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Vent thread Anonymous 51005

Last thread was >>49241

Anonymous 51009

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>>51005
>hang out with moid friend a lot
>he likes me
>meh
>start to not like him as much
>he acts as though his happiness depends on me
what the fuck do i do i want to leave him but i feel so bad, he's always asking to hang out and shit too

Anonymous 51010

>>51009
Tell him to pay attention to other girls because you are just not feelin it. It happens that moids get clingy even obssesice sometimes. Give him a no in a nice way but also tell him he got what he needs to get most other girls so everything ends well even if its a lie. Frien zone him but with the other hand give him a pat on the back otherwise he can end up hating you.

Anonymous 51011

>>51009
>i want to leave him
Then leave him. Stop going along with the patriarchy brainwashing and prioritising moid feeling above your own. He wouldn't do it for you.

Anonymous 51024

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>>51008

yeah the one job i was confident i got didn’t respond to me after the interview (even though it went so well!) maybe because i didnt want to do fulltime? but in their hiring it said part time :(

one thing im 100% doing is some online classes in august, so thats something that wont make me feel so guilty. i kind of have a 5 month window to continue neeting and actually pushing with my hobbies (i limited my daily goals to just 3 and so far its helping today) and i think im going to keep looking into some jobs as well. im at least content with the fact ill be taking those classes though!

anyway, thank you anon.

Anonymous 51025

>>51009
oh look another example of male manipulation.

Anonymous 51027

>>51009
ghost him lol

Anonymous 51041

I'm a horribly selfish person… I'm in a bad situation i feel horrible… But i feel like after everything i truly deserve it..

Anonymous 51043

>>51041
What's up?

Anonymous 51047

>>51005
>schizoid
>make one online friend out of a really convenient circumstance who was the only person i've been able to connect with in my life, pretty much had the best time of my life so far with her
>turns out she was actually a horrible person who was making children cut themselves online because she thought it was cool where i couldn't see it
>still miss her and care about her despite what she did, almost been a year, meanwhile she has a ton of new friends none of which know what she's actually like
i have no idea what to do to make it stop and feel really foolish

Anonymous 51048

i dont have a cat and i wish i did

Anonymous 51049

>>51048
Go find one and take it in anon!

Anonymous 51052

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I miss going places with friends. Having a local group to get together with. Not because covid ruined it for me, but because I haven't had it in a decade. I'm 31 in a student town and have two local friends, one of which I don't even like, and the other is never really around. I miss nothing more than to be with a few people I like and hang out until early morning and fall asleep or be driven home by one of them or stumble out of a dingy small-town night cafe. I've gotten really lonely and I finally realized that it's because of how cynical I've become. I've lived through a lot of stuff and people always tell me how resilient I am, but I'm really not, I've just barely hanging on simply because I'm too cowardly for suicide. I can't form bonds with people anymore because I'm so wary of everything now and every little thing turns me off. I miss being naive and accepting and excitable. I know this has destroyed a lot of friendships for me. I just want to go back to being a dumbass teen and find some people I belong with.

It also makes me miss the Tumblr era. Not the politics side but the dynamics of how the community was based on romanticizing yourself and your connections to others. I still maintain that the SJW side of Tumblr was relatively easy to avoid as long as you weren't trying to befriend any of them. A lot of the contacts I made on Tumblr are pinkpilled now, anyway.
It's embarrassing to admit but I was small-time popular on Tumblr in a niche community and I really loved having an open inbox and responding to people and making friends. Sometimes I want to go back and make a blog again now that most of the hardcore crowd moved to Twitter, but
my main issue is that in the past years I've done so much weird shit that has led to so many weird situations, I can't even begin to describe it all and if I talked about it people would judge the hell out of me. At the same time, I don't think I can truly be close to people who don't know that side of me because it's so elemental to who I am now. Plus I've gotten so paranoid about internet safety and I know that if I tied too many things about me together on one blog, some people could find it and gather info about who I am. I feel really stuck and isolated and it's all because I got too bitter over the years. I don't know how to change.

Anonymous 51061

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I want to be alone and I want friends too. My whole life I have wanted to escape other people. I feel so sad. I'm so fucking sad. But if somebody were to reach out I'd fuck it all up anyway. Why am I like this?

Anonymous 51065

>>51005
I feel p lonely lately pretty much bc I've ruined every friendship I've ever made bc most of my best friends growing up moved away, and this sort of made me push people away before they could leave me (I guess???). Anyway, dealing with that now means I barely talk to anyone outside of my family which means my bf and his close 3 friends which are now my only close friends as well. smh. I did this, but my career goal places me in a very sociable environment anyway (plus I sometimes still go to my campus). Its hard making your own outlets so often

Anonymous 51066

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>>51061
You should look into and ask/talk to a therapist or another professional about Avoidant Personality Disorder and Social Anxiety Disorder, Anon.

Anonymous 51070

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>>51061
Same anon, same.

Anonymous 51087

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I want to be skinny, but it's taking so long.
It's not even dieting that's hard. That's easy, you just have to learn to disappoint the part of your brain that's like a coomer for food. It's the fact that it's a fucking waiting game. Why should it take months to feasibly get down to my desired weight? In all that time, how can I trust myself to stay dedicated and never mess up even once? It's like a game you're designed to lose.
Give me instant skinny now, ffs. I promise I will maintain it if I just get visible results right fucking now. I've lost weight before and didn't balloon back up to my starting weight, I can do it. PLEASE.

Anonymous 51089

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>>51087
No offense but if you have that much weight to lose you have been messing up repeatedly for a long time. You need to stop yo-yoing and change your lifestyle. This mentality of "i just need to crash diet for 3 months and then i will b skinee" will doom you to fail. Try to set up good habits and then find something else to focus on once you have your routine down.

Anonymous 51091

>>51087
If you take measurements and progress pics you’ll see results every couple of weeks.

Anonymous 51102

I impulse buy whenever I feel sad or anxious, it's most likely my fault since I'm very disoriented and don't pay enough attention to my surroundings

Anonymous 51103

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>>51102
Bad habit.

