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Vent thread Anonymous 49241

last thread was >>46828

Anonymous 49260

I wish I could have a female friend online or irl but I keep realising women talk crap about each other, I once did though I try not too because it's shitty thing to do.

Anonymous 49262

Everyone talks crap about others, don't fall for the moid PR campaign that they "don't gossip" because it's a total lie. Moids can be some of the most catty bitches out there. True friends are hard to come by but sex isn't gonna determine whether someone is a snake or not

Anonymous 49264

maybe he does like someone else

Anonymous 49265

everyone talks shit about each other. when men do, it's acceptable, though, when women do it, they're seen as shitheads.

why do people talk shit? they don't want to offend but still be honest (To at least someone)

Anonymous 49281

me too :( but i keep meeting the pickmes who try to compete for male attention, and see every girl as a potential threat. i've met some sweet girls, but it's difficult for me to befriend them unless they're super extroverted because i won't initiate.

Anonymous 49282

I feel like my LDR boyfriend is super condescending. Shit like adorable/cute should be seen as a compliment, but it feels so dismissive when I'm talking about something serious that I'm passionate about, and he just goes, "haha, that's so adorable," and is constantly comparing me to stupid cartoon characters. He also acts very "parental" sometimes, which grosses me out. He treats me like a child, and I dislike it. I don't like when people do not take me seriously.

Anonymous 49286


There, there, you'll feel better after you take a nap.

Anonymous 49289

How do you know if your parents were emotionally abusive or if you're the one who is toxic to them? Everyone I can find online asking this type of question lists something obviously super abusive, but I was never hit or insulted, and I wasn't unloved or anything, so I don't know why I feel like this.

Anonymous 49293


I'm too blackpilled and socially retarded to ever make friends.

Anonymous 49294

I wish this place was less straight. Not because I'm anti-heterosexuality or something, I'm not even true 100% lesbian, but I'm pretty much only physically attracted to women. All the moidlust here reminds me of feeling like an outsider back in school when all the other girls were going on about hot guys and I didn't get it.

Anonymous 49295

there is a fuckton of lesbian forums, you can go there

Anonymous 49296

I wish the opposite of that.


Anonymous 49301

nana my love.jpg

tell him this and make it clear you and your interests deserve to be taken seriously

Anonymous 49311

definitely, if you've already given up.

Anonymous 49331


I'm so tired of feeling ugly, I know realistically I'm not but I just don't like anything I see in the mirror anymore. No matter how hard I try to make my clothes and hair look nice I hate everything and never feel confident anymore. I feel like no one notices me in public anymore.

The thing is, my skin is clear and I work out and really like beauty stuff as a hobby so i can't even glow up because this is the best I can do. Is this how I'm going to feel forever?

Anonymous 49344

go goth anon, not tryhard egirl amazon miniskirt goth, just classy mature still noticeably gloomy goth.

Anonymous 49345


when am i going to make amends with my social retardation. i mean it's been a constant thing since high-school, and i just want to finally accept me being an outcast (among outcasts) and stop getting so jittery and disjointed – i can't call this vibe depression – whenever people inevitably like someone else more than they'll ever like me, or when i go ignored in group chats, or when nobody approaches me for anything (like they approach other people!), or any multitude of things that come about when a connection with people is weak at best, and usually nonexistent.

i feel art is a good way to escape this loneliness but fuck i suck at drawing and have no real know-how on how to improve. i'm already in uni, but to be honest with you i'm worried i'll suck ass at my major and be leagues behind everyone that 'just gets it'.

so tired.

Anonymous 49362

The state of my relationship has turned me into a closet yumejo and it's pathetic. At the same time, maybe if I'd just been into 2D guys sooner I could have avoided this shit. Just Why?

Anonymous 49363

Lmao, just today I was telling him about how I use a weighted blanket, and he goes, "poor baby, you need a special blankie to sleep, hehe how cute!"

I wanna drop kick him

I guess I will, he won't stop unless I say it bothers me, but I feel like I seem overly sensitive getting angry at him calling me "cute".

Anonymous 49365

This sounds like a psychological issue. Maybe talk to a therapist?

Anonymous 49376

>dude at my job shows interest in me
>also think he's cute, consider opening my dead heart a little if he goes all out and asks me out
>he gets fired, coworker feels urge to tell me about it
The universe is comical in its efforts to keep men away from me. I can always trust her to look out for me when my self-control weakens.

Anonymous 49409

I'm still lurking in a discord server for a mobile game I said I'd leave last year. I ignored the whole situation and quit the game until now, but I want to leave peacefully so it's not awkward when we eventually match up in teams or see each other in world chat. I don't know if I should dm one of the members I used to be friends with and tell him I'm leaving and then block him and the server so they don't possibly retaliate from anger or leave just like that and risk the chance of running into them in other games we all mostly play, becoming friends and realizing its them. They know my name due to an accident so I think I'm justifiably being paranoid when some are men 5+ years older then me.

Anonymous 49411

What kind of toxic cesspit did you join where leaving a discord is this scary

Anonymous 49412

Just leave the server and make up an excuse that you need to study more or something if they ask.

Anonymous 49413

there is something very very wrong with my brain

Anonymous 49415

My mom came into my room and asked me how my first college class of the semester went. I told her it was 6hrs long and I was struggling with it, and she just stares at me and slowly closes my bedroom door. Why fucking ask me if you don’t care?

Anonymous 49416

what happened anon?

Anonymous 49417

It's bugging me how me and my boyfriend, long distance at the moment because of covid, only message each other shit like good morning, good night, memes, and summaries (if we even get to that) of our days. I'm often the one initiating, too. I want to speak up about it but I don't want to come off as clingy. I'm pathetic.

