>>2538usually my partner pleasures me first and right before i cum he thrusts harder and we cum (roughly) at the same time
I usually take a long time (20-40 minutes) but he is amazingly patient, loving and strong in that regard
i think what you really need is to know how to stimulate yourself and to have your partner assist you in foreplay and stimulation, and for him to be willing to wait and to basically be on edge for a long time