>>2088Stop thinking and just "let go".
That's creepily-worded, but I've noticed that it's harder to orgasm when I'm focusing a lot on getting there. It makes me tense and it stunts it more than anything. Relaxing my muscles and clearing my mind is what lets the bigger ones start.
If it's smaller, it'll feel like a pulse with a small rush of pleasure. If it's big, your pelvic floor will wind up contracting on its own and you can feel the rush a lot farther up your body. Shaking is pretty normal, but not everyone does it.
Being relaxed and comfortable is really important if you're not super secure in your sexuality yet. Remember, you're having sex to have fun and feel good. Go at your own pace and don't feel pressured to finish right then and there. See what you like. Try moving your hips in different ways. Compare the different ways your bf touches you. Try domming. There are so many different things to try out. See what interests you.
As for fapping, I usually lie face down and stick my hands down my pants. Then I press down on the clitoral hood and use my body weight to increase the pressure and fantasize about getting fucked. It does make my hands ache after a while though. It really just boils down to touching your junk in a way that makes you feel good and thinking about something sexy that you like. I don't get BIG orgasms from this, but it helps me sleep and takes the edge off.
I also use a vibe sometimes, but the results with that are inconsistent.
>>2089I got a question if that's ok. I got my vibe, but when I use it and get to the point I'm about to orgasm, I get stuck with one of two options. Either I relax and get overwhelmed (so I always wind up stopping it on my own), or I force myself through it and only get small orgasms at most. I've hit that sweet spot a few times, but do you have any ideas on getting it more consistent? I'm a singlevirginlmao, so I can't just bypass it by getting someone else to do it for me.