[ Rules / FAQ ] [ meta / b / media / img / feels / hb / x ]

/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Talk about relationships of all kinds, ask for advice, or just vent

*Text* => Text

**Text** => Text

***Text*** => Text

[spoiler]Text[/spoiler] => Text

Direct Link
Options NSFW image
Sage (thread won't be bumped)

News: /cgl/ has been merged with /hb/.
Please read the rules! Last update: 01/18/2019


tfw no bf #4 Anonymous 18677

Old thread ran out of posts:
If you specifically desire a shy bf, this thread also exists now:

Anonymous 18678

>see guy with cute profile pic of him in youtube comments
>1 subscriber
>deduce that he likes piano music and owns chickens
>consider commenting on one of his 3 videos to get in contact
I wouldn't but…the temptation. I feel lonely.

Anonymous 18679

Do it!

Anonymous 18680

It’s winter break now but I am so sick of all these gd guys at school essentially ghosting me
I thought I met the perfect guy in my calc lecture and he just hit all the right spots for me
I invited him to go with me to a local event and we had a great time ending with us making out and strolling our city late night
>tfw finally going to have my bf
>excited to have someone to send cute texts and snaps too over break
Instantly starts ghosting me

Anonymous 18681

I don't really want a boyfriend anymore. I don't know if I am ready to live with someone, go on dates, kiss etc. Just having a really close friend who would let me hug them and watch anime with them is more than enough.

Anonymous 18682

I didn't manage to snag a bf or make any friends in college.
Now I'm panicking because I have nowhere to get bf or friends from.

I want to go back.

Anonymous 18731

You don't have to move in with them just cause you're dating them. In fact I think it's better to not do that personally, I tried and ended up moving back in with my parents because it's a lot of unnecessary relationship stress if you have other roommates and also have all the money stress of being a married couple sharing living expenses but without actually being married.

Anonymous 18733

They were probably just teasing him.

Anonymous 18738

Bunty - screenshot…

Oh, I thought replies to my post would be over since the thread maxxed out and I didn't want to make it awkward by carrying it over here.
I think she may have genuinely been into him, since she's friends with a cute-but-frumpily-dressed obviously autistic girl, a tall obese girl, and one other artsy Stacey.
And to answer >>18522 at long last, I'd rate myself a 5 without makeup but 6 on a good day with makeup. I only wear eyeliner+mascara since I hate the feeling of foundation, sorry.
For reference my face is proportioned and shaped very much like pic related although with dark eyes and hair and a wider nose.
I've had very little luck with men.

Anonymous 18740


tfw no big nosed bf to make you feel better about your own face mounted spear

Anonymous 18743

I think you fell for the oldest trick in the book to be honest.

>Walk up to the class nerd and start flirting with him / ask him out, then laugh when he drops his spaghetti

Used to do that a lot in middle school.

Anonymous 18744

>used to do that a lot
You mean it was done to you? If you did it yourself that's awful, anon.
I have had guys try to do that, as well as girls approach to "befriend" me in middle-high school but never fell for it because the tone of voice always gave it away.
She didn't have this tone though, and we're adults. would you say she's just an outlier then? Are most high-tier women more superficial?

I also always go after men who are short and/or scrawny with unique faces since I think we're brothers in arms and find interesting looks more attractive, but it seems they are always taken or reject me. I'd think that wouldn't be so if Stacey types were more picky.

Anonymous 18745


God, I just want a big (chubby or buff) boyfriend to cuddle with and hug. I'm so fucking lonely.

Anonymous 18749

>I've had very little luck with men
It makes sense, because you're extremely rude and judgemental.

Anonymous 18753

Rude, how so? Although admittedly I do interact cautiously with good looking people, I doubt it bothers them. Wouldn't say it's rude. I don't insult anyone in real life or anything, and clearly I don't personally see average to below average people as lesser since we're on the same team.
It's just a fact that there is a social hierarchy based on looks as well as charisma, of which I have neither quite frankly kek. It's also a fact that there are clearly defined conventional tastes, whether you or I personally agree with them.

In my OP I was just having a bit of stress over women far above my "level" being into men of my "level" since it means I'm shit out of luck. Who can I date if all men will just trade me out when the chance arises? I have a lot of affection, future money, and companionship to offer but I know men weigh perfect looks as most important and if the offer comes…why say no? Why would he stay with wide-nose-acne-bitch if he can get the other benefits with a nicer package? I don't understand it personally but know men are different than us.

Maybe I am judgemental, but aren't we all? It's human shit.

Anonymous 18755

I mean, you just called a girl autistic but that's not really the point. Even though you act cautiously with people in real life and not like on imageboards, you might slip or people who are more… aware could see beyond that. Idk how you are in real life but I'm talking the vibe you give off here.

