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I was wondering if I should even warrant this a reply, but NO. I don't know how you can compare stealing with rape. I hope that your bf hasn't normalized this behavior for you, because it isn't right, sorry. I'm kinda upset that now your bf will probably do the same shit to another girl after you until he learns…And I'm sorry you were abused, anon. I also used to say things like "I wouldn't care if I was raped" but this was when I was in middle school and hated myself and really didn't care what happened to me. Now that I'm MUCH older, I realize how psychologically damaging it is and how messed up and sad it was for me to think that way. I also know someone who was abused by her brother, and it's deeply scarring but she got therapy to help some.

>>718
I'm insecure about how immature my original post must make me seem, I don't want to get raped. I'm just looking for other people who feel the same way, but thank you for the response.

>>719
Yeah I understand, I'm not trying to make you feel guilty about it since it isn't your fault

>>721
>that includes the men in my family who abused my mom as a child
Oh yeah, I think anyone who abuses children should not get a pass whatsoever. I'd be happy if my brother and his apologists died. I should have specified I wasn't including children in my definition.

I would say it's fair to say that it's normal in the sense that it's very common. But that is also why it's wrong, because we shouldn't let it continue to exist like this due to the harm it causes to people. I see what OP means about not completely cutting off ties with someone who has raped, but I would only be OK with that if they show genuine understanding and change. Like other crimes, there should be emphasis on repentance, but for sex crimes the issue is that so many perpetrators are not even brought to justice to begin with.

Because like >>722 said, fuck abusers they can die.

i'm the opposite. it's never happened to me but thinking about it makes me so upset i used to think i would kill myself if it ever happened. other than the obvious physical suffering, when i think about it happening to me it makes me hate myself and feel like i deserve to suffer even if i know that's not true.
i actually wish i was more like you. i want to just see it as a bad thing that can possibly happen like any other, instead of having so many awful emotional connotations.

does anyone know how to change this?

>>721
>Rape is pretty much normal. It's a lot more common than most people think

i'm not sure if that's true anon. what makes you say that? if anything it seems like the opposite to me with movies and porn and media being so obsessed with it.
of course it depends on where you are as well.

>>721
>Rape is pretty much normal. It's a lot more common than most people think and half of society doesn't seem to give a single fuck about supporting victims or fixing social attitudes.

As someone who just spent her last 5 mins in tumblr I can say that is downright false

It's never seemed bad to me either. I don't see why it would be traumatic for anyone, and when hearing about people coming out with emotional stories that they've supposedly carried for years, it's just like, oh, okay. Someone stuck their doodle-do in your hoo-ha.

>>731
i wish i could feel this way wtf. it's usually incredibly physically painful and turns something that's normally fun into something really degrading and sad. how do you just not care but still have self esteem? i'd really love to change

After personal experience with having a rape fetish and actually being raped. I can say with 100% confidence that most don't actually have a rape fetish. They have a rough sex mixed with humiliation with someone I know fetish. The fetish tends to go away when it is some junkie forcing raping you at gun point.

>>760
" Just because I ate pizza and you didn't I can say for sure you will not like it and are talking out of your ass".

>>760
I don't understand where this is coming from, I stated in my OP that I wasn't into the fetish at all to stop confusion over what I was trying to say.

>>731

>Someone stuck their doodle-do in your hoo-ha

wtf?
It's not like it's regular sex, are you mental or just an incel? It hurts, it bleeds, it's humiliating, downgrading, it usually makes you hate sexual contact for a while and you end up blaming yourself because people don't support you.

I also feel bad for OP because she probably been through this so often that she is desensitized to it. And I hope that the bf is now an ex.

>>762
I was pointing out how women who romanticized rape as a fetish. Have no clue what real rape is.

>>764
This is a female-only site. It's funny how anyone who has an opinion you don't like must be an incel, though. I don't respect those who wallow. That includes those who can't get over temporary pain. Those who cry, those who put their problems in front of other people.

>>772
You're delusional if you think all the effects of rape can be controlled by the victim. You can't decide what dreams you have, you can't decide whether you develop conversion disorder or PTSD, etc. from rape, there are a lot of things you can't control about rape, including whether you get raped in the first place. Crying isn't necessarily wallowing, neither is dealing with one's own problems before others.

Incel or not, you're being plain rude. Also, wtf is with >This is a female-only site
No shit, but like, we've had men on this site before. Once they out themselves, they get banned. There are probably a few men who regularly browse here yet don't out themselves.

>>761
>Just because I ate pizza and you didn't I can say for sure you will not like it

You… You think that anyone in their right mind would like getting raped?

>>778
There is a subreddit called rapekink where they talk about this

>>773
Frankly, I don't care if the victim can control their emotional outbursts. If a man is psychologically damaged, no sob story would make me overlook it.

Fantasy rape is nothing like the real thing. An idealized partner, crossing only the lines that you want them to, with no real physical pain or danger to your life?

It shares the word with actual rape, and that is the only similarity between the two concepts.

>>1096
I meant that he's raped me and has taken pictures or videos during the act.

>>717
>overall, it's like stealing or any other "sin" to me, it's wrong, but not necessarily worth breaking off all contact with a person because they do it.
This where you're wrong because clearly stealing or any other sin is exactly enough reason for you to break off any kind of relationship with the person who does this to you, that is, you value yourself enough not to be acquainted with shitty people, which tells about you a lot actually.

>>717
I do, but I want to get raped. I've been sexually assaulted in the past.

>>3708
liar

>it's like stealing or any other "sin" to me, it's wrong, but not necessarily worth breaking off all contact with a person because they do it.
the fuck? stealing is nothing compared to rape.
stealing is you take an item that doesn't belong to you. an item doesn't feel anything, well, the person that the item belongs to does, but it doesn't cause them physical pain and long-lasting mental (and physical too!) trauma. rape does.

>>3708
i'm sorry for you anon, but why do you want to get raped again? wasn't it horrifying? or do you just crave control over the situation so it won't be that damaging?