o7xhQbZ.jpg Cyberstalking Anonymous 10/19/17 (Thu) 08:47:00 PM 140
I do it, do you?
I love finding hidden accounts and secret blogs and I dox just to see if I can (but never post it or interfere with the person otherwise) Anonymous 10/19/17 (Thu) 09:51:25 PM 141
Oh no, confession time.
There's a boy that I fell for. I am in love for the first time. So of course now that he's ignoring my mails I dig around in archives, finding out which anonymous posts might be his, finding out what he likes and dislikes and I keep blowing up his mailbox with random stories of me, all with the goal to make him like me. Seriously I have so many old pictures and data and texts that sometimes I scroll through his folder and wonder how crazy I really am or if this is all kind of romantic? Digging through the web, finding small links and hints is so much fun though. Because you just keep on finding stuff! Anonymous 10/20/17 (Fri) 12:03:30 PM 142
is there anyone who stalks people online who could maybe teach me a little bit about how to do it? i promise it's not for some nefarious reason, i just want to find my old accounts and get rid of my digital footprint for peace of mind
Anonymous 10/20/17 (Fri) 01:15:17 PM 143 >>141
I've been there before, it's just craziness
Anonymous 10/20/17 (Fri) 09:04:26 PM 144
google like a pro.… >>142
Google, for starters. See pic to google like a pro. Then there's the wayback machine. Sometimes on really old forums and stuff you can find out who was the site admin and just write them a mail asking. Cause surprisingly many keep archives on their own HDDs even when the site gets down.
For reddit there's snoopsnoo and for imageboards there's almost always someone backing it up, too.
Then think about all the data that might be out there, not just usernames also different ways of writing it, backwards googling profile pics and phone numbers, addresses all that might be there. And when the google crawler didn't get the most updated info and now it's gone, always check the Cachelink.
Anonymous 10/20/17 (Fri) 11:57:11 PM 145 >>144 >reverse image search
10/10 would recommend this. I've found some really juicy stuff this way
Anonymous 10/21/17 (Sat) 05:06:42 PM 147
I used to cyberstalk a lot but I have done it less nowadays. I just got a rush from finding out all kinds of info I wasn't supposed to have, that I knew/know about things I shouldn't.
Sometimes I have tried searching usernames or some other words related to them from pastebin to see if they or someone else had dropped for example chats they were part of or were talked about in there and sometimes they had. Anonymous 10/30/17 (Mon) 06:52:54 AM 364
i'm not a doxxer, but i do get obsessive about people. whenever i'm into someone, i check their social accounts everyday. and i take screenshots of every single thing that could maybe JUST MAYBE be about me. i check all their friends profiles too to make sure i'm not missing anything. anyways, i did something really stupid and someone noticed my habit. the person basically went to my phone's gallery and saw my thousands of screenshots before i realized and pulled the phone away. all the screenshots were posts she had made. ever since, the person keeps their social media accounts private. they also change their social media accounts aaaaall the freaking time. i mean, changing names to starting all over again from scratch. probably so i wont keep tabs, but i still do. but i don't have the heart to start a fake account to try to see the person's private stuff though. i don't know, i've considered it a lot and it just makes me feel like a creep. just remembering the persons reaction to seeing my gallery… FUCK, it makes me feel terrible.
there was also this person i followed back in the day. i would send anon messages everyday for like two years before they said i was creepy and deleted their account. they do that thing where they change their social handles a lot too, but i keep tabs on her still. she changes her names like every other week but i always find her profiles. i don't send her any more anon messages though. it makes me feel bad. i don't have any friends. so seeing the way other people have fun entertains me, i guess. Anonymous 11/06/17 (Mon) 12:16:03 PM 398
I found a bunch of accounts of people I know irl thanks to a single twitter account, and it amazes me that people aren't careful when posting things online. Basically:
>created an fb account not long ago >someone from college (let's call them A) posted a link to their twitter account that they use for professional reasons >I'm curious and check who A follows >find person B this way, only recognized them because their avatar is a selfie, noticed they post way TMI about really personal things >B posts their tumblr on twitter >they post even more embarrassing shit on tumblr, still with their selfies and personal info attached. Even vaguely mentioned me in a post >B posts a link to their instagram to get more followers >follows a bunch of people we know irl through highschool or college on instagram, though they don't post as much embarrassing shit as B >they're all the type of people who pretend they're nice and sweet and having fun all the time online when they're actually entitled obnoxious spoiled brats at the very best irl
It's cringey but also hilarious. I hope they won't find out that I found their accounts. When I think about them I'm glad I don't post selfies and personal info that could make it easier to find me, and I'm also glad I'm mostly lurking on social media and posting on imageboards.
>>364 >i don't have any friends. so seeing the way other people have fun entertains me, i guess.
It can be entertaining, really depends on what they post I think.
Anonymous 11/09/17 (Thu) 02:07:03 AM 402
I spent a good amount of time on /cgl/ board cyberstalking people because I had my own problems. I "escaped" to a place where I felt a great high uncovering past posts that made another person's life a hellish witch hunt.
I was scorned and obviously not mentally well; college was completing exams and projects on 3 days of no sleep and only eating a poor diet of cabbage and hotdogs. I only drank coffee. This went on for 1 year. I look back and think it was a bad place to be but I do the cyberstalking way less now. If people want "real" facebook profiles or something minor like that I can find it with ease. Anonymous 11/13/17 (Mon) 08:09:22 PM 413 >>364
This is really creepy, have you ever considered going to a professional about your obsessiveness about people? Maybe it's what has stopped you from having friends, that is, if you even want irl friends.
Anonymous 01/06/18 (Sat) 02:29:13 AM 561
I'm cyberstalking this lolcow on G+ and Instagram. I took 2 days out of my week just to browse through her insane ranting and some of them I could relate like expectations, social pressure,
being a virgin at age 25 and some other stuff. Some other people who also cyberstalk her tried to warn her parents when she started going suicidal but had no success. Do any of you leave a trail of things that are ok to find while hiding others? I keep picturing the situation where someone decides to do this to me but always run into dead ends. Anonymous 01/07/18 (Sun) 05:39:08 PM 565
I´ve always been a lurker and endlessly fascinated by how much some people share on their open accounts. So for years I´ve been gathering and saving screenshots of irl people and continuously kept going through their social media. My hard drive is like a personal lolcow, I have so much dirt there. It´s like a weird hobby where I will spend hours on end digging through Tumblr or twitter, finding their old blogs and wattpad (lol) accounts. I just like collecting those cringe pictures or text-posts, it´s not like I would ever share them with anyone or post them. So in the end, my work is kind of useless, but as mentioned, it´s basically a hobby now. I do wish I knew how to view someone´s private profile without going through that whole "make a fake account" thing, though.
Anonymous 01/17/18 (Wed) 11:04:44 AM 597 >>413
i started creating fake profiles to keep looking at the people i like stalking and i told my therapist and he straight up didn't care. anyway, that person that i was talking about in my post doesn't post anything online anymore and i'm sad and have nothing to do with my life tbh
Anonymous 01/17/18 (Wed) 05:04:30 PM 599
I live in a rural area and people here barely use social media outside of facebook and insta where they share mostly garbage.