Anonymous 51108

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I was trying to find an old valentine pic on my phone to text my sister with and I found out somehow roughly 1200 random images disappeared including the one I was looking for. I'll have to rebuild my shitshow collection from the scraps. Pretty bummed about it because of all the years of saving and transferring.

Anonymous 51109

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The number one factor on whether or not I find a guy attractive is whether or not he'd be down with getting a little rough in bed but all I attract are vanilla guys who would cry at the notion of being even slightly dommy. That or guys with mommy/femdom kinks and that stuff makes me wanna gag. IT sucks, cause most dudes that are "tops" tend to be serial cheaters that are only in it for sex and little to no intimacy. If I could I'd do anything to be a vanilla bitch and not care about this stuff, but w/e

Anonymous 51113

>>51109
Find hot racoons in your area. You will have to use the internet and narrow down specific tastes for that one. Won't be easy but if you get a moid who can satisfy you emotionally, help financially and sexually you are set. If he is ok with you grabbing his butt he is a keeper.

Anonymous 51117

>>51109
>>51113
>i want a dominant moid, moids with mommy/femdom kinks make me gag
>go find yourself a young submissive guy who lets you grab his butt uwu

raccoon moid shilling is annoying already but it's even worse when it's being pushed onto anons who say they're looking for the exact opposite

Anonymous 51123

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I'm falling in love with a guy who's taken. It feels like he's doing it on purpose, trying to get me to fall for him. I don't imagine someone being this nice to me if they don't want to fuck me. Every night I go to sleep hugging my pillow, wishing it was him, while he's out there with his girlfriend. I'm tired. I want him to break up with her and take me buy they have been dating for a long while and won't stop for me, clearly. I wish I was good enough for him, I wish he would kiss me. What can I do?

Anonymous 51124

>>51123
What sort if things does he do?

Anonymous 51125

>>51124
He tells me I'm cute, that I make him happy, that he connects with me like with none else, that he will always be there for me, he makes all sorts of things for me, and I just can't help but love him.

Anonymous 51126

>>51125
He shouldn't be telling you those things while in a relationship with another girl, he sounds like trash anon. Don't fall for it.

Anonymous 51127

I've never had a valentine.

Anonymous 51128

>>51126
But he seems so genuine, so sweet. Maybe it's just platonic and I'm taking it the wrong way?

Anonymous 51129

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>>51127
I haven't either.

Anonymous 51130

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constantly feel so doom laden about the future. i have this tunnel vision. and all i can see along the way is the gradual stripping of our freedom, privacy and a world where, unlike before where the masses had a chance of victory if they could unite against some perceived evil, we are simply powerless. a world where the powers that be have ascended the commonality of human weakness, and thus we are reduced to consoomerism and wage slavery. ive been aware of this for some time of course, so the point of this post is not that this is some revelatory idea, but rather that i just cant see a reason to live or a reason to care about anything when the future looks so bleak. i seriously cannot imagine a future where things are better in anyway than they are now. just a gradual decay of culture and of identity, of nations and of peoples, until we are all the same, without difference, without anything to fight amongst ourselves over, just drones made to work for them. how do i stop thinking like this? the only thing keeping me going is that this is probably what they want me to do, to give up. felt like a right schizo typing this, sorry, need to stop spending so much time online and on /x/ lol

Anonymous 51131

>>51125
Sounds like he wants to date you or is just using you to stroke his ego. Do you really want to date someone who will tell another girl these things? You’ll be forever paranoid he’s doing it behind you back. Enjoy the crush but cut contact with him.

Anonymous 51133

>>51131
Yeah you're right. I should stop this. I really hope he's just awfully nice and doesn't notice.

Anonymous 51134

>>51130
I hear this a lot. Guess I'm in doomer circles. I often agree, but tonight I don't. You know that the only reason they have so much power of us is because of the consumerism and all that jazz right? If life ain't worth living, if there is no point, why not attempt to do something about it all?

They only have power because we are complacent. It won't necessarily always be that way. But personally I'm content with my warm bed, my warm food, and my anime.

Anonymous 51136

>>51130
this is so true. it has been trending this way for a while now but now it’s like everyone is walking around without any thoughts, just consoom consoom consoom. Avoiding pain with merchandise, drugs, or dick is all anyone does anymore. They cry about their privacy being censored yet post their whole lives on their social media, no privacy settings, begging for the world to validate their bland existence. I’m no better really. When I’m sad I do an overpriced face and hope it’ll be the warm hug I’m looking for instead I’m still alone.

Anonymous 51139

i hate my boyfriend's long hair so much. he let it grow over quarantine and won't cut it. i hate it i hate it so much

Anonymous 51141

>>51139
how long are we talking

Anonymous 51144

>>51139
cut it while he sleeps

Anonymous 51145

>>51130
>just a gradual decay of culture and of identity, of nations and of peoples, until we are all the same, without difference, without anything to fight amongst ourselves over, just drones made to work for them.

You perfectly described what an "open society" is. I started reading about Soros, his agenda, his fundations, his projects, and god, it's so depressing.

>>51136
>it has been trending this way for a while now but now it’s like everyone is walking around without any thoughts, just consoom consoom consoom.
It's like we have regressed to a pre-modern state, when the masses weren't educated and were at the mercy of those who kept knowledge for themselves. But what is even more depressing, is to know that everyone has the education to access all the information they need to understand their fate. But they don't.
I hate postmodernism. I just want to live in a modern world with meaningful struggles.

Anonymous 51156

>>51145
>It's like we have regressed to a pre-modern state, when the masses weren't educated and were at the mercy of those who kept knowledge for themselves.
Not even close. Premodern was decentralised and everyone had a kind of independent mentality acting in their own interests and not getting caught up in ideas that serve another, impossible to control in any way resembling the modern hellscape of mass media and totalitarian states. Even writing was localised. There was no standard culture, orthography, education, or ways of doing things in general. They barely had a state in comparison to modern states to. So it's impossible to achieve what has been normal in modernity for hundreds of years.

