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Dump him and get a man who actually wants to be dominated.

>but but but signals!!!

If he wanted you to peg him, he'd have let you by now.

>>3601
But I KNOW hes's into it. He basically confirmed it when he waa drunk, but now refuses to admit it.

>>3600
>How do I train my moid?
Don't. As hot as it sounds, you should either let that remain a fantasy in your head or find a man that wants to be trained/dominated. You could fuck him up mentally depending on how you "train" him.

If you do convince him to let you dominate him at least once then don't do some crazy shit like a 9 inch strap-on or stringing nettles immediately.

>>3603
But I don't want to do anything too extreme, at all. Heck I know already even pegging is probably off limits. But I'd want to at least get him to kneel for me sometimes… Is that too much to ask for?

>>3604
yea if it's beyond his comfort zone, do you want him pushing you to do things you don't want to? Even if you were drunk and said you might like to? Seems pretty shitty to me anon, just talk to him about it, ask him to keep an open mind but don't pressure him. What sorta shitty partner are you?

>>3605
I guess you're right. I love him too much to risk hurting him over a shitty kink.
I think the distance is making me a bit crazy…

>>3606
It's alright, sometimes we get wrapped up in our own fantasies and forget to consider other people. Just think about what it'd do if you pushed him to try something and he really didn't like it. How would you feel after he pushed you to do something you were uncomfortable with, you might not even feel safe with him anymore. I think you should just speak to him about it and until you've both spoken it over thoroughly don't try anything. Sometimes fantasies are best left as such anyways

>>3604
>Is that too much to ask for?

You can ask for whatever you want. You can sit and spin when the answer is no.

>>3600
Just do it. Start out slow and leverage affection, build up over time.

>>3609
Can you give me an example? I don't know how to without feeling annoying or invasive…

Of course it's possible OP, don't listen to those anons discouraging you. You just have to be patient and bold.

First of all, you need to have sex with him in the best position ever invented which is missionary. Move your hands towards his buttcheeks and then towards his anus but don't stick your finger there. Next time do the same thing, rub the butthole with greater force but still don't go inside. The third or fourth time you can go inside but VERY gently and shallowly. If you succeed with that, all you have to do is getting deeper and deeper every next time, gradually of course.

I don't know if I need to mention it but you must do all those things when he's extremely aroused and nearly cumming, in the other case he will just ask what the hell are you doing

Do everything right and he will beg you to peg him sooner or later, it worked perfectly with my ex.

>>3611
wtf kind of advice is this? She just needs to talk to her boyfriend, not surprise him with anal play when he's about to cum jfc

Also OP, it might be the distance. I have sex with my boyfriend very infrequently, mostly because of covid and where we live and I've noticed that my porn consumption gets increasingly deranged until I actually get laid again. It's like a switch that goes "vanilla shit/borderline vanilla is actually more than satisfying enough" before the cycle repeats again. Idk how applicable this is to you, but you did mention the distance thing so maybe it's more you being sex starved than actually needing to act these kinks out with him

>>3612
She's already talked to him, he said yes but doesn't want to admit it becouse of his crazy pride or something. And moids ussually like when the woman takes the initiative
>>3613
>Manipulative and Stacy as fuck
Maybe but it works

>>3615
>he said no but actually meant yes
What happened to "no means no"?

>>3620
I mean, of course no means no, we can all agree on that I think.

But he actually said yes, alcohol revealed his true desires. Than he sobered up and the culture he was raised in forced him to be ashamed of it and deny everything. That will be liberating for him when OP doms him, I mean mentally liberating, they will both be happier with that. She just needs a good way to do it and I gave her one

How about you try telling him "I want to do x/y/z during sex, let's try it once or twice"?
Anything short of scat he should be open to giving a shot.

>>3624
Honestly, this.
Instead of focusing on what a man might secretly want, focus on what you actually for sure want.

>>3621
>But she actually said yes, alcohol revealed her true desires. Than she sobered up and the culture she was raised in forced her to be ashamed of it and deny everything.
See how fucked up this sounds when you flip the genders?

>>3838
That's only if you believe she's weak and can't take her own responsibility for drinking

>>3839
It's not about that. It's about assuming that drunkenness paints an honest picture of who someone really is.

>>3838
nothing wrong with some girls being naturally submissive. The only bad thing is the enormous amount of dominant girls and submissive boys who suffer because culture represses their true nature.

>>3600
slap him in the balls lightly so he has a choice to make there and then

Study the technique known as The Ben Franklin Effect.
>ask for small, simple favor
>pay off favor on time, but try to make the balance of favors favor you so he feels increasingly invested with payoffs either gradually decreasing or moving further and further into the future
>escalate
This is also how some women develop polyandrous cult followings, and iirc how one of the most prolific black widow serial killers got all her rich handsome husbands..