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vent thread Anonymous 54448

Last thread was >>51005

Anonymous 54455

Becoming a drop out for the second time today

Anonymous 54468

Whenever my boyfriend says something sexual to me, I feel absolutely nothing. My reaction is so nonexistent that sometimes I just have no idea how to respond. It’s not him; I just don’t care about sex at all.

Anonymous 54469

The demonic modern social apparatus lives in my head intrusively; nestling there like a brooding spider. There is no escape from its judgement, even when alone the show simply must go on and on. Its only prerogative is seemingly to make existence itself sandpaper unto my soul—so from all stages I retire. I embrace my fate as a wastrel; cursed to simply observe the poetry of other people’s lives from the other end of a vast sea, never to have someone lovingly immerse themselves in my own. I am utterly content with never experiencing love. I’ll happily melt into the drama of others from afar, outside their humanity and mine—watching down, or perhaps up, from some formless black space. My little phaneron. The fact that I can leave traces of my existence online and still nobody will ever know who I am offers me consolation. Maybe to die alone and unknown is a sort of privilege.

Pee pee. But also poo poo.

Anonymous 54471

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I turned 27 a little over a month ago. I have been in a majorly depressed state for almost 3 weeks now. It started when I traveled to Hawaii with my boyfriend and some friends for vacation. It was probably the worst vacation of my life for little reason besides my poor mental health. I have been depressed since age 10 and now that I'm 27 I am truly seeing the confirmation that nothing has or
ever will improve with my mental health or decision-making skills. My motivation to better myself or do anything at all is completely gone for the first time in my life.

Anonymous 54473

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I bit my mouth in the same place multiple times

Anonymous 54478

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>>54455
Enjoy the NEET life

Anonymous 54479

both of my parents are insufferable however I do not earn enough so I can move out. wanna kms

Anonymous 54483

>took some days off to relax
>can't relax because the 3948 things I should be doing and hobbies I should be improving at are running through my mind
>Literally immobile because I can't decide what to do and there's just so many things

aaaaa

Anonymous 54485

Down horrendously bad m8s, getting the hots for an old dude at work

Anonymous 54495

Wish I could believe somebody liked me
Wish the things I'm good at were enough
Wish the things that are good about me were enough
Wish I was good enough

Anonymous 54507

>get a higher paying job
>lose my health insurance (medicare)
Cool! My pay raise will make no difference once I start having to pay for health insurance. I hate America.

Anonymous 54514

I had a dream where I could feel romantic attraction again. I haven't felt it in years after a series of shit breakups and being treated badly. It's the best feeling ever and I used to chase it so I hope it comes back eventually.
I miss my dream bf

Anonymous 54530

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want to discuss/meme anime but anime spaces on the web are universally either:

>full of wokelets that only watch the same 2-3 popular series and bitch and whine over staples of the genre like lolis and teacher/student and whatever other "problematic" thing


>moids


it sucks!

Anonymous 54531

>>54530
your post is actually misogynistic, I hope you'll realize the error in your ways

Anonymous 54534

>>54530
>anime watchers who dont mind/enjoy pedo shit
>not moids

pick one sis

Anonymous 54535

>>54485
lol nice, so whens the date?

Anonymous 54536

>>54530
>lolis are a staple of the anime genre
kek. Clearly you haven't seen a lot of classic anime which isn't hentai.

Anonymous 54541

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>>54534
thanks for proving my point, sis.

>>54536
i should've used "medium". but really shota/loli characters have always been present in anime/manga (as are etc. underage characters featured in panty shots and other sexual scenes).

it's just annoying to see modern anime fandom complain about this stuff and treat it like it's seriously an issue/claim fiction = reality and all that bullshit.

like picrel will get you labeled a pedo which is majorly wtf to me

Anonymous 54542

>>54530
who is that semen demon?

Anonymous 54544

>>54536
Lolis have not severely changed in their frequency of appearance over the decades. If you're referring to ecchi, that increased in the same time in general for loli as well as more mature female characters, but the ratios have been pretty consistent over the decades for Japanese viewers liking young girls.

You may be shocked to learn the Japan didn't even make producing actual CP illegal until 1999, contrast with the US passing laws in 1977. That is 22 extra years of being 100% legal to create child pornography. Compare further with it not being illegal to own CP in Japan until 2014.

>>54541
The fandom got saturated with normies that started pulling normie morality into the medium as far as viewership goes. Now that anime is mainstream enough for normalfags to give a shit, the people who ride on top of normalfag morality for clout started virtue signaling to gain clout. It is now a viable tactic to be both "cool" and "virtuous" to like anime and deride strange things in the medium as a means of gaining social power, albeit in a limited dull sphere.

Anonymous 54546

I went on ~lc~ for the first time in like a year & it's insane how many comments on there are calling genuinely pretty people ugly. Maniacs. Genuinely such a toxic environment for people to spend time in. I hope everyone there gets well soon

Anonymous 54547

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>>54542
black-haired boy from "pretty boy detective club". it's currently airing.

Anonymous 54548

>>54544
normies ruin everything.
we should've gate-kept harder

Anonymous 54552

boohoo why wont people validate pedo shit boo hoo hoo

Anonymous 54553

>>54530
acknowledging that pedophilia is wrong = being a wokie apparently

Anonymous 54555

>>54544
No, that actually doesn't shock me because I've encountered lolcons like you before who "totally aren't into real little girsl!1!! there's a difference between reality and fiction!! uwu" yet wierdly know a ridiculous amount about cp laws and their history while calling you a dirty normie moralfag for saying cp is wrong.
Btw, legality doesn't determine what's socially acceptable or not, there are places where fucking a kid isn't necessarily written into law as illegal but people will still keep their kids away from dating adults and think pedos are scum.
Btw, there have long been anime and manga which in no way contain loli/shota. Many of the classics such as Bebop, Death Note, FMA, etc. don't contain that shit.
There are also some really old-ass manga such as Banana Fish which explicitly comdemn pedophilia as a form of child abuse.
Just because loli and shota have been around for a while doesn't mean those things are a "staple" of the medium or something we should all accept without criticism.