Anonymous 51165

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>university holiday
>maybe I will have some free time so I can do hobbies
>all of my classes give work
I'm sick of these 10 hour work days 7 days a week. Feels like I don't have time to have a life.

Anonymous 51167

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i just want a milf who loves me and a million dollars

Anonymous 51175

>>51009
Tell him the truth and if he acts like he's got oneitis then you've just got to tell him off. It's admirable you're worried about his feelings but you've got to stand up for yourself, or else you'll both be less happy in the long run.

Anonymous 51176

>>51123
>>51125
>>51126
>>51128
Run from this guy, he's trying to use you or is up to something. That is crossing boundaries.

Anonymous 51201

god i hope my friends come back to my uni city too

Anonymous 51210

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>>51005
I just found out that EasySPEWven got banned from discord, and I don't have a way to contact any of them to reconnect. I was only a lurker because I'm incredibly shy, but being in the presence of likeminded women brought me a lot of comfort. I really loved reading chat and catching the articles and videos with my morning coffee.

Anonymous 51216

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melodramatic but im tired of answering all of my family’s questions about crypto, stocks, &gambling when ive been telling them exactly what to do for years but theyre only interested in my advice now because it’s popular on social media. they can’t hold anything either (freak out if they lose $20 or 1 bet bc theyre brains are degraded) and dont understand what they’re even buying. u didnt value my advice 5 years ago but you do now because of people on the internet, hmm…
aging parents somehow manage to sell stocks instead of buying them but want me to tell them everything about options and siblings only interested in reddit pump&dumps
Best of all, if i try to give them advice they tell me im wrong because someone on Facebook said that xlm and doge are such good buys or whatever, like ok 1. why do you even keep asking me then and 2. this is literally how i make my entire living

Anonymous 51246

>>51216
relax edgelord of course people hop onto stuff when it becomes mainstream, that's the point. if you can't be flattered that they found appreciation for your knowledge then just be straightforward and tell them off. you're an adult.

Anonymous 51254

…Well that was fucking humiliating.

But hey, it was either give up those secrets or reread THIS septic fungus: https://archiveofourown.org/works/8755924/chapters/20070595

Anonymous 51305

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>>51123
Yeah he sounds like trash, I feel bad for his gf
He'd very much treat you like this if you dated

Anonymous 51337

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>Meet fellow bisex girl at uni
>We both have a lot in common and relate to each other a lot
>She has a long term bf but prefers women
>Finally have close female friend
>One day she and I get shitfaced and she confesses how she's been hiding her friendship with me and other girls at uni since she's worried that her bf will get jealous since her being bi makes him insecure
>She didn't know she was bi until after she started dating him
>When she told him she made friends at uni his response was "already?"
>Is "encouraging" of her but it's obvious he doesn't like her having close friends and would likely not be a fan at all of her having lesbian/bi friends
>She hinds information about me and all out friends and hasn't told him about our sleepovers
>Apparently her bf gave up being friends with people bc they bullied her at school, leaving him ostracised and to this day his social life hasn't recovered
>Her bf clearly resents her having friends bc he gave up many friendships for her
>Despite telling me this she says he's "perfect and wouldn't hurt a fly,"
>In addition to this she deeply wishes she "met him later in life" bc she wishes she was able to "mess around" with girls
>Acknowledges that she will never have a relationship with a girl as long as she dates this guy and she feels as if she isn't a true bisex bc of it
>Her bf is aware of her preference for women and it hurts him too
>Her bf is finding it very hard to adjust to her changing since she came to uni, i.e. finally having her own friend group and being more dependent, he still lives with his parents who apparently coddle him
>Apparently she and her bf have spoken and if they have another serious argument they're gonna break up
>During the christmas period her wifi died and she couldn't contact him, he saw that as a deliberate way of ignoring him, he's also tried to guilt trip her into seeing him despite her family being high risk for covid
>She wants to be with him forever as he was her first relationship and they've been together for almost three years now but she is also very aware that the thought of being with a woman will always be in the back of her head
>Knows she can't have her cake and eat it
>Admits to having sexual feelings towards me and some other girls in the group
>Tbh I've had a five year relationship with a guy and a one year relationship with another and always known I was bi yet i never yearned for women when I was with them so i can't really relate at all

I feel like their relationship is gonna blow up eventually and i'll be there for my friend regardless of what happens but is there any advice or anything i could do for my friend? aside from buying her a drink and taking her to the gay club when lockdown and her relationship ends

Anonymous 51338

>>51337
how do people end up in these stupid nightmare relationships, what the fuck lol

Anonymous 51346

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>>51337
sheesh this hit close to home, im also struggling w figuring out im bisexual while being in a longterm relationship with my high school sweetheart. he's done a lot of crappy moid shit but we're very knotted together both romantically and practically so i feel like this is going to keep going until one of us hits our breaking point because we both love each other and don't want to not be in each other's lives etc but at the same time i kind of feel like i never got the chance to be my own person and figure myself out and have my own experiences outside of him, and i'm in the prime of my life where i should be doing all these things for myself, but i feel so glued to him that i just never feel like doing anything else. this is the exact thing i always said i would never let happen to me, lol.

Anonymous 51353

I wish I had a friend group that enjoys healthy activities and doesn't pressure me into drinking loads of alcohol.
I really hate how normal it is here to not only drink that much alcohol yourself but also pressure everyone to do the same. Even every of our office get-togethers has to involve gin tonic. If you don't drink at least two glasses people will tell the CEO that you are pregnant. They tried to do that to me but after a few months the CEO realised it wasn't true.

Just drink alcohol if you want to do so but leave other people alone. What do people gain from these games?

Anonymous 51360

My bf regularly plays computer games with a girl he’s known online for a while and I hate that I feel jealous about it.