Anonymous 49418

If she's anything like my mom she wanted you to give a positive answer so she could feel good about it

Anonymous 49419


One where the server admin added back a guy who was harassing and dming all the female members because "he deserves a second chance" but we didn't want to complain or he'd have a tantrum and ban people/ leave for 2 months. And guys would stay up late talking to this 14yo girl who's STILL there bullying people like the first day she joined while 25yo guys enable her and probably groom her :(. I thought maybe everything is innocent and I'm overreacting but their public nsfw channel only privated when I specifically told them to revise the rules and stop talking about stuff with a literal minor.
I know I was dumb and and should've left when my actual game friends left, I've just been scared because I was 18,accidentally showed my name and said some private info and the admin caused unnecessary drama with people so I didn't want to make myself a target. I'm gonna stand for myself and flat out leave pls pray for my existence

Anonymous 49420

It's not as dramatic as you think. Dont give a fuck and just leave like a boss.

Anonymous 49421

Why are you joining normalfag disocrds that have NSFW stuff in them anyway? care about what you are doing not anyone else and if others upset you then you just need to remove them from your life or toughen up a bit. That girl is using them as much as they are using her so who gives a fuck just stay out of normalfag spaces if you dislike them I do.

Anonymous 49424

Dump him no moid deserve you

Anonymous 49427

I've tried therapy but after I see the same therapist for a while I just start lying to them because I don't want to disappoint them by doing badly. I know it's a psychological issue and it's not normal to get upset and embarrassed by looking in the mirror, but I only started feeling this way once covid depression combined with winter depression. I hope once vaccines roll out and it gets warmer I'll be normal again. I'm already on too many meds so idk what else any external influence can do for me.

Anonymous 49431

I should, but I won't. I want someone to hold so badly right now.

Anonymous 49436

similar situation except I never really do a lot mostly because I feel stagnated and bouts of depression or something.
he deserves better, he really does.
part of me hopes he finds someone closer to him so he can tell me

Anonymous 49437

This is actually helpful to read. I assume he's like this because of me. But it might not be.

Anonymous 49439

was playing with probably my best friend, i really like him, and he started doing something he does fairly often, just stop and type to someone else. but this time he did it a LOT. i got a little mad and i just wanted to know am i being unreasonable here?? like overly clingy or is he being an asshole??

Anonymous 49443

Vent– I kinda hate being so asocial and disconnected from people on an emotional level I have gone a year without talking to anyone irl and online and not felt lonely I can see family crying or even bad medical news of a serious nature and not feel a thing I am cold despite wishing I wasn't.
I feel like a HUGE chunk of what makes life worth living is just not possible for me as I am what a psych has said I am schizoid and I try so hard to care but feel nothing in general.

Anonymous 49446

Maybe he is unaware and needs to hear from you how he makes you feel? if he is aware he is an asshole or does not value you.

Anonymous 49456


Does anyone know if shitty posture and a childhood spent sitting on your arse playing vidya can hamper the development of your figure? I always considered myself a busty curvy gal. Now that I've lost weight my boobs are pretty average and the small waist+big hips are still there but my butt is beyond pancakey. I never carried fat there even when I was a fat fuck so I was always insecure about it but jfc it's horrible now. From the side I look like a little boy and it's humiliating going out in public which makes me want to scream because the whole reason I lost weight was to feel good about myself and feel like a normal person.

I've always had a serious inferiority complex and have always felt the need to show everyone I'm perfect so this shit is eating me alive. I can't stand the thought of just being born a lesser woman when it comes to my appearance so the way I cope is by telling myself I must have fucked up my butt development by being lazy and having bad posture as a kid instead of it being genetics. It's not like I can ask my family if it comes from them. But god does it hurt to have worked so hard to improve myself only to come out of it still looking like shit.

Anonymous 49458

Anon, take solice in the fact that a lot of people are quietly miserable in their friend groups even when they're socially adept. People these days are too scared to be without friends so they stick with others even when they don't actually like them all that much and when it's clear those "friends" would betray them in a heartbeat if enough was in it for them. Of course it's good to have friends but being sociable and having friends often doesn't amount to that much happiness for most people, socially awkward or not.

Anonymous 49459


i could wear so many cute outfits if only my boobs were smaller
they're all saggy and they have stretch marks all over them and i don't like them i want small boobs

Anonymous 49460

>tfw starting to seriously consider dating the guy I friendzoned so I can have straight couple privilege

Anonymous 49462

It's genetics. Busty women often have pancake butts. Do some squats.

Anonymous 49463

I’m just fucking sick of the state of my life right now. Rotting away in my parents house, getting older turning 28 (god I’m old), my crazy abusive mother won’t let me go outside bc of the covid bs, in love with an emotionally unavailable distant guy who obviously doesn’t want anything to do with me, no friends, shitty job, shitty car, seeing all these racist fucks everywhere esp on the internet but the worst part is my brain and my depression telling me things won’t get any better. I just want to end it all but I’m too much of a wimp to go through with it. I don’t know what to do. I thought manifesting and law of attraction will help me but I can’t manifest for shit lmao. I doubt anyone cares about this or will read this but I just need to get this off my chest. Fuck my shitty fucking life I wish I was never born

Anonymous 49464

Let's break this down:

>getting older turning 28 (god I’m old)

This isn't old. Old is 70s. You still have a whole lifetime ahead of you.

>in love with an emotionally unavailable distant guy who obviously doesn’t want anything to do with me

If he's not into you, he's not into you. Stop visiting his profiles and talking to him. You will feel better.