Anonymous 54556

>>54530
how the fuck do you find sexualized loli shit not repulsive much less a staple of anime? you have to be a total perv moid at the pt of no return to even be watching that trash much less enjoy it

Anonymous 54559

>>54555
>No, that actually doesn't shock me because I've encountered lolcons like you before who "totally aren't into real little girsl!1!! there's a difference between reality and fiction!! uwu" yet wierdly know a ridiculous amount about cp laws and their history while calling you a dirty normie moralfag for saying cp is wrong.
At what point did I say it wasn't CP? I stated that normalfags virtue signal about it because they're normalfags, back when being into anime was exclusively for weirdos in their mother's basement, there was never a reason to give a shit. We are all quite aware that CP is bad, what matters is that suddenly you can gain social capital by saying CP is bad, and it became hip and trendy to do so.
>Btw, legality doesn't determine what's socially acceptable or not, there are places where fucking a kid isn't necessarily written into law as illegal but people will still keep their kids away from dating adults and think pedos are scum
Yes I'm not a legalist either, but now that we're on the subject, what age do you think consent begins at if you're not a legalist?

>classics

>Death Note, FMA, Cowboy Bepop
Putting to the side the fact that FMA has a loli, Cowboy Bepop has a trap, and that the main "love" interest for the MC in Death Note is a sexually dressed High Schooler. (Are you perhaps confusing the presence of a loli or shota being there with whether or not the content is lolicon or shotacon?)
Yoiko released the same year as Cowboy Bepop revolves around a female elementary school student who has the body of an adult and the ecchi misunderstandings she causes.

Released the same season as Death Note, Negima had a TV series as well as OVAs involving both lolis and shota in ecchi situations.

During the original airing of FMA (not bortherhood) Battle Programmer Shirase was airing which was an ecchi featuring the protagonist loli younger sister as well.

During FMA Brotherhood release, Kigurumikku v3 as an OVA was released, and Queen's Blade was airing at the same time. Enough said.

Just because they were not in "the classics", whatever that vague term means, doesn't mean they weren't present.
>Just because loli and shota have been around for a while doesn't mean those things are a "staple" of the medium or something we should all accept without criticism.
I never implied they shouldn't be criticized, what I stated was that when the only people who gave a shit about anime in the West were moid basement dwellers, nobody had any reason to give a shit about loli or shota being present. Now that normalfags are into anime, it has become hip and cool to introduce progressive ideas into anime. I am not saying it possibly isn't right to do so(though you seem to be under the umbrella that violent video games cause violence too), but there's no reason to virtue signal if there's no one to virtue signal to but other weirdos.

Funny you claim exception from legalist morality yes bark about completely standard to legal morality opinions though.

Anonymous 54564

>>54559
>Putting to the side the fact that FMA has a loli

braindead

>a sexually dressed High Schooler.


Misa Amane is 19 pre-timeskip and TWENTY-FOUR post-timeskip, where she is still wearing the same style.

>Cowboy Bepop has a trap


Who cares? A gender nonconforming character oh noooo

>when the only people who gave a shit about anime in the West were moid basement dwellers, nobody had any reason to give a shit about loli or shota being present


Read this again slowly.

Anonymous 54566

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>>54555
>>54553
nonny, it's not real. cp is wrong because an actual child is being harmed; where is the child in this image? you understand that it's just a cartoon, right? say i fap to this – where is the victim? does this image resemble a real child to you?

i get that being a lolicon is weird, but it isn't doing any real world damage, and it shouldn't be placed alongside actual child abuse because people personally find it gross.

also…if you get pissed off about lolistuff you also need to get pissed off about violent video games and shonen series that turn children into soldiers. don't condemn weirdness in fiction just because it's sexual, violence is violence – bitch about all of it.

Anonymous 54567

>>54566
Why do people still trot out the same tired arguments whenever someone is rightfully disgusted about pedophilia in cartoons? Go back to your twitter pedo hivemind.

Anonymous 54568

>>54564
>Read this again slowly.
I have, what's your point? Do you think the basement dwellers back in early 1990s had deep philosophical discussions with each other over whether or not loli was okay, or is it a blatant fact that you can not virtue signal without anyone to virtue signal to.

Also nice side-stepping of contemporary anime to your "classics" that had lolicon and shotacon content. Glad to know even you admit you fail to understand on this point.

Anonymous 54569

>>54567
lol you types never have an actual response to these arguments (read: facts). it's like you think lines and hard blocks of color on a screen are akin to living, breathing kids or something. it's retarded. you monkeys will be crying about "literal murder" in a few years in regards to fps vidya.


>>54559
> I stated that normalfags virtue signal about it because they're normalfags, back when being into anime was exclusively for weirdos in their mother's basement, there was never a reason to give a shit. We are all quite aware that CP is bad, what matters is that suddenly you can gain social capital by saying CP is bad, and it became hip and trendy to do so.
hard agree with this. want people to flinging around the term "pedophilia" so easily.

Anonymous 54570

>>54567
Because there's yet to be a proper response to the argument. Closest I've heard is that lolicon can be used by groomers to groom children into thinking they're "mature for their age", but even in that context, whatever means the groomer is using, the groomer is the one committing an immoral action. Not the tool.

Anonymous 54571

>>54569
*want people to stop.

Anonymous 54572

>>54569
>>54570
Cope and whatnot. Fiction doesn't exist in a bubble but you already knew that. We know that unaddressed racism, sexism, etc. is bad in media because we know that it helps maintain these beliefs in society. Why do you want to draw the line at sexualized children? Are they really so crucial to your viewing experience?

Anonymous 54573

>>54572
Alright, I'll cut you a deal then. If fiction influences reality, then there should be no depictions or rape, murder, or general violence in media whatsoever, since obviously those things encourage moids to be violent. Completely remove violence from media so that you're not a hypocrite, and you can have the lolicon and shotacon content as well.

