>>6116Heads up, a lot if not most of bdsm activities cannot be safe. There's no safe way to strangle someone, there's no safe way to beat or cut someone or to shit into someone's mouth. Again, wanting to hurt yourself is mental illness, just like self harm is. Kinksters just cope because it's hard to re-wire your brain to not be aroused by that, since they jacked off to that stuff for most of their puberty, and that's when your brain and therefore your sexual desires develop, yadda yadda.