Occasionally I find something interestin like an old Ask.FM account or similar but nothing too bad Anonymous 01/18/18 (Thu) 09:50:56 PM 601
Wanted to get this off my chest for some time: I used to cyberstalk a girl for a few years and saved most of her photos and blog entries.
I don't know what made me do that. She was very open and detailed about her reclusive life, depressive thoughts and relationships, all of which fascinated me, I guess. It was like reading a stranger's diaries where they pour out their innermost feelings and record every daily thought they have. Her life was quite different from mine, from having a turbulent relationship with another girl to dropping out of school, and I probably found that interesting to follow. It was a piece of cake to find her social media accounts because she used the same usernames on every website. I managed to dig out her old teenage blogs on Livejournal via her Photobucket's account name, and suspected she posted to a certain Livejournal community with several accounts simultaneously, but each time pretending to be someone else which was more or less against the rules. Every time she remade her Tumblr blog from scratch, I just went through her Tumblr friends and their conversations and always managed to find her new blogs along with some new selfies which I'd religiou1sly save to my laptop. I sent her a couple of anon asks, too, but that was the extent of our interactions. One time, I tried to find her home address using Google Maps, based on a photo she uploaded of her house in all its glory and her frequent mentions of her small town's name but I didn't succeed. It's incredible what little sense of privacy some people on the internet have, though. Nowadays, I still check up on her infrequently, to see if she has a new crush or finally moved out of her small town, but sometimes I'd go months without looking up her blog. Honestly, I'd be lying if I said I haven't started to care about this girl in some way although at this point, what can you do? It'd be inappropriate and wrong to approach her out of the blue, pretending you haven't saved every selfie she has posted since 2012 or looked up her house's address. Anonymous 01/22/18 (Mon) 01:26:28 PM 602 >>601 >Honestly, I'd be lying if I said I haven't started to care about this girl in some way
Anonymous 01/23/18 (Tue) 02:26:23 PM 613 >>601
i´ve been through exactly the same, only I managed to find the girl I was stalking´s house on google earth. I have every selfie, every blog-post and every tag she ever posted saved, and sometime I wonder why. I think the main reason is that I would really like to be her friend, because I feel that we are very similar, but I´m absolutely hopeless at socializing IRL and she has made it clear many times that she´s not interested in people or friends.
Anonymous 01/23/18 (Tue) 10:11:10 PM 615
Would any of the stalkers ITT be willing to post some of their collection? You can blur out names and faces or just take screenshot of your folder, I'm really curious
Anonymous 01/30/18 (Tue) 06:00:25 PM 626 >>615
I recently had to transfer my huge folder of shame over to a hard-drive, since all the screenshots I´ve saved up over the years finally ate up all of my computer´s memory lol. So I was a bit shocked when I realized that the folder had more than 2000 screenshots/images/archived websites etc. I didn't think it was that bad. I would share some of it, but blurring out names and faces would take time, and even then I´m scared it wouldn't be good enough, and I would hate it if the person I´m stalking somehow saw that some lunatic on the internet is saving their every move.
Anonymous 02/02/18 (Fri) 08:06:43 AM 633
I'm not really sure how to explain this. I'm not anywhere I shouldn't be, I just obsessively make a note every time I see this person. I tried to find his social media, but he apparently doesn't have anything, at least nothing attached to his photo, name, or emails. I've never attempted to contact him in any way. Be honest anon, is it bad?
Anonymous 02/05/18 (Mon) 02:18:09 PM 637 >>633
honestly, if you´re not doing anything bad with that information , I don´t see the problem. It´s not normal, as far as I know, but it´s pretty tame compared what some actual sick people do.
Anonymous 02/14/18 (Wed) 01:28:46 PM 643
I've got a folder of memes with a guy I've only ever seen once, not sure if that counts.
Anonymous 02/16/18 (Fri) 07:52:45 PM 644
There's this person whose writing I love, I've been combing through their blog and saving their more interesting tags & all their writings in a folder on my computer.
I also infiltrated their discord ( she runs this collaborative writing thing ) and saved what she had posted there. Trying to find out if they've got a GoodReads or something. I'm hella interested in finding out what what they like in literature. Anonymous 02/16/18 (Fri) 08:32:53 PM 645 >>633 >offers co-habitation even though it is a sin
Anonymous 02/25/18 (Sun) 03:44:26 AM 656
DVSyRMCX0AYWJbt.jp… >tfw cyber stalking that person you adore >using your sockpuppet account of course >seeing one of those insta posts with multiple pictures >accidently hit like while trying to see the other pics >blocked almost immediately cuz that person just knows >mfw
Anonymous 03/15/18 (Thu) 03:16:58 AM 704
s9qmVOl.jpg >>669 I do this too, but I use it to make a quicker/'deeper' connection with people. Anonymous 03/20/18 (Tue) 05:18:32 PM 706 >>669 i´ve done this so many times, mostly because i love the rush of digging up information and knowing a lot about a person when they have no idea that i know, if that makes sense. But it has also ruined some potential friendships for me - I´ve met the people i´ve stalked and since i a pretty bad memory in general i get really paranoid about revealing things to them that they haven´t told me and being exposed. Anonymous 03/21/18 (Wed) 02:44:43 PM 707 >>669 Wish I had read this 5 years ago Anonymous 03/25/18 (Sun) 06:17:23 PM 710 >>709
because of a psycho stalker ex I met online
Anonymous 04/03/18 (Tue) 06:36:10 PM 714 >>710
I´m sorry to hear that, anon. I think for me, personally, some of the reason why I obsessively collect information/stalk people who shares a lot of their personal lives online is because it really fascinates me. Being able to "know" someone without them knowing is a lot easier than actually befriending people sometimes. But I don´t do anything with the information, and I don´t share it with anyone. It´s kind of like hoarding.
Anonymous 04/05/18 (Thu) 02:07:10 PM 726
i've only done this if i have reason to believe there's something interesting about someone worth finding. i used a username and email trail to find several old and really incriminating blogs and ask.fm accounts of the guy i liked a couple years ago, and would probably do the same again if i liked someone and wanted to know more about them/be sure there wasn't anything dangerous about them. it's kind of an addictive rabbit hole to go down, and pretty useful. i think doing what i did a couple years ago saved me from a potentially bad situation.
Anonymous 04/05/18 (Thu) 02:52:57 PM 727 >>726 >i think doing what i did a couple years ago saved me from a potentially bad situation.
This got me really curious, would you mind explaining how, anon?
Anonymous 04/18/18 (Wed) 01:13:00 AM 739
It's pretty tame but I would visit this Québécoise girl's tumblr often, not weekly or daily, it was random but definitely frequent (about 3-4 years.) I decided to stop because I knew I was taking it a little far and put myself in her place.