Anonymous 54574

>>54572
>We know that unaddressed racism, sexism, etc. is bad in media because we know that it helps maintain these beliefs in society.
I abjectly refuse this standpoint and hate censorship in all it's forms. The creator should be allowed to be as bigoted, violent and sexually charged as the creator wants to be, in all fields, no stops, at all. There should be no overhanging sword waiting to cut you down to size for expressing views or aesthetics. I don't draw the line at child porn, I draw the line short of actually hurting children and animals to produce media, since that violence is actually real and in the world.

Anonymous 54575

>>54572
yeah you're right, harmful stereotypes in media aid in maintaining harmful beliefs people have been taught by their parents, who were taught by their parents, etc. etc. etc.

however there has never been, and there isn't, any grand push to make pedophilia acceptable. also i hate to say it but stereotypes are often based in reality, so it isn't like they're total fiction (unlike a loli vampire or a 15 y/o boy carrying a demon inside of his body)

Anonymous 54577

and desu even unaddressed racism/sexism/etc. in media isn't that big of a deal. like if there's a movie that glorifies nazism it's up to you, the viewer, to understand that nazism is fucking retarded and not go emulating that behavior irl. like >>54574 anon said all art has a right to exist.

Anonymous 54578

>>54573
I don't make deals with pedophiles but I am also literally against graphic depictions of violence, especially sexual violence.

Slasher horror literally came as a result of the women's lib movement in the 60s and 70s, funnily enough!

Anonymous 54579

>>54575
>also i hate to say it but stereotypes are often based in reality

don't care didn't ask

>however there has never been, and there isn't, any grand push to make pedophilia acceptable


the majority of the world letting you fuck and marry young teens didn't clue you in?

Anonymous 54580

>>54578
Deal, we've now eliminated all depictions of sex, violence, and bigotry from media. Congratulations.

>>54579
This would imply that the default human sexuality is pedophilia, not the opposite, and that the majority of media has actually been influencing moids to want to fuck older women. Do you assume that all moids are pedophiles by default then?

Anonymous 54581

>>54579
okay and the "majority of the world" doing that has nothing to do with loli or underage anime character pajeets in iran or wherever the fuck taking child brides have never even heard of loli before

Anonymous 54582

>>54578
What's your favorite piece of media?

Anonymous 54583

>>54580
>Deal, we've now eliminated all depictions of sex, violence, and bigotry from media. Congratulations.

Based.

>>54582
Gonna sidestep your "lol no media is pure xd" argument before it even tries to land because you're retarded.

Anonymous 54584

>>54569
You're aware that people who condemn lolicon also do, in fact, condemn other media that glorifies or romanticizes violence right? Not all violence in fiction is wrong, it depends on how it's portrayed of course. I'm fine with stories which contain child sexual abuse when it's not portrayed as a positive thing.
Btw, it's really gross how you refer to literally any child in anime as a "loli" regardless of whether they're being sexualized or not, seeing as loli is a sexually charged term.

Anonymous 54585

(nerd voice, tearful)
Gonna sidestep your "lol no media is pure xd" argument before it even tries to land because you're retarded.

Anonymous 54586

>>54583
You're sidestepping because you're a hypocrite that doesn't want to be outed as one. That's okay though, I understand why you think the way you do now though.

Anonymous 54587

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>>54584
>Not all violence in fiction is wrong
no amount of violence in fiction is wrong, it's always based and cool

Anonymous 54588

>>54559
>Funny you claim exception from legalist morality yes bark about completely standard to legal morality opinions though.
kek. says the idiot who was claiming that cp is okay because it was legal in japan not too long ago while also claiming "i'm only defending cartoon cp uwu".
Idgaf about whether something's legal or not. cp was wrong before it was outlawed. p sure beastiality is technically legal in some parts of the US, that doesn't mean it's harmless or socially acceptable though.

Anonymous 54589

>>54584
Loli literally means "young girl" in Japanese, if it were sexually charged it would be "lolicon" abbreviating "loli-complex" aka pedophile.

I'm surprised you didn't pull the "lolicon literally refers to pedophiles in Japanese" argument yet, is it because you're talking out your ass with surface level knowledge?

>>54588
I never said lolicon is okay or even good, let alone it was good because it was legal. I purely stand on the line that no media whatsoever should be censored in any manner. You seem to be putting words in my mouth because you're losing the argument.

Anonymous 54590

>>54588
she never said owning cp was alright. based retardo

Anonymous 54591

>>54584
>Not all violence in fiction is wrong, it depends on how it's portrayed of course.
Who gets to judge what type of violence in fiction is okay? Surely not the law since you refused the legalism position earlier.

Anonymous 54592

>>54589
No, retard. shoujo means girl in Japanese. "Loli" comes from the novel "Lolita" which was a book about a man who rapes his 12 year old stepdaughter, seeks out child prostitutes, and creeps on kids as young as 9 in the park and then victim blames them by claiming "they're not REAL children, they're secretly demons who seduced me!" He also confesses to attempted murder, illegally drugging kids, being a pathological liar, and various other fucked up things, but writes in a way that tries to garner sympathy from the reader.

Anonymous 54593

>>54592
Yes I've read it it's quite a good book. What's your point?

Care to quote where "shota" comes from as well?

Anonymous 54594

>>54591
I literally never said that cartoons shoul dbe made illegal. Anyone should be allowed to judge what type of violence is ok. You're the one getting made that people on the internet are judging you for your loli fetish.>>54592

Anonymous 54595

>>54594
you can call it a loli fetish but it isn't pedophilia and it isn't morally wrong

Anonymous 54596

>>54593
k, so you're just lying your ass off to claim that loli is just a nonsexual japanese word for girls. Got it.

Anonymous 54597

>>54594
Oh, that's a pretty boring position. Good to know you're okay with lolicon and shotacon though. Peace.