Anonymous 18756

Alright, I highly suspect she's on the spectrum due to how she expresses herself and the way that she carries herself (shouting things in class that were socially off-tune, monotone voice, always walks on tip toes). Nothing wrong with being autistic but it does upset most people to interact with others who can't read social cues. I don't think that's right but it's how it is, and it makes a case for the other girl I mentioned being accepting of others.

As for your main point…maybe. I'm calling this potentially autistic girl out here but tbh I have shit social skills myself and no charisma, so maybe people do pick up on me being a secret asshole. But it just seems like everyone is even more judgemental than me, hence why I've come to navigate the world this way. If I change I'll just become susceptible to getting hurt.

Anonymous 18758

Good looking people tend to be way nicer!

Anonymous 18759

>posts about potential partner
>uses a big ass Goron as reference
I may know why Stacy has the edge over you

Anonymous 18764


Its over. No guy would want to date now.

Anonymous 18765

Approach men you fool.

Anonymous 18766

men 2018.webm

approaches man
man runs away terrified

stacies ruined men for the rest of us

Anonymous 18767

That was painful to watch

Anonymous 18769


Try not to start choking either.

Anonymous 18771

That article has been retracted.
>This article and its headline originally stated that a male student at the University of Missouri was found in violation of Title IX because he asked a female student on a date and “was perceived as having power over her.” The article accurately quoted the deposition of the Title IX case, but it left out relevant details. In fact, the male student had made repeated, unwelcome advances toward the female student and was found in violation of Title IX for stalking her. He is suing the university and alleging that its Title IX office engaged in arbitrary enforcement and racial discrimination, but his lawsuit does not contest the fact pattern left out of this article. We are retracting the article and we regret the error. The article, including the initial editor’s note, is below.

tl;dr he was actually stalking her a lot and the news articles conveniently left that out because this looked like a good story on its own.

Anonymous 18773

I see. I'll have to learn not to trust or get upset by media outlets again.

Anonymous 18784

What the fuck is going on here? I'm genuinely curious ahahahaha

Anonymous 18786

How do I approach guys?

Anonymous 18788

The anons attacking you are clearly just jealous
Theres nothing wrong with using the term autistic to describe traits
And you seem very pretty don’t get discouraged
Your looks from what you described definitely outshine mine
But you’re right that men trade up to a Stacey at any chance
I’ve had a boyfriend of 3 years and although we are both pretty average people I have terrible nightmares of him cheating on me with hot girls
If some girl like Ariana grande asked your boyfriend to cheat he most definitely will
Makes me feel so depressed

Anonymous 18789

The man was previously accused of sexual harassment when he put his arm around another announcer or something, and it led to a lot of media reports and stuff.

Anonymous 18791

I wish I had a bf
but all guys that approach me are ugly

Anonymous 18807


Same. I would rather be alone than go out with a guy who has absolutely nothing going for him. Looks are the bare minimum. Even certain guys with unattractive features can get away with it if they groom themselves to look respectable or stylish.

Anonymous 18827

>i have a story of an attractive person happily asking out an ugly partner
>somehow this is evidence that i will never be able to get a boyfriend due to being ugly
stop being so negative anon
you should look at that story of stacey and ugly-boy as encouraging

Anonymous 18829

wow I want an qt 2d lawyer bf now

Anonymous 18831

>guys that approach me
A-are you a Stacy?

Anonymous 18883

I hate how easily attached I get to very specific people. I have a oneitis I've been trying to get over but it's hard. He's a very sweet and intelligent person, but he just doesn't want to date anyone. Previously I found that the only way to get over a guy was to find his faults or find somebody else but I genuinely can't fault this man. He's the person I care about the most in my life and he's done absolutely nothing wrong. Getting rejected hurts more than being dumped to me.

Anonymous 18884

>weigh 180 lbs at 5'4
>become 110 lbs
>try to dress more fashionable because I'm more confident
Guys hit on me monthly now it's easy. Men are simple. The guys who hit on me aren't ones I want to date though, most of them seem sleazy and sex-obsessed.

Anonymous 18885

I kind of ended up in the situation you seem to want and eventually a lot of problems showed up. Apparently I don't feel I'm enough to have a partner, I'm 100% convinced it's not for me even though I crave it so much. So, I get close to people and try to become their close friend and have this platonic relationship where we hug or occasionally say cute things to each other. The problem is, I still secretly, subconsciously, or whatever-ly, want the 'benefits' of an actual romantic relationship. So I try to ask for more attention and love in a subtle way. But of course the other person only wants me as a friend and wont go that far. Then I start getting jealous and try to guilt trip the person and it all goes to hell. Summing up, be careful what you wish for, maybe once you get that 'friend' you'll want more but they wont and you wont want to lose them and everything will hurt so much

Anonymous 18977


You ARE going to have a boyfriend by 2020 right cc?

