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vent thread Anonymous 25163

the other one has reached full capacity.
i hope those wings were good, anon.

Anonymous 25164

How do you get a UTI from eating wings lmao

Anonymous 25165

i wish it was easier to make friends at work.

Anonymous 25166

Did you just skip over the masturbation part?

Anonymous 25167

It took me some time to realize she was inferring she didn’t wash her hands

Anonymous 25173

I'm still really bitter about one of my ex-friends. I was the one who ended things last year because she did something incredibly shitty and didn't even recognize it when I explained it to her. I wish I had just ghosted her completely and let her assume I died or something instead of giving her closure tbh. I'm back in my hometown and praying to God I don't run into her because I genuinely hate her. Even though I hate her, I don't wish ill upon her. I just wish she'd fucking move to Oregon like she gushed about and get out of my life. I'm honestly considering seeing a therapist just to talk about my butthurtness with this shit, because I've tried to move on for months. School was a good distraction but now that's over, and no one has hired me yet (so no job as a distraction). I didn't even like her as a friend that much but the betrayal ruined me. I have really good friends who weren't involved at all, so I should be happy.

Anonymous 25174

Similar feel here. I have had this friend for 8+ years, we've grown apart over the years but I always held her in very high regard. Sometimes we've clashed but we always talked about it, recently I asked where I stand with her and I took her at face value when she told me things were fine between us, but since then I've heard from other people what she's been saying about me and it's not malicious but she doesn't seem to have a high opinion of me. I wish she'd just told me once during our convos that she isn't interested in being friends anymore, I gave her plenty of opportunity to do so but only get fairweather responses. It's really disappointing. Over the years I've often muted her on social media because I was exhausted with her for several reasons but I always thought we were at least casual friends still, and now this is how it ends, with me learning what she says about me behind my back. Makes me wish I just distanced myself earlier rather than bending over backwards to stay in her good graces.

Anonymous 25176

What makes it so hard? Too busy?

Anonymous 25179

Didn't get the chance to ask this last time because of the post limit, but was it spicy?

Anonymous 25180

Yee, they were from wingstop

Anonymous 25184

Anonymous 25189

that really sucks. It seems common for friends to complain about each other behind their backs, but if it's that excessive I don't get why they just keep the friendship going anyway. It sounds like you tried really hard to talk things out but she was unresponsive. I was also friends with my person for awhile, about 5 years, and I was more of the type to just bottle things up if she said something that rubbed me the wrong way. So I respect that you two were able to be more open at least in the beginning lol. I hope we can forget these people even though there were some good memories.

Anonymous 25191


I’m >>24343 from the last thread. I posted this same story on /ck/, and all the anons there speculated it must have been the lone coworker I worked with that had something to do with my firing, because I mentioned the fact that I couldn’t pinpoint what was wrong with my work performance and management never checked in on us the entire time.

Then I remembered, she asked me why I left my last job and I told her that it was because I had a serious mental health crisis. She then asked what mental illness it was and I told her it was bipolar disorder. /ck/ anons told me that a likely scenario is that she got spooked since we were working with knives and probably complained to management, and that I ought to have learned my lesson to never trust coworkers no matter how nice they seem and to keep personal shit like that to myself at all times (idiot me, I know).

Now obviously this could be reaching too far, but if that were actually true it would be a highly illegal thing to fire me over simply having a mental illness since the mentally ill are protected by the ADA. They told me it was my work performance, but I emailed them asking for feedback as to what I was doing wrong and it has been weeks with no response. It’s a very mysterious situation and I’m pretty spooked myself about the unknown, and whether or not I may have just experienced illegal workplace discrimination.

Also the biggest, fattest spider just crawled on my shoe as I was typing this which only adds to the anxiety.

Anonymous 25194

I think they're definitely onto something. You're correct that they can't openly fire you for a mental illness, which is probably why they masked it as a work performance issue. It covers their ass unless you aggressively pursue legal action, and even then you'd probably have a long legal battle ahead of you.

I can't imagine anyone having legitimate work performance issues on their first day unless they literally just didn't show up.

You might want to come up with a different reason for the next time that question comes up though. Best to keep the personal stuff on the DL at work until you really get to know you co-workers and whether you can trust them with that kind of information.

Anonymous 25195

I thought for a moment about taking some kind of action against them (lawsuit or other means) but it definitely wouldn't be worth it, even my Dad who is a lawyer and completely agrees about the possibility that this was disability discrimination told me to let it go and that it's a good thing I don't work for them anymore if that's the kind of people they are. So I guess that's true.

I've already posted some of their secret NDA-protected recipes on /ck/ anonymously though so at least I've got some subtle revenge. >_>

Anonymous 25198

My birthday is a week from now and all I really want is a swift and painless death

Anonymous 25201

We'll be here to celebrate, anon. Maybe craftsanon can make you something!

Anonymous 25207

Have a date in 10 minutes and I think I’m gonna have a panic attack

Anonymous 25208

Good luck! Have fun <3

Anonymous 25209

tell us how it goes, even if it's not so great! you can get like an ice cream or something so even if the date isn't so great, you still got ice cream out of it.

Anonymous 25245

she didn't tell us how the date went…

Anonymous 25246

Maybe they've fallen so hard in love that they're getting married right now?

Anonymous 25258


>tfw I'm saving myself for "that special one"
>but "that special one" is most likely not saving himself for me

why couldn't I just get rid of my virginity with a random guy like any other stacey…

Anonymous 25260

If they aren't saving themselves then they weren't the one to begin with. Be the one you want to be with, anon. You'll find him yet.

Anonymous 25261

>two virgins lying on the bed

Anonymous 25268

>two virgins kissing
Way more hot to them than you, and honestly, isn't that what matters the most?

Anonymous 25276


Sorry about that, I pretty much slept all yesterday because I was emotionally exhausted and spent the day doing schoolwork.
He picked me up and I could tell he was even more nervous than I was, which made me feel better. We went out to dinner and then spent almost two hours just walking and holding hands. When he dropped me off he walked me to my porch and I could tell he wanted to kiss but I kind of freaked out because I’ve never kissed anyone so I hugged him and told him good night and went inside. He told me he had fun.

I’m feeling so many emotions right now. I can’t tell if my nervousness was from being attracted to him, or going out with a guy in general. The thought of kissing makes me want to cry because I know I’d be bad at it and embarrassed. I can’t tell if I even like men. I don’t know if I want a relationship or not. I hate myself and I wish I got this sorted out in high school so I’d at least have some idea of what I want.

Anonymous 25279

I’ve heard from someone else he was in a relationship two years ago, so idk. I’m used to being surrounded by girls who have had boyfriends for years or just FWBs so I’m not sure how this works.

Anonymous 25280

So cute. If only I could have experiences such as this. Take him, anon. People like this are suckers for determination.

Anonymous 25282

Aww this is really similar to my first date!! We were both awkward virgins, too. Holding hands while walking around was the best feeling ever. (it still feels great, tbh) Don't worry about kissing so much. You'll both figure it out.

Anonymous 25285



Anonymous 25286

Im such a useless coward

Anonymous 25313

I'm fantasizing about marrying my childhood friend again. He's successful in his dream career/job and moved to work and live in the country we always wanted to live in as kids. I don't think he'd have the heart to turn me down if I begged him to accept me. We're still in touch. But I'm filth, comparatively. I don't deserve him and I'd probably just make his life difficult.

I feel stupid for even considering it, but imagining it makes me happy. Memories of our childhood together are among the only bright spots in my life. I don't want to taint that. I'm tired, and sad, and becoming resigned to a life without love in it. It wouldn't be a romantic marriage. We're both just lonely, unusual people.

Idk. I feel stupid posting about it, too.

Anonymous 25317

Shut up and tell him. Also clean yourself up, maybe. He probably wants you too.

Anonymous 25320

Tell us a story from your childhood about you two!

I remember walking home with a boy back when I was like 7 or 8 or so for a few years, he was like the first boy I ever had a crush on. We had a made up word for each other, it was like our code word, and he was really smart, idk what happened to him after we parted though.

Anonymous 25326


My dad lost his job today and I don't know how to support him. He's been keeping the fact that they were laying off people a secret and he doesn't even know that I know.

Anonymous 25330

my dad (62) lost his job a few months ago. hed worked at the same place for 30+ years. its not too bad because he has enough money to live on (even if my mum doesnt agree lol) it depressed him because being a hard worker was a big part of his identity. hes got jobs since but theyre low paying and end up letting him go once its time to make him a full employee so they dont have to pay him fully or give benefits. my mum is also very rude to him about being lazy because they invested in property but he doesnt want to go and fix up a shitty dilapidated house after a 10 hour shift in a factory

I dont really have any constructive advice beyond helping him apply for jobs if hes old and doesnt understand online application

Anonymous 25331


Hell world hell world hell world hell world

I get bored and check social media despite knowing perfectly well I'm about to get pissed off, get mad, remember not to check social media, get bored, and the cycle repeats

Anonymous 25332


>clean yourself up

I want to… I just feel like I'm 'cheating' somehow if I motivate myself with the idea of being his wife. Or, at least, the idea of once again facing him as an equal, instead of a depressing case of wasted potential. Which is silly of me, I guess. It's in the privacy of my own mind, after all. Might as well allow it.