Anonymous 54598

>>54586
KK retard
remember to ask for a warrant after they bust your door down

Anonymous 54599

>>54596
The original use of loli in Japan started with idol culture in the 1970s, yes the word itself comes from lolita, but that first uses of it were in Japanese fashion magazines as an extension of the otome-mei fashion style during the 1970s. Using the term in relation to normal non-sexual girls was originally used in reference not to lolicon content, but the clothing style. Feel free to prove me wrong with a citation.

>>54594
>I literally never said that cartoons shoul dbe made illegal.
>>54598
>I hope the police knock down your door.

Mhmmmmmm, retreating back to the legalist positon again.

Anonymous 54600

Kek can there be a thread for this debate? I've been lurking and it's entertaining.

Anonymous 54601

>>54599
lmfao you literally were using that term to refer to random children…not people who wear lolita fashion. The fashion is worn mostly by grown men and women, btw.
also you're just using the term 'legalist" to refer to anyone who thinks irl cp and pedos should be arrested now it seems, or anyone who critiques cartoon cp which is legal.

Anonymous 54602

>>54595
if it’s not pedophilia what is it then? it’s an adult attracted to sexualized depictions of children. the fact that it’s 2d doesn’t change that. if a man only jacks off to cartoon men would you still say he’s straight cause it’s not real? yes it’s not the same as csam but saying lolicon/shotacon doesn’t promote pedophilia is sort of delusional

Anonymous 54603

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>>54599
Multiple people are arguing with you genius.

>Mhmmmmmm, retreating back to the legalist positon again.

Anonymous 54604

>>54596
The original use of loli in Japan started with idol culture in the 1970s, yes the word itself comes from lolita, but that first uses of it were in Japanese fashion magazines as an extension of the otome-mei fashion style during the 1970s. Using the term in relation to normal non-sexual girls was originally used in reference not to lolicon content, but the clothing style. Feel free to prove me wrong with a citation.

>>54594
>I literally never said that cartoons shoul dbe made illegal.
>>54598
>I hope the police knock down your door.

Mhmmmmmm, retreating back to the legalist positon again.

>>54603
Why did you post a self-portrait?

Anonymous 54605

>>54603
this lmfao I honestly wouldn't be sruprised if the lolicon who keeps arguing against "legalism" whatever tf that means is a moid who looks like the picrel in your post.

Anonymous 54606

>>54602
Oh, it ate my post, odd.

>>54602
>if a man only jacks off to cartoon men would you still say he’s straight cause it’s not real?
If he never has sex with a man he's homophilic not homosexual. To be homosexual requires someone to have a sex with, not an incel moid like >>54603 Are all fetishes now sexualities? Or are you propping up homosexuality as a fetish instead? Why on earth would you be so bigoted against gay people as to declare their sexuality a fetish?

Anonymous 54608

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>>54602
>if it’s not pedophilia what is it then?

it's just a kink. weird and creepy but it doesn't necessarily signal that someone wants to fugg kids (in the same way women with rape fantasies don't want to actually be raped). you're only a pedophile if you desire children. REAL children. not abstracted things that resemble no child that's ever walked this earth in mannerisms or appearance.

>if a man only jacks off to cartoon men would you still say he’s straight cause it’s not real?

pedophilia isn't a sexuality, nonny. you're making a false equivalence. but honestly, yeah, if a guy only gets his rocks off to a haikyuu character i'm not going to assume he'd also be fine with sucking his bros off. 2d will never be 3d

Anonymous 54609

>>54605
The fact you don't know what legalism means but used this phrase
>Btw, legality doesn't determine what's socially acceptable or not
is quite funny. Have you just been pretending to understand what the term means? God that's silly.

Anonymous 54610

>>54609
I know what the term generally means, retard, but language is a bit fluid and you seem to be using it to mean any different things. People who think lolicon should be illegal in places where it isn't are "legalists" people who think real cp should be illegal but not loli are "legalists", people who suspect you are a pedo since you not only are obsessed with lolis but also with the legal status of irl cp are "legalsits", and even people who think cp is immoral regardless of its legal status are "legalists" You're just hurling it out as a vague insult lmao.

Anonymous 54611

>>54610
>she thinks language is fluid
Gross.

I'm using the term to refer to anytime you appeal to the law being relevant to this moral discussion. The law was only mentioned originally to illustrate that infact, yes, loli content has been common and a trope in anime since the "classic" you mentioned, and is not some new growing evil.

You then stated that the law shouldn't decide morality, is this correct? Yes or no?

Anonymous 54612

>>54611
>language is completely static and everyone uses dictionary definitions only
>I'm using the term legalism in a way that doesn't align with the dictionary definition at all
kk retard.
Btw, you're the one who started talking about real life cp laws and actint like that's somehow relevant to the morality of cartoons.
Also, that's a pretty retarded way to define legalism. By that logic, anyone who thinks something that harms real-life children should be made illegal is a "legalist" since they want to outlaw immoral things.
I said that what is or isn't legal doesn't always align with what is moral and that cartoons shouldn't be outlawed, thouhg it's fine and understandable for people who watch certain types of cartoons to be ostracized socially.
I never said that immoral things in real life (not in fiction) shouldn't be outlawed.

Anonymous 54613

>>54612
>I never said that immoral things in real life (not in fiction) shouldn't be outlawed.
Then we agree and lolicon and shotacon content are acceptable. Thank you.

Anonymous 54614

>>54613
You are identical to every twitter MAP holy shit lol

Anonymous 54615

>>54613
>acceptable
I said legal, retard. I never said people shouldn't talk shit about you. You started this whole dsicussion bitching about "moralfags" who find loli disturbing, not people who wanted to outlaw the stuff.

Anonymous 54616

>>54612
>I said that what is or isn't legal doesn't always align with what is moral and that cartoons shouldn't be outlawed, though it's fine and understandable for people who watch certain types of cartoons to be ostracized socially.
Also true, though ostracization, by definition, is a tool of normalfags and those who ride on top of normalfags. Not weridos. If there weren't normalfags into anime, this wouldn't be a relevant conversation.