I don't really have a reason besides that she was quite gorgeous and I admired her for that. I picked up on a lot of hobbies she had and copied some makeup styles she used. I feel like a huge creep whenever I think of this stain in my memories. Anonymous 04/24/18 (Tue) 05:38:10 PM 746 >>739
in your defense, I think it´s pretty comparable to being a fan of a female youtuber or blogger, for example, and picking up on their tips and tricks. If you put yourself out there for other people to see, you can´t expect that no one´s going to find your style cute or hobbies interesting, if that makes sense. I don´t think checking up on a blog every once in a while to be particularly creepy
Anonymous 04/25/18 (Wed) 05:37:44 PM 747 >>644
it seems like you could probably message this person if they're putting their writing up there publicly…
Anonymous 04/30/18 (Mon) 05:23:13 AM 767
i want to get better at this, there is a girl i want to check up on who seems to have no internet presence AT ALL besides her DA from years ago. I wasn't the best to her in hs (not a bully, we were friends but i'm afraid i must have used her as a scapegoat a lot of the time and i feel so fucking shit about it. i said so many mean things under the guise of friendship) and i really want to know how she's doing. i've become obsessed with it. i want to be a secret guardian angel and support her some how without her knowing its me. i tried to approach her a few years ago and it was clear she didn't like me and thought i was out to get her. I'm always gonna be fucked in the head but maybe i can use it for good. How do i go about finding her?
Anonymous 05/01/18 (Tue) 06:04:40 AM 772 >>767
Anon, the best thing you can do for her is leave her alone.
Being genuinely sorry and forgiving YOURSELF is what you need to do.
Anonymous 05/01/18 (Tue) 03:29:02 PM 773 >>767
I was a dickhead bully too, forgive yourself you were a child.
Anonymous 05/01/18 (Tue) 04:54:13 PM 774
Long story short: i was IP banned from a Discord server and i'm too scared to do VPN shit (because thats rather illegal in my country).
If i were to create an account on my phone, would i be able to get into that server if i stay solely on mobile? My stalker heart is itching to know what my former "friends" have been talking behind my back… Anonymous 05/02/18 (Wed) 12:40:45 PM 775 >>774
Yeah. No one's gonna hunt you down for using a VPN though lol. If you decide to use one, vpngate is free and easy to use.
Anonymous 05/06/18 (Sun) 12:27:17 PM 779 >>774
I am pretty sure you can, give it a try and report back.
Anonymous 05/06/18 (Sun) 05:13:08 PM 782 >>774
Only if you're using mobile data. If you just try to reconnect through the same WiFi network your computer uses, it'll be blocked from connecting.
The good news is that you only have to do it once- if you join the server from a different IP then you can log in from that account on a banned IP. Have you considered just restarting your router, too? Your IP may not be static in which case you can just get around the ban just using a new account.
Incidentally, you can run multiple discord accounts on the same machine if you just have them logged in to separate private browsing windows, different browsers and the discord app.
Anonymous 05/31/18 (Thu) 07:01:05 PM 796
Not true cyberstalking per se, but I have way too many photos of Valeria on my phone. She was gorgeous before her excessive surgeries. I hate her as a person, but her look is so cute/hot to me. I used to do the same thing with Britney Spears.
Anonymous 06/08/18 (Fri) 09:41:35 PM 802
I met this guy and I can't stop stalking his profile. I'll even check his friends profiles to see pics of him that they have there. I've been doing this quite often lately that it's taken up so much of my time. I wanna stop because I know it's just a waste of time to stare and find new pictures of someone but I enjoy it too much.
I feel like the only way to overcome this would be by actually developing a relationship with him where we text and whatnot, but I'm way to nervous to actually initiate things with him. Anonymous 06/19/18 (Tue) 12:06:36 PM 814
I posted a vent in /feels/ about this a few months ago, but I've been able to track down almost every crush I've had in the past few years on social media. The latest one I didn't even know the name of, but was able to find his three facebooks via his workplace. It's ridiculously easy since most people have a facebook or an instagram, and super useful for avoiding wasting your time on someone you'd be incompatible with anyway. Because I'm very tfw no bf I still keep tabs on these guys, one who I'm pretty sure experienced a downfall in the time I've been fixating on him. I think he was fired from his job because all he did was post about drugs, then he deleted all the shit off of his socials because someone was using his selfies to gay catfish with. Wild.
There have also been 2 artists I've been able to find after they deleted their blogs and reinvented themselves just by keeping track of their friends'/enemies' social media. Another just stopped posting altogether, but due to remembering their father's name which they posted temporarily on their personal blog, I was able to find their facebook. I just wanted to know that they were okay (they had suicidal and SH tendencies). One of the aforementioned artists' (ex) friends also became a bit of a personal lolcow for me. She was originally just an average tumblr mtf who posted brash, angry things and vents on her blog, but recently got into hard drugs and prostitution. I guess that's more sad than anything, though. I kind of wish I was more tehcnology-minded so that I could actually dox. It seems fun.
Anonymous 07/10/18 (Tue) 12:46:34 AM 822
I used to date a guy who had a really weird ex, and I started stalking her blogs. I even kept going well after I broke up with the boy and stopped caring. I stopped a long time ago but she was so odd it was weirdly interesting
Anonymous 07/10/18 (Tue) 04:43:47 AM 825 >>822
What was odd/interesting about her?
Anonymous 07/10/18 (Tue) 11:27:17 AM 826
This was some years ago, and we were in our late teens back then, a lot of things, anon. She had really bad people skills and she'd always talk and talk and talk about how big her boobs were, she'd even force boys to touch them or nag them to do it, even her friends. She was one of those people who really thought they were a cute anime girl irl and didn't shower and was very inappropritate all the time. She behaved in a very strange way, even for a weeb (and I should know, I am a weeb)
Anonymous 08/09/18 (Thu) 10:59:33 PM 873
It’s so nice to hear that other people do the same thing as me. I get ‘fixated’ on online personalities and obsess over finding their personal accounts, old posts and personal information. I don’t do anything with it, I just get a strange feeling of satisfaction and a false sense of ‘closeness’ with them. It’s very hard to explain. One time went as far as finding a girl’s house on Google Maps.
Anonymous 08/31/18 (Fri) 07:28:02 PM 905
Screen Shot 2018-0…
man, today has been a blast from the past.
pic related. do you ever look up someone you used to cyberstalk years after you've stopped and find that they've completely changed? so when i was a kid i was really into femme anime goth boys like in Black Butler and Godchild, and i stumbled across (via myspace) this guy who I thought fit the bill perfectly. He went by ~Xavier St. Valentine~, which to 15-year-old-me sounded super cool and spooky, and he played the piano which was so !romantic!, and he made instrumental electronic music which was extra ~edgy~. plus he took photos like the top left, wearing these black suits and colored contacts and with his long hair blowing in the beach winds at sunset, etc. all of this was like fucking catnip to me back then. so naturally I started finding all his online profiles/blogs/forum accounts and stealthily acquiring data. he had a musical project with his girlfriend at the time (who was also gorgeous) but once they broke up (15-year-old me was very excited) then he went through an experimental phase where he shaved half his head and started getting into witch-house-type music and also maybe drugs. i suggest this only because his music got weirder and weirder, and the backgrounds in his photos got grungier and grungier, and after a while i stopped being able to find updates on his personal life, so i slowly lost interest. cue today where i was looking through my computer to find images to post to the guy crushes thread in /img/, and I found a ton of his pictures that I had saved from years ago. curiosity sparked, i went looking for him again. turns out he is now involved in a project/persona called 'Sofia Reta' which involves wearing a plastic bag around his head or these long hacked-up wigs because Sofia Reta is something something all about deconstructing identity markers like sex and age. tbh his music isn't half bad these days. When he was going by 'Ʌ', he made a track called Revenge City that I'm listening to right now and it's actually quite catchy. but i'm also slightly annoyed that he's essentially gone completely dark aside from his musical career. as in, i can't find anything about him on any social media platforms, any photo that has his face in it, it's either obscured by face paint/wigs/taken from a distance (or all three) and career things like his bandcamp/soundcloud career pages are as minimalistic and mysterious as possible. they don't even have his real name. Possibly it's Xavier Martin (tbh i would be shocked if Xavier was his real name) but that is ALSO the name of a football player or something so finding any personal information under that pseudonym is practically impossible. it's all very mysterious, and short of actually going to Baltimore and physically tracking him down at a show or something then my ability to learn more about wtf is going on in this guy's life or head is limited. i do wish i could find more of the pictures that i had saved during the myspace era, but iirc they were all on my photobucket account which is now (since photobucket decided to be assholes) probably lost forever. dangit.