Too embarrassing. I was his first kiss though. And his college gf, who he broke up with before graduating, looked and acted extremely similar to me. He hasn't been in a relationship since.

Anonymous 25335

>I just feel like I'm 'cheating' somehow if I motivate myself with the idea of being his wife
It's only motivating you for the wrong reasons. Not really cheating, so much as it is setting yourself up for disappointment if it doesn't work out with him, which only leaves you room to fall. Even if you want to self-improve just to be someone's wife, which is honestly very sweet, you shouldn't do it with just him in mind. You want to do this to make someone else happy, not just him. If he ends up with you, score! If he doesn't, do not end yourself over it. Don't give up on taking him, but be prepared to walk away if it goes bad enough.

Anonymous 25342

>have femcel face
>dress like a teenaged boy
>act like a complete autist
>have Brit-tier teeth
>have permanent eyebags
>be skinnyfat
>have small boobs
>men still look at me and catcall me like I was attractive
How the fuck can I get them away from me? I don't want to be looked at by a fucking bunch of strangers, it feels like I'm being watched
I don't even understand why this is, why not catcall attractive women instead of me?

Anonymous 25347

This. Start acting like a madwoman, and induce schizophrenia to make yourself absolutely unattractive to all human beings. Fastest way.

Anonymous 25357


Anonymous 25359

Good vent, I give it 4 out of 5 crystals.

Anonymous 25363


>be lanky, tall, flat
>be actually autistic and uninterested in talking to people
>get shit like "are you a guy or a girl hahahhaha" and "are you a lesbian" thrown at me by most people passing
>mature mentally, decide to change lifestyle to raise my self-respect
>begin dressing like most women my age (skinny jeans instead of regular ones, tucked in tshirt instead of sweater, etc.)
>take skincare more seriously
>grow hair down to my chest instead of shoulders and do a few treatments (bleaching the ends and dying them, whatever else)
>still act like a bitch to every man ever
>suddenly because i look better they care
>tell them nicely to fuck off
>"i-i promise i wont bother you anymore can we p-please talk"
Am I Stacy? How do I reverse this? I fucking hate the way these mongrels only go for looks and don't give two shits about how you treat them/how they treat you.
I hate this and I want to go back to not having to interact with anyone, but dressing like a 14 year old emo kid isn't something I'm willing to do again.

Anonymous 25367

I absolutely hate being a woman and it makes me sad there's no solution to this.

Anonymous 25368


>friends use masculine Snapchat filter on me
>say I look hot af as a guy and that they’d fuck me

Anonymous 25369

Is it just me or is this website full of repressing trans men?
tfw I am one of them ;__;

Anonymous 25372


My Dad’s girlfriend is pissing me off so much lately and I want her to fuck off to the farthest dimension in another galaxy where she can never come near my family again. Pic related is her latest offense, yesterday morning I mistook my Dad’s leftover creme brûlée from a restaurant in the fridge for gravy and dumped it on some chicken by mistake (I still ate it lol) and around mid-day received this text. She doesn’t even live at our house and it’s not her food to micromanage. I still felt bad that my Dad may have been looking forward to it so I sent him a text saying sorry and he responded with “don’t worry about it, i hope it was good. you’re free to eat anything that gets put in that fridge.” So if my Dad doesn’t give a fuck about some stupid creme brûlée then his girlfriend can shove it.

I could go on and on about this woman’s antics but I’ll spare you all the tl;dr.

Anonymous 25373

I was in the same position but you learn to just ignore them after awhile. You shouldn't let yourself go to shit again just to avoid the attention. Self-care is too important for your mental health.

Anonymous 25375

Claire Belton.jpg

I don't have a best friend anymore and it feels lonely… I still a few friends but we just don't click the way those two did. One I cut off since she cussed me out during Christmas and the other keeps flaking and is focusing on her own problems at the moment. Feels bad.

Anonymous 25383

You seem to equate the legal system with moral authority

Anonymous 25384

>commanding you
This is how you talk to a twelve year old, not an adult. I would recommend just talking to her the minimum amount it takes to make your dad happy.

Anonymous 25398

gee thanks anon!
it's something i've been holding in for a long time so it's good to let it all out for a little bit
i rate you 4/5 crystals as well and i hope you have a nice day ok thanks

Anonymous 25401

does your dad know she talks to you like this?? how old are you?

Anonymous 25402

< boy sits behind me on the bus
< boy usually catches the same bus as me, don't know him but he probably lives in the same area as me
< my stop is coming up, as i go to jump off the bus he drops a letter in my lap (reached over behind my shoulder to drop it)
< it kinda lands in my bag too sort of and i just kinda carry it out the bus with me, i'm not too focused on it as i'm just hoping the bus driver doesn't skip my stop or something
< walk down the road a little, bus is gone, he didn't follow me or anything, stop on sidewalk, open the letter
< handwritten letter:
> Hi!
> You're cool.
> Do you want to be friends?


literally nothing else on the letter, no name or number or signature or anything, just those three lines, spaced nicely over the page. how do you deal with boys sometimes?

Anonymous 25403

well? do you want to be his friend?

Anonymous 25406

i don't have a problem with having a friend, but is this really how he makes friends or something? he probably just wants to be in my pants (and/or he's just really really shy).

i haven't really thought about him, he's just some guy on the bus that I see sometimes. we're about the same age, i've seen him around here and there on the buses in my area for like the last 7 years.

wow this is really embarrassing now, what if he types his letter into google and crystal cafe shows up now? then he'll see me talking about it holy fuck i can't

Anonymous 25408

hes probably shy, maybe autistic. if youre not really interested in him you dont owe him anything so you can just ignore him. if you want to be his friend just sit next to him of the bus next time and talk

Anonymous 25410

>try to delete post
i knew i should've deleted it earlier, now it's there forever.

well i'm shy and probably autistic too or something. do those sort of friendships work out okay? idk i'm not very good at being friends either, this is why I stay on the internet mostly.

Anonymous 25411

Sometimes I read certain posts on lolcow and wonder if they're about me. I'm not American and I doubt many people here know that site exists, and only few people speak English, but I've been stalked in the past by those few people. It was years ago, I thought they left me alone?

Anonymous 25412

>do those sort of friendships work out okay?
I dont know tbh. Im bad at friends too lol

Anonymous 25414

It requires both parties to better themselves socially, so it's not likely. You better not be looking for an excuse to give up on him. This is something you need to experience, even if it has a chance of failure.

Anonymous 25416


lol your dad tattled on you to his girlfriend for eating his creemy bruuly

Anonymous 25420

Been doing my best to avoid her but she is currently staying at Dad’s house to help take care of him after a pretty painful surgery and unfortunately this is my temporary living space until I find new housing.
I told my Dad about it and his only response was to not take it personally since that’s just how her mother apparently raised her to speak to people.
>how old are you?
I am 26! Haha. But a kid to her I guess.
He didn’t lol, he was upstairs bedridden and trying to sleep off the pain and she was probably keeping an eye on our fridge like she always does. The woman is nearly 400 lbs with a severe food addiction and becomes extremely territorial and obsessive about food, who is allowed to eat what, who is allowed to cook, etc. to the point that she will snap at you or even go as far as to verbally attack you over food. My Dad has a thing for big women but he’s never been with one quite this obnoxious about their addiction.

Anonymous 25421

she sounds awful. tell her to fuck off

Anonymous 25435

My mom kicked me out of the house last night and lots of bad things happened and i want to die i want to die i want to die i wish i wasn't a christian and didnt believe in hell so i could kill myself

Anonymous 25436

How old are you? Is there any other family you can stay with at the moment?

Anonymous 25437

I turned 18 two months ago but I graduate on late october so I was stuck with her. I'm staying with my dad but his place is not good. He got his house in 1991 and hasnt done any significant changes. Its very cold and i dont have my toothbrush or towels or stuffed bear. I dont wanna live with either of them. Its my fault and she doesnt want me back she hasnt called she doesnt care. I wish i was somewhere else alone

Anonymous 25440

I'm not Christian and i don't want to encourage you to kill yourself, but why wouldn't God forgive you for ending it? I thought the only unforgivable sin is in rejecting God.

Anyway, here's some real practical advice, you should go find a nice place to sit down and steady yourself. If you have any real life friendos see if you can stay with them for a bit until everyone calms down. If your family is Christian too, then I fail to see why you wouldn't be forgiven once you acknowledge your faults, swallow your pride if you have to btw. Nothing beats a warm bed. I assume you don't have a car or much money. It's possible to rough it for one night and not come out of it too bad. Find somewhere safe and dry away from as many people as possible, then pile on as much stuff as possible to keep warm.

Otherwise, if you have a few bucks to spare, get a taxi to a hotel and stay there for the night.

Stay warm and safe.

Or find a church or something i guess, that was never an option for me, but maybe it'd work for you.

Ah shoot, i typed this all out and now i see you're living at your dad's for the moment! Well one step at a time.

Anonymous 25442

I’m not entirely sure of the process, but if you’re in the US certain states have a process called ejection, which is eviction basically if you were never paying her rent. But it’s a sticky process and you’d need an attorney.