Anonymous 54618

>>54616
fucking kek. so you admit you're just whining that people were mean to you about your loli anime on the internet, who aren't even trying to outlaw cartoons.

Anonymous 54619

>>54615
Explain the difference between legal and acceptable.

> You started this whole dsicussion bitching about "moralfags" who find loli disturbing, not people who wanted to outlaw the stuff.

Because that's literally what happened. Whether or not that is a good thing depends on your perspective, but it's an objective fact that if normalfags never got into anime this wouldn't be relevant. Whether or no to you think that is a good thing is irrelevant to the fact that it literally happened.

Anonymous 54620

>>54619
>Explain the difference between legal and acceptable.
retard can't tell the difference between being arrested and having people call you a pedo and kicking you out of their social groups online.

Anonymous 54621

>>54615
At what point was I whining? I explained why it occured and why it wasn't a relevant issue. If no normalfags entered the scene this wouldn't have happened. For the normalfags this was a good thing, for the people already there, this was a bad thing. You're entire stance is it's a good thing that the normalfags showed up and ruined what the weirdos like. I don't care either way, since both normalfags and weirdos are retarded.

>>54620
I can't, explain to me like I was the retard you think I am.

Anonymous 54622

if you hate loli you shouldn't watch anime. it's just that simple

Anonymous 54623

>>54619
"normalfags" aka people who find loli gross have been watching and creating anime for decades. deal with it.
Not denying that people who are into loli have also been watching anc creating anime for decades, btw. The two things aren't mutually exclusive.

Anonymous 54625

>>54622
"yaoi exists so if u don't like yaoi you shouldnt' watch any anime at all. You have to accept all anime unconditionally and send love and support to all anime fans or else you shouldn't like anime at all."

Anonymous 54626

>>54623
>"normalfags" aka people who find loli gross have been watching and creating anime for decades. deal with it.
Your point? That doesn't mean lolicon isn't standard or normal in the industry.

Anonymous 54627

>>54626
My point was to deny your statement that loli should be expected in anime and accepted by all and it always was until an influx of "normies" suddenly decided it wasn't.

Anonymous 54628

>>54627
It wasn't always, it started in the 1970s. However, that means lolicon has been around longer in anime than it hasn't been in anime at this point. And I never made the assertion it should or should not be accepted, only that the Western anime push against lolicon purely started after normalfags got involved, not before. Whether that is a good thing, a bad thing, whatever, I don't care, it's fact regardless.

Anonymous 54629

>>54619
>"because that's literally what happened. "
once again you're just admitting that all that happened to make you so upset was people being mean to you online. No cop cam and locked you up for loli.

Anonymous 54630

>>54629
>once again you're just admitting that all that happened to make you so upset was people being mean to you online.
I'm not upset this occured, as much as I have it as the most general example of normalfags entering a space and changing it by being grace of normalfags. I take the staunch stance that both normalfags and weirdos are both retarded.

Anonymous 54631

>>54630
Oh by the way, this should all have the undercurrent of the fact that Japan really doesn't associate the anime that most people are exposed to with the late night anime that defines the Wests taste as far as content goes. For the majority of Japanese they don't like the lolishit either, it just tends that the anime that was liked by NEETs in Japan became popular with the basement dwellers in the West before the rest became slowly mainstream post Pokemon.

Anonymous 54632

>>54625
yeah you're right if you don't like the things i like then you should GTFO of my hobby.

Anonymous 54633

>>54632
Good! Now you're understanding why weirdos gatekeep their weirdo communitites to prevent normalfags from shitting up the place the same way normalfags gatekeep weirdos to prevent them from shitting up the place.

Anonymous 54634

>>54633
don't you need to be 18 to post here

Anonymous 54635

>>54634
Yes, your point other than to be petty and stupid?

Anonymous 54637


Anonymous 54640

>>54546
Hasn't it always been like that?

Anonymous 54641

>>54640
ntayrt, but yes, in my experience, it's always been like that.
that's why I stopped using it tbh, made me feel ugly.

Anonymous 54643

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Today I went on a walk with my mother and some disgusting moid tripped me on purpose so that I would pay attention to him or something. My mom didn't even notice. I know it's a really minor thing and moids are capable of so much worse, but my undying hatred for moids is so colossal that this one little thing was what finally broke the camel's back. When we got back home I revealed my power level to my mother regarding my hatred of men. Instead of sympathizing with me, she told me to get help. Goddammit mom, you're supposed to be on my side.
>>54530
Looks like the twittertards got to this thread too. Don't pay them any mind anon. Talk about weird anime shit all you want. I support your right to do so.

Anonymous 54648

>>54587
i want to make love to all four of them starting with lucy liu

Anonymous 54654

I could never deal with society expectations of the "female role" in a relationship.

>dislike cleaning, only do it when necessary

>hate administrative paper shit, always end up having scary registered mails
>need space
>will never deal with the micromanagement of a moid every fucking day
>not "mature"

I'm sure there is a lot of you who feel this way there. But every single female in a relationship ends up acting this way.
I'm only pissed off because I would like several kids, and being a single mom sucks.

Anonymous 54656

>>54654
You can avoid it if you are strict from the start. Don't pick up after him, tell him he is being a slob etc. If he doesn't change then dumb him.

Anonymous 54658

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I've gone full wine aunt I guess. I drink half of one of these most days after work. It is just a good way to get hammered and tastes better than hard liquor or beer. Why do things have to be so hard, why do some people have to be born worthless and unlovable?

Anonymous 54660

>>54654
I'm glad I got a moid who does all that stuff for me

Anonymous 54661

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my self hatred and self consciousness has gotten so bad that i cant make art anymore because i judge it too hard and beat myself up and end up feeling worse. get me out of here

Anonymous 54662

I really want my trans girlfriend to fuck me but I'd never tell her that because I know she has genital dysphoria
Kinda frustrating but I don't want to make her uncomfortable

Anonymous 54663

>>54662
dating mentally ill people isn't the best. does he or she has a penis?