Anonymous 18985

Has he outright stated he doesn't want to date, or is he just reserved? I know a couple guys like that, might be a combination of low self-worth or inexperience with relationships.

Anonymous 19016

I'm too old for one now. I'm at the age people are asking me if I'm married with kids. Don't be like me and get a husband when you are in your early 20's.

Anonymous 19017

It's my resolution!!!
I will probably fail, although I got a date once in 2018 so I'm getting there.

Anonymous 19018

I don't want a bf any more.
I'm too bitter to have a bf. I wouldn't be comfortable with a person who isn't a mentally ill, jaded piece of shit like me. I don't even want to get better.

I have to put all of this effort to become normal just so I can be "good enough" for someone? I doubt they'd appreciate it, they'd probably look down on me for struggling with things others do effortlessly. I hate normal and happy people, they can go to hell.

Anonymous 19019

Get a NEET robot bf then? There are a lot of angry depressed men out there.

Anonymous 19020

When you hate yourself, why would you want to be with someone who is like yourself?

I think one jaded bitter asshole in my life is already one too many, I don't need a second one.

Anonymous 19021

oh. that sounds like me.

Anonymous 19022

>I have to put all of this effort to become normal just so I can be "good enough" for someone? I doubt they'd appreciate it.
Yeah no one owes you anything for getting yourself in order. But if you find a good guy he'll have empathy for whatever you're facing when you are with him.

Anonymous 19023

>But if you find a good guy he'll have empathy for whatever you're facing when you are with him.
Yeah right.

What was the saying? "Don't stick your dick in crazy". No man wants a mentally ill girl as a gf. In fact, a "good guy" is more likely to dump you, because why would a good guy waste time on you, when he can get himself a good girl?

Garbage people attract other garbage people with low standards. I wish I got hit by a bus, but I'd have to go outside for that to happen.

Anonymous 19028

I meant after you pull it together a bit.

Anonymous 19029

Anonymous 19035

I wish anyone would approach me

Anonymous 19046

Lucky. Tiny weens are so cute.
>tfw no kind, small pengis bf

Anonymous 19048

NTA but, garbage taste tbh. Bigg dicc on an otherwise smol and cute boy is to die for.

Anonymous 19049

Why do you all want to choke when giving oral? I would prefer no pain or humiliation during sex but that's just me.
Small men are patrician taste though.

Anonymous 19050

>choke when giving oral
Who said anything about that? It's not like you have to fit the whole thing in your mouth anyway. You have hands for a reason.
>pain or humiliation
I'll admit pain is sometimes and issue, but I don't see how humiliation has anything to do with dick size. Unless you've got some weird complex where you find any little difficulty humiliating.

Anonymous 19051


Thankfully now that we can actually choose who we are with dicklets will be finally erased from gene pool.

Anonymous 19052

Sadly for you, girls like us will keep the cute dick gene spreading :3

Anonymous 19053

But I need to be able to fit it in my mouth if I want to pull off the lifting-the-boy-while-giving-bj move.
I guess generally it just wouldn't benefit me, so I can't understand. I don't have fantasies of "being filled" as I've seen other women say and can cum easily from minimal penetration so there's no greater appeal. For women who are into that and/or can't orgasm unless from a large benis I guess I understand a preference.
Damn right.

Anonymous 19054

I don't know about that, there'll always be girls that don't care or prefer smaller and there's always someone on the wrong end of the bell curve.

Your preference will never not perplex me.

Anonymous 19055

Let me guess tiny is 6" for you.

Anonymous 19056

>I want to pull off the lifting-the-boy-while-giving-bj move.
Maybe you shouldn't want that, proper taste is a good old fashioned bj.

Anonymous 19057

I dunno. Walk towards them, slap them on the ass and ask if he want's to be your bottom bitch or something like that.

Might work.

Anonymous 19059

Just use this script
>Hey <his name>, wanna go bowling Friday night? They're doing a 2 for 1 deal on nacho platters.
Obviously replace the <his name> with his actual name, but like the name he goes by and not the literal words "his actual name". You get me?

Anonymous 19062

Deepthroat is just such a dumb porn meme.
The tip is where the penis is sensitive. Tongue work is everything.

Anonymous 19063


Literally tried this once. His response: "Sure! Who else is coming?"

Anonymous 19064


Just play with your hair and giggle at everything like you're a brain dead Stacey

Anonymous 19065

He's outright stated that we should just be friends and that he's probably just going to stay living the bachelor life. I can't blame him for not wanting to date me. I live in a different state and have no career.