What happened exactly for her to kick you out if you don’t mind me asking?

Anonymous 25443

>Its very cold and i dont have my toothbrush or towels or stuffed bear

I'm not an expert, but I think you could call the police and have them escort you back in just to grab your things.

Anonymous 25444

Quick correction, it might be best to physically visit the police station to ask for help rather than calling 911 since it's not a critical emergency.

Anonymous 25445

Uhh, your local police departments always have a non-emergency line too you know? Unfortunately no one ever bothers to commit the number to memory or store it on their phone until they needed it at least once.

Anonymous 25447


i want internet friends so badly. i've long given up on irl friends because i'm definitely too weird/loud/easily excitable and have niche interests, but i can't find people who are like me or like the same things as me that aren't crazy tumblrfags. i've been trying to just distract myself with things to do but it's getting more difficult and i'm tired of being alone…

Anonymous 25448

What kind of interests do you have?

Anonymous 25449

I started losing rl friends about 7 years ago and I've had only internet friends for like 4-5 years now. Maybe it'll work better for you, but it's very lonely for me, i miss some of the physicality of it, i miss having friends i could physically hug and do stuff irl with them and stuff, but i know some miners don't care for that type of thing.

Now I'm trying hard to make real life friends again but I'm terrible at it. I hope your whole internet friendos only thing works out better for you than it does for me.

Anonymous 25454

i have broad interests that people do share, but the more obscure ones i like talking about are things like oc making, worldbuilding, and some games including gachas and idol games. i don't know if more people know about them in other places, but i personally haven't met anyone irl who likes this shit so i try to find internet people instead.
thank you! i hope you're able to find good rl friends soon.

Anonymous 25456

I used imageboards as a distraction from irl problems but it only made things worse for my mental health. I'll finally stop using them.

Anonymous 25457

I'm in same place as you. I can't really make friends irl because i have nothing in common with them, but making friends in internet is also hard/dangerous (i already made some toxic friendship in past, be cautious). Maybe try anime conventions that are in your area?
>some games including gachas and idol games
good taste, i wish i could get into these games again. Maybe thread for gacha/idol games would be good?

Anonymous 25458

I have failed my goal of making friends this year again! theres always next year I suppose. unless I get kicked out of uni. which isnt unlikely

Anonymous 25460

Did you talk to people as often as you could?

Anonymous 25463

not really :( I went out with my flatmates a few times but theyre normies into drugs and parties so I stopped talking to them. there were some people in my lectures who seemed interesting, but I wasnt sure how/when to talk to them so I didnt. I spent most of my time in my room

Anonymous 25464

that's a great idea! i actually made the thread here:

Anonymous 25467

My college experience has been pretty much identical. If you're not a fan of having random hookups, clubbing, smoking weed, binge drinking, you basically have nothing in common with 99% of people. I tried going to a hobbyist club my first semester for an interest of mine. It was the club's first meeting but I accidentally showed up an hour late. The email said 8pm but I read it as 9pm for some reason. So by the time I showed up I walked past and saw everyone already talking together and laughing etc.

I think next semester I will try to get involved with a Christian org/group

Anonymous 25471

Everyone doubts joining some churchie group from the start, but in the end if you're not totally opposite of the people in them, they're the ones you'll gravitate the most towards. Smart choice.

Anonymous 25474

Because when you kill yourself you instantly reject God or something like that. And thank you for everything you wrote, even though I'm still staying with my dad it was helpful to me, mentally. I don't have any real life friends but my dad is as good as he can be given the circumstances
I'm not an american sadly but I just went to get some essentials because she was working
She got mad at me because I smashed some eggs. It's a long story but tl;dr she could be a narc and I could have bpd. I know my sister went through worse when she lived with her and developed lots of issues, even attempted suicide a few times. And I got diagnosed with depression last year. I don't want to blame her for everything, deep down I know it's my fault. I just want to be alone
Its okay now. Thank you for replying anon. I have my towel and a toothbrush now

Anonymous 25475

I honestly have more in common with devout Christians than probably anyone else.I am very socially conservative and I have very light hearted, innocent interests. I have tons of fun playing board games or going to the park for picnics, way more than stupid normie stuff like binge drinking and partying.

I think if I did become a part of a Christian org, I could theoretically find friends or even a romantic partner. But the thing is I'm not Christian. Or at least, I don't believe in any gods or anything supernatural. But I think Christianity as an institution, has done tremendous good and I don't see believers as stupid or anything. It's just a personal determination I've made. So I'd feel like a phony.

Anonymous 25476

>So by the time I showed up I walked past and saw everyone already talking together and laughing etc
this is the worst. it feels like everyone is already friends and its awkward to insert yourself into theyre group. even worse when you turn up to lectures at the start of the semester and everyone already seems like best friends even though they literally just met

Anonymous 25477

>even worse when you turn up to lectures at the start of the semester and everyone already seems like best friends even though they literally just met

I think everyone in the first day of class feels just as uncomfortable as you feel. I think if you look around next first day of classes at the end lecture, you'll see lots of people sitting around looking uncomfortable. Doing small talk is not that scary, most people are pretty friendly (not all ofc). But especially if it's a hard class, people usually understand it's helpful to have friends in their class, to study with or get notes from. But you have to get there early on the first day to chat some before lecture starts, to minimize the awkwardness.

Anonymous 25479

theres a big thing going on on campus tonight (theres a fun fair and drinking) because today was the last of exams. I had to walk through to to go to the shop and a guy I know from class saw me and started talking to me. hes okay and we have a similar sense of humour, but hes super extroverted and goes to clubs and stuff too. I told him I wasnt interested in the fair and went home

dont know if I did the right thing tbh

Anonymous 25482

Anyone who is extroverted and enjoys going clubbing enjoys attention. Period. They enjoy being in the spotlight. They enjoy flirting and being flirted with. They enjoy the tantalizing, flirty, sexual charged stimulation that permeates clubs and bars.

Does that sound like someone you want to date? Consider also you're definitely not the only girl he's shown interest in and asked to go clubbing. That's absolutely a given. Do you still want to go with him?

Anonymous 25483

I meant as just a friend, not to date. Ive never seen him with any girls either. definitely dont want to go out to clubs, but we have gotten on well in group projects and stuff. maybe I could have made him into a real friend if Id played along with the fun fair before the drinking started, idk?

Anonymous 25484

It's obviously your decision, I don't think anyone can tell you if going is a good decision or not, because we don't know you and we don't know him.

I don't know what kind of event this fun fair would be but I assume if it's some light hearted thing that's campus organized, going with him couldn't hurt anything. Although having a male friend is not something I would personally advise. Guys don't set out to make female friends lol. And I'm pretty certain he wouldn't ask you to go somewhere with drinking, if platonic friendship was his only goal. It's window dressing, it's a social nicety thing. You could definitely go and keep things cordial and stay sober, to learn more about him on a personal level. But I feel an obligation to inform you that anyone who enjoys going out clubbing and asking girls to events where drinking is involved, will have certain innate personality traits.

Anonymous 25485

he didnt invite me, I was already there because it was right outside the shop I went to. it really just seems platonic as hes never done anything remotely close to flirting. I think he might be gay but Im not sure. regardless, I already went home and Im not going back out now

another person I thought I could have been friends with is a girl in my lectures. she seems kind of weird but like she wants make friends too. I dont know if shes the type to go out or drink. I doubt Ill see her again anyway tho

Anonymous 25486

I think I've misunderstood what you are trying to do here. Is your goal to go to a school event with someone where it's not so awkward, since going by yourself would be awkward?

Its useful to make some friends/acquaintances that you're on good enough terms with, to at least go to events with. College organization meetings and such. Maybe even a coed sports team. Or church. Things like that. And from there you can mingle and meet like minded people and it's less awkward than just showing up by yourself. Showing up anywhere by yourself can be pretty painful. I would suggest though, if your goal is to mingle and meet people, going with a male friend is not the best approach, because people will assume you're a couple. Making female friends is a better way to accomplish this, if that is what you are wanting to do. I would also avoid events where people are drinking if you're wanting to meet high quality young men and women. In my opinion.

Anonymous 25487

I just want friends tbh. my goal isnt to have people to go to events with, I dont really like events with lots of people. but I think I need to go to events to meet people? staying at home certainly isnt working lol

I cant be too picky on whether potential friends are men or women. I have a "weird" personality, and finding people who find the same things funny/interesting is pretty rare. the two examples I gave are the only two people Ive met at uni (havent actually met the girl, just overheard her talking to other people) who seem to be similar to me

Anonymous 25488

There's nothing wrong with having a slightly different or "weird" personality. I would say that anyone who thrives in the current shallow, superficial culture, is mentally ill (snapchat, nudes, tinder, hookups etc). If you find yourself an outsider and not quite fitting in, then I would say you're far more mentally healthy and sane than your average person.

Meeting friends at the end of spring semester is probably not the best time to do so in a college town. I would wait until the fall semester starts up and try being active in a student organization. My personal picks would be a christian one, or one related to your hobbies. I wouldn't worry about finding people with the same sense of humor, I think if you look for people with your interests you'll find people who share your humor. Wholesome hobby groups like board games come to mind, but there are probably things like crafts groups too. Anything that would attract wholesome people.