>no friends

Learn to enjoy your own company.

>shitty job, shitty car

Can you start taking classes at a community college or online to help you get a better job?

>seeing all these racist fucks everywhere esp on the internet but the worst part is my brain and my depression telling me things won’t get any better. I just want to end it all but I’m too much of a wimp to go through with it.

Stop visiting these sites. Set up news email alerts (Financial Times has a one that is reliable and unlikely to trigger much). Focus your time on things that help you feel better like reading offline.

>I don’t know what to do. I thought manifesting and law of attraction will help me but I can’t manifest for shit lmao.

I've not read the book, but from what I understand you need to make a chart of what you want. I guess it works by giving you a constant reminder of what you want and makes you more likely to look for opportunities to fulfill them. Why not make a list of your ultimate dream job, living place, etc? You can also add some more realistic options as stepping stones. Now think about all the small steps you need to take to get there and start working on them.

Anonymous 49465

Force them in or lose weight. According to fiction shotas prefer big booba. So you might have an edge there.

Anonymous 49466

"Saggy" is normal. Everyone is just too pornified these days to recognise normal breasts. Men have saggy balls and no one care because it's on a man. Everything about a woman though has to be open to criticism and is expected to remain in an idealised teenage state.

What type of clothes are they stopping you from wearing?

Anonymous 49468


vent- after you’ve had so many one sided relationships whether it’s friendships/relationships/family or whatever and you finally have one where they care about you equally it’s SO hard to accept their comfort. Whenever I show negative emotions and they cheer me up or something I feel so guilty since I’m so used to people just writing off my emotions. I know this shouldn’t be a super big issue but I wish I could be vulnerable about what i’m upset about without assuming they’re gonna think I’m an awful person & leave me. I’m just so worried they’re going to think i’m a nuisance eventually, I really don’t think I deserve them sometimes.

Anonymous 49469

>shotas prefer big booba
>lose weight
you sound like a moid
>"Saggy" is normal
i guess
they still get in the way and they're annoying, i would get breast reduction surgery if i had the money..big boobs are fine but i don't like them on me
>What type of clothes are they stopping you from wearing?
boxy tops, oversized clothes, sweaters, idk i feel like everything would look better on me
also sport bras give me uniboob but i can't wear normal bras either when doing sports because they just don't do anything to keep my boobs in place

Anonymous 49472

>also sport bras give me uniboob
I'm almost titless and they give me uniboob, that's just the lay of the land.

Anonymous 49474

I am fucking exhausted and I feel like I have so much to do and not enough time to do it all. I really wish I could freeze time just to nap and then unfreeze for 24/7 productivity and time to watch Netflix

Anonymous 49475

You’re wearing the wrong size and bra type. Take a look at r/abrathatfits and r/bigboobproblems

Anonymous 49476


His celebrity crush is Margot Robbie.
I am literally brown with a round ass face what the fuck.

Anonymous 49477

Why did he tell you his crush? Did you ask? Or he just said it for no reason?

Anonymous 49478

Ugh Margot Robbie is so ugly. Who cares.

Anonymous 49479

We were talking about our celeb crushes and I said i dont have one and then he said his celeb crush is Margot Robbie. I wanna die. I am gonna hang myself.
I wanted to dye my hair blonde awhile again and he said id be ugly and now he is telling me his celeb crush is a blonde
are you kidding? shes so pretty

Anonymous 49480

> he said id be ugly
Forget about the crush thing, dump him for this.

Anonymous 49481

It's just a celeb crush, you retard.

Anonymous 49485

He told you you'll be ugly because he doesn't want you to change, it's a celebrity crush stop sweating over it.

Anonymous 49486

>because he doesn't want you to change
What does it matter what he wants? He doesn't own her.

Anonymous 49487

me too anon
you deserve them, negative thinking like that is what causes bad things to happen. you are worth their attention and love <:)

Anonymous 49488

this ED shit is kicking my ass im too tired fpr this but i feel like every other cope i have is being taken away.

Anonymous 49489

>I wanted to dye my hair blonde awhile again and he said id be ugly
dump him he does not own you

Anonymous 49495

what other copes did you have?

Anonymous 49496


I met this cute boy on discord a couple weeks ago and we hit it off immediately. Last night I said I loved him and he didn't really reciprocate and now I feel like I've made things weird between us. I'm so fucking stupid but at least I got it off my chest.

Anonymous 49498


My first boyfriend who cheated on me by getting his dick sucked by his 12 year old cousin is abusing his new girlfriend and I can't convince her to report him to the police. He's cheated on her 3 times by trying to fuck her sister and her best friend and she's still treating him like he's a king and it makes me want to throw up. He's happy.

Anonymous 49499

Where do you live. Redneck land? Why all the inbreeding lol!?

Anonymous 49500

Where does one even meet guys on discord who aren't creeps?

Anonymous 49501

Fashion discords tend to have pretty people. Being the hobby of pretty people and all…

Anonymous 49502

Anyone else feel chronically irritated? Every single day, there is something to be angry or stressed about. Every single time I drive, I get angry at some idiot going below the speed limit. I had to delete my social media accounts becayse I couldn’t stop having arguments with people. I might snap one day. I’m so miserable.

Anonymous 49503

I'm chronically tired but then again I do exercise everyday because there is nothing to do in life this days.

Anonymous 49504

>trying to fuck her sister and her best friend
Um, so did he rape them? This is beyond concerning. He's clearly on his way to becoming a societal menace (and he basically already is)

Anonymous 49505

I'm proud of you, anon, for taking steps like deleting social media to better yourself. You at least acknowledge it's a problem and are taking action about it. That's still more than many. Sorry for having little to add.

