>>18236'report me and see what happens' means that if you suspect someone is a male, report them and let the moderators do their job instead of trying to discredit the person who disagrees with you like, 'you must be a boy because you care about evidence'
i'm trying to get this train back on track and you're not helping.
>>18236you're right in that bars aren't great places to meet new people, but i honestly don't go out on a daily basis unless it's to the grocery store or to the gym. Grocery store doesn't feel like there's a good way to start a non-awkward conversation when people are just there to get their food and go home, and at the gym, I'm focused on exercising instead of socializing. I tend to assume that other people are like me and don't want to be bothered when they're working out. Even if I did, I don't see the same people there often enough to be able to form a rapport with them and decide whether to move it on to a real friendship.
re: boyfriend: tbh I have a feeling it's just that I have a very hard time trusting men in general. I was with a guy for two years and I thought that he was 'the right one'–I introduced him to my parents, he introduced me to his, we lived together, he respected it when I said I wasn't in the mood for sex–it turns out that he cheated on me for eight months before I found out, because I guess he figured that if I wouldn't give him sex whenever he wanted, he'd find someone else who would. So the real concern is that the way I worry about my current relationship is based on my own hang-ups and fears instead of being his fault. We've been dating for about 3-4 months and he's only recently started to tell me that he loves me, which was heart-warming to hear for the first time, so I don't want to give up completely just because our libidos aren't in sync and I'm overthinking this or being paranoid.