Anonymous 54664

>>54448
I'm tired of the lockdowns and having to wear a mask even if i'm in the countryside with no one next to me in a radio of 5 meters. I'm also tired of seeing all those nurses and doctors acting like heroes for doing their work and asking the goverment for more lockdowns when this country is poorest than usual since this mess began.
I'm also tired of seeing my mom all paranoid because this virus, so far she thought 5 times she got it.
I also dislike how lots of normies are thinking of themselves as savoiurs and saints for policing everyone's business and spamming "#StayAtHome" on twitter. fuck them.

Anonymous 54665

I FUCKING MISS MY EX EVERY DAY
IT'S BEEN 5 YEARS
WHY CAN'T I GET OVER IT

Anonymous 54668

>>54662
break up with him and date a normal person then

Anonymous 54669

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>>54661
i feel you kind of, i can't do anything because of perfectionism
>>54664
i feel you big time

Anonymous 54678

I'm dissatisfied with my life. I have no friends irl. A couple online. I have no education other than my high school diploma. I broke up with my abusive neglectful ex a few months ago. I hate living in this dysfunctional household. I hate living in this boring city. I hate everything. I'm alone.

I just want to party, I just want to meet new people, I just want the money to go out and to pay for my classes. I'm so bored, so damn bored. I have to do something new otherwise I'm seriously going to get depressed again. I hate life.

Anonymous 54705

>Boss chews me out for fucking things up all the time
>I fuck something else up at the end of the day today that I have to tell him about tomorrow
Should I just end it, why am I so fucking dumb

Anonymous 54707

>>54678
>I'm so bored, so damn bored

I feel you there anon, the isolation from this pandemic is killing me mentally and it looks like it's getting worse AGAIN.

Anonymous 54721

Sometimes I feel nothing for my bf, and it scares me. I know I would be sad to lose him.

Anonymous 54722

A lot of the time this anhedonia, inability to feel or feeling of constant boredom, is just a part of depression.

Anonymous 54723

me and the bestie.…

ive got a crush on a cute and cool girl from tinder who lives in the same uni city as me, i definitely see her as gf material and we're planning on having a date at some point but aaa i'm so worried of fucking up and giving her a reason to dislike meeee

Anonymous 54724

>>54722
This. Anhedonia is usually what tips me off that I was sinking into a depressive episode.

Anonymous 54737

>>54722
Were you replying to me? >>54721

Anonymous 54738

>>54473
Do not get distracted while eating. Do not try to multitask while eating. Try to eat in quieter environments. Chew slowly and carefully. Be mindful of your jaw and your tongue while eating. Be very careful if you try to lick over your teeth to clean any remaining food out of the crevices.
Use an antiseptic mouth wash on the hurt place. (Yes it burns. :( I'm sorry.) Ask the pharmacy section for a kid's medicine syringe so you can precisely squirt the mouthwash on your mouth injury.

I am so, so sorry anon. I hate that I do this too. I hope any of this advice helps.

Anonymous 54739

Is e-dating even worth it? I have zero success with men who live close to me because I have nothing in common with them and local culture makes them feel emasculated when they find out I'm a doctor.

Anonymous 54740

>>54737
A few people mentioned it so just in general.

Anonymous 54745

>>54739
fuck dating and fuck edating save yourself the stress and just get really autistic about your hobbies

Anonymous 54746

>>54745
How do I deal with the crippling loneliness though?

Anonymous 54758

>>54739
You're a doctor so men who are e-dating are mostly below your league and will be intimidated too.

Anonymous 54761

>>54739
get a sexy doctor bf, men who are intimidated by your profession are beta as fuck and not worth your time

Anonymous 54771

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BF forgot to renew his antidepressant prescription in time, we had the most incredible sex yesterday even though we're really busy this week and he was super sensitive even to little touches. I don't remember the last time he got hard just hugging me, and it kills me that this can't be how it always is. It could be worse I guess, some people don't even recover from the side effects let alone improve in a couple days, and when I tried Lexapro myself I wasn't able to finish ever. We do have a pretty normal amount of sex but he takes really long and occasionally can't finish at all, or stay hard especially if there's even the slightest distraction, and honestly it's getting difficult to believe I even feel that good to him or can hold his interest. I fear it's like a chore he does to be a good partner because I have told him an active sex life is important to me. Lately the frequency has been dropping too, we should pretty much still be in the honeymoon phase and we're only 29.

The same thing happened when he forgot his prescription another time. At least I know it's not me I guess. Still sucks to probably feel the worst to him out of the partners he has had, no matter what I do or how much effort we might put into keeping things interesting, just because he has to take literal dick numbing pills now. We're in it for the long haul and maybe he could try tapering off or switching to Wellbutrin at some point, now is just a bad time to start messing with things because he's really stressed with his career and the meds do work for him otherwise. Of course his mental health comes first. I just don't know what to do, a lot of the time I'm holding back tears because of how much I miss feeling desired. I wish this wasn't so important to me and I could just focus on other stuff too. I love him but feel like avoiding him and staying clothed because at least then I won't feel rejected at every turn just because of how obvious it is that sex with me isn't on his mind.

Anonymous 54772

>>54739
>makes them feel emasculated when they find out I'm a doctor
I hate that there are still so many people who feel like men absolutely must be more successful than women in all aspects. That kind of expectation is just shitty for literally everyone involved.

Anonymous 54774

>>54771
I think you need to speak to him about this. It's obviously a pretty critical part of your relationship and not all antidepressants have the same libido-suppressing effects. You could even just ask if you and your bf could speak about it to a doctor.

Anonymous 54803

How do I get over the desire to be groomed/manipulated again after all major relationships in my life have been unhealthy?
I always need to be some kind of prey. I feel like the closest thing to ‘normalcy’ I have is wanting to be the one in charge, on a surface level. A guy who acts submissive to me and does everything I want/need, but he also knows how to control me in very subtle ways so I’m psychologically stuck and can’t leave him. No childish displays of power or fake machismo, just a massive web I can’t get out of, that also feels really comfortable, like I’m being taken care of but also can’t leave. That’s the dream relationship. It’d be just like how I’ve grown up, but it’s also so scary to think about.
I can’t afford therapy btw.