Anonymous 49507


They could be muslims or redneck muslims.

I remember feeling somewhat like that, when i still was smoking and hanging out with my "friends". Eventually i grew tired of my lifestyle and decided to take my life in a better direction, i had to cut my smoking buddies loose, they were talking about their problems too much, while probably thinking that my life is carefree, when in reality i'm simply bad at talking how i feel, most of the time i don't know myself. So their negativity was piling up in me, while i couldn't vent my own. It took me some time to get rid of that company, because i'm weak like that, but pandemic helped and now i feel great!

Anonymous 49509


I want to pet a cat but they always run from me :(

Anonymous 49510

That's not really what I meant. In my experience "pretty" doesn't always equal "not a creep."

Anonymous 49511

You just have to be patient and gentle. Some are always shy, but the social ones are real sweeties when they realize you're a petting dispenser.
t. Had an extroverted tomcat who loved everyone and now have a shy girl who is still scared of my mom sometimes

Also thx for gif

Anonymous 49512

Awwww, anon, they are probably just nervous if they're feral or street cats. They don't know whether to trust or not. But if you're slow and frequent an area and show you are willing to give food to them, they will eventually see you can be trusted.

Anonymous 49514


>Want to make actual friends because I'm tired of being fucking alone
>Can't due to social autism
>pandemic has only made it worse
>Feel actual jealousy and anger whenever I see others bonding with their peers
>brother makes fun of me for being socially retarded
>Go on discord
>Make some friends
>Still don't really go out of my way to talk to them but it's better than nothing
>End up losing some of them due to some drama bullshit
>Start spending more and more time hauled up in my room because it's my only place of comfort
>parents lecture me about having no friends and I always tell them that I'll try more to be social but of course I don't
Man what the fuck is wrong with me? Am I just destined to be a loner all my fucking life? I genuinely dislike being social, but it's come to the point where just thinking about this isolation shit has me in tears now. Good fucking God fuck this, I'm so tired of myself.

Anonymous 49516


I have recently realized that in my entire life I have never been passionate about anything, or cared about anything beyond "yeah I like it/them ig" and I sort of don't know what to do with that. How am I supposed to try at life and do my best when there is no long-term incentive for me from anything? Is this some mental problem or have I just not found something good for me or… I am pretty sure it is not depression since I feel quite fine mentally, but I do not know what could be the cause of this and it is driving me nuts.

Anonymous 49517


Yeah I love cats so much, I try to go to the same areas but I live in a city with not a lot of rare cat encounters.
When I do encounter I try to become small and make the pspdpsp noises but they never stay for long..

Anonymous 49519

you have to consciously decide that you are going to be calmer, if that makes sense. you'd expect time to heal you but for me, unless i pay attention my mood just gets worse and worse.
also this.

Anonymous 49520



Anonymous 49521

please just alert the authorities

Anonymous 49528

>you have to consciously decide that you are going to be calmer
I have done this a few times. I did it yesterday when a nurse told me I was late for my appointment and that I needed to reschedule (they gave me a different time..). I just said “no thanks” and walked out because I was so stressed internally.
Thank you <3 I almost cancelled my health insurance yesterday out of anger (its complicated) but i didnt haha
I’m chronically exhausted too. I have no motivation to exercise. ):

Anonymous 49529

Would you be okay with your friend dating your four years younger brother? Friend is the same age as you.

Anonymous 49530

Yeah, who cares ask her if she has a younger cute brother and date him back. Love's free.

Anonymous 49533

It'd be kinda weird but I guess I'd be ok with it.
She better treat him right though or I'm never talking to her again.

Anonymous 49534

Yeah I'm like this, too. It's called anhedonia and it's a symptom of major depressive disorder (I'm diagnosed with that).

Anonymous 49535

I was "that person" and despite not fucking him over, we did break up and I don't think the friendship will recover.

Anonymous 49545

does anyone else have a problem with maladaptive daydreaming? i live entirely inside my head… everyone daydreams, but i evade reality completely by escaping into my fantasies inside my labyrinth to the point where reality itself is intrusive or annoying because i'd rather be daydreaming. i seriously conk out and people are like, "lights out, is anyone home," and i become aggressive because i'd rather be dreaming. i can't even "feel" anything in the real world. it's like i can only get my dopamine fix from my fantasies.

Anonymous 49547

I aspire to re-learn mathematics (my knowledge ends at Pre-Algebra), and learn coding, and become a programmer/cybersecurity expert… but I'm at rock bottom right now. I was groomed and kidnapped as a child (pretty intense shit, yes,), I have debilitating PTSD. It took over my life, and I became overwhelmed by my mental illness that I had to drop out of school in grade 7 despite being one of those "gifted burnouts," that was told I would achieve great things. I want to rebuild my life & education, but I have to start from the ground up, and it's so deterring to see people who had a more traditional learning experience breeze through without having to try. I got a GED, and I will push myself to succeed because I have no other options, and I don't wanna be a basement dwelling NEET anymore at 22. I know I had potential, but did I lose it? I'm scared of failing, and realizing I lost my momentum. I'm just an average IQ nobody, but I hope I come to be good at something in the future… Something I'm proud of. I don't want to be a shell of the person I once was anymore.