Anonymous 08/31/18 (Fri) 07:41:57 PM 906
i found an old site that apparently used to contain some of his short films
(you can tell it's him because email:
) and .gif related
but the films are all gone now. maybe some of them are on his vimeo but it's impossible to confirm whether they're the same ones. going to try one of the internet archive engines maybe.
It's so frustrating because every time I think I've found anything personal (his tumblr, for instance) then I go there and EVERYTHING is deleted.
the closest i can find is some poetry on that cargocollective site. also the images all have odd titles like POUND_OF_BLOOD.gif so that sounds like something he'd do, too.
Anonymous 09/09/18 (Sun) 12:42:23 AM 918
I'm low-intensity stalking my ex to make sure they're not anywhere near me at any given time, and sometimes to cackle at whatever miseries they're going through.
More intensely stalking a tumblr crush. Started out trying to verify his crazy stories, but then I saw he was hot and now I'm just indulging myself because he's totally unattainable anyway. Anonymous 09/09/18 (Sun) 12:52:18 AM 919 >>706
I have a good memory, and my friends are always forgetting that they've told me really specific things. A lot of the time they'll even repeat stories to me and change certain details.
So if they bring it up, just feign that they told you already. They'll be charmed that you remembered such a weird detail. Bonus if you can cite a party where they got blackout drunk or something.
Anonymous 09/30/18 (Sun) 05:58:23 PM 958
It's too easy nowadays. If you google even steam accounts, you can generally find the breadcrumbs to the owners true identity. It's too tempting. I just cannot make friends online anymore because from the day I meet them, I know whatever there is to know about them.
I long for the olden days of keeping shit secret on the web. i'm xavier 10/17/18 (Wed) 04:57:11 PM 979 >>906
i did a search on myself looking for an old picture, came across this which is really touching in a strange way. my name is indeed xavier martin. i do also have social media.
anyway feel free to email me anytime and say hello
(YOU CAN'T SIT WITH US) Anonymous 10/20/18 (Sat) 08:09:07 PM 980
I’ve always been unnaturally good at finding things I shouldn’t. I rarely go out of my way to do it but I end up finding “private” accounts and blogs I’m not supposed to know about. I ended up finding private accounts my ex made after we broke up a month ago. Turns out he reconnected with a group of assholes I had cut contact with because they treated me like shit. On the one hand, I don’t care what he does. But on the other hand, I’m angry he’s doing this and I keep wondering if he’s doing it to be petty.
The problem is I know it’s toxic to expose myself to painful things, but I keep doing it. I want to move on with my life and be happy with what I have now but it’s really tough to break the cycle. It’s been a few days since I’ve looked at his accounts, so I’m hoping I can keep it up. Anonymous 10/21/18 (Sun) 12:31:06 AM 981 >>979
i realize this is probably someone trolling me but at the same time
Anonymous 10/22/18 (Mon) 07:33:09 PM 983 >>982 >growing old >having families what Anonymous 11/14/18 (Wed) 02:56:52 PM 1001
I have the habit of checking the social media of people I used to hang out with to see what they are up to and random people on the internet who I had minimal contact with and was checking up on them in some way
the most "extreme" case of cyberstalking I've done was with an old classmate of mine who greeted me randomly a few years ago and had changed drastically(from obese to thin and very attractive to me)and after a bit he started working at my father's business but not at a place I could see him daily.My stalking was mild till then till I got a weird crush on him the last time I got to see him.then I started stalking him and having annoying obssesive thoughts over him for a while.He isnt super active on social media but I get to stalk on his friends' profiles too so I got to see extra stuff from him. fast forward to september,he started working for us again and we get to be on the same space and it's super strange to see him most days of the week and pretending i didnt know about his social media and all that.I also got to learn a lot of stuff about his life that he doesnt share on social media which left me at a big state of shock bc I had a different image of him in my head.I have a folder of shame with insta stories and old posts of his that I can't let go of because they are "receipts" of what he has done and it makes me feel good to have such proofs since he has a gf(which I was partly sure of since he was way to friendly with my at first but then i realised it's just his attitude)I have toned down my stalking in regards to crushing on him but I keep doing it out of habit and to make sure he isn't bullshiting on the things he says and does it's such a weird situation to be into.I just expected to never see him again or just randomly and the crush would fade.I've been in a weird rollercoaster of emotions-partly-bc of him but I have finally started to ease myself and at least act somewhat normal around him Anonymous 11/18/18 (Sun) 02:52:50 AM 1009
I have a question, not exactly related to stalking but I didn't find an appropriate thread and didn't want to make a new one. It's a bit weird. Say if you follow someone on social media and they don't post personal info at all (I mean somewhere like a forum or blogging site, not facebook) and somehow you find out it's a person you know in real life, how would you react? Did it happen to anyone?
Anonymous 11/18/18 (Sun) 04:51:43 AM 1010 >>1009
Sadly I haven't so I don't know exactly how I would react. I think it would be really cool if it happened.
I would probably be surprised and maybe bring it up in a conversation with them.
Did this happen to you recently?
Anonymous 11/19/18 (Mon) 07:56:32 AM 1018 >>1009
This hasn’t happened to me either, but if it did… if the person interested me enough, i wouldn’t mention it and might even keep tabs on their posts just to secretly learn more about them. But if it just were some aquaintance i barely knew or cared about i wouldnt really take any action.
Anonymous 12/05/18 (Wed) 09:35:59 AM 1040
I'm really good at doxing, finding accounts, social engineering, catfishing and general mischief of this sort. As a result I spend way too much time on gossip boards trying to find a victim I can justify stalking. Sometimes I daydream about being part of a group of semi ethical hackers who fuck with cheaters and scammers. I've broken into social media accounts and email addresses of lolcows and sometimes didn't even take necessary precautions. I need someone to keep me in line or I'll go to prison over petty internet drama one day.