I feel like saying this, and maybe it's not relevant, but I spend time with a group of old ladies and they like to talk about their youth. And the ones who self-describe themselves as "weird", saying they did things like pick up and look at rocks or leaves at recess while the other kids played, these old ladies seem to make the best mothers, very nurturing people, and their children grew up as very well rounded successful adults.

Anonymous 25489

A guy that I've been intimately talking with for over a year and a half just up and ghosted me recently.
Started ignoring my messages last month, then just today I see that he's changed his profile picture and blocked me.
Oh my god I'm so mad and upset right now. He was so sweet and amazing and of course he turns out to be a complete fucking pieceof shit deep down. Awesome.

Anonymous 25490

I dont mean "weird" as in conservative and not liking party culture (I am very anti drinking/drugs tho). I have autism and grew up extremely isolated along with being on 4chan. everything about the way I process emotions and thoughts just doesnt match up to normal people. my sense of humour is really the only way I can interact with people in a semi good way. Im not sure if people with the same interests will work. my hobbies are kind of an escape for me. Ive had friends before with a common hobby and it made me dread doing my hobby because I knew Id have to talk to my friend

Anonymous 25491

Trying to have an online relationship with someone is a really really bad idea. It just doesn't work. In fact, it harms you. Because you spend all this time and energy into building a relationship with this person, who not only is almost always going to be mentally ill and catfishing you in some way, but you're being pulled away from opportunities to seek out people in your community/area.

Anonymous 25492

Do you not want to say what the hobby is? If so that's okay. Have you considering trying to meet people who also have autism? Dealing with non-autistic people is almost always going to have you feeling like a fish out of water. Lots of autistic people feel that way around non-autistic people.

Anonymous 25493

I have a bunch of different hobbies. I play violin, draw, rock climb, run distance among others. typically I like to do them alone or with people Im very very close with tho. alot of autistic people bother me more than non-autistics tbh. theyre general lack of self awareness is irritating

Anonymous 25495

I would say then you have high functioning autism, where you can still read social cues in that case. Honestly I think a lot of high functioning autism traits are actually just the result of high IQ. In your case I think you would probably have the best chance of making friends you can relate to, if you look for high IQ young men and women.

Are you pursuing a STEM degree? If so, you could try working in a group that does some engineering project or something like that. There's dorky slightly autistic men and women with good senses of humor who do tabletop RPGs like Dungeons and Dragons. I think you are way more likely to find fellow "weird" people in either of those groups.

Anonymous 25496

This is really good advice, thank you.
I really shouldn't have gotten involved, but I just couldn't help but fall for him. He was so amazing and so passionate and sweet to me… But it's all whatever at this point I suppose.
What really kills me, though, what really eats me up inside, is how I'll never know why he left. I don't know if it was something I said, what if his feelings for me faded and he found someone else, maybe he was never the person he said he was. Maybe all three? I'll never even know, and I can't stand it…

Anonymous 25497

There's a lot more people like you in the church, than you think. They're just in it for the wholesome things. Eventually they tend to forget they don't believe. I'd definitely get into it for the sake of meeting sane people.
>I think he might be gay but Im not sure
There's a "gay" method of PUAs, you know.

Anonymous 25498

yeah Im doing a STEM degree. I really dont fit in with most of the people on my course. most of them are normies, and the ones that arent, arent the same type of weird as me lol

Ive known him for 2 years. hes never tried to "pick me up" we just make edgy jokes if we have to work together. we dont interact outside of group projects every so often tho

Anonymous 25499

It's easy to pretend to be passionate and sweet over the internet. It's hard to pretend to be those things in real life. Anyone can be anything they want on the internet.

Its not hard at all for a guy to pretend to be caring and say what you want to hear over the internet. And honestly a guy who has the time to sit down and write messages all day for a year straight is probably a loser, to be quite honest with you. Where does he work if he can sit down and do that? And if he's so perfect and caring why is he single? Something's not right. And even if he was, if he has the time to write these things to you what's stopping him from messaging 100 other girls? You need to interact with people in real life and vet them. You can't do that online.

Anonymous 25500

I don't understand what you want advice on exactly? You're definitely not going to be the only person in a college class with an edgy sense of humor who is slightly autistic and introverted. Lots of people in your classes are just like you especially in a STEM field. You just need to meet them, and I already outlined some ways to do so.

But if you want to try getting to know this guy more, that's fine too. If you think this guy is a good guy worth possibly dating, then you should try to spend more time with him and get to know him. But. Be realistic. If he asked you to the fair then he asked you for a reason. I can do is assure you that platonic friendship is not his end goal. Unless he's gay I guess.

Anonymous 25501

You're completely right. Thank you again.

Anonymous 25502

I mean this is a venting thread. Im venting about my failed goal of making friends, and the reasons why (being an emotionally stunted fuck up more so than a quirky aspie). I have 0% interest in dating him. he didnt ask me to a fair, we were both standing in the middle of the fair because it was in the car park of the shop I went to, he just started talking and I dismissively told him I wasnt interested in the fair and left. and wondered if I missed an opportunity to hand out with someone outside of forced class work

Anonymous 25503


My internet addiction is getting worse and worse. I can almost feel my braincells deteriorating with each pointless click, each useless letter I type and each stupid refresh I do.

It doesn't help that most of my friends and people I regularly talk to are only contactable online. The "perks" of living in a small town lol.

Anonymous 25515


Why does everything have to be about sex? It just gives me really bad anxiety to the point of crying and I’m just tired of seeing it. I’m grossed out whenever someone mentions porn or anything else like that. Maybe I’ve turned asexual. I really find no pleasure in touching myself anymore.

I’m tired of trying my best to please others sexually. It’s tiring. I don’t even have the desire to be in a relationship because I know most of it will revolve around sex.

I also have had really bad trauma occur to me not long ago and I haven’t gotten help for it. I thought ignoring it would make it go away. Maybe it’s festering in my subconscious now?

Anonymous 25517

>Why does everything have to be about sex?
Both modern young women and young men are obsessed with sex. It's a product of our dysfunctional modern western society. I've known guys who say a girl quits talking to them if they don't ask her for nudes or pressure her for sex after a first date. And I know young women who say guys stop talking to them if they don't send them nudes or they don't put out after a first date. Chaste young people rarely find each other, because there are so few people with their heads screwed on straight in this messed up world.

>I’m tired of trying my best to please others sexually. It’s tiring.

Why are you trying to sexually please other people at all? You should be trying to find a stable healthy relationship, that's generally where people find the most long term happiness. Anyone who wants you to sexually please them right off the bat is not someone who has your interests in mind.

>I also have had really bad trauma occur to me not long ago and I haven’t gotten help for it. I thought ignoring it would make it go away. Maybe it’s festering in my subconscious now?

Without knowing more information it's hard to offer advice here. I would feel irresponsible commenting without knowing more information about the nature of the trauma. But generally speaking, bad things happen to all of us and I think human beings evolved to be able to handle intermittent periods of intense grief, stress, trauma, and still recover and overcome these events long term. But again that's just my general attitude. I don't think therapy would hurt. Again, that's a blanket statement I would tell anyone who said they experienced a traumatic event, without knowing more information.

Anonymous 25523

In the same boat, but picking up a hobby that forced me to get physical and out of the house helped. Perhaps your mind requires stronger mental stimulation. Seek out things online and off that force you to contemplate and dissect. Don't settle for things you grasp right away.

Anonymous 25524

I'm sorry, it sounds like you've been exposed to the worst kind of predatory men. But trust me, there are kind gentle men who would care about you more than sex. You just have to realize your worth and stop giving the time of day to people who are just trying to use you. Why should you have to work hard to please anyone? They should be trying to please YOU. Stay true to yourself and what you want, you never have to settle for people who treat you like this.

Anonymous 25525

I would say in an optimal relationship, both people would try to please each other. But more than that, they would try to elevate the other person. Two hands working together. Both individuals would help each other, which would have a multiplying effect. Enabling more than they would ever be able to do alone. You enhance the other person and they would enhance you. This is what femininity and masculinity are supposed to do. Amplify each other. It's beautiful.

But many women (and just as many men !) seem seek out relationships with people who take advantage of them, for various reasons. Sometimes it's unintentional and they were manipulated, and sometimes people intentionally seek out the absolute worst type of person for a relationship and consistently ignore good relationship candidates.

But I will admit I have no personal experience with relationships. These are my own observations and interpretations.

Anonymous 25527

You are absolutely right. Both parties should try to make each other as happy as possible. I was just trying to emphasize that she doesn't need to please anyone to be liked. If you genuinely want to make someone happy, then that's wonderful. But what happens with a lot of people pleasers is they are constantly fearful of "oh no this person will leave me/hate me/get angry with me if I don't do x" and that is such a hurtful way to think of yourself. Honestly I think if she found a guy leaning more towards selfless it might help her a lot with her preconceived notions of relationships and men.