Anonymous 49605


>haven't left the house since all students were sent home from uni back in october bc of the virus
>legit havent talked to anyone but mom, dad, grandma and my uncle
>spent the most of this week staying up, pulling all-nighters so i can be ready for my exams
>had to present in an online class today
>made presentation in my "other" native language, which i dont speak well whatsoever
>prof and everyone else knows abt this, they dont really mind it
>everyone else was composed and relaxed throughout their turns
>i start presenting and at the second sentence i just lose track of what i was gonna say and start stuttering and sweating to no fucking end
>looked like some budget autist throughout the entire thing

Anonymous 49606


try and get back to uni when you can
talking to your course mates and flatmates when you can i assure it will make you feel better

Anonymous 49607


>>had to present in an online class today
>made presentation in my "other" native language, which i dont speak well whatsoever
>prof and everyone else knows abt this, they dont really mind it
>everyone else was composed and relaxed throughout their turns
>i start presenting and at the second sentence i just lose track of what i was gonna say and start stuttering and sweating to no fucking end
>looked like some budget autist throughout the entire thing
The same happened to me two years ago in a regular face to face class. The sadest thing is that the professsor really felt bad for me and I failed one of the two exams and when I repited it I couln't do it, started crying in silence but he put me a 5. He must think I'm the most retarded thing in this world. I have a very thick accent, very different from where my uni is. But I learned my lesson: prepare much more and don't do it while listening to heavy metal. I hope you feel better now, anon!!!

Anonymous 49614

somehow i keep attracting manipulative people
i wish i was more assertive so they wouldn't walk all over me all the time

Anonymous 49628

I just don't want my mom to cry anymore. I feel so bad for her but I don't know how to comfort her.

Anonymous 49633

Been long so lonely and desperate I actively daydream of relationships with manipulative jerks. My self-esteem is so low I can not imagine anybody else willing to bother with me.

Anonymous 49643

Reddit banned r/trufemcels but r/incelswithout hate is still up wth

Anonymous 49644

>Reddit banned r/trufemcels

Anonymous 49645

Welp, for promoting hate

Anonymous 49647

Probably for "transphobia" or something.

Anonymous 49648

Judging by some of the recent posts there it seems like they expect to follow suit anyway.

Anonymous 49650

Because they hate women.

Anonymous 49651

Anon, daydreaming about nice guys who know your worth will increase your self esteem. Don't beat yourself up inside your own brain.

Anonymous 49653

I used to be like that. I founds taking time out from dating and reading a lot about emotionally abusive relationships really helped me to stop red flags (Mumsnet relationships is good for this as it has a lot of older and more experienced female posters). Also do regular check ins with your self to see if you are happy or not and if you are being treated fairly. Oh, and stop making excuses for other people. If they treat you badly stop giving them the benefit of the doubt as they are the one that should be apologising and excusing themselves, not you!

Anonymous 49654

Not sure if you know it already, but I've heard a lot of people find Khan academy really helpful for self teaching maths. I also recommend the book "Engineering Mathematics" by Stroud which starts easy and goes through things step by step with lots of examples.

Anonymous 49658

Exact same boat as you. I started writing mine down, writing full plotlines and having playlists dedicated to whatever's going on in there. In a way I actually like it and don't want it to be fixed, as it's been beneficial in handling my trauma BS-though I don't know if it's similar for you, anon?

Anonymous 49659

People who have low self-esteem often think they don't have much or any worth.

Anonymous 49661

That's true so pretend you have worth until you realise you do. Just don't allow yourself to have daydreams where you are treated badly.

Anonymous 49663

>do literally anything
>"this would be more fun if you had friends"

Okay, tyvm brain you can stop now.

Anonymous 49664

>want to do anything
>this is boring alone. wait until you have friends and then do it together

Anonymous 49665


I think I'm an emotional sadomasochist. I really enjoy inflicting pain onto others, I love being the bearer of bad news, I love when my friends or just random people online are going through some tragedy, and I don't mind awful things happening to me because I think "at least it's interesting". I wonder what's wrong with me (beyond the obvious)

Anonymous 49666

girls girls girls girls girls girls girls i want to kiss girls i want to cuddle girls i want to hold a girl's hand girls girls girls i'm gay for girls i want a girlfriend girls girls girls girls g a y

Anonymous 49667

Is your life a bot boring anon? Maybe you just like the drama? Was there a lot of drama in your life growing up?

Anonymous 49671

Too bad.
I want racoon bf.

Anonymous 49678


Even among my friends I still feel like an outcast.

Anonymous 49683

i can relate so hard anon i also want to kiss girls :(

Anonymous 49688

Just take one lmao.
They aren't going to approach you.
They aren't going to be given to you.
So just start casually hanging around with one and gradually close the distance to the point where he is emotionally dependent on you.

Anonymous 49694


My dad brought the USB that I store NSFW images in to his business trip

Anonymous 49697

it must have a "virus"

Anonymous 49698


I'm really attracted to my special friend and I wish I could lose my lip virginity to him. And, y'know, my regular virginity too.

I wonder if we would even still be only friends if we could do those things, I'm shy to admit I really like the idea of being his girlfriend….. he'd make a really cute little boyfriend. Only time will tell. Maybe someday I'll be able to afford to close the distance between us, pandemic permitting.

I already feel so happy that I'm his friend at all, he's been really good for me and what we shared the other night was really something special.

Anonymous 49700

>I wonder if we would even still be only friends if we could do those things

Don't do anything unless you are already dating. You will be heartbroken otherwise.

Anonymous 49702

I do like drama. My life is boring on a day-to-day level but many interesting things happen to me. So I guess I just crave the excitement.

Anonymous 49706

I'm sorry to hear that, anon. I can't say things will get better because that's the same reason I left my fiends. Maybe try to find just one person you feel really close with and work on that.

Anonymous 49716

what manga is this from? It looks familiar.