Anonymous 19066

Can't tell if this was written by a robot troll trying to reinforce stereotypes about us.

Anonymous 19067


It's a robot

Anonymous 19068

And? Did you just give up because of his autism or did you tell him it's a date?

Anonymous 19069


I said I didn't know yet and then we invited the rest of our friends

Anonymous 19070

You dug your own grave then.

Anonymous 19071

why would you assume otherwise?
And short is 5'4" or less.
>she thinks objectively good taste exists

Anonymous 19072


So what do I do now? ;_;

Anonymous 19073

Invite him to something else except just you and him.
Try ice skating or mini golf. Or just invite him to a sit-down restaurant. Not fast food and not a fancy dress-up place though.
If he asks you who else is coming, just say "just you and me ;)". Winky face is mandatory.

Anonymous 19078

Then you remind him it's TWO FOR ONE nachos and call him a big dummy

Anonymous 19080


Just date a girl or something, what you are describing is not a man

Anonymous 19081

Men equal to or shorter than 5'4" are less than 5% of the population (in my country), but they exist. And a small penis doesn't mean no penis.
You okay? No one is forcing you to date them.
I should clarify I wouldn't dump a man for having a regular or big dick if we got along and he was otherwise small/cute to me. It's fine, although not preferable.

Anonymous 19082

Also looks like op's post complaining about small dicks was deleted, weird.
Was it bait/LARP or what?

Anonymous 19091

Pretty much, it was along the lines of "Why do all the nice boys have to have small penises, I'm tired of being disappointed"

Anonymous 19092

How is that different than half the posts here?

Anonymous 19100


>tfw no nice weeb gf to watch cute slice of life anime while cuddling

Anonymous 19101

anime sux

Anonymous 19103


Anonymous 19133


If i encountered a male with my hobbies and lifestyle we won't even started talking, because it's too awkward and tiresome.

If i met a male with ideal body, strong jawline, who suddenly decided to hit on me i whould think i'm getting pranked.

If i met a male, who wants to pay for me i whould be insulted.

etc, etc

As a result in last several weekends all imagined situations, where i encountered a somehow or fully ideal bf were failed.

Anonymous 19134

why are you avataring with this animu girl

Anonymous 19135

Well if you ask me "why" then i could say, that i find her image motivating. In animu "Kemono Friends", she is a grey wolf-like human, made for educational purposes and unlike other "friends" she developed a skill in drawing. Aquiring this skill even for modern humans is hard, not to mention beastgirls, who are somehow dumber than… i like wolfs and that's it.

Anonymous 19138


she cute

Anonymous 19139

I'm afraid now that even if I do get a bf he'll be a pedo/a necrophile/non-committal.
I've read too many stories of shit men and realize they all may be that way.

Anonymous 19140

One of my nightmares is dating a feteshist.

Imagine, a normal-looking bf, who suddenly asks to lick your feet or something like that.


Anonymous 19141

I mean, that's personally fine with me. It's just the morally reprehensible stuff and abandonment that get to me.
Sexually incompatible (he turns out to be a dom) would be disappointing but not as awful as if he was into fucking dead bodies of children.

Anonymous 19142

> if he was into fucking dead bodies of children
Than he probably won't date a living mature girl or something

Anonymous 19143

There are definitely pedos who get married though (and molest their kids).
Not sure about necrophiles but I imagine if it's not their sole fetish it happens.

Anonymous 19144

samurai logic.webm

> some men want to get married just to molest their own daughter/son
Sometimes i envy lesbians

Anonymous 19145

Is there a fetish of respecting and acknowledging women?

Anonymous 19147

It's called "being gay"

Anonymous 19150

lmao do you have any idea how misogynist the average gay is

Anonymous 19152

Retard radfems pls go

Anonymous 19154

Nice paranoia sisters, get help

Anonymous 19157

Hello gay male

Anonymous 19158

>lmao do you have any idea how misogynist the average gay is
This. Holy shit. Supportive "gurlfriend" gay guy is a complete Hollywood meme.

Anonymous 19159

>back at uni
>tfw in the vicinity of tiny men daily but still none to wrap my arms around
Another few months of temptation, lasses. Back to staring at them on the bus and making them uncomfortable.

Anonymous 19160

I’m here to encourage you all - it can happen!
I was the band nerd valedictorian never been kissed girl who went to a Seven Sister surrounded by ultra-mega-turbo Stacies.
After first year I told my mom to accept that I was going to die unmarried and childless.
Then two girls I barely knew did the whole
“It’s Friday! You’re coming for pizza and we won’t take no for an answer!”
And this guy just - started talking to me. Tall, deep voice (oh, god, his voice. I have seen women tell him they’d marry him just to hear him say ‘good morning’ every day), broad shoulders, black hair, green eyes…..
I was sure it was a joke.
Knew it had to be a prank.
Especially when he gave me a business card.
But the girls with me pestered me until I called, he answered, he asked me out.
3 years ago and a few months. We’ll be married 1 year next month. Baby coming in May.
Never give up hope

Anonymous 19161

But anon, if they're tiny that means they can't fight back.