Anonymous 12/06/18 (Thu) 08:59:58 PM 1044 >>1041
If you have a specific thing in mind I can maybe help
Anonymous 12/06/18 (Thu) 11:47:14 PM 1045 >>1044
do you know how to break into someone's discord?
or maybe how could i learn more about someone with just a picture of their face + state
Anonymous 12/07/18 (Fri) 02:25:34 PM 1046
I thought this tall cute blonde guy in my chem class was hot shit and had good fashion sense which made him hotter. I googled enough and found out he had an account for perverts to watch him masturbate,so basically he was gay. I usually know when they are even though it was a heavily Republican city.
Anonymous 12/07/18 (Fri) 09:44:44 PM 1047 >>1044
How have you been logging into people's emails and what steps do you usually take to make sure they don't find out?
Anonymous 12/09/18 (Sun) 02:42:15 AM 1048
I wouldn’t call it stalking but I have a habit of clipping cvs and random social media pages of people I never met and will never meet in a attempt to map and track their achievements as a guidline/benchmark to compare myself to. Periodically saving their cvs and glancing at their twitter vents every couple of months. It’s not about a inferiority complex/jealousy when comparing yourself to others as opposed to just feeling disappointed in yourself in stagnation despite the opportunities given. Though I don’t do it with people I met from school as it hits too close to home.
Never cyberstalked someone I was attracted too though Anonymous 12/09/18 (Sun) 04:01:47 AM 1050 >>1045
Discord is impossible unless you have access to the email account. Logins from new IPs have to be approved first by clicking an email link. If you have access to the email, you can just reset the password. I did this one time when I was in someone's email account and waited until they were asleep, logged into Discord, clicked the email link, then deleted the email (and deleted it from the trashcan too).
In your case it sounds like social engineering is more helpful, trying to find out more details either as yourself or via catfishing. Get them to sign up somewhere, for example a google form if you can think of a way to ask them to participate in a survey, find any excuse to ask for their email address and google it or enter it in social media searches. Once you have someone's main email address you can typically find a lot about them. The photo is unlikely to help you, but you can try the image search on yandex.ru which often finds more results than Google image search. Google all the usernames you know them by. Really play with it, if they're a smartass type then make assumptions about them and phrase them as if you're convinced, they might correct you.
Emails are hard and I don't do that regularly, but I've been doing it on and off for years and it keeps getting progressively harder. If you
get in, the provider will most likely alert the user if a recent login was suspicious. Find a VPN with a location close to the person's actual area, IP geolocation bounces all over the place and isn't very accurate, so as long as it's close by they'll probably not notice anything was off. You should also spoof your user agent to get as close as possible to what a normal login would be like. Of course none of this would fool Google or protect you if you did get into hot water, but if your subject reads their emails with an iPhone and Safari and gets notified of a login from their (spoofed) area with a (spoofed) iPhone and Safari then that's not going to arouse much suspicion. You can delete the notification emails if you're fast enough, but Gmail for example keeps a record of logins which the user can view at any time. I definitely don't recommend doing this for fun or out of curiosity, it's very illegal and a breach of trust and very easy to fuck up. I'm dumb for doing it. Emails are kind of the end boss because they allow you access to pretty much everything through password resets, so start with a smaller site that won't flag new logins and that doesn't ask security questions.
And don't do it if you think you wouldn't be able to keep whatever you find to yourself. Don't make it your mission to expose someone or deface their accounts, that's the easiest way to get in trouble.
Disclaimer: I have no actual education (formally or otherwise) in any of this and am just going by what worked for me, I'm not responsible if you get v&. I'm a legit dumbass and this is in no way shape or form good advice. I have no idea what I'm doing whatsoever.
Anonymous 12/09/18 (Sun) 04:38:11 AM 1051 >>1045 >>1050 >>1041 >>1040
do you guys post the info you find publicly?
Anonymous 12/09/18 (Sun) 10:45:27 AM 1053 >>1046
A lot of young twink types make money this way and even sell sex to other gay men even if they're straight. That doesn't necessarily mean anything, I dated a guy that cammed and made porn for other men just for drug money.
Anonymous 12/09/18 (Sun) 10:47:59 AM 1054 >>1018
What kind of people interest you? Be really honest with yourself for a moment, I know I used to stalk exes, girls that were prettier and more social than me, or people that had bullied me or made my life hell.
Anonymous 12/09/18 (Sun) 02:05:41 PM 1056 >>1055 That's just how CC is, not much activity. Anonymous 12/09/18 (Sun) 11:53:14 PM 1057 >>1052
It's okay Anon, I'm your friend. Now tell me your mother's maiden name and the name of your first pet.
Anonymous 12/10/18 (Mon) 05:31:08 PM 1058 >>1057
You joke, but these are the easiest answers to find if you want to crack the email of someone to whom you've never spoken. As long as they have Facebook, their relatives are an open
Anonymous 12/14/18 (Fri) 05:23:26 AM 1061
Ayrt, the people that interest me are kind of odd. I only have (sort of) cyberstalked males, no girls. I’d lurk incel/“forever alone” forums until I’d find a post that piqued my interest and then I’d start checking their post history daily. These kinds of accounts are goldmines because it’s where they post all their vents and you can learn a lot about them. These guys are usually interesting to me because they’re usually neurotic but also evoke a sort of sympathy/pity from me. It’s like I almost.. care about them even though they can be really misogynistic at times. I found a guy’s instagram too because it had the the same username, and the juxtaposition was interesting because his insta was so… normie-like in comparison.
Anonymous 12/14/18 (Fri) 06:45:36 AM 1062 >>1061
Is this what lurking c.c is like for men? I'm almost intrigued.
Anonymous 12/28/18 (Fri) 01:02:17 AM 1095
I have saved in bookmarks pages with pictures/posts from different sites, and I check out their content from time to time. It's not that I don't want to follow them, but I don't want to make an account on all of those sites. I know it's slightly OT but I feel like a stalker because of it.
Anonymous 01/04/19 (Fri) 11:37:58 PM 1106
There was a fanfic writer I loved who just stopped updating one day. Almost two years later, while I was rereading some of her older stuff, I decided to look up her username to see if she had moved to a different site or switched to an alt or something. Long story short, I found her real identity and saw that she had gotten married a little after she stopped updating. I felt like a huge creep and stopped looking through her shit after that.
Anonymous 01/12/19 (Sat) 07:22:48 AM 1114 >>1106
How did you manage to find her identity? That looks like a lot of searching.
Anonymous 01/12/19 (Sat) 08:50:02 PM 1115 >>140
I've never really cyberstalked someone but part of me wants to. I know lots of people have old cringy accounts and I'd love to find them for a laff or see if i can find something interesting about them.
Anonymous 01/13/19 (Sun) 12:09:45 PM 1116 >>144
This. I found my oneitis's reddit accounts (normal and fetish one) using this method. It's surprising how much you can find about a person when you know a few things like what school they went to and their favorite book :^)
>tfw he hasn't posted on his reddit account a year to this day.
Anonymous 01/15/19 (Tue) 11:50:39 PM 1131 >>1114
It helped that she had an uncommon name and unique username. She used the same username for several other sites, one of them being an abandoned Twitter which had a link to her instagram username. It was private so I wasn’t able to see any of her info, but I could see posts that others tagged her in and found a newer account with her real name attached in photos that had the same girl in them from those other users. So searching her real name lead me to her FB, Linkedin, etc and an article covered by a local news site about her wedding. Like I said I felt creepy and stopped at that point.