Anonymous 54804

>>54739
date a nurse?
also some guys are into being house husbands unless you're looking for a partner who makes money too.

Anonymous 54806

>>54803
disassociate the idea that someone taking care of you is the same as grooming you. create boundaries in your relationships because boundaries are healthy and you can start by practicing creating boundaries for yourself, then expanding that to creating boundaries for your close family/friends, then expanding that by setting boundaries for anyone you date.
lrn2vipassana and explore your mind so you can understand your thoughts, where they come from, why they are present, what they want, and how to maturely address them

Anonymous 54810

racked with fury.p…

i dont want to be my mom's friend i want to be her daughter!!!! why is this so hard to express. we're so """"close"""" that she talks to me/treats me like her husband/partner/coparent its weird and i hate it. i just want normal parents

Anonymous 54811

>>54761
Male doctors either go after other Stacey doctors and be a power couple or settle for a decent-looking female who's down to be a housewife. There's no one left for ugly female doctors.

Anonymous 54812

Well I did it, I ate another muffin. I was just hungry. I guess I'm just a dumb tubbo

Anonymous 54813

>>54812
Well I love you so there is that

Anonymous 54819

I have not met a single good person irl since I was in elementary school. It is depressing me, I need good friends, good people in my life…

Anonymous 54828

>>54810
It's probably because your mother is lonely, these things are hard to fix.

Anonymous 54834

>>54828
i wish i were more compassionate to her situation idk i feel like an awful child bc i know shes suffering and theres almost nothing i can do about it…i can barely be a decent daughter yknow? i think me being her confidante is doing us both more harm than good

Anonymous 54836

>>54834
oh anon, i know where you’re coming from. don’t feel bad about not being compassionate enough because even if she’s your mom it isn’t your responsibility to fix her problems. further, even though you can definitely lend an ear to hear her out, it’s also not your job to be her therapist or her spouse. a lot of moms don’t have great boundaries with their kids and that leads to the kid feeling guilty about wanting space, but you have your own life and problems to focus on too!

Anonymous 54837

How do people get fat? Eating isn't that fun. Even if you feel hungry it goes away after like 20 minutes. It's hard for me to make myself eat enough in a day. Eating healthy can be harder but in terms of calories I don't get how anyone eats enough to be fat.

I swear I don't have an eating disorder I'm just depressed.

Anonymous 54838

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I'm quitting all of the chans for awhile. At least 6 months, hopefully indefinitely. I have it blocked from my computer and locked with a password. I'm a bit nervous because literally the chans are pretty much all of my social interaction these days (because I can't stand Reddit), but it definitely does feel like searching for diamonds in a garbage heap. It's mostly all trash, all negative and it's stuff here that is posted to keep you miserable, to make you feel like shit. It's annoying how addictive social forums can be, especially if you're in my position. But I'm going to focus on gaining other interests, mostly getting back into playing music, reading, biking. Hell, maybe I'll even try to write a shitty book or make a shitty music album. Really, anything is probably better than this though. Even playing a video game or something.

The thing is that I've been mourning a loss of a friendship for the past 4 months. This person was my best friend for 10 years, though our relationship was extremely toxic at the end, I miss him every single day that I get out of bed and I worry that I will never be able to move on with my life. I saw one of his posts the other day on the chans. It was awful. He was talking about how happy he was, how he had so many friends and family. It made me feel utterly inadequate and hopeless.

Right now, I live in a derelict house by myself and while I am no stranger to being isolated, it just sucks.

I need to have the courage to move on, to accept that the door has closed, and to get on with my life. The thing is that I don't know if I'll be searching for what I need forever, but maybe it's better than just sitting at the door that has closed in front of me and hoping that maybe, just maybe, it will open one day.

I am in my late twenties now and I worry that time is running out. I guess today I'm planting a seed, and I can only hope that in a years' time, or maybe in ten years' time, I'll have moved on and I can find peace and contentment, free from isolation and the shittiness that has pervaded my life, especially in the past year since my car accident and my friend's suicide and a nightmare of a graduate school experience.

Wish me luck. Goodbye!

Anonymous 54839

>>54838
Good luck anon

Anonymous 54840

>>54837
I used to just eat whatever I wanted without gaining weight but since starting a new medication I have been gaining some without my diet changing at all. So I kinda see now how people's bodies can be different

Anonymous 54841

>>54837
eating feels good. good food can give u a big dopamine rush especially if you have problems with dopamine. eating things that taste good can be fun, especially if theres really nothing else going on in your life. plus its not like you can stop eating forever if it becomes a problem, since you need to eat to live. it can be easy to fall back into old habits. it's flawed logic, i know, but it's true for some people.

Anonymous 54843

>>54838
If you read this reply you've already failed and need to take it more seriously. Unless of course, you mean just 4chan and stuff and not here.

Anonymous 54847

>>54837
same.

Anonymous 54848

>>54661
I love Louis Wain his cats are so cute and soulful, you have great taste, and for this reason you shouldn't hate your self that much. Think about moid coomers who consider sakimi-chan monstruosities as the epitome of art.

Anonymous 54849

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i want to stop living in the past. i keep thinking about certain situations and how they could've gone way better (and these "situations" are in truth so minor and insignificant that they're not going to impact my IRL in any way that matters, plus they happened a year ago).

i also want to become a better writer but i have no idea how to.

Anonymous 54853

>>54837
boredom triggers my overindulgence. also no proper education on how to eat healthy.

Anonymous 54854

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>>54838
Wishing you the best, anon!

Anonymous 54871

Please don't let me be diabetic. If I can't eat sugar anymore I literally don't know how I can live or why I would want to.