I have no reason for it, we live together and he’s never mer her, but I hate it when I want to see a movie with him and he chooses to play with her instead

Anonymous 51362

>>51360
>I hate it when I want to see a movie with him and he chooses to play with her instead

Dump him

Anonymous 51365

>>51362
For spending time with other people than me?
If I had male friends I wouldn’t want him to be jealous about me hanging out with them.

Anonymous 51368

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I'm so tired of being someone I'm not, it's like I've been acting the way everyone expects me to so they'll like me. well I guess it's more accurate to say that I've been half-assing this 'socially acceptable' persona, which makes people dislike me because my heart isn't really into it. but I'm scared that if I act more like myself they'll definitely, 100% hate me
I don't think anybody knows the real me and it just sucks

Anonymous 51369

>>51368
What is the real you?
And i feel you. I stopped and started just being completely genuine, only doing things what i like automatically and my happiness soared.

Anonymous 51370

>>51360
Did you talk to him about it?
Maybe he just prefers playing games instead of watching movies. You could ask him to play games together. If he declines it might be her company that he prefers.

Anonymous 51371

>>51365
He's cheating on you 100%, at least emotionally. Don't even doubt it. I'm with the other anon, dump him. It's not just a "friend" if he chooses her over you.

Anonymous 51373

i'm in limerence with someone online and hundreds of miles away. i'll never tell him about my shallow feelings because i value our time together more than potentially ruining those moments. we also don't know each other beyond the virtual realm and are in different life stages. he probably doesn't see me like how i see him despite spending a lot of time together on our shared hobby. telling myself the above stops me from escaping too hard. dunno. reciprocated feelings would be too good to be true. we'd only be falling in love with one another's personas without their flaws. i want to find someone who has his strengths and love language and actually love them. i want to be more secure in myself to not quietly depend on him for little serotonin shots throughout the day.

Anonymous 51377

>>51371
>It's not just a "friend" if he chooses her over you.
I don't think "spends as much time with SO as humanly possible" is necessarily the mark of a good relationship. People need space, and socialization with others.
Most people tend to choose other people/things over their gf/bf at least some of the time.

Anonymous 51378

>>51373
>limerence
TIL a cool new word, thx anon

I actually had this happen to me recently on the receiving end and you're right about how falling in love with eachother's personas is just bad news. You could try playing it safe and get to know him before admitting any feelings- if it turns out you don't really want a deeper connection you can pull back and return to serotonin shots.

Anonymous 51379

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How do I tell my mom I love her? We never say it to each other and it would feel extremely awkward. We also had a fight last year that I never got over and our relationship just sucks. I feel really depressed. Sometimes I think how horrible I’d feel if she died because I never told her I loved her. How do I do this without making it feel awkward?

Anonymous 51380

>>51379
Maybe write her a letter? Or next time you give her a birthday or Xmas card, write a short note in it. You can also do it without words such as buying her flowers and doing other nice things for her from time to time.

Anonymous 51392

>>51380
Thank you anon. I think the next time I am out of the house I will buy her something.

Anonymous 51395

>be middle school teacher
>huge crush on another teacher
>not only is he not interested, he's fucking bi and has a husband
He's politely turned down all my advances but tbh that just makes me want to try harder. am I a huge cunt for spending some lonely nights seriously considering trying to fuck up his marriage and step into the vacuum or is that a natural thing to be tempted towards?

Anonymous 51397

>>51395
give it up anon, he's not interested don't embarrass yourself

Anonymous 51398

>>51395
If you ruin his marriage he's still not going to want you.

Anonymous 51399

>>51395
This is embarrassing to read. Stop thinking with your vagina.

Anonymous 51401

>>51395
wtf I thought straight women didn't like bi men

Anonymous 51402

>>51401
tbh women either really want a bi bf they can check boys out with uwu or wouldn't touch them with a six foot pole

Anonymous 51406

When my boyfriend still was together with his ex he often talked about how much he loved her with his friends, I asked them if he's talked about me the same way and they said no.

Should I be jelly? Whenever he talks about her to me he says that she was a psycho and that he never really loved her.

Anonymous 51407

>>51406
Yeah thats sus. Consider getting another bf on the side then dumping his ass. Thats so fucked up.

Anonymous 51408

>>51406
end it with him, he's lying

Anonymous 51410

>>51406
I don't get the other replies, he didn't do anything wrong, did he? Maybe he grew up and stopped being so candid about such things? Some people also overcompensate by putting on a perfect relationship show to others when there's actually trouble in paradise, maybe that's what he was doing with his friends? Either way, it's stupid to dump him just because you're jelly of the ex, try to talk to him about it first.

Anonymous 51417

>>51406
>When my boyfriend still was together with his ex he often talked about how much he loved her with his friends
>Whenever he talks about her to me he says that she was a psycho and that he never really loved her
It's possible that it really was a terrible relationship and he just talked her up in an effort to convince other people (and maybe himself) that she wasn't so bad. Sunken cost and all that.
If he was still talking about her to his friends as though she was great (and saying the opposite to you,) I think that'd be a red flag. But I don't think the fact that he did it at the time and has since changed his tune is necessarily something to worry about. There could be a few different explanations for it.

Anonymous 51418

My dad used to be a professor. I went on one of those “rate your professor” websites to see what his rating was and all his reviews were bad and now i feel sad.

Anonymous 51419


Anonymous 51420

>>51419
Why do I feel sad? It just made me feel bad for him. I get scared about stuff like that because he’s depressed. I don’t want him to see the reviews.

Anonymous 51423

>>51420
no i meant why are his reviews bad what did they not like about him

Anonymous 51425

>>51423
people were saying he was really unclear, that tons of people ended up dropping out, that he taught students as if they had "been doing it for years" and confused them more. it seriously made me so depressed. five different students all gave him 1-2 stars out of 5.