Anonymous 19163


Guy detected

Anonymous 19169

Nice roleplay fantasy bro

Anonymous 19170

That's probably why they get uncomfortable tbh. I am a sturdy gal.
Although I may have a chance to make contact with one I was eying last semester since he's in my psych elective. He's very cute, a serious little man who is always alone (like me). I think we give off similar vibes actually.
I think normie and sub women get turned on by fear, and some dommes like the idea of having a Big Boy to control.
To each their own.

Anonymous 19208

am i a normie for liking chubby/average guys that watch superhero movies, play ps4 and have a decent car? or do i just have normie taste?

Anonymous 19209

Considering how normalfagish those interests are now, yes you are.

Anonymous 19211

i'm 23 and there's this guy i work with and he's super cute, kind of fat but in a cute way and a handsome face. but he's 19… we talk every day and he make's me so happy that i actually like working but i don't know if he would ever want to date an older girl. anyone else know this feel?

Anonymous 19213

>kind of fat but in a cute way
lol what does that even mean, being fat is never cute on males. unless hes actively working out then dont bother with him

Anonymous 19214

>being fat is never cute on males
Are you trying to imply it is cute on women?

Anonymous 19217

>he make's me so happy that i actually like working
This is cute. I get what you mean but maybe he's one of those guys who don't mind a small age difference?

Oh shut up, LARPer.

Anonymous 19238

thats not true at all, lots of men have a saviour complex and will want to try and fix you. thats also not good for you but still, its something.

Anonymous 19239

Its all about the setting. Go to a place where guys who would share your hobbies go and try to start talking to them about it. From there just let the conversation flow and laugh at the dumb jokes.
Plenty of guys are into that tbh. Just don't try to stab him and your copacetic.

Anonymous 19288

Past 18, 4 years is like nothing regardless of who's older, as long as the age difference doesn't mean one of you would have to move away for college or some other reason like that.

Anonymous 19289

The age difference isn't an issue in my mind but are you willing to risk the friendly coworker. I don't liek mixing work with passion.

Anonymous 19353

why do you think "don't stick your dick in crazy" has become such a popular phrase? it's because people still do, even when it's against their better judgement. even if you're off the walls bonkers you'll still probably be able to find somebody who's interested in you, providing you put yourself out there enough to have the opportunity to meet him

Anonymous 19354

I know a couple people like that. It's not a complete meme, although they are hard to find.

Anonymous 19367

When does age difference start mattering?

Anonymous 19397

People should stop worrying about an arbitrary number difference, and instead consider how comfortable you feel around the other person and if you understand their life experiences. I honestly think dating someone from another country can be harder than dating someone with a 10 year difference in age.

Anonymous 19423

>guy I regularly stare at trips when he sees me staring at him
This is as romantic as it will ever get for me, isn't it?

Anonymous 19431

Not if you ask him out.

Anonymous 19433

Starting at puberty, it matters less and less over time. It's really creepy for a 16 year old to date a 12 year old, but 54 and 50 is totally normal.

Anonymous 19434

>be mixed Indigenous and white
>prefer brown guys (mostly desi or mixed latino)
>every time I see brown guys dating outside of same race it's only aryan blonde girls
Is this a rule? Or just a trend?
I can't even change this aspect of myself. I'd go for other natives but we're so few and far between off the reserve and I'm not going there.

Anonymous 19437

>tfw had a chance to last semester since we always rode the same bus home and while waiting for it he never listened to music or checked his phone often
>decided to take creep shots of him instead
He also seems to be kind of social despite having dweeby skeleton energy, which is very different from me. Idk. Maybe if the chance arises.

Anonymous 19438

If you're picking partners based on their race, don't be surprised when others do the same.
That said, it's simple statistics that most of the girlfriends in North America are white, so if a brown person isn't dating another brown person, they're probably dating a white person.

Anonymous 19442

I mean, I guess I'm not actually surprised. You're right about the probability, I'm just T R I G G E R E D because I'm jealous and need something to blame my failure on.
Just looking for a reason that I'm still a khv at 21 while trying to ignore the true reason (I'm a creepy asshole).
Catch me next week blaming my downward canthal tilt and the fact that I have barely visible crooked bottom teeth or some bullshit.