Anonymous 49718


this is utterly retarded but i'm seething over the fact that if either of my parents won the lottery, they probably would only give me like, one million dollars. one million dollars out of a mega billion ticket because they're assholes

Anonymous 49726

So my guy says he sees porn as degenerate and gross because he's sick of it in terms of how it's plastered everywhere and he says he doesn't watch it anymore. I feel like a dick because internally, I feel "that's nice of you to say sweetie, I don't for a second believe that no matter what beliefs you may have". I feel like I should give him the benefit of the doubt and believe him. But it's almost like I'd rather know my guy watches porn than live in a fairyland where he doesn't.

Plus, just because he doesn't watch porn doesn't mean he's not jerking it off to "soft" core porn, or regular pictures of women. But then again, I'm known to be paranoid, so I feel like I'm a jerk for assuming he is getting off to other things.

He never was pornsick and he loves having sex with me. he only watched porn when I wasn't at his house (to my knowledge).

Man, I really can't be pleased. BPD is a helluva drug.

Anonymous 49727

>Getting mad about receiving 1 million dollars from your parents
What the fuck? That's still a shit ton of money. Buy a house, or go to college or something. Be grateful they're giving you anything at all. Your parents are far from assholes

Anonymous 49728

Try engaging him in an in-depth anti-porn discussion and see if he seems genuine or not.

Anonymous 49729

Oh, he is very genuine in his beliefs. He's discussed it a few times but only this time did he say he had been done with porn for a while. That's kind of why I have trouble, he was critical of it before, but he still participated in watching it. Now he's even more anti-porn in that he thinks there are problems with sex positivity, especially with sex workers, and he added in this discussion he's been done watching it. So I guess I'm just a bit cynical because of the past. Paranoia is the name of my game and he hasn't shown himself to be degenerate in other ways, so I think I am being unfair to him.

Either way, I care about him and I'm glad he's reached this conclusion.

Anonymous 49730

By itself, that sounds fine however abusive men will sometimes use faux feminism as a way for you to let down your guard. Don’t make excuses for any red flags.

Anonymous 49731


ew. why did you reply to me? idc about men i'm talking about girls

Anonymous 49732

Mine doesn't use porn because when he was a coomer teen he used it too much and ended up watching just out of boredom so he dropped it altogether, but I'm still skeptical because it sounds like really he developed porn addiction and got out just in time. Now he uses his imagination but in an idiot moment he let it slip that he sometimes jerks off thinking of other women (real and fictional) and even though that's to be expected it really turned me off of him and I haven't been able to be intimate with him since then which, of course, makes me feel like I'm gonna make it worse. I hate moid sexuality.

Anonymous 49733

no anon, they're assholes. 1 billion dollars is approx. 1000 million dollars and you mean to tell me they'd only give me a sliver of that?

if i won a billion dollars i'd give them both 10 million at minimum.

Anonymous 49737

I don't think there are even any lotteries out there with billion dollar prizes.
You should be thinking about the money they actually have, like potential inheritance not hypotheticals.

Anonymous 49740

My mind feels foggy these days lately. Hope I snap out of it soon. It's an absolute hell to experience.

Anonymous 49744

Someone from my course at uni has applied for a higher role at my company and has an interview with my boss but 1) we have the same qualifications and experience and 2) she’s a massive fucking dick who made me feel super competitive and stressed out all the time, literally super privileged and rich so didn’t have to work through uni whilst I had to work 30 hours a week on top of studying and going to class, and would ask me what grades I got constantly only to tell me she did better.

I don’t know what to do. Part of me wants to tell my boss not to employ her but that feels super toxic and mean. I’m fucking stressed as balls work was my safe space and now this.

Anonymous 49745

Are you on good terms with the boss? Maybe let them know that you were on the same course and that you can provide some character info about them if they are interested.

Anonymous 49746

If your boss is a male, such petty behavior might backfire, unless you're way more attractive than your colleague, in that case go ahead.

Anonymous 49748

I think if they are professional about it it's fine. They shouldn't say anything unless the boss wants it though.

Anonymous 49749


What matters is the motivation behind it (a good boss will notice this), there is nothing professional about harboring jealousy towards a colleague, there is nothing professional about talking shit behind someones back just because that someone is more successful, of course showing off and rubbing it in isn't professional either, but employers actually want their employees to be in a healthy competition, why should an employer care if their employees came from a poor family or were born with a silver spoon in their mouth, what matters is, can they get shit done, but i digress.

Anonymous 49750

I don't recommend to interfere with the process. At work you are expected to put your personal differences aside and be professional. It will make you look bad if you tell your boss unless you were asked first. Even if that is the case start by telling them something positive about her education (she has the same as you so that will be good for you too) and then you can mention something about her behaviour.
If she does end up getting the job I would recommend to avoid her as much as possible. If you have to interact with her try to have another coworker around. She will have to be nice or the coworker will notice her behaviour as well.

Anonymous 49752

It's also better for the company that employees don't have drama though. That's what HR departments are for. If an employee ends up being bullied or having a hostile working environment they can sue.

Anonymous 49761

I really appreciate the conversation and advice from my post >>49744

All very good points. It turns out it’s a position equal to mine, I found this out subtly. If she gets the job I’ll be civil but keep my head down and focused so she doesn’t drag me into any drama. If she doesn’t get the job then that’s amazing.
I’m also aware the way I spoke about it indicates that perhaps I’m jealous of the advantages she has in life, so I will be doing a lot of self reflection around that and seeing how I can be a better person.
Thanks again everyone <3

Anonymous 49762

> I’m jealous of the advantages she has in life, so I will be doing a lot of self reflection around that and seeing how I can be a better person.

You sounded fine to me. Unless you’re obsessing and seething over it, it’s pretty normal to feel annoyed that someone got an easier life than you, especially if they rubbed it in your face a lot.