Anonymous 01/16/19 (Wed) 06:56:28 AM 1133
Yes, I’ve been hunting info about a previously tumblr famous girl who went from broadcasting her every little detail all over tumblr to total crickets. Most of her accounts are deleted and purged but I found some older accounts that aren’t shared anywhere and are still updating off the radar. That rush of discovering new info is addicting and it’s scary - especially since she has a bunch of weird creeps looking for info on her and posting about her but these are accounts are ones no one else has publicly discovered and outed. I wasn’t around when she was tumblr famous so now it’s just looking up the posts that were reblogged here and there, and hunting for recent accounts just to see what she’s into at the moment. It’s weird because it’s all public info, since I don’t make sockpuppets or anything like that, but it feels so wrong at the same time.
Anonymous 01/17/19 (Thu) 02:37:34 AM 1135
i agree, i love finding random hidden accounts it makes me feel a huge rush of excitement jdjjdj yes unfortunately though i'm fucking shit at stalking people on the internet i have urges to stalk people irl on a daily basis, but i've never actually stalked anyone irl because of an obvious fear of getting caught.
also if u have any advice for cyberstalking or any experiences with it please share thanks ok by,e Anonymous 01/22/19 (Tue) 11:51:23 PM 1165 >>1137
I'm just an idiot with too much time and not a lot to lose. I wish I had a cause at least, something better than e-gossip. Oh well
Anonymous 01/25/19 (Fri) 12:31:00 AM 1166 >>1165
can you share more of your techniques? The worst thing I've done is keylog my own computer to get other peoples passwords.
Anonymous 01/25/19 (Fri) 11:08:55 PM 1167 >>1166
I don't really know what else to say, but if you can give me any specific examples, I'll try to come up with something helpful.
Anonymous 01/29/19 (Tue) 10:48:21 PM 1170
I'm very anal about what pictures/information exists on the internet about me, since its insane how easy it is to gather information about someone with only an email, for example. I've discovered some seriously personal information about people ("secret" blogs, profiles, entries etc), and that's only been through googling names, usernames, emails and so on and following the breadcrumbs. And I don't even feel bad or like a creep, because its all out there in the open. They probably feel safe, since the information doesn't have their real names or pictures attached, but its still linked to them and if I knew I had an old blog or a personal profile floating out there I would not sleep at night.
Anonymous 01/30/19 (Wed) 11:26:21 AM 1171 >>1170
Are there many people who re-use one username?
Anonymous 01/30/19 (Wed) 11:35:24 AM 1172 >>1171
NTA but a lot of people have one username because it's their identity or it means something to them and they just use variations or different names when the preferred one isn't available somewhere. It's also a big thing for most people who want to "brand" themselves and try to be e-famous.
Anonymous 03/07/19 (Thu) 11:59:54 AM 1214
Not so related but still belongs here: has anyone had their private accounts found by anyone? I mean, in real life. What did you do?
Anonymous 03/08/19 (Fri) 07:56:19 AM 1215 >>1172 >>1171
I change mine basically every few years just to prevent people from my past finding me again. There's no real reason, i just don't like leaving a trail of all my stupid bullshit on the web
Anonymous 04/17/19 (Wed) 10:21:46 PM 1245
Somebody knows how i can look at alteady deleted photobucket photos from livejournal? I‘ve tried wayback machine but nothing
Anonymous 04/17/19 (Wed) 10:57:03 PM 1246 >>1245
You can't, images are rarely cached/archived.
Anonymous 05/09/19 (Thu) 10:00:02 PM 1267
I do it in moderate amounts, and it kinda makes me feel like a creep. Glad to see that it seems to be so common.
Anyway here's some stuff that works for me:
is what you start with
Googling the nick with the option site:pastebin.com works well with nerds, as it usually gives you some IRC or other chatroom logs. Those can point you to some communities they are active in.
Reverse image searching photos they posted or their profile pictures is an obvious one.
When you can't find out much about them at all, cyberstalking one of their best friends might give you new leads.
It's good to have a list with their interests and stats ready, in case you find a profile where you're not sure if whether actually theirs.
You can join a chatroom they are in, or some online community to interact with them and stalk them more. Just remember to use a vpn.
is good advice, though logging into someone's private accounts is a moral limit for me. It has become more difficult as well, back in the day you could just ask to use their wifi and start up wireshark, but now even the smallest shittiest sites use tls.
Don't forget to listen to some dank hacker music when cyberstalking.
Good luck and have fun <3
Anonymous 05/16/19 (Thu) 06:06:48 PM 1268
Okay, confession time.
Me and one of my IRL friends had a hate boner for a girl from our city who was in the scene we were. We even found her kink blog and everything and used to make jokes about it to one another. We rarely used to see her irl but we used to stalk her online a lot. We used to get really confused because like, all of her friends seemed to live really far away yet we were like close by and trying to be friends with her but she was just so like, dismissive lol. She just seemed a bit vain and all of her friend's had to fit this 'image' to be friends with her and we just weren't cool enough to be part of the clan lmfao. We continued to do this for like a good 4 years or something and then we just grew up and were like 'this is kinda stupid' and just realised we were probably just jealous of her online fame. >Mfw we just wanted to be friends with the cool kid and it turned into a 4 year long hate boner Anonymous 05/19/19 (Sun) 09:35:24 PM 1270 >>1267
thanks anon this is some good advice ill try it the next time i cyberstalk
dank hacker music
Anonymous 05/28/19 (Tue) 06:38:59 AM 1282
So why do you do it anons?
Anonymous 06/05/19 (Wed) 01:11:15 AM 1289 >>1282
For me, I'm just fascinated with other people and it gives me some weird rush to connect bits and pieces of their online presence they didn't intend to be interconnected, like for example someone's Tumblr/Twitter is usually the most personal, shitposty, deeply intimate social media, especially once you get into side blogs/finstas/secondary accounts.
Anonymous 06/07/19 (Fri) 06:42:16 PM 1292
Do you stalk people you hate, or end up hating them? What do you do with the information?
Anonymous 06/07/19 (Fri) 08:31:52 PM 1293 >>1292
Sometimes I hate-stalk, but it's not the norm. I stalk when someone interests me. I just like to learn about people, I haven't abused it often.
Anonymous 06/17/19 (Mon) 02:16:45 AM 1303
I know it’s weird but I cyberstalk estranged family members and people who bullied me in school.
>hate my dad, he’s a prolific internet user >uses the same name everywhere - literally >after divorce, found his TypePad journal that he made during the 4 years my parents’ marriage started falling apart >he was having an affair with someone he called ‘wonder woman’ and only mentioned my mother once in passing, he never acknowledged my existence which confirmed a lot about our relationship >found other places where he commented using the same damn username, like kink and cheater sites >his ‘surface’ accounts are all religious crap with him in church acting holier than though rambling about politics and gossip I like using sock puppets to look up people who bullied me or that I just didn’t get along with as their accounts are always lulzy and dumb and it’s interesting to discover how insecure they are, they can’t spell, they’re boring, stuff like that. People post their insecurities online and it changes my perspective on someone who acts one way in public, only to discover they’re not what they seem to be face to face. It’s made me aware of not leaving paper trails for people to find. I’ve always deleted stuff like LinkedIn, Insta, Facebook if I am not using them consistently, and try to use fake names and make throwaway emails so I don’t have to worry about abandoning accounts.