Anonymous 54873

I want a cool tattoo but I’d be terrified if i ended up regretting it

Anonymous 54874

>>54871
Holy shit anon, I feel like I wrote this. I have a legit sugar addiction due to depression and anhedonia. I am horrified of developing T2 diabetes.

Anonymous 54875

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Tired of politics and debates and arguments, just wanna grill for fuck's sake. Everywhere I go it's always the same shit.

Anonymous 54876

>>54875
Just play online games with friends there is no reason to discuss anything there other than the game and casual stuff

Anonymous 54877

PLEASE MANGADEX BE UP AND RUNNING AGAIN I CANT WAIT ANYMORE

Anonymous 54878

>>54874
It is quite scary. I am the same way. I have had a lot of the signs for a while like being thirsty all the time but I was in denial. My feet started to tingle recently with a numbness that won't go away. I am finally going in to get checked out next week.

Anonymous 54879

>>54876
I had exactly this.
Then a couple of them got more right wing, and a couple got more left wing, and then it died.
I just wanna have friends I can hang out with.

Anonymous 54885

To make a long story short: I love Spain.

But no country is perfect, and…let’s just say sometimes I think Eddache dodged a bullet.

Anonymous 54887

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I feel like my bf strong-armed me into a relationship. I genuinely wanted to be with him at some point but my attraction has been fickle and now I might have to annule this again before becoming completely insincere and before I set us up for failure completely.

He was confused about us waiting to date for a bit and felt impatient. Objectively he is very respectful and cares about boundaries but he felt pretty urgent and intensely about that and it made me feel tense and obligated to escalate our relationship. So I asked him to be my bf to please him one day, also because what we were living wasn't far from a relationship, so I just slapped that label onto our connection. I should've stood my ground and waited though and what I did was insincere. It didn't make me happy to take this step together. And it did hold more meaning than I was ready to assign to our connection yet.

He has very intense needs and is very talkative and needs a lot of attention. We're polar opposites when it comes to energy and drive. He is very energetic and never stands still and I'm recovering from depression and struggle with low energy and drive and more.

All of this would be easier to process and navigate for me if he wasn't in such a bad spot rn. He has a very extreme, shocking life story and still has a heart of gold despite it and a strong backbone and a mind-blowingly well-adjusted, strong, principled, beautiful character. He helped me with my own growth and helped me become a better person effortlessly and I look up to him and admire him for his character. I'm so grateful to have him in my life because of that and I do love his personality and views.

What's troubling him is that he gets exploited at his current job, has excruciating back pain every day for months and on top of that his mental health has been deteriorating. He has developed extreme health anxiety and thinks he's gonna drop dead everyday and experiences difuse anxiety and is becoming more and more depressed. I help him wherever I can and he helps me too but it's a lot to bear and witness. We do have a strong support system in each other.
My sexual attraction to him however is shriveling up completely at the moment while he still flirts with me intensely and I find myself being attracted to other people. Either that's classic triangulation or fantasy or me exploring my options.

I'll probably fess up and talk about it with him soon but I'm already dreading it. I'm also kinda pessimistic about it all and wondering if it can work out at all and I feel bad for my physical disinterest. Idk. Maybe it's just a rough patch and working through our differences. Maybe we're just not a good match and I promised too much. Maybe sex isn't all that anymore and I need to change my priorities. Idk.

Anonymous 54888

>>54878
Yeah, for a looong time I’ve had frequent urination, fatigue, irritation (diabetics can be irritable due to poor sugar absorption). I once convinced myself I had it and could barely sleep for 2 days until it got confirmed I didn’t have it. Still terrified I will give it to myself, but I can’t quit sugar. Good luck anon, please update. <3

Anonymous 54889

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>>54877
>she uses mangadex

Anonymous 54891

>>54887
that's tough i'm sorry anon…this is what i'm afraid will happen if i ever manage to fall in love. if you do end up talking about it make sure you're gentle about it because it could feel humiliating to him i suppose. keep us updated and good luck

Anonymous 54893

my mind feels like its always one level above "going fucking bosnian mode" and it seems like im having the same 4 anxiety-stuffed thoughts every minute of every day and i want to commit papercut

Anonymous 54895

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>>54891
holy shit, thank you for reading my wall of text. it felt good to get out. relationships are scary for sure but my experience doesn't have to be yours, thoughtful anon

Anonymous 54896

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>>54893
I hope one of these days you can go full Bosnian mode in a relieving and self-preserving way and papercut the bs out of your life. I feel you

Anonymous 54897

>>54893
What the hell is bosnian mode?

Anonymous 54898

noni-steven-foster…

>>54897
Bosnian mode is hulk mode, duh. get it together noni

Anonymous 54902

I’ve been with my bf for 2 years. I’ve tried to tell myself that I’m not asexual, but I think I am. I don’t know what to do. There are no asexual men. I think I will have to fake it till I make it in order to not die alone.

Anonymous 54903

>>54902
Well, do you love him?
I ask this because I know a lot of lesbian women who ID'd as "straight but asexual" before realizing things.

Also, there are definitely asexual men. Not a lot, but they exist. Also x2, it is better to be alone but happy than with someone but unhappy.

Anonymous 54904

>>54903
I do love him. My love was especially powerful at the beginning. Now not as strong since he left me, ghosted for 2mo, and then we got back together. The pain was excruciating. I still love him. Sometimes I feel nothing for him though (random moments in my day) and it horrifies me. Typing this is so hard because it makes it more “real.” I don’t think I coild EVER tell him this. He just thinks I have a low sex drive. I have never experienced attraction toward other women though.

Anonymous 54905

>>54902
>There are no asexual men.
There are some men who claim to be, at least.
Whether any of them are telling the truth, I can't say.

Anonymous 54907

>>54905
Even then, I couldn’t bear telling my bf he wasted over 2 years of his life.

Anonymous 54908

>>54907
Better check your hand and tell him now than risk wasting 3 years or more.

Anonymous 54909

>>54908
I think i will just get myself to have sex honestly. Im not sex repulsed, just indifferent. I love him too much



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