Anonymous 51426

>>51407
What the fuck that’s much worse
>I wish my boyfriend showed me more affection
>time to cheat on him, break his trust and leave him

Anonymous 51427

>>51425
you can cheer him up if he ever does end up reading them by saying its just students who were too dumb to belong in the program anyways
no clue if thats true or if he really is just a shit prof though

Anonymous 51435

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I recently peak transed and now i feel kinda bad bc i have a decent amount of tra friends and even a really close tim i've been friends with for years
i feel shitty but at the same amount of time i feel like im not really helping my friend by playing into his delusion but I know that we'd stop being friends if i made my radfem feelings clear
ultimately i dont plan to out myself, expressing radfem beliefs to my normie friends is usually agreeable unless i call it being a radfem

Anonymous 51440

>>51377
There's a difference between meeting a group of old friends or playing games in a group and spending time with this one girl he met online. A guy in a relationship doesn't need to spend time alone with another girl.
Anon has three options here:
1. you talk to him and tell him it is unacceptable to choose a random internet girl over his gf; I'd require to see every chat log too, to make sure he wasn't cheating. He can get a male videogame buddy.
2. you leave;
3. you wait until he inevitably leaves you for her.
3 is going to happen, you can be sure of that. It is a question of time until the other girl gives him a green light.

Anonymous 51442

>>51440
>A guy in a relationship doesn't need to spend time alone with another girl
And I suppose a woman in a relationship shouldn't be allowed to have any male friends?

Anonymous 51444

>>51442
Not op but there is a difference between hanging out(a few hours) vs spending hours with someone, who isnt in the relationship, everyday.
Also taken women shouldnt have straight male friends. The world isnt ideal, very few men respect friendships. From personal experince they tends to think theres something more just because youre being friendly, because you want to be friends. They dont always see it like that.

Besides the boyfriend sounds like hes cheating. At least emotionally hes providing all of his attention to a girl online and putting her first.
Does this other girl know about you?

Anonymous 51447

>>51442
No boyfriend would accept that his gf dumps his movie night to spend time alone with her straight male friend. Unless he has a cuck fetish.

Anonymous 51449

>>51444
>taken women shouldnt have straight male friends
>they tends to think theres something more
And then you get sucked into a relationship with them and start cheating on your bf, just like that?
Free will or critical thinking or anything doesn't factor into the equation at any point for either side?
You make it sound like it's completely impossible for men and women to have platonic friendships. OP said herself that he's never even met the girl IRL, you think he's going to uproot his life and run away to be with her because he has fun playing video games with her a few times a week?

What about women who date guys who are bisexual? Or women who are bisexual themselves? Can they just never have any friends at all because every person they meet is a potential romantic partner that would compete with their bf/gf?

Anonymous 51450

>>51449
I can't tell if you're a moid or a girl in the same situation as the "other girl" and want to rationalize it.
>OP said herself that he's never even met the girl IRL
That's precisely what makes it sure he is cheating. She is not some cherished old friend. She is some rando he met online. She should be utterly unimportant to him in relation to his own real life girlfriend. Why isn't he playing with a male? Why do you think a guy in a relationship needs an online female "friend"?
>What about women who date guys who are bisexual?
The dynamics of same-sex attraction in bisexuality are completely different. It is entirely possible for a bisexual guy to engage with a dude in friendly banter without wanting to suck his penis. But a guy who lives with his girlfriend meeting a random girl online and ditching precious time with his girlfriend to "play" with her? When has this ever not lead to cheating?

Anonymous 51451

>>51450
>Why isn't he playing with a male? Why do you think a guy in a relationship needs an online female "friend"?
Because people aren't completely identical and interchangeable? Do you know what friendship is?

Anonymous 51453

>>51449
Some people are weak will and will cheat with someone who is giving them more attention then their partner.
And yes people do uproot their whole lives to be with their lovers. Its not unheard of. Just because they live together doesnt stop the cheating. Which could be all the more reason why he rather play with this girl then spend time with his gf. From the sounds of it he rather spend more time with her. He might not even be aware that hes emotionally cheating.

Anonymous 51456

>>51451
You are ignoring the fact that this is simply an online relationship. She should not come close to the importance of his real life girlfriend. If he is not able to throw away this meaningless online fling if she asked him to, he could at least prefer to spend time with his girlfriend instead of sitting on a computer playing games with some nebulous chick he has never met like an autist. I would have dumped him faster than light.

Anonymous 51457

>>51456
>this is simply an online relationship
>If he is not able to throw away this meaningless online fling
I ask again, do you know what friendship is?
Do you think it's impossible to make friends via the Internet or something?
You're acting like this person is just some Tinder match he's known for a week.

Anonymous 51458

>>51457
Yes, it is quite impossible to have a female online friend as a straight guy. If you think it is possible, you must not have had many online interactions. But OP will see. These cases always end the same way.

Anonymous 51462


>Yes, it is quite impossible to have a female online friend as a straight guy.

moid rhetoric, and you believe it

Anonymous 51463

>>51458
Why are you speaking from the perspective of a straight male guy? Also blatantly untrue. I've had a straight male internet friend for nearly a decade.

Anonymous 51466

>>51458
My absolute best friend for the past 6 years or so is a straight dude. We do a lot of stuff together. I doubt i'm the exception. And if anything, its much more likely that i'd catch feelings before he does.

What makes you believe that it's impossible?

Anonymous 51467

>>51466
>>51463
lol ok, good to know you'd be ok with your boyfriend ditching you to spend time with an online gamer gurrrl~ "friend". OP, don't forget to update us when he leaves.

Anonymous 51485

>>51379
She knows.

Anonymous 51486

>>51425
Aww that's so sad :(. I'd feel terrible if it happened with one of my parents too. Maybe he is just tired after so many years of teaching and doesn't have the same energy anymore. Make sure to hug him and/or tell him you love him a lot, anon! Our lives aren't defined by our job skills.

Anonymous 51487

>>51052
well anon, its been 8 days and im sure you wont read this but if youre out there just know that a random stranger on the internet felt for you. i hope you find your people. godspeed

Anonymous 51488

>>51418
Could he have alzheimer's?

