/hb/ - Chasing an idealic aesthetic or accepting the comforting embrace of mediocrity

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Chasing an idealic aesthetic or accepting the comforting embrace of mediocrity Anonymous 08/24/26 (Mon) 03:09:03 PM22999

Do you think it's better to be bombarded with unrealistic aesthetics or telling ourselves it's okay to be a failure?

I feel like both ways are just lying to tell an unhealthy person (EDs or obese) that they're doing well. Growing up with everyone wanting to be skinny felt suffocating but I also feel uneasy about losing that goal. If I don't have an ideal aesthetic to strive for, how do I improve myself? Telling myself I'm fine feels like accepting mediocrity without any directions on where to go next. When I see pinterest trying to purposefully put plus-sized women at the top of my feed I feel like I'm being patronized and being told it's okay to be chubby when I know real life isn't like that.
I went from average height and stocky in middle school to under 50kg slightly short. This is the dream body I wanted but now it feels like I just got indoctrinated into becoming dependant on this 'dream'. I do get stressed about how much I eat but I don't think I can live without this stress.
How do you nonas find meaning and goals in life without holding on to this? Do you focus on your hobbies instead? What if I don't like my hobbies enough to take it any further?

Anonymous 09/03/26 (Thu) 08:27:32 AM23007

>>22999
I just think men are ugly so what is the point? I don't want them looking at me. I focus on my hobbies, exactly. Its pretty much all i think about. Though I have severe cptsd from being stalked and i dont amount to much, its better than men having even an iota of influence over my mind.

Imo that is the worse nightmare you can have. If a moid is in your head and psychologically gaming you in any way its over. They triangulate to make you feel like a shell of yourself. They take everything. Do not do anything for moids and you will find your life has more purpose than it ever did before.