Condoms Anonymous 12472
Help, my bf and me are both virgins and I feel like that's about to change soon, but I am a little nervous about the whole thing.
I obviously know how condoms work and I'm sure he knows everything there is to it, but I just want to be less clueless about it at least to help me with my nervousness.
For example when does he put it on? I've read online that it's best to put it on as soon as his dick is out of his pants, because even with precum there is a chance of transmitting an STI or getting pregnant. But isn't that a total mood killer, if we're cuddling and then suddenly he has to get up and wrap his dick in plastic before continuing.
Should either of us even care about STIs if neither of us had any sexual partners before? I feel like the education system has failed me and I should know all these things.
we are usually very open to communicate with each other about everything, but I feel like we're both a little to prude to talk about sex until we've at least had it once.
also general advice for my first time are welcome
Anonymous 12474
>When should he put it on
After foreplay, before insertion. It takes ten seconds, five if you've already got one out, so it's not the mood killer you think it is. If he cares about you he won't be offended. If you're worried, you can always put it on for him - they like that sort of thing.
>Should we worry about STIs if neither of us has had any sexual partners
If neither of you has an STI (and you trust that he doesn't have one, right?), then you don't have a lot to worry about besides pregnancy. UTIs and stuff can also be transferred and lead to problems, but that's pretty low on the risk scale.
>What about pre-cum
Rarely contains actual sperm unless he already came earlier. I think most studies say the risk of pregnancy from pre-cum alone is very very small. Just follow the advice above - put it on before anything goes inside.
>First time advice
If you've inserted anything before (fingers, dildo, etc.) you already know kind of what to expect. If not, it varies from person to person, most people experience some discomfort or mild pain their first time, some don't. I had a slight pinching/burning feeling for a few minutes that faded after I started to relax. I think the stressing and anxiety about whether it would hurt was way worse than any actual pain. Just make sure to do a lot of foreplay beforehand and ask him to take it slowly.
>I feel like we're both a little to prude to talk about sex until we've at least had it once.
There is nothing to be ashamed of.
Anonymous 12498
don't let him go in until you're 100% comfortable with it. Not just mentally but physically as well.
Foreplay, fingers, etc.
As for when it's time to put the condom on: any time between him getting hard and him going in you. The best way to keep "the mood" going while rubbering up, is probably for you to do it for him. Some girls who try to be extra sexy with it do this with their mouths but that sounds like a bad idea, I'd just stick to using your hands.