Anonymous 49769

>make cute pink heart cookies
>break out from food dye
So tired of my skin not being able to handle ANYTHING

Anonymous 49772

Was it artificial coloring?
If you think it might help, beet juice makes a very easy natural/plant-based red coloring.

Anonymous 49775

It was. My body fucks up my skin for a lot of processed things, which is ultimately good for me but also annoying.
Thank you for the tip, I'll have to try that next time!

Anonymous 49800


I hate men so fucking much
I wish they would all just die already

Anonymous 49802

Anonymous 49803

You must be a moid if you feel you have to ask

Anonymous 49804

>see upset person in vent thread
>ask for clarification
>you are moid

Anonymous 49805

Eh, just ignore them, if I were you I'd hang around the pinkpill threads, they should give you a good idea as to why most people here hate men

Anonymous 49807

I'm neither anon, but I'll spoonfeed
The usual reasons are:
>higher rates of violence (includes assault, homicide, and rape but can also include war in larger discussions)
>their desires to oppress women
>porn addiction and refusal to change
>lack of empathy/sympathy
>sexual harassment
>the trifecta: pedophilia, necrophilia, and zoophilia
>madonna vs. whore complex
>ever-changing beauty standards set by men that can't be reached or maintained (related to weight, proportions, desire for women to always be hyperfeminine and made-up, and eternal youth. Also related to pressure for plastic surgery)
>inability to commit (related to cheating, but not the same…think more "pump-and-dump")
>fetishization of lesbians
>stinky (unironically, we're talking poor hygiene)
>hypocrisy (eg. wanting a model only but being an obese NEET)

I don't hate men btw. The nice ones are cool, but the bad ones are fucking horrifying.

Anonymous 49808

>higher rates of violence
One interesting thing I've seen posted here is that while men commit disproportionately more violent crimes, they're also disproportionately more likely to be victims of violent crime. Apparently men primarily attack other men.

Anonymous 49809

Why does my boyfriend live in such a lala land
>have green, clump discharge for weeks
>go to gyno
>get prescribed antibiotics and get tested for stds
>boyfriend thinks I can't possibly be serious in thinking I have an std because otherwise why would they immediately start me on antibiotics
like, I had to remind him that's exactly what happened when they suspected I had herpes and it's like he doesn't want to admit I may have an std. He doesn't want to admit he may have one either, he believes in the age old
>muh no symptoms means no std
and it's like, get a grip, you're a bio major, you'd think you'd know more about that…

Anonymous 49810

But they also attack women many times more than women attack them (and many of the women on men attacks will be in self defence).

Anonymous 49811

That number is skewed because of prison, hence why men are "officially" the most raped demographic. Men rape themselves the most (at least officially), go figure. They literally fuck themselves, men's rights activists be damned.

Anonymous 49814

Screenshot (25220)…

mfw another platonic male friend has decided to develop feelings for me and now I have to distance myself from him because I don't feel the same way whatsoever

Anonymous 49815

well if we're speaking only on who attacks who it's women who hit men more, but obviously we can't really hurt them unless we have a weapon. So it's not fruitful to discuss this, it'd be better to ask who damages who more.

Anonymous 49816

i wish i could love myself a little bit more
three years of bullying ruined my self esteem and now i can't talk to people or function like a normal human being

Anonymous 49817

>it'd be better to ask who damages who more
Agree. It's okay to admit women are usually weaker than men; this isn't demeaning to us. Humans are also weaker than bears but that doesn't make humans lesser as a whole than bears.
However, it does put responsibility on men. I am gentle around smaller women since I could hurt them more easily, so men should be with us. If they take the risk of hitting a woman it should be seen as intentional damage as they know their strength and are responsible for controlling it.

Anonymous 49818

>It's okay to admit women are usually weaker than men; this isn't demeaning to us
>I am gentle around smaller women since I could hurt them more easily, so men should be with us
I feel like in society too much emphasis is put on "don't hit women because women are special and fragile" and not enough emphasis is put on the simple fact that testosterone aside, larger people in general are a lot stronger than smaller people. Men just happen to be a lot larger than women on average, is all.
If you're a foot taller and 100+ lbs of muscle heavier than the other person and you put all your weight into a punch, you have a serious chance of landing them in the hospital or killing them. It's the whole reason weight classes are a thing in professional fighting.

Anonymous 49820


Anonymous 49822

I have no personality and I have no idea how to fix it.

Anonymous 49826

Girl, this isn't America's Next Top Model, who cares, you are a star

Anonymous 49831


i have no time management skills. no matter what i try i cant fix it. last semester i just gave up and that ended poorly, so i can't do that again. im just wallowing in my own pity at this point. i had a three day weekend to do shit and i spent it sitting around doing nothing, not even something to make MYSELF happy. i was in a limbo.
i want to start journaling again, and i still have all that work to do (its now 5 am, school starts in a few hours, and im not awake enough to drive myself there). so i'm just stting here. god damnit.

Anonymous 49832

how do I become comfortable with never talking to anyone?
I could talk to people on the internet but I just don't like or relate to anyone that much.
Having zero friends or anyone to talk to hurts so much.

Anonymous 49838

My boyfriend is pretty, femmme in the face and has a very slight, thin build, but is straight, dresses well, and isn't high maintenance. He also still has thick body hair (which I like), a gorgeous skin tone, and tattoos. I know these are shallow reasons to like someone, and there's many other reasons to like him, but it just makes me so fucking blushy and excited at times. What a babe. He reminds me of my husbando from Harvest Moon, Luke, appearance-wise.