Anonymous 25539

2 weeks in.jpg

Since the start of the year I've turned incredibly lazy and have no motivation or energy to change. My sleep schedule flips every few days, I barely clean, I put bare minimum effort into my diet and as a result developed a deficiency, I don't exercise, I skip class and procrastinate all my work during the term and start my textbook readings 1-2 days before the midterm/exam, I dropped all of my hobbies such as reading books and spend 8+ hours a day online, I can't spend more than 3 minutes a day tending to my physical appearance, etc. The only thing I still got going is very basic hygiene. The fuck happened to me? I didn't imagine I'd be living like this, compared to how my peers are doing I feel so ashamed.

Anonymous 25541

What deficiency do you have? It sounds like you might have depression but anemia and hypothyroidism can mirror themselves like how you described.

Anonymous 25544

You're right it was iron deficiency anemia, I'm on some supplements right now so hopefully in a few more weeks the symptoms will begin to improve. I suspected it might be depression but wasn't sure if it was or I'm just being a lazy shit. I'll look into hypothyroidism as well, thanks.

Anonymous 25546

How can I accept my loser condition? Don't tell me to change, it's not going to happen, I only care about peace of mind right now.

Anonymous 25555

Good luck. My suggestions are to take them with something full of vitamin C like orange juice. Also calcium and caffeine impair the absorption of iron.

Anonymous 25556

What (do you think) makes you a loser, anon?

Anonymous 25564

Because there’s a vagina glut

Anonymous 25573


Young men and young women are both largely degenerate sex addicts. Pure hearted young men and young women are both targeted by their impure peers, who drip poison in their ear. Girls are told they need to be able to perform fellatio like a pornstar after a first date, or every guy will leave them. Boys are told they need to bed a hundred whores otherwise women consider him pathetic. And the disgusting, sad truth is, these statements are correct. This is how the sociopathic degens judge each other.

It's very hard for pure hearted young people to find each other in this corrupted world. Because there are so few of them, isolated like islands in a sea of filth. I don't know the solution, but I assume local church groups and charities are the best place to look. I tried my hand at online dating but it was full of sex addicts.

Anonymous 25595

God I always have the worst nightmares before the start of a new job where I do everything wrong and get fired.
Just got hired at sweetgreen a few days ago and this afternoon during a nap I dreamt that I arrived 45 late to my first shift, in my pajamas, unshowered, forgot to brush teeth, slacked off the entire time by napping and playing on my phone shitposting on some imaginary chan site, and brought a 6-pack of beers which I was caught with by the manager. Got my ass screamed at and thrown out the door.
I know it’s just a dumb dream and I would never actually do those things since I’m generally a hard worker but it left me shook and anxious for some reason. I hate my brain.

Anonymous 25618


Jesus fuck I need to take a pregnancy test because I missed my period. I have a fear of falling pregnant and my anxiety is through the roof right now fuck fuck fuck

Anonymous 25623

Sounds like Stacey problems

Anonymous 25627

Not her, but I've gotten close to buying a pregnancy test and I'm a khv. She mentioned anxiety so it may be some irrational shit like that.

Anonymous 25628

Intercourse isn't even nearly as good for women as it is for men and there is always the risk of getting pregnant. Never understood why so many people take that risk.

Anonymous 25633


I hate having an eating disorder. I had to quit ballet because of it. i'm recovering and doing well but I think it'll always be a part of me. right now I'm trying to lose 10 lbs which is probably not a good idea but whatever

Anonymous 25715

It had a lot to do with my anxiety, I should really seek some more help with managing that better. The test was negative, thank goodness.

Anonymous 25718

I went to a mommy meetup yesterday and aside from the organizer of it who was pleasantly polite no one even talked to me. I don't have any friends other than my husband, I love him but I wish I had some friends…

Anonymous 25720


You will get there eventually anon, plenty of people recover from that, I believe in you!

>tfw food hoarding syndrome that will never go away due to starvation childhood trauma

Anonymous 25721

Agreeeeeeed. I also fucking hate how GoT is insanely filled with sex scene. Like wtf, it's pretty useless and has no major significant value in the plot. ITS ALSO FUCKING AWKWARD IF YOU'RE WATCHING IT WITH FRIENDS AND PARENTS IN LAW. LIKE BRAH THIS IS A SHOW NOT SOME BIG SOFTCORE SERIES. Might as well change the description to that shit. UGH.

Anonymous 25723

also I hate how Gore esque and sadistic that fucking show it. Like Jesus Christ it's not even e entertaining too much of vice. Balance the fuck out. Sorry if it sounds I'm taking out on anyone. I just really dislike that show. Disgustingly overfilled vice shit.

Anonymous 25729

It's Cable TV. What else would they put on there? Something good? No.

Anonymous 25730

What's good is obviously relative, that shit is like the biggest fucking TV-based cash cow in forever. you better fucking believe it that HBO and everyone that lapped it up thought it was "good".

Anonymous 25731


Anonymous 25743

How is the new job going?

Anonymous 25745

I hope your arm feels better today anon. Take some painkillers if you can, and maybe use an ice pack if there is any swelling. Blood tests leave me feeling like there is a toothpick in my arm for days.

Anonymous 25754

I fucked up biggggg time, I didn't realize how stupid the decision I made was until now honestly. I really don't deserve my life.

Anonymous 25755

That sounds absolutely terrifying. I just meant that I ended up with a bruise and it was hurting. I'm sorry.

Anonymous 25761


Go to class with cute, smart, kind and athletic guy who actually reads in the current year and doesnt use social media too much.He personifies these traits I am not just attaching those to him out of wishful thinking, they are my "husband goals". Asked him to the movies, talked an hour afterwards and I literally feel nothing towards him. Wtf, where are the butterflies and fucking clouds I was promised ??

obligatory "whats going on ?"

Anonymous 25762

Maybe this is that "pair bonding" stuff people talk about. Ever been with someone before him?

Anonymous 25763

My first time

Anonymous 25764

Is he short or something?

Anonymous 25765

neither short or bald(ing)

Anonymous 25766

Then what's the issue?

Anonymous 25767

Thats what I am asking you

Anonymous 25768

Are you rather slim? Low fat could be contributing to some symptoms of unfeeling that you possess. It's usually someone not being like your "first" that usually causes this to happen. Otherwise I'm just left guessing. Chemical imbalance? Meds?

Anonymous 25769

I am skinny af, no meds and I get checked by the doc regularly

Anonymous 25771

Yeah, it's the fats. Consume sugar to create insulin. No need to increase your caloric intake, when you can just retain more fat from your diet.

Anonymous 25808

Thanks, that actually helps alot

Anonymous 25816


Went on a chill date with a guy from tinder and he asked if I wanted to smash. I declined and he respected it and was totally chill with it. The thing is though that I can't stop hating myself for being a filthy virg who don't know how to casually hook up (atleast without the help of alcohol lol) like I feel soooo awkward

Anonymous 25818

i have a party on saturday and im freaking out since idk wtf to wear, a girl going i asked for advice she was just like a dress and heels and im like i dont have those and shes like do you at least have boots and im like no, another girl chimed in and said just wear jeans and a nice top (a nice top i also dont have) idk if i should go shopping for a dress since they look ugly on me and i dont want to get rid of my body hair, ive looked online at all the stores and i cant really say they have 'nice tops' either, should i just not go?

Anonymous 25819

Just buy a cheap top and some boots or chelseas with a chunky heel. Or ask if you can borrow a shirt from one of them.

Anonymous 25820

How old are you? What kind of party?

Anonymous 25825

If you are smol you might get away with a hoodie

Anonymous 25827

you did the right thing.
Tinder is not the place to find a suitable partner.

Anonymous 25848


Anonymous 25850


this lol

as long as you pair it with heeled boots, our girl ari brought your overweight uncle’s hoodie into style

Anonymous 25853

>our girl ari
too much of a shallow hoe for me
my queen is and will always be elizabeth the first

don't @ me

Anonymous 25902


Adults who unironically use comma ellipsis like,,, this,,,,,,, need to be hanged.

Anonymous 25903

Good anon, ty for asking!

Anonymous 25931


/ourgirl/ is actually Christine Chubbuck

Anonymous 25932

>our girl
Speak for yourself.

Anonymous 25938


Anonymous 25941

I keep seeing the comma ellipses but I’ve never really understood their purpose - do they act as an ellipses or draw out the word before it? like when people used this ~ symbol to add emphasis~ or finish words with additional lettersssss

Anonymous 25942

Apparently, commas as ellipses look and "sound" cuter than dots (or periods or whatever you call them). I just think they make you look retarded, especially if you're an adult.

Anonymous 25944

Comma ellipses are cringe but thankfully I don't see them all that often. Only maybe on an occasional youtube comment or something.

Anonymous 25945


I'm going through an intense phase of being obsessed with a band right now– like, to the point where I take criticism of them to heart, I only want to listen to them and nothing else, I even want to start an IG dedicated to them– and WOW I feel like a childish idiot.

I thought I was old enough to have grown out of having "obsessions" with media (especially bands, kill me), but apparently not. cooool

Anonymous 25948


>literally cannot stop being distant/slightly mean to crush

Fuck i wish I were dead.

Anonymous 25949

What band?

