Weight loss: things you didn't expect Anonymous 4878
Share some experiences you've had after weight loss that you didn't expect. How did you feel afterwards? Did people treat you differently? Were there changes to your body that you didn't anticipate?
I lost around 15kg / 33lbs recently and I just notice how strangers happen to be a little nicer to me than before. Females as well as males. Unfortunately i've been catcalled on the street more often. I also noticed a lot more changes in my face than anywhere else and sex has become a LOT better.
5’7” here, about 5 years ago I went from 150 lbs down to 118. Tons of guys (even some super hot ones) were hitting on me, buying me drinks in bars, flirting with me online. I could actually go shopping and have everything look good on me. But for some reason I was still unhappy and thought I should be smaller.
I’m a fat piece of shit again after developinf a serious drinking problem so all of that went away.
Sorry to hear that anon, everyone should try to love/accept themselves before starting to lose weight or trying to change their body
I lost about 30 lbs and still losing. I lost it all during the summer so when I went back to school no one questioned nor said anything about it. I did not say anything about it unless someone asks. The only person who said something was my best girl friend. I'll probably show off my weight loss on fb once the new year hits just to show off for once and then delete it.
Nothing really changed all that much in my life except that now I feel justified to say that I won't date fat guys, my options for finding cute clothes has expanded, and the confidence to take more tease pics and buy sexy things for myself.
Honestly, nothing changed socially. No one got nicer and I haven't got more attention. I sometimes get comments about my body (wether it's nice or not, I hate it tbh, why do you need to comment on my body ?) but that's it.
I just have an even harder time to find clothes that fit me correctly, and I lost a lot of my cleavage. Oh, and my knees hurt when I sleep on my side and they're on top of each other.
i lost a lot of weight last year, and i feel like it was such a waste because of the fact that i still hate my body. im built like a man, and getting fit only made that seem exaggerated. im working on building a bigger ass right now to balance out my broad shoulders. its a bad feel.
Lost 30 lbs in 2018.
I thought because I had big hips when I was fatter I had pear fat distribution but when losing weight I lost on both my waist and hips. Which is fine, it's just not a dramatic difference between the two which is disappointing (only 10 inches). My legs are still comparatively wide though and I have broad shoulders, so idk. I guess I just have no idea what my body type is now.
And same as OP happy with face changes, glad to have a nice jawline.
People I knew while losing weight commented, but strangers haven't treated me differently.
I posted back in summer about wanting to lose weight for health reasons and I wanted to update, but it looks like they deleted the thread… So I will do it here.
I'm still fat, but I have managed to lose weight slowly but steadily. I'm avoiding scales because I know myself and if I start thinking in numbers I will turn into an anachan, so I have no idea of how much I have lost, but at the very least enough to make all my trousers stop fitting me and to make people around me notice I weigh less now.
Looks aside, I'm now able to be active for long periods of time, which makes me so excited because before simply climbing stairs would asphyxiate me. Right now the exercise I do is just running and the bit of arm work I do at my workplace, but I'm considering hitting the gym just to see how far I can go.
I'm also eating a bit better now, I ration my meals depending on the energy I will need for that day and while I’m still a terrible picky eater, I have tried a few new meals I ended up liking and I endure some others I dislike but that are good for my health.
My BMI used to be at ~27, now it's 19.
Walking is easy. Walking feels great. I can run up 8 flights of stairs without dying. Most clothes look good on me. In fact, I can wear basically anything. People treat me better. I like what I see in the mirror. 10/10 would recommend.
I've found myself in a cycle where I will eat pretty well during the week, but on weekends where I go visit my family I eat just as much as I've always used to and gain back all the weight I'd lost over the week, lmao
I don't dare tell my family to please not buy all the tasty things and please not cook all the lavish meals because 1. my sister has had an eating disorder before, and she'd probably wouldn't do well if she heard that I'm trying to lose weight, as I'm still skinnier than she is.
and 2. because of my sister my mother has become really tip toey about losing weight in general
and 3. I'd be somewhat embarrassed to do so. I've always been the one of us sisters to "not care" about my appearance and just wear and style myself without much care. and admitting to them that I have become unhappy with the way I look would embarrass me a little.
so yes, I keep trying to hold back on eating when visiting my parents, but it just hasn't been working super well.>>18565
that sounds really good anon, congrats! do you live alone?