Anonymous 49842

I have a huge crush on my best friend. We have been best friends since we were infants, there are photos of us together on my third birthday. Even our fathers are great friends. Should I feel bad about this? We were apart for a long time because college but now we're both home and meet frequently and now my feelings for her are at an all-time high, I think. I already have a sister, so I never thought of her as a sister, even when I didn't have a crush on her.

Anonymous 49845


So.. I just found out I am ugly.
Well I always knew I wasn't the prettiest. But to me in the mirror I look alright. But not to other people, I look like some kind of freak to them apparently.

Anonymous 49849


i could talk about myself for hours
but i don't want ppl to think i'm full of myself (even tho i 100% am)

Anonymous 49850

no talk me angy.jp…

Ok I exaggerated I don't hate all men I know only a few of them are shitty but ughhhhh
all the men I know are shitty. where do I meet decent men? not for dating I just want male friends who aren't weird perverts
I'm moderately good-looking, and I can't go outside dressed up without gross old men catcalling me or getting uncomfortably near
I just hate the objectification. like my whole existence should revolve around pleasing men. fuck that
She replied to me, not u

Anonymous 49858

He might still resent you for lying about it, and is bringing it up specifically to punish you because he knows it makes you uncomfortable.
How long has it been since you told him?

Anonymous 49859

>all the men I know are shitty. where do I meet decent men?
What country/region are you in? Local culture can play a big part.

Anonymous 49874

Me too but not because I'm full of myself, I just for some reason only process things by talking abut them bc spewing my half-baked thoughts makes them any more real

Anonymous 49875


im ugly and it makes me feel sad and ashamed to live my life, i can’t even imagine what it would be like to be pretty cause it hurts too much (i’m scared of surgery though). i honestly don’t even know what i look like objectively cause each day i see something different

Anonymous 49881

>being attracted to someone's looks is considered shallow now

Anonymous 49882

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W-well anon, I've never really been attracted to a man physically before. In contrast to my other relationships with men, my attraction for them was purely out of caring for them, but this added element of physical attraction feels foreign and even though I've been with him for a year and a half, I still worry that me being so attracted physically is bad somehow. I value his personality and I love talking to him, but it feels so naughty to me I find him hot.

Anonymous 49883

>I still worry that me being so attracted physically is bad somehow
Kek. Anon, don't worry. You finding your bf hot isn't going to send you to hell.

Anonymous 49884

i dont want to eat lunch today rant over

Anonymous 49885

how did you find out anon? did someone tell you orrr

Anonymous 49888

Is he angry about the nudes or for lying? If he’s angry about the two-year old nudes that’s a massive red flag.

Anonymous 49895

i had to get my card cancelled due to fraud today and I was planning to go shopping today and I have no food….

Anonymous 49904

Borrow from friends/family or see if there is a foodbank or Sikh temple near you.

Anonymous 49911


thankfully my friend ordered me some food but it's still not a lot of fun as the delivery around here always has delays

Anonymous 49914


God that reminds me of something only tangentially related but I'm gonna post. A few years ago a friend of mine had some very classy photos taken of her in lingerie, the outfit was really tame (pic related) and the posing/mood/lightning was soft and dreamy rather than erotic and sensual. She gave a little print of the photo to her then-bf.

Fast forward to 2020, she has a new bf and the ex is stalking her and trying to establish contact to the new guy. She tells me she's afraid that the ex might bring up the picture. I ask why that would be a problem and she says her new bf is very possessive and he would hate that her ex has something that he doesn't… it's such bullshit, they only just started dating so of course he hasn't reached all the levels of intimacy yet that she shared with her ex. The new bf basically felt that if she had done something with her ex then she owed it to him as well. Disgusting.

Anonymous 49916

Do not lie to your partner, jesus Anon. Do you even want this relationship to work?

Anonymous Admin 49917


I accidentally deleted this post out of sheer idiocy, I'm very sorry. Pic related was salvaged from the log of deleted posts. My apologies to the poster.

Anonymous 49918

>thick body hair (which I like),
Why do you like that?

Anonymous 49919

An imageboard where mods admit their mistakes and apologise? I'm impressed.

Anonymous 49922

I had the (sort of) opposite of this once. I guy I had started dating ages ago didn’t have social media so we sent each other some tame pictures via email. He thought it was completely fine to send me a selection of pics he had taken posing in front of the mirror specifically at his ex’s request and couldn’t see why it was a turn off. Huge red flag I missed, the guy had a constant “that’ll do I guess” attitude towards me the whole relationship.

Anonymous 49924

Okay, in all fairness, it's not like he has excessive body hair. It's a nice amount. I like it because I like to rub the middle of his chest and pet the lower back floof. I find it adorable.

Anonymous 49926

>not using girl talk

Anonymous 49928


Hey, I just want to say fuck you if you support rice cakes. Worthless fucking block of carbs. Tastes and smells like petrified, 78 year old Rice Krispies.
Don't give me that "But it's low cal" shit either. 30 calories for what? Styrofoam? Garbage excuse, literally a waste. I bet your own piss is low-cal too, are you going to drink that so you won't binge on apple juice? Fuck OFF.
Imagine being the person who made this shit. Imagine not being sane enough to just eat the fruit and PBFit by itself. Disgusting.

Anonymous 49930

The salt and vinegar ones are okish.

Anonymous 49932


Pic related is much better than those ones that are perfect cylindrical disks.
They don't have much flavor of their own either, but they're only meant to act as a carrier for other toppings in a similar way to bread, anyway.

Anonymous 49933

I just realized that the image I grabbed is apparently onion flavor- I've never actually tried any of the flavored varieties of these.

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