Anonymous 25951

Accept your inner tsundere.

Anonymous 25959

[HorribleSubs] Sar…

>tfw bad at everything i want & like to do
it's not fun . . . i sort of want to give up but if i do that, i'll be even more miserable. so what's the point

Anonymous 25963

Welcome to the "I can't express my liking so my inner bitch is coming out" club.

Anonymous 25965

Having sex with random people for no proper reason other than "lol sex" is Stacy culture. We don't need that kind of shit in our lives, anon. Find a relationship and have sex only after, that's the normal thing to do. Nothing wrong with being a virgin.

Anonymous 25973

Same, all I've done is put it all off since I'm so disappointed with what little i could output. Something like 'if i never produce anything, then I'll never be disappointed by it'.

It doesn't work btw, in case you ever find yourself intentionally or unintentionally doing the same. I'm sure I'd be happier if I practiced more and made a little improvement, even if it's almost imperceptible.

Anonymous 25974


>sat in the previous thread for almost a month thinking it was just moving slowly
>even got new posts past the limit a week ago, somehow, further delaying the inclination to check the catalog to see whether it was at the limit

Anonymous 25975

Sometimes someone is nice enough to post a link to the new one at the end of the old one.

But I'd recommend just watching the front page instead. I've never found threads to move fast enough here for me to bother watching a specific thread or even using the catalog (unless I'm looking for an old old thread).

Anonymous 25976

Personally, if I open a thread I'm compelled to see it through to the end. It's part of what I actually dislike about the site in that threads never die, so if a thread stalls without reaching the post limit I end up just leaving it open in a tab for two or three months just in case someone necro-replies to a post of mine. I wish there was some sort of thread watcher that'd notify me of new posts without me having to keep the thread open.

Anonymous 25981

>leaving it open in a tab for two or three months
What do you mean by that? Do you not shut down your computer/phone/laptop?

Anonymous 25988

I have a desktop, so I don't really ever shut it down or restart it except when installing an update or something.
But even still, that doesn't affect the tabs I have open. I can reopen my browser exactly as it was after I'm done restarting.

Anonymous 25998

>I wish I got this sorted out in high school
I know that feel.
I neglected dating or romantic relationships of any kind all through high school and college. "I'm too busy," I thought. "I'll have plenty of time later."
I wish someone had told me that I would be no less busy later in life and, what's more, the things with which I'd be busy would be much more important than whatever was going on in school.

I hear about people who find someone in high school and end up spending their whole lives together, from practically childhood all the way into adulthood. I know that kind of thing is a long shot even in the best of circumstances, but it makes me really sad that I'll never even have a chance at being able to know someone so deeply.

Anonymous 26010


Queen. Which is terrible on its own, but especially now because everyone's got harsh opinions about the Bohemian Rhapsody movie, and even though I didn't really care for the movie I feel protective about it because ~it's related to Queen~

in b4 "anon are you a middle aged father or a divorced white mom"

Anonymous 26012

My friend called me fat today on the phone. The conversation went something like
>friend: i’ve been eating so much lately, god im a fatass
>me: i eat a lot too, you think i’m fat? (laughs)
(was using myself as an example to imply she shouldn’t think of herself as fat)
>friend: well yeah, you are fat
>me: what? are you being serious?
>friend: yeah, own it dude. nothing wrong with being fat.
>me: im not fat
>friend: dude, look in a fucking mirror. you’re fat. but dont be ashamed, fat can be hot (changes subject to her cousin’s wedding)
Great knowing I’m fat I guess, even though I’m technically a healthy weight?
God I hate autistic people sometimes. They are so rude.

Anonymous 26013

>healthy weight
She's the issue.
At least she called you hot in a roundabout way though.

Anonymous 26027

I just find it funny because my best friend's the same. I'm not a Queen fan but she keeps insisting I sit down and listen to their albums. I know what's it's like to have an artist you'd vehemently defend; I feel the same way about David Bowie

Anonymous 26028

>finally buy something from kiosk where the cashier has been obviously staring at me whenever I pass
>he interacts with me coldly
W…what did he mean by this?! Is it because I took so long (2 months)?
I feel bad but also confused. At least I finally have one of those phone cases that works as a wallet ig.

Anonymous 26029

It's possible he was shy too and you just didn't notice because you were too worried what he thought.

Anonymous 26030

…maybe he was nervous. tbh I come off as a jerk sometimes too when I'm on edge. I probably should have made small talk or cracked a joke, fuck.
Not much can be done now though unless I see him at university again this fall. I'm not wasting money on another $30 case lmao.

Anonymous 26032

What if you on purpose lock eyes with him every time you pass the kiosk now, since he already stares at you?
If you got the impression that he was interested by his frequently looking at you, doing the same to him may result in him realizing that you're interested as well.

Obviously try not to be creepy about it though, don't stare at him the entire time he's in view.

Anonymous 26033

I have actually been doing that, so I thought maybe he'd get the message. I know I didn't mistake his looks either because once he leaned over the counter to glance at me lmao. Also looked right at me once then talked to his coworker.
I've considered maybe he's dating someone else now though? Since he has been looking less recently, the very obvious stares were back in April. If so then I respect that.

Maybe I just didn't strike when the iron was hot and now I missed out.

Anonymous 26034

Just smile at him once ffs

Anonymous 26042

>nearly merged into a car
it upsets me a lot whenever i make a mistake driving. did anyone else here grow up with a family of guys that all taught you women suck at driving? i hate blaming others for my own issues but i feel like i have huge mental blocks set up that automatically assume i can never get better at driving because of that.

i envy all of my girlfriends whose parents never did that to them, they're all good drivers.

Anonymous 26058


>join a new online fandom
>scroll through disqus and youtube comments
>over-zealous, obsessive fans post violent threats and dumb insults
>try another social media
>more angry fans who get worked up over a damn tv show

I know it's nothing new. Toxic fandoms blah blah. But if I stopped keeping myself up to date, I "get" FOMO, the fear of missing out.

Anonymous 26063

I need £1600 for a cosmetic treatment I’m 100% decided on as it will absolutely help my cause, but I have no idea how to make that much extra income as I’m a student and all of my wages go on rent. Help.2

Anonymous 26064

Is there a time frame in which it must be made, or are you just looking for something that'd reliably get you there in a reasonable enough time?
Selling plasma is always the first thing that comes to my mind for "free additional income."

Anonymous 26072

it looks like anon is in the uk, i dont think youre allowed to pay you for donating plasma there.

i think some unis allow you to take part in medical trials for money though, op.so take a look at those, but be careful.

Anonymous 26073

don't live in the UK, but I'm pretty sure you can't sell your plasma like that there and i'm thinking that's probably just an american thing.

Anonymous 26074

Technically you can't sell it in America either.
The loophole is that legally, you're donating the plasma and the establishment is merely compensating you for your time.
Not sure if they plugged that up in other countries, though.

Anonymous 26087


>make new female friend
>happy about it
>she begins showering me with attention and affection
>disgusted and constantly angry whenever talking to her
>don't respond to her messages as often
Why am I doing this? I'v never felt comfortable around women and I have a very little amount of girl friends, so I was more than just excited to make a new friend especially with a mutual interest that I never thought any other girl or woman would have.
What the fuck do I do?

Anonymous 26088

Sudden Repulsion Syndrome

Anonymous 26089

I didn't see this until now, but thank you for your response. I relate to the part about bottling it up too, just with another friend. I had a best friend for 6 years who was extremely opinionated and would flip and argue over the tiniest things. When she was in one of those moods, there was absolutely no way I could get through to her and discuss it. For example, one time she was suddenly convinced she had to become pregnant and have a child, even though she had always disliked children, lived alone, was single, hated society and being brought up in this world, and worked a very demanding job. But if I had challenged her and said that it wasn't a good idea, she would've ripped my head off. I learned to just shut up and let her talk and then usually the next day she'd be extra nice almost as if she was trying to make up for being a bitch without having to apologize. But often enough I'd have to be the bigger person and just say sorry so things wouldn't escalate, and one day I was just too exhausted to deal with it and ghosted her for a few days. She never forgave me for that and I've felt much better since then because it was so damn exhausting to always have to watch my back and my every word so I wouldn't accidentally cause her to rage out at me. TL;DR bitches be crazy

Anonymous 26096


>mfw ive spent all day sitting in bed, locked in my room, hot and sweaty af, playing scribbl.io

I need to get a life

Anonymous 26097


>spent all day playing scribbl.io

Anonymous 26098

Probably meant skribbl.io? Thanks to >>26096 I spent the last half hour on that website.

Anonymous 26104

Why do so many men dress so badly and complain about women not thinking they are attractive at the same time? Is it really that hard to wear something else than the same wrinkled T-Shirt and dirty jeans for a week?

