>>14766>say he wasn't into it>he'd let you have at it to indulge you>would you still do it?Yes, I would, and he does do that. When we started dating he admitted he felt blowjobs were demeaning, and I agreed, until we tried some sub-dom stuff and I had him strapped naked to a chair, which just awoke this desire in me. While he still feels that way in theory, and doesn't like the thought of blowjobs, he knows I find making him cum extremely hot, so just surrenders, which is even hotter. We argued over the timing initially, and just about had a huge blowup over how much he resisted me dragging him from a crowded street into an alley to suck him off, but he saw how much I wanted it and gave in. I don't really do it in the bedroom unless the fancy strikes me, so it's usually an inconvenience to him while he's busy or doing it in a way which breaches his comfort zone, like in public. On the other hand, he knows it gets me incredibly horny and the pleasure he gets from the act itself usually outweighs the displeasure from the circumstances.
>I haven't met a single woman who can finish without their bfs going down on them>I don't think reciprocation should be expected hereI understand the sentiment, but as someone who only sometimes struggles without an intermission for oral, playing, lots of kissing etc. it's not really equivocal. Oral can be intimate for very different reasons, depending on your relationship. It being necessary for one party doesn't then mean you can just say "You don't NEED it, so you're not worth my time" to the other. Most men will just say ok and thank their lucky stars they're having sex at all, but it's not a very healthy way of looking at sex. I've seen the argument a lot and it's almost like they're treating it as a detached barter exchange, and because they value their oral more highly than their partner values theirs, they're happy to get one over on them, like it's a competition. If you dislike giving oral, that's fine, and you can work that out with your partner, but that dislike should come from something real and sensual to you, and definitely not from a gender-politics, battle of the sexes point-scoring competition.
On a personal note, I've found I can only reliably cum from penetration, without extra stimulation, with positions that are face down, and unless I'm already close or incredibly horny and just want to be ridden and used, it saps away the intimacy and kills my libido. Technology is the answer, and once your partner gets over the oh-so terrible shame of using a vibrator, you can have fantastic missionary sex with all the intimacy, good orgasms and none of the give-take that comes with having a partner you can't reliably pleasure normally, or the awkward one-handed pushups and limbs falling asleep from the pressure/position. Men just need to become more comfortable with accepting outside help.