Anonymous 51494

why am i so fucking socially awkward my friend said 'i love you' and i answered 'you're welcome' kill me please

Anonymous 51496

>>51467
I'm not schizo enough to go off on a hypothetical bf because they have other girls as friends.
That kind of shit takes too much energy that could be spent in healthier ways.
And besides, the only guys who stay with the "dont talk to other girls but me" types are way too submissive for my taste.

>>51494
Thats reallhy embarrassing.
Hopefully you just played it off as a joke and gave the answer you wanted to

Anonymous 51501

maybe it's a good thing i'm not famous, i'd probably hate most of my fans

Anonymous 51504

>>51450
>But a guy who lives with his girlfriend meeting a random girl online and ditching precious time with his girlfriend to "play" with her?
>When has this ever not lead to cheating?
For starters, given it's the Internet, she could potentially live on a different continent or something.

Anonymous 51518

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>buy these out of curiosity
>they’re pretty good
>I pour the majority of them out into my bedroom trashcan so I don’t eat them all and regret it/feel sick (i have no self control lol!)
>be me after dinner and brushing my teeth
>literally reach my arm into the trashcan to get a handful of the gummies to eat
I have done this multiple times with different foods and I know it’s gross. I usually spray the food I throw out with some cleaning product so I don’t try to dig it up to eat it but I forgot this time

Anonymous 51519

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>>51518
> I usually spray the food I throw out with some cleaning product so I don’t try to dig it up to eat it but I forgot this time

Anonymous 51523

>>51519
What does this reaction image convey

Anonymous 51527

>>51518
I'd recommend just putting them down the garbage disposal, but gummies specifically would probably not be good for it, especially a lot of them.

Anonymous 51534

>>51518
Just eat them all and then buy bad foods less often.

Anonymous 51539

bury them outside

Anonymous 51540

>>51518
buy a smaller packet next time

Anonymous 51547

>>51518
I love peach rings, but they're sickingly sweet. I can only have a few at a time.
But you're not the only one with habits like that
>eating a container of burger king fries
>fall asleep in my chair
>wake up
>the fries are ice cold, and they dont taste good when reheated
>throw the bag away in the trash near my desk
>a few hours later
>too lazy to get up and go to the kitchen
>fish through the trash and grab the fries and finish them, despite not liking them cold
Happens more than i'd like to admit.
But the trash is all stuff that I put there myself, so the most disgusting part is the idea that they were in the trash, not that the food itself became gross after putting It there

I cant judge at all

Anonymous 51549

>>51547
>I cant judge at all
Thank you anon ily

Anonymous 51551

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>>51395
>am I a cunt for wanting to be a homewrecker?
Oh man, it's not often I get witness stupidity in all its glory.

Anonymous 51552

>>51401
>wtf I thought straight women didn't like bi men
/pol/ or other stupid place like /r9k/ told you that right?

>>51395
Is his husband good looking? you can get 2x1.

Anonymous 51553

>>51401
when you ask a woman if she prefers a straight man to a bi man, she will say yes, thinking about it in theory and with all else being equal. but ultimately she will just be attracted to whoever she is attracted to and it won’t really matter if she likes him. it’s a small subset of women with a strong aversion to bisexuals who will dislike such a man. unless he talks about cock constantly like a faggot, then any self-respecting woman wouldn’t consider him a viable romantic option.

Anonymous 51555

>>51552
This tbh. Propose a lewd sandwich situation to him anon, maybe you'll get lucky.

Anonymous 51559

Was dating a bi guy for nearly a decade. He figured out he's gay and had already been involved with some other guy for nearly a year before he broke up with me yesterday. When I asked why he still had sex with me recently, he said he "was still figuring himself out". God, I wanna fucking fade from existence.

Anonymous 51561

>>51555
I mean I suggested that because that way she doesn't gets the moral burden of making somebody cheat. But idk getting 2 compatible bfs ain't easy thats risky lewd territory, especially dumb if you only fancy one of them but don't see yourself with the other, some have done it but imagine dealing with disagreements where them moids take too much the side of each other and thorw you under the bus. I hope they are both really impartial (unlikely).

But maybe the lewd sandwich is worth it, if you don't like them long term dump them and move on.

Anonymous 51564

>>51559
god i am so sorry what a piece of shit he is

Anonymous 51565

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>>51540
based and don't buy a lot of small packets at once, it's a trap. only buy what you're going to eat in one sitting
not very "budget" i know, but it's very common for poor people to become overweight/obese due to buying high-calorie foods in bulk thinking they save money that way and then eating a lot of them in a short period of time

>>51534
>then buy bad foods less often
no anon that isn't how it works
you'll just get used to buying lots of sweets and eating them all at once

Anonymous 51568

>>51395
>screwing things up at the workplace
You're fired

Anonymous 51570

>>51559
what a piece of shit

Anonymous 51571

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Another day, another autist I’ve fallen in love with over the internet…

Anonymous 51576

>>51565
>no anon that isn't how it works
>you'll just get used to buying lots of sweets and eating them all at once
Works for me.

Anonymous 51581

>>51576
god i wish i had the same level of self-control or what's your secret to not just buying lots of sweets every single day?

Anonymous 51582

>>51581
I did used to buy things everyday because I was very low energy at the time (undiagnosed illness). I got over that by sorting the illness out. Also got over never having had sweets at home growing up which also caused me to gorge on the few ones I would have in case they were taken away.

Basically you have to find out why you are craving these things. Are you not eating enough or enough of the right things? Do you have a bad mental loop forcing you to eat things you don’t actually want? Are you trying to make yourself feel better or make up for times you didn’t have treats before?

When you still do want something, willpower is really hard so instead of denying yourself, try and reduce the cravings. You can try and find healthier foods to eat instead to subdue cravings. For example, instead of peach sweets have actual peaches.

If you still really want the sweets, just eat them and enjoy. Don’t make them into “bad” foods as that will just make you want them more and cause disordered eating.

