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im 18 freshie in college and most of my interests, clubs etc is male dominated. in the past ive had some issues with male friendships bc of emotional grooming, unreciprocated feeling and also hearing all these stories about male friends turning against the woman/being potential threats. im pretty cautious and have boundaries when it comes to men but something just puts me at unease with them(which makes sense) and makes it kinda hard to bond. i guess growing up and seeing men constantly hate women in male dominated spaces online that i am into+ knowing about the crime stats and everything just makes me distrustful, so i’m kinda biased. most of the men that approach me seem to be a bit older than me and idk if they’re interested just in trying to get with me(which is reasonable to think). i am trying to make new friends and connections. i don’t know why, but it’s hard for me to befriend women. i really want to but it seems like oftentimes they don’t really click with me for some reason, or maybe just because my interests are male-dominated. and i do enjoy a lot of "girly" things, so i’m not sure what’s going on there. i’ve been diagnosed autistic, for reference. then again, my interests are genuinely out there so i have trouble relating and making friendships with alternative/geek people. i don’t approach/try to befriend men generally, i let them approach me first. do any of you nonas have advice for me?

I can't find the current smalltalk thread so here is one for all of us remote wagies. How do you spend your downtime when you work from home?

I'm back to work after vacation and I can't focus so I'm doing laundry and browsing this and the other site and I'm so bored and it's cold and I'm drinking seaweed soup. I have 14 tasks left to do for work and 2 loads of washing some musty old clothes I kept around in garbage bags, which I will sort afterwards and discard of all the old orphaned socks. There are some bras with one wire missing or poking and I don't even know why I didn't just throw them away years ago. There's two dresses I could probably give to a thrift store or sell online but the effort of ironing and making them presentable is probably not worth the maybe 5 bucks I'd get for them but I feel bad throwing them away so this is how I ended up with 2 garbage bags of clothes gathering dust and moths over 6 years.

Was causally watching a video about the craziest stuff people tried selling online, and one of the things was an actual baby for $3k. That got me thinking… How the fuck is surrogacy not seen as human trafficking? Why is it only seen as human trafficking once the mom gives birth to the child? How is not a form of human trafficking for a woman's body be RENTED OUT in order to make a baby with the intentions of the baby to be stripped from its mother as soon as birth?

Don't bring up adoption as an example either because 1. adoptions are already linked to human trafficking + its a very shitty flawed system, BUT its a system literally meant for kids who cannot be with their parents due to their parents being unfit or dead. The kids in question had no choice for the most part. And even then, CPS is notorious for being shitty because their main objective is to keep families together, even if the family is abusive. With all that being said, adoption is also a mostly goverment-funded endeavor.

So why is surrogacy allowed? Why do people look at it with anything other than disgust? Why shouldn't parents be allowed to sell off their children to someone if its allowed regardless as long as its planned between the mother and a stranger?

I (22F) have been with my boyfriend (23M) for almost two months. We’re both virgins, and over the past week we've tried to have sex on two separate days, but each time we've tried it’s been really painful for me (like, a burning pain. It almost feels like he's hitting a wall at the entrance) Even when he was just fingering me it would hurt at first.

The second time, we used a lot of lube since I’d been pretty dry before, and while that helped maybe marginally (it got a bit further this time and hurt a bit less), it was still painful. I’ve always had trouble inserting things (I could never use tampons) but I sorta just assumed that was normal and that sex would just somehow like, work out(?)

After reading about pelvic floor tension online, I’m starting to wonder if that could be the issue? When I’m completely relaxed, we’ve been able to get a finger in (I've tried both on my own and with him), but it’s not really consistent.

My boyfriend keeps telling me that it’s normal for it to hurt the first few times and told me he loves me and doesn’t want me to stress about it, and that we'll figure it out/it’ll get better with time, and that even if it doesn't we can do other things, but I’m still worried.

What should I do? I'm supposed to have a gynecologist appointment in January (this was the soonest possible time) but…

What was the last thing you drew?

What's your experiences with them? Are they more prone to being excentric or mentally ill, like it is their reputation? Are you creative and weird? Are creative moids better, or actually worse than other moids?

Have you ever caught someone posting about you online? Bonus points if it was on an imageboard.

>go to America because of Hollywood movies
>it looks like this

What are the pros and cons of living in America

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