Anonymous 09/22/19 (Sun) 09:35:05 AM 1397
I don’t cyberstalk as much as I used to, but when I did I would stalk people who were assholes to me, some “popular” people, and this one girl that I didn’t even know irl. I was obsessed with her for a long time and it was because I thought she was so pretty and I wanted to
be her. My obessesion started when I found her on Twitter in 2014. Since then I would keep tabs on her. It got so bad that I would sometimes catfish using her pictures. I also would go through her friends’ social media and her father’s Facebook account just to see more pictures of her. Anyway, around my late teens is when I forced myself to stop stalking these people. It was hard because I wanted to see what all these people were up to and I wanted to know how she was doing. But I’m doing much better now.. I just hope I don’t fall back into my old habits in the future. Anonymous 10/30/19 (Wed) 05:26:53 PM 1407
How does one find accounts linked to an email?
Anonymous 02/21/20 (Fri) 02:52:44 AM 1475
Ugh, this is so stupid but once and awhile I like to stalk the children in old shows like Supernanny/Wife Swap and shit like that. I'll watch an old episode on YouTube and then search their full names. They are usually adults by now and I get weird voyeurristic satisfaction from seeing how their lives have turned out. A lot of them have children of their own now.
Anonymous 02/21/20 (Fri) 02:53:50 AM 1476 >>1407
Search either the full email or just the unique username part in quotes on google?
Anonymous 02/26/20 (Wed) 02:49:34 AM 1480 >>1475
I also like doing this but with random people I find only, when I'm reading old forum posts and checking an abandoned art account
Anonymous 02/26/20 (Wed) 07:22:13 AM 1482
I do it to people I work with, people in my classes, pretty much any person I can get my hands on. I memorized names of other psych ward patients so I could search them up later on social media.
Anonymous 02/26/20 (Wed) 03:24:26 PM 1484 >>1482
I would do the same but most of the people I get to know irl only have 2 accounts, Twitter and Facebook and they barely use Twitter, they're as basic as they get
Anonymous 02/26/20 (Wed) 03:29:47 PM 1485 >>1484
That reminds me, years ago I got the email password of one of my classmates,she borrowed me her laptop to do something and I just checked the saved passwords option in Chrome, I still have it with me but nothing interesting in her mail or social accounts
Anonymous 02/26/20 (Wed) 05:00:51 PM 1486 >>140
Is lurking considered cyberstalking? If so, consider me guilty.
I just like to check up on people that have wronged me. I like seeing if they've improved/changed or if their life is as terrible as mine. Both bring me equal amounts of joy.
Anonymous 03/20/20 (Fri) 03:35:42 AM 1495
Made a fake facebook account years ago out of curiosity.
(I never had nor currently have a "real" facebook account) Join random groups with my fake where people who did not necessarily know each other IRL would post about random stuff (those were a thing back in 2014 at least, no idea how it is today) Actually learn a ton about how people work from just observing conversations, absorbing bits of personal info that they carelessly spill, stalking their (often public) year-long profile histories and testing reactions without fear of repercussions, I genuinely think that in a sick and twisted way I gained a lot from that Anonymous 04/18/20 (Sat) 04:01:06 AM 1512 >Had a co-worker who used to undermine me in front of clients by saying I was wrong (but when I would check later I wasn't). >Always seemed to look down on me. >Dreaded going to work with her. >She and her partner went off to study for Master's degrees somewhere prodigious together. >I'd had a rough time at uni and wouldn't be accepted anywhere. >My love life was a mess. >Later found she's had amazing scholarships. >Her and her partner opened some businesses together. >From time to time I'd think of her and wished I could study hard enough to go somewhere even half as nice for a Master's and maybe even open my own business one day. >Stumbled across her forum account completely by coincidence. >Learn she's now stuck with 2 young kids that she has to struggle support herself as husband is running a company that makes zero money (despite having done an MBA) >Wasting her Master's. >Lives in a shitty house. >Mounting credit-card debt. >He's a slob that does no cleaning, nothing to care for their kids and doesn't even acknowledge what she does. >I'm living my best childfree life with my hottie bf in our home we own fully. >He does more housework than me. >We both have high salaries from own company. >I'm also studying for another undergrad and getting excellent grades. Karma, bitch. Anonymous 04/19/20 (Sun) 03:03:18 AM 1516 >>601
I know this is 2 years old at this point, but definitely relevant to it and the thread and general
https://youtu.be/ixyCT47LGzY Anonymous 04/19/20 (Sun) 02:30:18 PM 1520 >>1512
Same anon. I just finished reading all of her posts. It’s fascinating to see how many assumptions I made about life because her attitude and where she studied made me feel like I was not as smart as her and worthless. I assumed everything in her life was perfect, she was so clever, living a dream life, etc. In reality she lied to me about some things to make herself look better which is pathetic.
Most interestingly, she proudly declares herself “not like other women”. Every woman who wrongs her in even the tiniest way (intentionally or not), she repeatedly writes paragraphs about and she seems to hate the few women in her life. In contrast, she barely mentions men who treat her much worse, such as her shitty husband who she admits she doesn’t even have strong feelings for. Where we worked was all men and we were the only woman. No wonder all her snide comments were reserved for me.
I know it sounds like I’m overthinking all of this, but it’s honestly such a revelation for me. I can see how I’ve idolised other people in the past and there’s just no way what they said (or I’ve assumed) was true. The funny thing is, from idiolising them and feeling worthless in comparison, I’ve actually worked to have what they “have”. While I thought that maybe we were similar now, in fact I was comparing fakery vs my reality. Such a good feeling to realise all of this.
Anonymous 05/18/20 (Mon) 10:32:33 AM 1561
I have a fairly rare first and last name combination but I have almost no online presence with my real name. I would often google my name out of paranoia hoping something wouldn't show up about me (there were some bits they were really uninteresting and lacking in detail for it to matter). At some point this girl with the exact same name in the same country as I starts showing up in my search results. She was in her early teens while I was in my early 20s and I would obsessively follow her online life over the years, watching her become regional champion in some kind of swimming sport and making digital portfolios. I know there's nothing special about any of this but I felt a little connected to my namesake.
2 years ago she died, though, really young too (I think 16?). I can't find any details about it either so I'm having some closure issues :( Anonymous 05/23/20 (Sat) 08:03:22 PM 1564
I accidentally started to cyberstalk my now-BF, it's how we started dating. It wasn't malicious or anything, I just found him really interesting and connected some dots without meaning to.
I'm sorry anon, hopefully you can get some closure one day.
Anonymous 05/24/20 (Sun) 12:05:09 AM 1566 >>1561
I do this too! I am very paranoid, just so people wont find family or people im close to. I dont really have anything against myself. but its just a fear.
sorry to hear about the death :(
Anonymous 05/28/20 (Thu) 07:41:19 AM 1568
I used to stalk my now-BF on Steam. Being Steam friends with someone who has the program open all the time and is sloppy and doesn't hide their status is super powerful.