If I don't have a partner by the time I graduate I may kys myself since my life choices have all been made in order for me to support someone, so stay tuned in 4 years if cc still exists. I may also pussy out though.

Anonymous 19503


I got dumped and I don't know how long I should wait for things to cool down and maybe have another talk and see if things can be worked out or if I should just give up and heal and then start looking again. But I've given up on trusting any men and had what I thought was one of the last trustworthy guys. I have a shitton of issues I'm working on (finally getting into therapy again) so I don't know how I'd even start letting myself be vulnerable again.

Anonymous 19505

>he dumped you
>don't trust men
Male hypergamy? Sorry he left you for "better" women, that's disgusting. Why are men such garbage?

Anonymous 20761


>tfw no bf who will let me kiss his tummy, then suckle on his nipples and cry from joy

Anonymous 20779


>no idea how to meet a man now that I don't plan to go back to uni
>nearly a year since my ex and I broke up
>just turned 26, starting to feel the spiderwebs form in my crotch
I just want a cute guy whose confident and supportive. Doesn't even have to have the same tastes or hobbies as me. I have no idea how to meet these cuties though, and I'm deathly afraid of using Tinder.

I've done so much to reinvent my life, but I've got no one to share it with. I lurk /adv/ on 4chan and every single time some guy ask "how do I find women" and some anon goes "lol just go to bars breh" I get so fucking mad. Like, I don't go to clubs, they scare me to pieces, I don't drink, and I've only ever been with 2 other guys that were years long ordeals. I just sit at home making art and writing all fucking day. I don't know where to go that isn't some sleazy club.

I just wish I were back in uni. At least I'd maybe get noticed more and I wouldn't have to consciously go to some place were predatory men are just looking for another notch.

>guy friend has been wanting me to go on a date with his buddy for about 2 weeks now

>early 30's, not the cutest guy and he's a bit chubby, but he's a commercial pilot that makes good money, takes really good care of himself, and is really sweet
>guy friend tells me how much he talks about me when I'm not around them
>tell him I'm flattered, but honestly feel creeped out because his friend won't tell this to me directly, even though we see each other all the time outside of work
>worried that this might be my only chance since I'm such a fucking shut-in
>conflicted between wanting to stay single until I find someone better aligned with my wants or going on a date with a guy who borderline obsesses over me when we aren't around each other and might have a closet filled with skeletons

I'm losing my fucking mind. Seriously, I envy all of you still in college.

Anonymous 20780

It's been said once, and it'll be said again. Coffeeshops, churches, community groups. Basically the opposite of nightlife. Maybe give the guy a chance, but if your suspicions are true, drop him.

Anonymous 20781


Not everyone wants a religious significant other, and even if a religious person would be fine, I'd be wary of someone who regularly attends church. It's cultish.

Anonymous 20782


I'm not religious, but thanks. I might start doing my writing at a small shop I have near my house. It's always busy as hell. I just feel I won't get approached. I'll keep an eye out though.

>give the guy a chance

I'm willing to, especially when we first met, I definitely was, but I'm conflicted with the whole "ask out by proxy" bullshit. Like, how many times might he have done this with other women? I might be overthinking it, but I don't like how he is using his friend to drop hints. It feels really cowardly, and he friend keeps upselling him. Like, it seems shady as hell. Why can't he sell himself? I don't know. Bad vibes. I don't like judging people like this, but he hasn't approached me to make me feel any different about the situation. Am I judging too much?

Anonymous 20785


I don't think you're asking too much at all. You said you want someone who is confident, he's not. But if you really want to give him a shot anyway, you ask him. Worth a shot and you can try a proper date. If it's no good you've settled it once and for all and gone above and beyond to give him the benefit of the doubt and more than a fair chance to step up.

Anonymous 20788

Jesus Christ just tell your proxy friend to tell the pilot that he must either grows the balls to ask you out or stop bothering you all about it.
As about meeting places, can't you make your art outdoors?
I don't think majority of men find acne repulsing or ugly. But that's just only my opinion.
I love those posts with statements like "he had X but didn't have y". It makes me wonder how likely those women are to change their partner for a "better" one. With better looks/penis/money. All I want in mine is to be caring and that he made me feel "love". That's not much. Unless me bf would make me feel miserable, I wouldn't dump him.

Anonymous 20804

>I won't get approached
No, anon. The biggest most important thing to do in this situation is to make the approach. This guy is definitely a shy one. I don't know if you've been pining for a shy bf, but this is that.

Anonymous 20808


hirame one of the best, hentai artist in the industry right now, did a really amazing hentai with this girl if i remember correctly

Anonymous 20809

>live in town thats 99.9% white
>22 and still havent even completed a associates.

Ive been trying to loose weight and improve my looks as of late tho.