Anonymous 26108

Have you ever been to /fa/ ? The delusion is real for some

Anonymous 26109

I ghosted a former best friend under circumstances similar to >>26107 (and I hope we both move on and be happy ourselves). Even now she means a lot to me but has hurt me in a way that made it difficult to trust anything anyone said for a long while. Explaining why I was affected to that degree is difficult to explain. However reading upon the symptoms of gaslighting flicked a switch. Outright calling it that doesn't seem like the full truth since my memory of that night and the events that preceded the final straw are hazy. Dunno. I'm not sure whether she knows of my thoughts because she's implied to mutuals that I snubbed her out of the blue…which is odd since she didn't contact me either for six months. I thought she still harbored resentment or pride and didn't ask her to clarify. A few months ago she DM'd offering to help out with an issue mentioned in one of my last Tweets but I was too scared to read the full message and have long abandoned the account.

Talking to her about it seems like a fruitless outcome as it's been more than a year of letting the unspoken issue fester. Sometimes her Tumblr blog plops into activity. I often scroll through her updates and feel a sense of nostalgia and longing to reconnect. It's been so long that she's likely moved on by now, and she seems happier. I have almost overcome the aforementioned issues and am also in a better place. Limerence? Maybe. We went through a lot of shit together. Joked about things we'd do in our forties when we were still teenagers. I miss her but don't want to be hurt again.

Anonymous 26130


on ao3 at least half of the fics for the pairing I like are tagged "trans character" "nonbinary character" and so on and it's really fucking annoying. I want to read about their relationship, not some tumblr autist's headcanons about one of them coming out as trans and the other one being supportive and shit. it's an anime about a gender-segregated sport, too, which just makes the trans stuff even more ridiculous. it's all ridiculously out of character, too. why do these self-inserting teenagers have to latch onto my goddamn sports anime?

Anonymous 26132

>gender-segregated sport
I'm probably forgetting some really obvious ones, but what are some examples of non-sex-segregated sports?
Like nothing really springs to mind immediately except for mixed doubles tennis but that's still not free of rules on sex (i.e. you can't have two women vs mixed or two men vs mixed, still has rigid rules on this stuff). Maybe some of the marathon type of stuff but idk.

Anonymous 26138

Equestrian (Olympic)
World Chess Championship (Extremely weird situation where women are allowed to compete in the main league but also have a womens' league)
Sailing (Olympic)

Men and women also can compete as a duo team in:
Badminton, Luge, Tennis, Ice Skating

Anonymous 26167

My boyfriend and I have to put our dog down today. We don't want him to go but he's fifteen and obviously in a lot of pain. Seeing his health so rapidly decline this past month has been really heartbreaking. I just want him to know that we love him very much.

Anonymous 26169


I'm so frustrated with myself sexually. I masturbate for hours a day, I feel aroused at the slightest thing, I just wish I could delete this part of me. I'm envious of people who say they don't experience these urges. Yeah, I could go fuck someone. But the desire would just return. I can't even really "go fuck someone" because I have vaginismus that is psychologically related, and yet, I find it so stressful to have to intertwine a relationship with sex. I wish people didn't see sex as this beautiful aspect of human life, sure, it can be, but for me, it's just like food, I'm always going to desire it and I hate how I can't rid myself of that desire. I hate how my body doesn't fucking work, and in all my past relationships, I got sick of feeling like I was pressuring the guy for sex so I slowly laid off of that because I don't want to be that kind of person. Furthermore, my stupid vagina would irritate their penises which would also act as a deterrent to them wanting sex with me. It was infuriating for me to have to hear them compliment me all the time in a sexual way, grope me, be physically affectionate towards me, but then they rarely would want to go all the way. I feel like I have to pretend I don't want sex or something in my next relationship because I feel like once my partner would learn I always desired it, they would not be interested in pursuing. The times we would have sex, they'd want it to be all emotional and though I had to basically learn to act in accordance with that in a way that would make them feel safe and secure, I'm internally thinking, I just need to get fucked by another person because masturbation and toys don't cut it the way a person does, and I hate how it's interwoven with emotions and such when I feel like it's just a hormonal response.

Worst of all, when I've expressed how I've felt about this before to other girls (only two because I'm awful at making girl friends since I'm so anxious and nervous around them because I'm stupidly eager to please girls specifically), they act like that isn't normal or grounded in reality. But, clearly sex drive is a biological drive, and if it were up to me, I just don't like having to mix it with my relationships. They act like it's because I was abused as a child. It probably is. But even so, why "fix" this perspective of mine? I don't want emotional fulfillment from sex. I want it from other things. I feel like sex isn't this supernatural phenomenon and it bothers tf out of me that I have to act it's like that if I want to have sex with people. I'd probably hook up if my body wasn't so damn unreliable, but tbh I'm scared af of doing that for multiple reasons; for me, monogamy is just more convenient.

I am so fucking riddled by this shit. I masturbate before I sleep, when I wake up, when I get home, if I take a nap, when I wake up or go to sleep from that, and it's for at least an hour each session. I've been late to various functions because of this. I just want to fucking be rid of this desire. I hate feeling like I'm having to pretend when I have sex with people that it means something to me, I'm just glad i'm fucking someone who I am comfortable with, is unlikely to contract any STIs, and who is not going to force me to do anything I don't want to do.

I feel so lonely in this. Perhaps I just think of sex so much because it's an imagined contact with another person. I can't stand physical contact at all with others, unless I'm incredibly drunk.

Anonymous 26174

>I masturbate before I sleep, when I wake up, when I get home, if I take a nap, when I wake up or go to sleep from that, and it's for at least an hour each session. I've been late to various functions because of this.
Have you talked to a therapist or psychologist or something about this? Masturbating for 3-5 hours every day and doing so in spite of the compulsion negatively affecting you is like, addiction-tier.

Anonymous 26175


>both of my male and female crushes like the same girl more than me
I just want to fucking die right now, please.
Shes so much funnier, and cooler, and prettier than ill ever be. why does it have to be like this.

Anonymous 26176


god, i want a girlfriend so badly. one that isn't super hocked up on trans/woke bullshit, but it's beginning to feel hopeless

Anonymous 26179

You masturbate for hours? Sounds like a huge waste of time, beside of your other problems. I can't give you good advice here. Sorry for beeing so noisy, but can oral sex (a couple of times per day) reduce your urge? I think it's hard to find a boyfriend who is able to fuck you all day (especially if your body don't let him) - or he needs to be s real sex addict.

In my case i also have a strange addiction. I could lick my girlfriend whenever it's possible, but for her it's nothing special anymore and she's annoyed. Needles she hates it if i wake her up with my tongue between her legs as example. I do it with a passion, but in the same way i feel like an animal, controlled by my sexuality. Sometimes i wish i could control myself better, but i guess it's a part of me that i have to accept.

I'm just glad it doesn't steal that much time, but it destroys my relationship. Maybe i need another partner or i have to change, who knows.

Anyway, i hope you found a way to at least reduce your frustration or a partner that can handle your urges.

Anonymous 26181

>I could lick my girlfriend whenever it's possible, but for her it's nothing special anymore and she's annoyed. Needles she hates it if i wake her up with my tongue between her legs as example.
No offense but your girlfriend sounds like an immense retard

Anonymous 26183

She might be bothered by all of it specifically because you wake her up. Some people just get really grumpy when they get woken up, it's not pleasant for them. Perhaps you've associated the licking with the waking up?

Because otherwise, >>26181 is right, she basically entitled.

Anonymous 26186

yup, you nailed it. She don't want her sleep interrupted, especially if she have go to work the next morning, which is understandable. I'm acting very selfish in that moment and just can't control myself. Even if she push me away, i don't stop and afterwards i'm feeling bad for it.

Starting something right after going to bed doesn't work either. She says she wan't to sleep. My best chance to have success is at the weekend, at some point during the day, but even that is not always the case. I couldn't touch her for weeks and she's fine with it, for me 2 - 3 days without having "fun" is hell, so i have to care for myself to stop thinking sll the time about it, but of course it's not the same. It's just a quick solution.

I don't know why i'm writing all this, probably because i'm frustrated as well and get triggered if i read something from woman that maybe would benefit from my addiction. Maybe it's important to have someone with the same level of sex drive. At the start of my relationship everything was good, but after a couple of years the difference get worse and worse. I don't want give the whole thing such an important role to dump my one and only relationship so far, but neeldes to say i'm not really happy anymore. sigh

Anonymous 26206

fucking same, wheres my terf gf

Anonymous 26207

just add me on discord again, you aren't blocked.

Anonymous 26223

I was inappropriately hugged and groped at work yesterday by a coworkers shitty boyfriend. He has been making weird + flirty comments the past few weeks and ive just been ignoring them because I thought I was just being over dramatic being uncomfortable by them, and just laughed it off. I immediately told the boss and texted my coworker. My boss said it was inappropriate for him to hug me; but when I described how he brushed my hand down my back, to my hip and almost to my butt before moving away; she said that he probably didn't mean it. He was close enough to my face for my to feel his breath and was intentionally breathing on my neck I think; said things like "oh youre a sweet girl, I like you, haha you are blushing." ect. I was mortified and was trying to get away from him.

The coworker of the perv believes me (we are closeish and ive heard him tell her to shut up and hes constantly getting into arguments and making her cry); But i only told her that he hugged me and was uncomfortable by it. She said as soon as she left she spoke to him, but im not sure if shes mad at me or not.

