with someone, it all fades after a few months. I tried joining some hikki/loner groups but they were not that good. Maybe it's because, as you said, most of the people I have talked to online are normalfags and it can be hard to relate to them. Or with guys, once they get a gf, it's like you don't exist to them. I'll leave my discord in case anyone is interested in talking ghossty#5021

Anonymous 47327

>>47325
100% sadly we may be able to relate to normalfags about discussion of various topics such as philosophy etc but when you try to relate on a deeper level we are basically aliens to them.

Even a lot of hikki come off as normalfags and they can be so immature plus there is some overlap with the incel community and NEETs in general.
o you reveal your gender?
I know that a lot of guys from hikki community will not even talk to you if they know you are a girl from you saying so straight away.
Not because they hate woman but so many e girls just try validate themselves and stuff.

It is very very hard to find cool people to get along with but dont give up as it is possible.
Also anon I think you should know that it can be risking leaving the tag of your legit discord as they often get posted over on r9k so can be best to have people add your alt.

You only stop existing when a guy gets a gf if that guy never truly valued you for who you are ayway.

Keep trying anon

Anonymous 47332

>>47327
It is possible to relate in general stuff but when it comes to personal topics, the difference is massive and they might not understand what I'm trying to convey. Aliens, as you said.

Most hikki groups are filled with guys that just so happen to be incels or toxic. I didn't reveal my gender because I was barely active but just seeing the conversations made me not want to interact at all.
I don't want to give up because I've met decent people in the past. I am using a temporary discord so if I meet someone nice, I'll just add them to my main. I didn't know discords got posted in r9k. Thanks for the warning.

You seem very sweet and I hope you have a wonderful day and meet equally nice people anon thanks

Anonymous 47333

>>47325
I had only heard of NEETs and shut ins before, but the hikikomori description also applies to me.
Kind of wary to send you a request, as I never talk to anyone online. Should I? I don't even play games anymore. No idea about what we could have in common tbh.

I hope it gets better for you anyways. I'm also at a similar situation, i just don't know what to do with people's attention; can't keep a conversation going or started.

Anonymous 47334

>>47332
wow thanks soo much for being a nice poster anon!!

I think you should know that unless the community you join is using true incel talk like "looksmaxxing" and all that stupid shit it could just mean they are meming but I know what it is like out there.
For some reason incel stuff is everywhere.
Incels are failed normies.

You will make a friend eventually I have met the most autistic girls as in mid functioning full spergs and even they managed to make friends.

>>47333
hikikomori is a shut in.



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