If your target consistently runs Steam, i.e. they probably have it set to run on startup which is the default behavior, their Steam activity serves as a proxy for when they're at their computer/how long it's been since they were, down to the minute if they last logged on within 2 days. Steam user statuses approximately mean: Online: mouse input on a computer running Steam and logged into their account within the last 10 minutes Away: no mouse input within 10-15 mins Snooze: no mouse input for at least 2 hours Offline: computer is asleep/off or they're logged out of Steam or not running the program At some point I think Snooze turns into Offline no matter what, but I'm not sure. You get the idea though, the statuses off a good degree of detail about when someone was last using their computer. The statuses aren't affected by the user's interaction with Steam or any game, just activity on a computer running Steam, even in the background. Another piece of info that Steam exposes to friends is amount of time spent playing each game a user has played. I used to look at this info and record changes to see when/how long my now-BF was playing when I was asleep or couldn't look at Steam. I also used this to get an idea of when he went to bed the night before, if I had made note of the time he had in the game he was playing that night before I went to bed. If you know enough about a person/their friends, you can use their recently played games to get an idea of who they might be talking to or hanging out with recently. Even if you don't know much, you might be able to look at their Steam friends' profiles and see what they've recently been playing. Obviously that sort of analysis becomes a lot more theoretical but depending on what you're trying to figure out, it could open up possibilities to explore of people they might associate with. Steam has various privacy options so some of this info might be hidden if you aren't friends with a user or even if you are, but it seems like the default is for things to be wide open, even to non-friends, so it's worth looking. I used to wake up and obsessively check my future-BF's Steam profile, and I would check it throughout the day, to see if he was online/playing games. It would reassure me if he was because it provided some weird/fake/crazy reassurance that he wasn't out with another girl or with friends or not being a loser? Which would make me feel better because I was (am) also a homebound loser. And it would also soothe my anxiety if he hadn't texted me because I knew he was playing games and not intentionally ignoring me. I knew it was pathetic and weird but I have horrible abandonment issues and I tend to get really obsessive over certain friends when I get attached to them, and it's hard for me to control my impulse for reassurance that they aren't going to leave me. Another way I would stalk him, and have stalked others is via Slack. I was in several Slack workspaces with him, and I knew he always had the Slack app running (another app that people often run at startup, or just have open constantly). So if he was active on Slack, I knew he was at his computer or was recently. Anonymous 05/28/20 (Thu) 07:54:48 AM 1569 >>1568
So… does he know you did this?
Anonymous 05/28/20 (Thu) 09:06:26 AM 1570 >>1569
Yes, I've told him about it. He's very aware of my issues so he wasn't shocked and didn't seem bothered by it. We were already close friends irl at the time, and I didn't do anything with the information nor did it change my behavior towards him. It also wasn't a factor in how we started dating. It was just for my own reassurance. When my mental health is bad I get obsessive about knowing what people I care about are doing when I'm not with them/talking to them because I have a huge irrational fear of people suddenly leaving/distancing themselves from me. Having more info gives an illusion of control that temporarily soothes the fear. Not justifying it, I know it's pathological and I need to get a handle on it, just explaining.
For what it's worth, I'm pretty sure Steam allows you hide most of this info. I don't think you can hide your Online/Offline status from friends, but you can just close Steam when you're not using it. I know this doesn't justify stalking but honestly it's hard to know where the line is when people are essentially choosing to make this info available. Nothing about these features or the settings to turn them on/off is hidden.
Anonymous 05/29/20 (Fri) 03:01:00 AM 1571 >>1570
Wow, that’s very interesting. Thank you for sharing your perspective on the psychological aspects of it.
Anonymous 05/29/20 (Fri) 12:41:34 PM 1572
Haha I never thought someone would find me being a le epic bpdchan interesting but I appreciate it.
I got addicted to stalking people via social media and online/offline/"time since online type" statuses on various platforms in high school when I joined Facebook and discovered Messenger's online/"time since online" system. So many tears shed and hours spent staring at the green dot when I thought I was being ignored by someone who was online, when they very well could have fallen asleep with the FB app open or something. I know it's dumb but my mind just gets ensnared in it because like I said, information = illusion of control even when you're using the information to spin up paranoid daydreams about what another person is doing.
I'm convinced Messenger's down-to-the-minute "last seen" feature is made by sadists though. Normies don't understand that too much info can be unhealthy for some. I used to check that feature to see if my friends were still sleeping (i.e. their status was 6, 7, 8 hrs away) to reassure myself that they weren't ignoring me if they hadn't responded to my text from the previous night or something. This article is about an interesting project someone made to track their friends sleep schedules based on super easy to get Messenger data:
https://medium.com/@sorenlouv/how-you-can-use-facebook-to-track-your-friends-sleeping-habits-505ace7fffb6 Anonymous 06/12/20 (Fri) 01:09:04 AM 1577 >>1568
I used to do this to, down to the letter. I wonder if I have BPD haha
Anonymous 07/14/20 (Tue) 01:25:32 AM 1624
I like to check instagram profiles of my old classmates. We were classmates in middle school. It's been a really long time and I should've forgotten about them by now, but I can't for some reason. They are so normal. I like seeing how far they've gotten in life while I just keep getting worse somehow.
Anonymous 07/14/20 (Tue) 03:04:36 AM 1625 >>1624
I used to do this obsessively, like checking everyone I used to know from over a decade ago every week. Like I didn't suffer enough from their rejection then, I had to reinforce it again now.
So glad I managed to get out of that loop.
Anonymous 07/15/20 (Wed) 10:33:46 PM 1631
There are three degrees of separation for people I know a lot about.
>Stranger There's this one Reddit user whose page I check regularly. She's fairly active in femcel communities and always complains about the same things over and over. She is a very talented writer. I had a conversation with her once (pretending not to know of things's she has written about in her account). >2nd-degree acquaintance I also regularly check IG pages/tumblrs of other women that I find interesting, mainly only those who provoke feelings of jealousy in me. I'll try to calculate their body/facial proportions if I can't find their height/weight online (some of them are models), and examples of their art/writing/academic publications/etc. Like another anon mentioned, a lot of people use the exact same usernames for all of their accounts so it's easy to find really obscure accounts (like on myfreediary) that go into stuff that is a lot darker. I do this with ex-girlfriends of men that I've been attracted to, or women who get a lot of male attention despite being average-looking. I found a secret Tumblr this way full of provocative photos and dark thoughts owned by a girl I went to high school with. She posted once about wanting to kill herself and I sent her an anon message telling her not to. The blog was deleted the next day and she is very alive and well (studying linguistics, I believe). There's some tool online that lets you look at only original posts (not reblogs) from any tumblr account. This is a very good way of getting photos of people. >close friends I also know about a Reddit account belonging to one of my close friends that I stumbled upon purely by accident a couple years ago (the username has nothing to do with her name or interests). I like reading her posts and comments. She's a lot more open about grievances with her family/boyfriend/friends/children on there, and she even mentioned me once (not by name, obviously). Sometimes I'll say something to her just so I can see her post about it later. I've also made a fake Facebook account that I use to check up on people regularly. This isn't as rewarding, since people usually know that Facebook posts are seen by people for whom they want to keep up appearances.