Anonymous 20811

You're off to a good start. Don't be afraid of socialising, before you start feeling comfortable with your appearance. Your personality is a muscle waiting to be trained, just like your body.

Anonymous 20880

There's a guy I've seen around uni who is top tier cute to me (babby face and a remarkable 5'1" or so) but I have no way of ever speaking to him. We've made eye contact a few times and he looks at me every time we're in the same vicinity but I fear that might be because I dress oddly rather than because he finds me cute lol.

How frustrating. He seems a bit social/normie too and I've cold approached one of those before and I don't want to waste anyone's time. But at the same time I do…

Anonymous 20894

is there a tfw no gf thread or do i dump it here bc
>tfw no gf
I have a crush on this cute girl, but she lives far away and I know that I have absolutely no chance ;__;
We will cosplay from the same series at an upcoming con though (and our characters get shipped occasionally so it makes me a tiny bit more excited for it)
still sad

Anonymous 21165


I thought college meant that I would be hooking up with multiple guys and have many options for potential bfs. Already halfway into my first year and I haven't even kissed someone.
I'm tired of being lonely

Anonymous 21168

The odds are the same as anywhere else sadly. It all depends on how willing you are to go up and talk to people.

Anonymous 21169


is there anyone you're interested in?

Anonymous 21228

there's some people I find cute but not one specific person. what sucks tho is finding someone cute and then realize they're already talking to or hooking up with someone, and im too shy to even think about shooting my shot.

Anonymous 21236


picture very relevant

Anonymous 21448


Update: we got really drunk, made out and almost fucked

>Tfw he couldn't get one up cause he was too drunk

>Hasn't talked to me since


Anonymous 21452

>getting someone you like drunk
>trying to have sex with them drunk
>not realising how that sounds
Looks like you just dug your own
grave, again. Start over, and
please don't ever do that again.

Anonymous 21454



How do I get someone to love me, then?

Anonymous 21455


Ah the classic flirt with everyone, but not really haha, I'm just being friendly lol - move.

Anonymous 21456

Don't be shy. Open up! Just remember to be yourself, and not try to get them drunk. It's not very nice.

Anonymous 21457


But what if I need to be drunk to not be shy?

Anonymous 21458

>Ah the classic flirt with everyone, but not really haha, I'm just being friendly lol
I call that a typical Saturday night

Anonymous 21460

The first step is admitting you have a problem.

Anonymous 21461


What is step 2?

Anonymous 21463

Believing a power greater than yourself could restore your sanity.

Anonymous 21464

>We did something maybe embarrassing
>Hasn't talked to me since

You told him that hookup wasn't bad and you want to see him again, didn't you?

Anonymous 21465


Hypothetically speaking, would it be bad if I didn't?

We haven't talked since, as I said

Anonymous 21472

God, anon. If there's one thing you can learn from this it's to not do those things. Just move on and try again.

Anonymous 21497


>guy in one of my classes approaches me after class to ask about something that was just addressed by the prof before we left
>begins conversing with me (small talk)
>pretty respectful, asked if I was okay with him accompanying me to my locker to talk
>he fits what I find attractive almost 100% (except he's an inch taller, I like short boys usually)
I feel…bad about it though, and am not attracted to him for some reason. Just the other week I sat near him and had a sexual fantasy about him (as I do because I'm gross), but now I just feel sick about it.

I'm so used to making men uncomfortable and pursuing them myself that I can't be open to them if they (potentially) reciprocate it. Obviously I don't know if he's interested in me at all, but if he is it's upsetting somehow.

Just venting about me cockblocking my own damn self. jfc I can't win.
tfw your brain won't let you have a bf

Anonymous 21514

Make him wear flats, and put boosts in your shoes. Also please let yourself be in love. If you really can't will yourself to it, then at least pretend to. Think about how he feels.

Anonymous 21525

I'd say you have to get a grip on your own life, first. Why are you even dating? Because I see you talking about your actions, and how blatantly you didn't think this through, and I can't help but imagine how I'd feel telling my kids one day that was how the first date with their father went.

Learn to love yourself. I understand that phrase has become one for narcissistic people to latch on to, to justify their actions, but the core of the statement still has merit. A healthy relationship is founded on trust, respect, and compassion. Socially, you're displaying to the world
>I have decided to see if this person is worth spending the rest of my life with
and are locking yourself out of all other possible men.

If you fail to grasp this, and treat it with the weight it carries, you'll continue to be strung through a series of heartbreaks and misery. Which also means you can't focus on finding "the right guy" who will fix you, over "being the right girl" and fixing yourself. I hope what I'm saying reaches you, Anon. You're a sweet girl, and you deserve to have a loving husband some day. You just have some personal hangups holding you back, and not letting you realize you're deserving of love, too.