Anonymous 51587

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>feel sad about being ugly
>being sad makes me lose motivation to take care of myself
>get uglier from not taking care of myself
>feel sad about being ugly
help

Anonymous 51589

>>51587
Force yourself to shower everyday, brush hair, wear nice clothes, etc. It feels like a huge chore but only less than an hour and makes a big difference to your mood.

Anonymous 51596

Time passes so quickly and it's scaring me. One day all of this will be over.

Anonymous 51602

>>51581
NTA, but my secret is laziness.
I would eat anything in the house down to cold beans straight out of the can with a spoon before I could be bothered to go to the store to buy any food, much less candy.
Most of the food shopping is done by other people in the house as a result, and they don't buy much candy, so I just don't have a lot of it to eat.
To a lesser extent, I can't even be bothered to walk downstairs to the kitchen 90% of the time.
I lost like 20 lbs after I left college just due to no longer having a minifridge within arm's reach at all times.

Anonymous 51613

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Tips for lying to mental health professionals to avoid your habitual swathe of denial coming undone?

Anonymous 51614

>>51005
I have been maladaptive daydreaming for two days, barely moving out of bed. Help.

Anonymous 51615

>>51614
What are you dreaming about?

Anonymous 51622

>>51614
Try listening to a body scan meditation video maybe? In my experience, it can help ground you in your body so you stop day dreaming so much. Also, force yourself to go through some sort of workout video, something fairly intense, and focus on the soreness/fatigue you feel in your body, that can also help get you out of your head.

Anonymous 51624

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Oh finally a place where I can dump shit im concerned about. This will probably unreadable in some parts because feels are hard so sorry in advance

When I had friends in high school I still felt like I was on the bottom rung on the friendship ladder. I've since moved physically away from them and even if I dont talk to them anymore, it kind of fucking sucks that neither of them have even tried to talk to me or see how I'm doing. Maybe its hypocritical of me or maybe it's better I stopped contacting them since they were jerks in their own subtle ways, who knows.

I'm not a virgin anymore and I have a bf in a long distance relationship, but the fact that I never had a physical connection with anyone irl really is fucking me up bad. Sure my bf and I see each other since we live about 4 hours away by train but STILL not having anyone in my area to spend time makes me want to neck myself. I know I should be thankful I dont have to put up with a majority of moid bullshit but I feel like im missing out and salty whenever one of my friends talks about the dates she's going on, how cute he is, etc. The prospect of meeting a guy I might like in school terrifies me, but at the same time I'm probably never going to meet a guy that likes the same stuff as me, or wouldn't shame me for baggage or being really shy, whatever projection guys always engage in

Despite all this I recently got prescribed birth control that might help with my PMDD, and im starting to feel just the slightest motivation that eventually things are going to be ok if I work through each problem one step at a time. Fingers crossed that its the one thing that helps me out of my depression and weight gain slump

Anonymous 51627

>>51582
thanks anon. i suspected things like that but never actually got into what could it be or i ruled them out.
i'm dealing with a hormonal illness right now so it kinda shows, too.

>>51602
>tfw you're too lazy/unmotivated to do anything BUT getting up to eat

>>51624
>feel like im missing out
true. you're missing out on creepy physical shit moids do.

>not a virgin anymore

>never had a physical connection
???

Anonymous 51630

Some advice

Anonymous 51636

>>51627
"Not having a physical connection" meaning i don't have anyone to spend time with whenever, it still feels empty if I only get to see my bf every couple of months

Anonymous 51638

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i've had a few twitter accounts and i'm always sad that not one has surpassed 20 followers, and that i've never been able to make any friends from twitter. idk seeing that other people can and do but i can't? so lame

Anonymous 51640

>>51638
You need to join some sort of community and tweet content related to that. No one wants to follow a random whose content is all over the place.

Anonymous 51664

Tired of the monotony of social media.

Anonymous 51687

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I’m so desperate for a bf I would even take a tr**n at this point.

Anonymous 51692

>>51687
just don't even a weird as shit /r9k/ or /soc/ bf is better than a tranny.

Anonymous 51704

>>51687
not much point in getting a bf if theyre just gonna be seething with jealousy towards you and eventually off themselves

Anonymous 51705

Dear Karla/Carla
I wish I had talked to you when I still lived there maybe you would have been supportive, I wish I had told you what I went through
I was/am scared you would have judged me for me not being pure anymore or talk shit about me.
I have no female friends, the one I somewhat trusted talked behind my back sometimes because of how I acted and behaved, alas she is gone from this world and I dearly miss her because despite the bullshit she understood me in some ways.
Also I had this feeling you had other female friends and guy friends that you were very much closer to than I(rhett and the other people in the group), it's fine.
I hope everything is going okay with your life.
Also I honestly think you did have feelings for "him", im not sure why but I don't care anymore.
When I was in another city I was at first hurt and couldn't let go, eventually I stopped putting him on a pedestal and found someone new, though I still wonder if he's being honest, he is? but my insecurities get to me.
Also I know it's fucked up but I won't lie I'm glad the quarantine happened.
From your old friend
N(my username) unless you already know my name

Anonymous 51707


Anonymous 51708

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>>51571
Relatable content
What the fuck is wrong with me? Why do I catch feelings so fast through text when I don't catch feelings with people when I interact in person?

Anonymous 51709

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I've lost contact with all my irl friends and every year it feels like my online friend group just gets smaller and smaller. I'd like to reach out to people but I just have nothing to talk about. Like it would just be "hi" "what's up?" and the convo would die there.

Anonymous 51710

>>51709
I used to be ridiculously bad conversation for a long while, and then I decided to start talking to randos from /soc/ to get better.
I'd be willing to bet that most of them are just as bad, if not worse than how bad you think you are at conversation.
A trick that I learned from my time there is to always try to get the other person to talk about their experiences. Even the most autistic of autists love to do that.

A basic conversation starter I usually go for is "Heya,what's the gameplan for today?" since that usually avoids the "nothing much" response that you'd get by asking "what are you up to?"
But you should probably reword it since the way I talk is pretty cringe.