Track your calories and eat at a slight deficit during the week to make up for the weekends. Or do some extra cardio during the week.
Went from 250 to 186, was fat my whole life. I’m still shocked by how skinny my face looks when I look in the mirror. People haven’t treated me any differently, but in general I’m not constantly miserable like I used to be.
I already am in a deficit during the week
Thanks you! I still live with my family due to being single, if I want to start living alone I will have to share with strangers and I don't want that (a single income can't pay any kind of housing over here)
Been chubby my whole life. Dieted for a year and became a skinny cute girl. Developed bulimia, anorexia and now binge eating disorder so have gained a good chunk back. I want to calorie count and restrict again but it feels impossible without binging massively as a panic response from my body. I can't eat normally at all anymore.
how did you communicate calorie counts with your family?
I didn't…? I couldn't care less what my parents think of my meals nor they can control me, I'm an adult and pay for my own food.
I don't count calories though, like I said if I start thinking in numbers I will turn into an anachan. What I do is think in rations & kinds of foods (for example, smaller rations of veggies and light fish if I'm just gonna lazy around home all day ot fuller rations of meat or carbohydrates if I'm gonna work out).
If you're the family anon, you can serve the meals yourself, tell them you simply don't want to put on weight (wanting to lose weight & wanting to maintain your current one sound very different, I think they will be more ok with the later) or ask them to take a scroll outside together if the weather is nice. Though I think you should be sincere even if it hurts them, you're all adults and they should accept your decisions. Maybe you can look up healthier versions of what your family usually cooks & prepare it together with them.
might seem a bit dumb but I lost 30 kg last year and while I expected buying new clothes, I didn't expect that my rings are too loose now. I don't know my ring size either
I lost 50 lb in my early twenties and honestly felt so much better about myself. I gained it back tho.
I'm not sure if I've lost weight but I've definitely gained muscle/recomped and my belly button looks different now.
Gaining muscle is better in the long run. Good job!
I've lost 28 lbs (130 → 102) and I didn't expect to lose my hips. I went from a spoon shape to a slight inverted triangle. Also, my boobs are so small now.
is extreme breast loss likely and possible, ahve you dealt with it? i have 30M bra size right now, hoping when I drop down more they will shrink to a reasonable size..
My neighbor, who I barely talk to, complimented me and wanted to know how I did it. Gotta say, I disliked that conversation. But I like how I‘m looking better. Not at my goal, but really better
are you sure your underbust size is correct?
btw, yes, weight loss leads to reduced breast size, although the degree varies individually. some women lose a lot of breast tissue, others not so much, and with breasts that large unless you're in the obesity range nona, i can't see you dropping to a "regular" size through weight loss and you might have to consider a breast reduction.
At one point, I was 160lbs at 5'5. That's the heaviest I've ever been. I would get a lot more random skin infections and it was insane how quickly my clothes stopped fitting me. I lost 40lbs by starving myself and then went back up pretty lose to 160. I just stopped counting calories, weighing myself, and ate protein with every meal and threw out sugary/processed shit out. I'm at a healthy weight now and I only know how much I weigh when I go to the doctor
Everyone told me that it'll be harder to maintain my weight once I became thin but It's very easy, once I got used to eating less I can't eat more because I'll get stomach aches.
Went from 127kg/280lbs(?) to 68kg/150lbs and am still losing. I'm not proud of the way I lost the weight since it was just due to extreme stress and working insane hours in a toxic work environment to avoid dealing with my extreme emotions, however now I do eat much healthier and workout regularly. Before I was practically invisible to men and served as the stupid fat friend to a pretty and popular girl (I don't know why but I always had one best friend who was just a hot girl who acted normie but was actually mentally ill and that was something that made me relatable to them). People didn't bother me and I didn't bother them, which I liked as an introvert, but as I lost weight I started to receive INCREDIBLE amounts of attention that I never experienced before. This unfortunately led to a couple of small traumatic experiences. Of course, any girl friend that I had would turn on me because I found myself being more productive and focused on my goals since I felt I didn't have any more fat to drag around, and I was able to realize just how toxic they were and they couldn't believe that someone who used to be "below" them would drop them first. Now I look great and feel great, although things like losing my boobs and a tiny bit of loose skin (thankfully I barely have any despite losing so much weight in a year) did take me a little while to come to terms with. The hardest and most negative thing that has come out of this all has been my social life. I feel so jaded because of how people who I thought were my friends would hurt me and turn on me, now I have huge trust issues and no friends, and people who are nice to me always have ulterior motives. But I look good and am doing excellent in a new career field and with my studies, so for me, it's somewhat of a fair trade.
