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how do you accept looking twice your age? Anonymous 13577

I am developmentally delayed (from a mix of neglect and a debilitating illness) and now that I'm in my mid 20s I'm having massive amounts of people considered me in my early 50s and I get a lot of insults about it when people know my real age. It isn't like I have a lot of wrinkles but something about my face looks extremely ill and sunken despite being a normal weight.
I've been happy with improving; i.e., making some money freelancing, doing some government, legal and taxes stuff for people I know, etc., but there's still something extremely off about the way I come across.

It's really not fun at all being seen as someone mature and "dead-looking" according to everyone. I know even nice people aren't blind either. Oh to clarify I think most older women look good. It's just the way I look old is B-move horror type shit. I look scary.
And I don't like that I look scary. It makes me feel so ashamed to make people feel like that.

How do you separate how you feel from how you look and continue on your life journey peacefully and with excitement? A nasty part of me is feeling like my life is already over because I'm "not allowed" to do young people things or at least be silly around others. So I usually act like a brick wall. It's dumb. I go on tiktok and it's obvious that people truly and deeply hate it when older-looking people do awkward things. Or, well, not just that, but that people have massive hang-ups and obsessions with stuffing others into strict categories of behavior based off their obvious "numbers." I get it when someone does something actually morally wrong. But most of it has nothing to do with that. Maybe cringe is sometimes born from someone relating too hard to someone else being awkward.

The positivity stuff doesn't really help.

Anonymous 13579

Let me guess, you are a vegan or permanently dieting?

Anonymous 13580

no, I'm an omnivore and I eat well.
it's not always a person's fault if they look bad.

Anonymous 13586

Can relate, OP. My problem is that I look extremely dull and stupid. So ppl treat me like one, and either explain simple things over and over, or try to scam me. No sexual attractiveness whatsoever.

Anonymous 13587

Can you post a photo of someone who resembles you?

Anonymous 13602


I think Madonna - if she was darker skinned and bigger lipped with a droopier nose, missing teeth, and an extremely asymmetrical face - isn't too far off the bill.
very relatable. I grimace when I see what people think is average because usually they're 100x more appealing looking than me.

Anonymous 13603


also speaking of scams the only time in my entire life a guy ever expressed any sexual/romantic interest in me irl it turned out he just wanted a green card, also, he was 80

why are we like this

Anonymous 13604

You girls breathed through your mouth, didn’t you?

Anonymous 13605


probably (also I know about the whole mewing and etc. thing). I was born with a nose deformity which made it breathe through my nose, with allergies and asthma.

had surgery for it years ago at age 20 and it was amazing for my quality of life.

Anonymous 13728


>people doubting I look the way I do (asking for a celebrity lookalike)
>people accusing it of being my fault
>no one answering my question

didn't expect much but, geez.

Anonymous 13730

Anon… I have no advice to give and no experience with this sort of stuff, but I'm sorry you are getting such gross replies. I think "people" don't really care if you try to have fun as an "old" person, it's just underdeveloped 15 year olds being mean but I don't use tiktok so maybe I don't know really

I hope you can find some peace soon.

Anonymous 13738

Maybe you should look into fillers if it's really that bad (looking 50 at 25). Even just relatively simple eyebag fillers could really freshen up your face.

But if you want to accept it: get off tiktok (what are you doing on there at 25 anyway?) and social media first and foremost, that shit will NOT help if acceptance is what you're looking for.

Anonymous 14485

I get that too, way too often. Somehow, wearing nice eyeglasses seemed to help. I usually got called old-looking when I didn't have them on.
My genetics make it really hard to get fat on my face, even when I gain weight. Do you have the means to get a fat transfer?
If so, maybe a mild fat transfer and a lip lift might help you a lot. A face lift might also be an option. The teeth also make a difference, so try to get them lightened and possibly straightened.

Other options more up your budget are going to the gym to get a round fat ass so at least the body looks proportionate. That's what I'm going for, since I can't afford any surgery. Get some perfume to smell great, get a better posture and train walking with your hips swaying, look up on kibbe types and learn how to dress better. Get a decent haircut and a hair color that suits you.

Breaks my heart that those of us with the shitty genetics have to strive so much just to be treated like the lucky pretty women.

I'm not going to go into the "accept yourself" route because the issue is not how you see yourself (even though I really wish a lot of self love to you), it's usually how people treat us, and this moid society only values us based on our looks, unfortunately. Ugly women are less than scum for them.

So by investing in getting prettier and more attractive, you will be investing in better jobs, better friendships, better opportunities, etc.

Anonymous 14486

I recommend getting someone to analyse your face (https://www.qoves.com/ does private paid reports) and then look into getting some cosmetic surgery.

It might also be worth considering lying about your age and pretending to be 40 so that people have more reasonable expectations. There are lots of older people on TikTok so don’t be put off by younger people.

>but there's still something extremely off about the way I come across.

Have you considered that you might be ND?

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