I told my dad (who also works there) and he at first didnt take it seriously, but now hes livid and ready to fight this guy. To make matters worse a guy i like is AM and might have to watch the tapes of what happened. I dont think he will talk to me after this.

Im scared and dont know what to do. I havent heard anything from anyone since yesterday, I dont know how I will be treated now. I dont want to be the person who cried wolf at something small, but I felt what i felt; and i always hear people say "oh well why didnt the girl complain immediately?", Im afraid no one believes me because im the ugly fat girl and im never hit on by guys usually. I just want him to leave me alone.

The coworkers boyfriend is always flirting with other women and generally seems to not respect them. Before Ive seen him stare at my ass and sometimes would get uncomfortably close to me.

Sorry for the blog post.

Anonymous 26233

I'm gonna fuckin graduate but everything about it is so bittersweet. There's the relief that I'll finally be done, but I don't know if I made the most of my experiences in uni. Especially since I took so damn long just to get the stupid degree. So much of my identity seems based on being a student, but I could have been building so much more outside of school life.
The post-grad void is looming, halp.

Anonymous 26237

Just fucking do it. If you do nothing, you're only making it worse for yourself.

Anonymous 26250

>And how has she reacted?

I stopped by work today and she seemed on the verge of tears and was really sad. Hugged me, said she loved and cared about me (shes like my work mother), She apologized and said her boyfriend didn't mean it and they were both sorry. I guess i looked really freaked out because everyone kept on asking if i was ok. It was the first time so im not pressing charges, I just wanted it to be known that i didnt want it to happen again and they promised me it wouldnt.

The boyfriend stops by and sees her after he gets off of work. They are both in thier 60s (I am 22).

Anonymous 26265

>said her boyfriend didn't mean it
What does this mean, exactly? That he didn't realize it was making you uncomfortable at the time? That the brush was accidental?
I don't want to ascribe blame to anyone, but "I didn't mean it" kind of smells like cop-out to me in the same way an abusive partner will hit someone and then say "No I didn't mean it, I love you I swear."

Anonymous 26272

How does one even manage to stick in uni? I want to go desperately but know I would immediately drop out..

You're lucky anon. This looming thing will pass and you'll be successful. If you managed to graduate, you can probably manage anything else life throws at you.

Anonymous 26276

I'm turing into one of those bitter people that hate everyone. How do I stop?

Anonymous 26278

Stop it.

Anonymous 26285

The touch wasnt accidental. He very deliberately snaked his hand down my back and hip and almost to my butt before I moved away. The thing is that I didn't tell my coworker this because my boss already said it probably was accidental and i didn't want to cause a fuss. I just told her it was a hug and she acted accordingly. I may tell her what happened on Monday; but I think she already suspects something happened because I was freaked out when I last saw her.

I honestly do not think anything will happen against after this, and that is what I wanted. The man thought I had a crush on him (I absolutely dont) and was trying to get a rise out of me. I come off as pretty naive and "innocent" and a lot of older men target me because of this.

Anonymous 26291

It pisses me off that fulfilling relationships and emotional/physical intimacy seem to come so easily to others, whereas I have always struggled to connect with people.

Sometimes I wonder if I'm too psycho and fucked in the head to ever date someone again.

I fear that in my heart of hearts I only want other people to pity me.

Anonymous 26293

>pity me.
Well you're doing pretty good with this post so far, keep it up!

Anonymous 26296

>The man thought I had a crush on him (I absolutely dont) and was trying to get a rise out of me.
Even if he was right and you did have a crush on him, that's still scummy as hell. He has a girlfriend, he shouldn't be trying to flirt with other women who he thinks are interested in him.

Anonymous 26299

Is there a reason to live? What should I care about?

Anonymous 26300

Why not care about finding that reason?

Anonymous 26301

i'm tired of life, i'm out

Anonymous 26302

Just go for a PhD if you want uni to last forever, it doesn't have to end

Anonymous 26303

why would you think it's up to an anonymous imageboard to give you a reason to live?


Anonymous 26353


aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa my bf doesn’t want me anymore

Anonymous 26370


I'm sorry anon, heart break is the worst. Have you two sat down and talked yet?

Anonymous 26377

By dropping out and drifting for awhile before sucking it up and going back because it is at least an okay backup plan to get a government goon job and at least support myself.

Honestly the degree just represents that you can follow directions and suck up to shit for an extended period of time. Which I guess is a minimal type of success, but I feel like a fraud for not doing more.

Fuck no. Going to grad school just because the only thing I'm decent at is schoolwork doesn't mean I should get an advanced degree for the sake of delaying life. Academia is a racket.

Anonymous 26378

I know doxing is against the rules but I wish there was a sort of e-boy shitlist because I keep getting screwed over by people who are apparently notorious for it. The alternative I guess would be to stop interacting with any males online but at the same time I wish I could warn other girls so repeat offenders can't prey on them as easily.

Anonymous 26379

Namedropping isn't doxxing. Vent away.

Anonymous 26385

Yes. We just don’t get along. Not in a single aspect, the biggest being communication issues. It was causing immense amount of pain and stress on both of our parts.

I’m glad we can mutually end the relationship without any hard feelings.
I think maybe we were too alike in personality.

Anonymous 26386

do name drop

Anonymous 26390


i spend on anime boys more than warranted. the game's fun but not translated well or complex enough to justify the expenses. as soon as this hell event ends my cc's swiping the fuck out of there. at least i'm more self-aware this time around and halting before utilities and rent swing by. fuck me for not spending that money on a therapist. must get shit together. maybe actually seek a therapist and more friends instead of relying on human interaction through a fucking gacha.

Anonymous 26393

This is bizarre and bewildering to me in several ways.

Okay first, how can this even be happening. There are literally – LITERALLY, proper use of literal here – millions of thirsty eboys. The internet is overflowing with them. That's the whole reason we have CC. Like, how does this happen that you even end up internet-dating the same guy as some other anonette?

I guess I want to know more of the story before any further questions

Anonymous 26396

I was also "cucked" by a popular e-boy. Most of them are BPD NEETs who are great at manipulating people and are always thirsty for more attention. They tend to mold their personalities and interests to fit the person they are talking to.

Anonymous 26399

There's nothing I hate more in the world than self-righteous, social justice people, as if any of this will matter after I die. I also isolate myself and keep myself in check so you can't pull the "think of other people!!" card.

Anonymous 26401

that's not normal.

Anonymous 26403

because they're making contact in the same niche areas of the web (or places like discord servers that are populated by ppl who go to these niche places) so it becomes a smaller world than you'd think. also a lot of the contact is initiated by the same subset of guys, and those same guys are likely predators. i am pro-shitlist because this is so common, though i think it should be noted that having a ..standard? bad experience with a guy should not qualify for shitlisting, it should be for objectively really bad experiences, or for those whose attempts to prey on multiple girls have been noted.

this is very true. no-one is capable of manipulating you harder than a dude who due to social/mental issues, and a bulk of other potential reasons, does not have viable irl access to sex (with someone who meets his standards anyway). his dick will have him do anything to achieve his endgame, whether that's your attention for as long as it validates him, nudes, or sex (prolly all 3). they can talk to you every hour of every day for years and then drop you like they didn't even know your name if they saw an unflattering photo of you, or if someone else came along, or maybe just after meeting for the first time and getting intimate. to be frank you may never know whether you are talking to the love of your life or someone who saw your screenname and who's dickbrain thought [3.11% chance of eventual intercourse] and then looked around and saw sub 2% everywhere else so he decided to put work into you. to be absolutely brutal he may not even be able to be honest with himself that this is what's happening, at least not until he's finally gotten what he wanted and it clicks

this is not an absolute truth, just a usual truth for these types of guys from these types of places.

Anonymous 26405

Which game?

Anonymous 26406

Do girls do this too?

Anonymous 26407

Of course they do. This is human nature, not some gender specific truth. Some people genuinely love their partner or who they pursue, but I get the impression most would move to the next best thing in a heartbeat if it was possible. Loyalty is rarer than love anyhow.

Anonymous 26409

Yea, I mean the term e-girl is way more used than the term e-boy. Girls love doing that shit, but they mostly do it to get material things rather than sex/nudes like men do.
t. has spent 6 years playing an mmo full of these types of people both male and female

Anonymous 26411

Start giving details then. The only e-boys I'm aware of are Oscar and that Sosa dude.

Anonymous 26412

it would really suck if this place turned into a certain other website meant for roasting people. namedropping ruins the fun for everyone, you only hear one side of the story and it can happen to anyone

Anonymous 26413

I won't namedrop (even though he is also known in some discord servers and on /r9k/ to some extent), but girl, there's a difference between being a bad partner and "dating" five girls at the same time and lying to each of them.

Anonymous 26414


I’m glad it ended mutually, I think getting closure is easier when it ends that way. I wish you all the best. It might be a rough few months ahead, depending on how close you were & how long you were together, but you can get through it.

Anonymous 26418

It's just so hard for me to understand anons… Like, I get the same flirting everyone else does but how do you not just brush it all off at this point? Like, for me, the experience is "oh, another guy flirting with me, great". At one point I would just tell servers I was a lesbian to avoid thirsty boys but then I'd get the whole
>oh that's great I'm an ally!

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