I went chubby kid and towards the end of my teen years I am 5'9 and 116 pounds. One big thing I noticed older people sometimes say quite off colour things, like assuming you don't eat and say my parents should feed me more. Some older coworkers have even grabbed my waist and hips to remark on my weight. It makes me really uncomfortable. I don't think men really care about weight too much in my experience.
I lost 25kg and yeah, everyone is much nicer to me in general. Having people, men in particular, actually smile at me instead of giving a pleasant neutral expression, changed the entire disposition of my days.
I was really fat in high school and had a huge crush on a fat boy because he was the only person who treated me well. A while back I met him and some others from school and I was hoping we'd have this moment where we'd both grown up and form an attraction, but he just gave me the same serene, warm smile I remember and proceeded to treat me the exact same way. Kind of a letdown, but it's nice to know he's just a very warm, nice person.
same here, I used to feel so hungry all the time and now I get full so easily. It's actually a little bit frustrating sometimes bc I'll want to eat something yummy but feel stuffed so fast lol
I was also surprised that a lot of the junky stuff I used to eat uncontrollably doesn't really appeal to me anymore; I feel more attracted to healthy stuff and just outright feel disgusted at super processed stuff. And it's easier to just have 1 of a snack without feeling compelled to keep going and have like 5 or 6
>>19091>someone who used to be "below" them would drop them first
Jealousy and insecurity is a very ugly thing. Glad you don't have those types of "friends" anymore
I have recently lost 9kg over the span of 4 months to go from the higher end of a healthy BMI to the lower end of a healthy BMI for aesthetics purely. Throughout my life, I have never been properly skinny, except when I was a kid. When I was a teenager, I was overweight and at some point border-line obese, but I was able to get back down to a healthy weight by simple lifestyle changes like decreasing portions and cutting out junk a long time ago. However, I was never able to get under 61kg at 164cm unless I was sick. I usually maintained between 61-63.5kg. However, I never like to get above 63.5kg because it is too close to overweight for me.
I was not overweight, technically, but I was not skinny either. I observed the women at my college and wished that I had figures like them. My dream weight since I was 14 has always been 54kg. I spent time, oddly (this sounds disordered as hell), just obsessively calculating the BMIs of random female celebrities, influencers, and models, and I noticed that almost none of them had a BMI of over 22. I also read about the most desirable BMI being 17-20 in men (oddly, I am not too interested in male attention - there is the feeling that I just want to "maximize" my looks for the shits and giggles.) (I know BMI isn't 100% of a perfect indicator of health at times and does not take lean muscle mass into account, but my thought process loves numbers like these to use as a reference and benchmark). This made me realize that the beauty standard is essentially women who are borderline underweight, unfortunately. I also felt bad because I saw people like Billie Eilish being mocked for being "fat" when she had a similar figure to me. I could envision people saying similar things about me.