Anonymous 21546

Literally just use Tindr

Anonymous 21547

*your ability to communicate with people personally

Nobody who considers themselves a social outcast should use a dating app to get started meeting people.

Anonymous 21550

I dunno if guys are likely to cheat on you with a "hotter" woman, a lot of guys at church who I know are dating girls who might not be rated on the 1-10 scale above sorority Stacies, but those girls are always smiling and their boyfriends seem to prefer how nice and stable these girls are. Just my two cents, but it feels like in both guys and girls, good mental health and virtue can add points to your attractiveness to the opposite sex.

Anonymous 21551

Good for you. Don't lower your standards for anyone.

Anonymous 21552

You need to go outside and put yourself in the line of fire. Just be social and you'll eventually get good opportunities. If you're so far into your head that you need to imagine ideal scenarios, you're not spending enough time out and about.

Anonymous 21553

There is, it's called being starved for companionship and hoping for a good woman

Anonymous 21554

Are you implying incels respect women?

Anonymous 21555

Sure they can, the incel meme is pretty bad and I wish it would go away honestly. People who disrespect women have had sex and didn't have sex. The ability of them being able to stick it to a girl doesn't magically mean they respect women. My father is an utter piece of shit who made me and he doesn't respect women, shit he doesn't even respect his kid.

And I know an incel whose so depressed and down on himself at this point due to life circumstances and a really abusive relationship that he can't even find the will or self-esteem to be able to put himself out there that doesn't sound like a bunch of self-loathing and hatred about himself at this point. No girl wants to see a guys pity party on a dating site, and he doesn't understand how to sell himself or see any good in himself. So realistically, there are more incel than just the typical "thot patrol" meme ones that deserve a chance. The world and people aren't black and white, don't let echo chamber memes of normies paint ideas of how people are.

Anonymous 21556

t. incel

Anonymous 21565

Maybe not 'incels' per se, but I've definitely seen guys who really want you to be their best friend first and foremost. Meeting someone like that requires a healthy combination of high standards, self respect, and willingness to take risks within the first two rules. I'm biased towards Church, if that doesn't work for you just try other places you feel safe / somewhat comfortable that aren't your room.
The bar meme is an utter meme, though, and if you don't like bars, you're in luck, because there are a shitload of dudes who don't like bars too. This part might sound weird, but I have a theory that in public places where people go to chill, but not to hook up, guys are less likely to approach girls for fear of looking like predators / assholes. I think that if you can find common ground with someone, striking up a conversation with him might just work out. I dunno, I'm just musing, since things are weird these days. I'd rather have guys asking me all the time, because it's the simplest way to do things, but in this day and age, who the fuck knows anymore.

Anonymous 21611

>tfw this boy smiled at me today without me smiling first or ever at him before
See you, femcels.

Anonymous 21820

Pretty sure we have a thread specifically for that scenario.
Hang out with white guys and ask one out.

Anonymous 21851

That guy probably feels like a looser and ashamed as shit for not being able to fill the shoes the situation put him in like the culture says he should have.

Anonymous 21858

If he can't get hard then he is a loser. She was right to cut off contact with him.

Anonymous 21875

Sometimes I think half of this website consists of larping males…

Anonymous 21890

What's it like to hold and love someone?

What's it like to be held and loved?

Anonymous 21893

I don't know.

Anonymous 21894

I only know half of this feel. The loved part, I dunno, but I'm also trying to learn to enjoy being single.

Anonymous 21895


They’re both amazing, the best feelings I’ve ever experienced. There’s something special about feeling the bodily warmth of the other person pressing against you, feeling their heartbeat. When you’re cuddling with someone you love it really feels like time is frozen. Not being nervous to be intimate with someone and being able to confide anything to them with complete trust is really comforting. Maybe I’m being melodramatic but love is just a wonderful feeling. You will find it anons.

Anonymous 21900


>tfw begin coping with tfw no bf when tfw no gf hits
Bisexuality is no joke. 0/10 would not recommend unless you're hot and socially proficient.

Anonymous 21902

red pandas fightin…

>tfw bi but >tfw no gf or >tfw no bf rarely bother me
It's an interesting feel. Pretty nice most of the time.

Anonymous 21912


>tfw shy qt anime bf of my dreams is out there and probably lives within walking distance of me but is too shy to ask me out
I know this is an unhealthy mindset but I feel like such a hoe whenever I make any move towards a boy and all the boys who talk to me are awful

Anonymous 21914

You could always try looking for them. You won't know they aren't there until you're sure of it.

[Return] [Catalog]
[ Rules / FAQ ] [ meta / b / media / img / feels / hb / x ]