>>791Have you ever had a big crush on someone? That’s part of sexual attraction, so you’ve experienced it.
Tbh most people don’t think about sleeping with someone until after they’re interested. With my current BF, I was attracted to him- but that made me want to do stuff like kiss, hold hands, get to know him better, etc. Once we had started that, I found myself wanting to take it further.
So tbh wanting to date someone, wanting to kiss them and hug them and be close to them is all part of attraction. Yes, I hug and cuddle with friends, but it’s different. With them I never want it to go farther, but with someone I like, I do. That doesn’t mean horny all the time either- it just means if we decide to have sex, I’m into it.
People seem to think sexual attraction is seeing someone hot and immediately wanting their genitals in your mouth. It isn’t like that most of the time.
and before someone says it, no, I’m not demisexual, bc that is a made up orientation. I’m sexually attracted to men and women. That’s it. I like to get to know them first. That’s a preference- not an orientation.