At some point, I started counting calories, using measuring spoons and cups and whatnot; I set a goal of about 1200 calories daily, but really, I ended up more at 1200-1400 due to inaccuracies. At some point, I bought a food scale, and that was a big game changer. I lost about 7 pounds that month (though, I suspect that a bit of it was water weight.) It required an insane amount of precision, though. When I was overweight years ago, I seriously didn't have to count calories - all I had to do was cut out bullshit and make better choices. But, at a healthy weight, it seriously required all of my effort to ensure that I was at a deficit and still receiving the right amount of nutrients. With my TDEE already being quite low, one mismeasurement or calculation could have left me at maintenance or above. Embarassingly, my hair started falling out. It was also likely why my grades dropped significantly because I might not have been getting enough food (my deficit probably should have been lower or I might have been overestimating what I ate.) I had to put a lot of effort into getting enough protein since 1200 is little to work with, and I also took a high-quality multivitamin three times a week to ensure that I wasn't deficient in anything. I also truly learned how little food can be so many calories, and I have also learned how to know when I am in the ballpark range of calories because of how long I spent extremely precisely weighing and tracking everything. Later in my weight loss period, I included two treat days during the weekend where I went over maintenance slightly intentionally to ensure that my body did not get used to eating just 1200 calories all the time, and I still managed to lose weight. I never plateaued once. Once I started getting closer to my goal weight, I increased my calories, and only lost two pounds (which I considered successful) that month because I did not want to be losing weight fast at an already low weight to ensure that I could keep it off and that I could make sustainable lifestyle changes.
Once I reached my dream weight, I increased my calories by 100 each week until I reached maintenance in order to prevent water weight gain as a result of increased intake and let my body re-adjust to the new amounts of food, and it worked extremely well. I have been maintaining for nearly a month. I wanted to continue tracking calories for at least 6 months to give me time to re-learn how to eat and set the new habits in stone, but I got sick, which caused me to fall off of the bandwagon. I ended up below my dream weight - BUT - have managed to come back to baseline and stay at baseline without counting calories since then. Interestingly, I feel like my appetite has changed somewhat, and I realize I can eat half the amount I used to and get full. At this point, I have just been listening to my hunger signals within reason as they come and go but try not to overindulge too frequently. I realized that overeating a day is not the end of the world, but if you let it become an every day persistent habit, then you will gain weight.
At the end of all of this, my dream weight was not what I expected it to be. I realize that no matter how much weight I lose, I will still look big on the basis of my bone structure; my hips are wide, my shoulders are broad, and my ribcage is big. Even if I lose more weight, it will not get rid of bone. I realize that this is how many eating disorders start - women try to attain a body that will never be attainable for them due to genetics. Weight loss will not make you magically beautiful unless you already have a Stacy bone structure. But, I also noticed that weight loss at a healthy weight leads to diminishing returns. It requires a fuckload of effort and insane amount of precision to get right, unless you have a smaller appetite naturally. It also highlights the importance of muscle mass; that when you are a healthy weight, the number on the scale matters less than your bodyfat percentage. (I'm still losing my hair eating at maintenance, and I am going to see a doctor about this.) It really highlights how asinine and disconnected from reality the female beauty standards are. It's not a matter of "just don't be fat" when it requires women to be quite of a low weight to be perceived as "not fat" by society. As for male attention, I have noticed that I actually receive less male attention. Generally, now, despite the letdown, I feel truly satisfied with my body and am no longer trying to lose weight for the first while in my life and am trying to prevent myself from losing too much weight while not gaining too much weight either. Has anyone gone through something similar?
>>19532>But, I also noticed that weight loss at a healthy weight leads to diminishing returns. It requires a fuckload of effort and insane amount of precision to get right, unless you have a smaller appetite naturally.
This is something I've been accepting myself recently. I only reached a comparable BMI to your goal (I was at 20.5) when my diet was severely restricted because of outside issues. I balanced my nutrients and protein because I have been compulsive about it since I was fat and lifted weights prior to my problems. During this time I was very cold and would feel like fainting at least 3 times a week in the afternoon despite controlling my diet and getting sleep. Similar to you it also became obvious that my body is just wide despite being 168 cm (which I had already seen coming when I was much larger).
I am left with body image issues now that I've regained to 63 kg, but I am far more active again and my body functions well. There was little energy for 2 hour workouts when I was eating two bland meals and broth each day, even if I was closer to the ideal in looks the functionality for me just wasn't there.
This isn't to say small and skinny women are all weak and low energy. Some of us just might genuinely be a bit bigger and require more food. It is sad female beauty standards are less about function than those of men.
Also>less male attention
Kek yes. I somehow received more when I reached around my current weight and stopped dressing feminine. I also don't seek it from them, it's just funny.