Even if you're completely uninterested in what they're talking about, ask questions or try to relate what they're saying into your own experiences.
If they're listening to music, ask for recommendations. If they're playing a game get them to gush about it to you. Etc etc etc

However, not even I can get the people who give one word replies to speak more.

Anonymous 51711

>>51710
>Even if you're completely uninterested in what they're talking about
NTA, but the thing is, I wish I was interested.
I've got no real personal relationships because I can't find it in me to care about the details of people's lives. I've tried adding people from /soc/, and we exchange greetings and maybe have a short conversation, and then we literally never speak to each other again because they never message me, and I never message them because why would I?
I have this very generalized desire to connect with people, but on an individual level I've never really met anyone who I'd want to go out of my way to speak to again. It always feels like a waste of time, or that there are things I could be doing instead that I actually want to do.
Other people seem to enjoy making small talk and stuff like that.
It feels like something's wrong with me.

Anonymous 51712

>>51571
what about the details of your life

Anonymous 51713

is anyone else extremely paranoid about their online presence? like being cyberstalked or doxxed and the like. i don’t use social media much anymore and am a complete nobody but did a lot of embarrassing things when i was younger that i can’t really delete. i’m terrified of people keeping watch over my accounts and making fun of me. makes me scared to interact with anyone because i can’t trust them. maybe lolcow is starting to take a toll on my psyche

Anonymous 51715

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>>51713
I can relate anon. I don't really use social media anymore either and all of my (now inactive) accounts are on private. I wish my younger self had taken those internet safety psa thingies more seriously; the thought of the stupid shit I did online resurfacing one day keeps me up at night.

Anonymous 51717

>>51713
Send a fake DMCA and it will be removed.

Anonymous 51719

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hi anons. im seeking some insight, or maybe wisdom

i have always felt inferior to most people as long as i remember. to be brief, i have never felt i have a place to belong. i have a couple friends and a boyfriend but i can only relate to them all to a certain extent (my boyfriend the most, which im grateful for) the thing that is bothering me is remembering some discord communities/overall online 4chan esque communities i used to be in. they were bpd schizophrenic unemployed drug users but they all seemed so much more intelligent and cooler than me. i always envied them, i wanted to be them so bad despite knowing they were also “losers”. some people would be nice, some mean, but for some reason it would genuinely hurt me. id get panic attacks feeling like i wasnt good enough. this has also happened in a community of really sweet artists i was in once.

the feeling is terrible. it makes me so anxious to the point of vomiting, even with things like scrolling through prettier girls on instagram. i dont know what to do about this and have tried to love myself more, but i cant rid the feeling of wanting to be somebody else or wondering if im really me.

i wish i was a bpd drug addict girl that everyone liked. but instead im weak, reserved, and in my own world.

i wish i was e famous or something as well but i dont like zoomer culture. i just want to be adored and not feel inferior. i try to continue doing what makes me happy personally each day, but even then i question if its what i should do. i question if i should shift my path to be cool and adored.

people say thats now who i should want to be, but ive seen multiple instances of those types of girls who are very well liked and get everything they want. so i wonder if i should start to become that.

Anonymous 51720

>>51719
you won't like being the bpd drug addict girl once you're her.

Anonymous 51721

>>51713
>>51715

Unless you suddenly get tons of followers nothing will happen. So many people posted way more offensive things that you propably did. In case it is really bad, try to delete anything showing your face and name and start over with a new account. Keep it small and only inferact with people for fun, not to gather followers.

I used to have a blog where I whined about real life things. The platform died so it's pretty much gone. For todays standards I would have definitely been lolcow material but I've never been popular enough to been mentioned anywhere that I know of. Sometimes I wonder if any of the personal lolcow posts is about me, lol

Anonymous 51722

>>51720
may i ask why? if i already dislike myself now, could it be worse? i just want to be careless and adored.

Anonymous 51725

>>51719
I have bad news for you, you can't unilaterally be adored and not also considered inferior by some. To be adored for something is to fail at something else. No one who values physical strength, or financial know how, gives a rat's ass about Stephen Hawking other than admitting he's smarter than them. You make it sound like you aren't smart. I would think that if you were beautiful you would be aware. You don't sound socially competent or connected, so that's a bust for popularity. You don't sound like your very competent in any field either. I have good news though, there is still a path open to being superior. The only option you have left is being the most hard working at something, anything. Writing books, running a business, being a good employee, lifting weights. I don't give a fuck. Your only option if you desire the feeling of superiority is to work yourself and work yourself hard. Don't tyrannize yourself, you are a human after all, lazy and feeble. You have to bargain and barter with yourself to get yourself moving.

You also have the option of getting on prescription adderall if you need some get up and go.

Anonymous 51730

>>51719
>i wish i was a bpd drug addict girl that everyone liked. but instead im weak, reserved, and in my own world.
I felt this way once. After entering the adult social sphere I realized quickly people prefer charming yet dysfunctional individuals. They also don't take well to teetotalers.

Difference is I'm happiest alone. I generally dislike interacting with others 90% of the time because maintaining relationships is annoying. So while my ego is bruised when I fail at being an attention-and-love magnet, it would be a shitshow if I was. I cut all my friends out even now so it would be worse by tenfold.
When you're a person like this you learn to love yourself faster than the BPDfags and extroverts. Who else is there to validate me? Some random who will get on my nerves in a month (side note: not their fault)? Why would I change who I am and harm myself for temporary people?

Is my advice just isolate yourself socially and immerse yourself in hobbies? Maybe. You're around yourself the most even if you're not a loner, might as well love and take care of her.

Anonymous 51746

I'm going to reread the first ever femslash I ever wrote 13 years ago…

It'll have all the feeling of a slow and painful death but without the death ಥ_ಥ.

Anonymous 51749

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>>51746
Halfway there now..

Anonymous 51753

>>51749
I have finished reading it..
And now to faint!

Anonymous 51755

>>51753
now post it on /nsfw/



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